Amadoda angenangqondo nabangaphephile besaba ukuthi owesifazane uzozizwa esaba. Besaba ukushiywa, abenqatshelwe, ngoba lokhu kuyabuhlungu kakhulu ukuzethemba kwabo. Bayesaba ukungakwazi.
Kungani amadoda esaba abesifazane abazizethemba bengenangqondo? Yebo, ngoba owesifazane onjalo ungumcebo wangempela empilweni yomndeni, ukuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwezingane. Uzokwenza ngokuhlakanipha nangokulingana nanoma yisiphi isimo. Ukuze ukwazi ukulondoloza umndeni, owesifazane onjalo uyakwazi okuningi, ngoba uyaqonda ukubaluleka kwayo futhi uyazi ukubaluleka. Owesifazane oqinile uzoziphathisa ukuze umuntu azizwe eyinhloko yomndeni futhi angamvumeli ukuba "ngaphansi kwesithende." Uzomtshela ukuthi leli gama elisemqoka lingemva kwakhe.
Abesifazane abanokwethenjelwa bayazi ukuthi bangasiza kanjani umuntu ukuba anqobe ukwesaba kwakhe, ukungaqiniseki, ukungabaza, ukwazi ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakhe. Abesifazane abanamandla ngeke babonise ukuphakama kwabo kubantu. Kungani kufanele ngisho nokufakazela noma yini kunoma ubani? Usebenza yena ngokwakhe futhi uqobo lwakhe.
Ebhizinisi, abesifazane basheshe kunamadoda. Izimfanelo zemvelo zisiza ukusabela ngokushesha futhi zivumelane nezinguquko. Abesifazane basheshe kunamadoda ukuvumelanisa nesimo esisha, bathanda ukuzama futhi lokhu kuzuzisa kuphela. Ukuziphendulela kwengqondo kanye nokufunda kusiza abesifazane ukuba badlule amadoda emasimini ahlukene womsebenzi.
Owesifazane, ezwa ukungabi nabulungisa kuye, ngokuthobeka uqala ukulwa futhi anqobe. Abesifazane abathembekile bayakwazi ukuzitholela ngokufanele, balandela ukubukeka kwabo, bayakwazi ukukhula kwentsha. Abakwazi ukuvikela imibono yabo kuphela, kodwa futhi ukuthi bayakwazi ukubona iphutha, uma bengalungile.
Owesifazane wanamuhla ngeke aqale ubuhlobo nanoma yimuphi umuntu, nje kuphela ukuba abe yedwa. Ukholelwa ukuthi kungcono ukuba yedwa kunomuntu futhi wenze okulungile! Owesifazane othembekile uyazi ukuthi ufanelekile futhi amadoda ayesaba. Amadoda ayesaba isifiso sabesifazane sokunethezeka ngokocansi. Abaqondi ukuthi lokhu kubalulekile hhayi kuphela ebuhlotsheni, kodwa futhi, ikakhulukazi empilweni yabesifazane. Ukwesaba ukuthi ungaphila ngokulindelekile, lo muntu ugweme ukuthintana naye.
Amadoda ayesaba abesifazane abaphatha kahle ngoba bazizwa benkohliso, bakholelwa ukuthi ngale ndlela abesifazane bazama ukuyithatha. Amadoda ayesaba abesifazane abazimele futhi abheke ukuthi owesifazane ozethembayo uvame ukuzondla.
Amadoda ayesaba abesifazane abathandekayo kakhulu . Besaba ukuthi bayodumaza lo wesifazane ukuthi abahlangabezane nemigomo ebefisa. Amadoda amaningi athola abesifazane abathandekayo kalula. Amadoda ayesabela ukuphendula imibuzo evuselelayo, ayesaba ukukhuluma ngenhliziyo ngenhliziyo. Amadoda aqaphele ukuba angaphansi komphathi wesifazane, ngoba angeke amcindezele uma engavumelani nento ethile. Badidekile kakhulu ngobuholi besifazane. Owesifazane othembekile ngeke avumele ukuhlazeka, futhi owesilisa uyesaba ukuhlukunyezwa kwakhe. Amadoda ayesaba isimo sengqondo esibi sabesifazane, besaba ukuthi bazophoqeleka ukuba bafake imibono yabo.
Amadoda abuthakathaka kuphela abesaba abesifazane abazethemba. Amadoda wangempela akhona, abamesabi abesifazane abanobuqili, kodwa abathandi abesilisa abanobulili obuhle. Ngakho-ke ungabi namandla kuphela futhi uqiniseke, kodwa futhi ukhangayo!