Ungahlukanisa kanjani umama wakho ngamabili? Ukulinda ingane yesibili kuyinjabulo enkulu. Kodwa lapha abazali balinde ubunzima obuningi. Umhawu wezingane ekuzalweni kwezinye izingane yinkinga imindeni eminingi ebhekene nayo. Awukwazi ukugwema umhawu, kodwa unganciphisa lo mzwa okungenani. Khona-ke izingane ngeke zincintisane ngothando lwakho, kodwa zizoba ngabantu bomdabu kanye nabangane abaseduze.
Kubalulekile ukutshela ngomntwana ozayo, kodwa kufanele kwenziwe kwenkathi ngenyanga yesihlanu, ngoba kulindeleke ukuthi inyanga eyisishiyagalolunye ilinde ingane encane. Kungcono ukwenza lokhu kanye nomlingani wakho, njengalokhu: "Sifuna ukukutshela izindaba ezimangalisayo, maduzane uzoba nomfowenu noma udadewabo." Ungabuzi kanyekanye uma ejabule. Mtshele indlela ingane encane ngayo ekuqaleni, ukuthi uyodinga kanjani ukukhathazeka okuvamile. Kumele kuchazwe ukuthi umntwana osanda kuzalwa ngeke adlale imidlalo futhi akhulume, kodwa okokuqala nje kuphela ukulala okuningi. Thatha ingane nawe esitolo, lapho uzothenga i-dowry, thintana naye, ngiyabonga ngosizo. Lapho ingane iqhuma emathunjini, ake umuntu omdala uthinte.
Kunoma yikuphi, ungavumeli imishwana ekuzalweni kwengane mayelana nomdala izokhohlwa, noma kuzodingeka ukuthi isize ngemisebenzi yasendlini ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lokhu akufanele kushiwo ngisho nasekuhlekeleni, kungenjalo ukucasuka nokuthukuthela kungenzeka.
Ngosuku lokuqala emva kwesibhedlela, ukunakwa kwabo bonke abantu abadala kuzogxila enganeni, futhi ngokuqinisekile uzothatha isikhathi kuzibulo, ngoba ulahlekelwa kakhulu. Hlala eceleni kwakhe, ukhulume, mvumele athathe isithombe noma adubule ekhamera yomntwana, ngakho-ke uzohlanganyela empilweni yomndeni. Noma kunjalo kungenzeka, ukuze ingane endala, ihlose ukubuyela esikhathini esedlule, iqala ukucela amapeni, ukuhlanekezela amagama ngisho nokubhala kuma-panties. Zama ukungabheki, kodwa udlale. Ufuna ukuguqulwa nokugwedwa, ukudakwa ebhodleleni, unganqabeli, ngoba ukufezekisa okufunayo, ingane ilahlekelwa inzalo kuyo. Futhi ugcizelela ukuthi unkulu futhi usuvele uyakwazi ukwenza izinto ngokwakhe, futhi ingane ayikwazi ukuyenza. Ungakhohlwa ukucindezela umdala, ikakhulukazi uma ungumfana. Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi luyaludinga ngisho nangaphezu kwamantombazane, kuthatha isinqumo sokubamba izinsimbi futhi kumanga umdala okungenani izikhathi ezingu-12 ngosuku, noma ngabe uyihlo uyakusiza nawe.Ukuphila konke komama omncane oseduze komntwana: udinga ukugeza uhambe, upheke ukudla. Futhi eduze kwengane ekhulile, ngubani ofuna nokudlala. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Fundisa ingane yakho yokuqala "imidlalo emidala." Ungalungisa ukuhlanza okuhlangene, kanti ngenkathi ulungiselela isidlo, isifundo sokudweba, isibonelo, i-beetroot, vele ubeke i-oliva phansi bese ugqoka izingubo ongangcolisi. Ngesikhathi sokuhamba, lapho ubuthongo obuncane kakhulu, unganika isikhathi kumdala, ongakwazi ukuhlola wonke amaslayidi nokuguquka.
Ungaqhathanisi nezingane zakho. Kungalimaza ingane, ngoba ngamunye wabo ulungile ngendlela yayo. Sonke sihluke ekuziphatheni kanye nangethalenta. Kumele sigcizelele ngokwehlukana isithunzi sezingane ngasinye.
Dala izimo lapho kubambisana khona, isibonelo, ukuqoqa amathoyizi ndawonye. Ungakwazi ukusungula imidlalo ehilela ukucabanga: ukudlala esitolo, ukwakha inqaba, njll.
Izingane zizophikisana ngokungenakuphika, zifundise ukulalela omunye nomunye, noma zivele zisakaze amakamelo ngezindlela ezingafani, zivumeleke zihlale zodwa futhi zithukuthele. Dumisa uma bekwazi ukuxazulula le mpikiswano. Ungakhuthazi ubuqaba kumunye nomunye, kepha uma ingane ifuna ukutshela lokho akwenzayo, yilalele futhi udumise ngokungenacala. Into eyinhloko ukuqinisekisa ukuthi izingane zakho ziyaqonda: uma othile emele noma engozini, kufanele ufunde ngakho ngokushesha.Izazi zengqondo zithi umona wobuntwana lapho kuzalwa ezinye izingane kuyisizwa esinempilo. Kodwa kungani sidinga izinzwa ezingadingekile, akunjalo?