Abazali abasha, ikakhulukazi uma benamazibulo, bakhathazekile ngezindaba eziningi ezihlukahlukene. Futhi phakathi kwabo, akuyona indawo yokugcina ethatha izinkinga ezithinta ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kwezingane ezingaphansi konyaka owodwa. Ukuzibuza okunjalo kulungile ngokugcwele - ukuqonda ukuthi yini ingane okufanele ikwazi ukuyenza, yiziphi izimiso zokuziphatha kwakhe ezikhona ngezigaba ezithile zentuthuko, ungathatha izinyathelo ezifike ngesikhathi futhi ugweme izinkinga ezingenzeka.
Ingane kakade kusukela ekuzalweni kwayo ixhumana nabazali nabantu abaseduze. Kusukela cishe ezinyangeni ezintathu ezedlule, uqala ukukhombisa isithakazelo esengeziwe ezweni elikuzungezile. Ngonyaka wokuqala wokuphila, uma kungekho ukukhubazeka futhi akukho ukuphambuka kwentuthuko, umntwana ufunda okuningi. Isibonelo, ufunda ukubamba ikhanda, ukukhahlela, ukubeka endaweni efanele, wenze izinyathelo zakhe zokuqala. Isimo sengqondo somntwana siphinde senze izinguquko. Uhlamvu lwakhe, imikhuba, ukucabanga nokuqina okuhlangene kuhlanganiswa. Lokhu kwenzeka ngezigaba, kusukela ngenyanga kuya kwenyanga. Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bazi lezi zigaba futhi balungiselele izinkinga ezithile ezivela kulowo nalowo.
Izigaba zokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kwezingane ezingaphansi konyaka owodwa
Ingane esanda kuzalwa ilala isikhathi esiningi. Isikhathi eside kunazo zonke sokuvuka ngokuzikhandla kulesi sigaba kungaba semaminithi angu-30. Ngalesi sikhathi ingane ingakwazi ukusabela ngomsindo, ukukhanya nokubuhlungu. Usuvele une-concentration yesikhashana ebonakalayo neyokuhlola. Ingane isho kahle ukuthi isondla, igaqa, igwinya kanye nezinye izixuku.
Ngenkathi yenyanga eyodwa umntwana usebenza ngokwengeziwe. Isikhathi sonke sokuvuka sikhula kancane kancane kuze kube ihora. Ingane ingakwazi kakade ukulungisa amehlo akhe. Ulandela le ndaba, kodwa ngenkathi engakwazi ukuguqula ikhanda lakhe ngemuva kwenjongo ehambayo. Ngokwemvelo, angayenza, kodwa engakakha izibopho ezingokwengqondo phakathi kwezinto nokuhamba kwayo. Kulesi sigaba, ingane isivele iqalile ukuzama ukudlulisela abantu abadala imizwelo yabo. Wenza lokhu, ngokuyinhloko ngosizo lokumemeza, ukulinganisa noma ukububula.
Uma ubona umntwana oneminyaka emibili ebusweni bamomotheka - yazi ukuthi lokhu akuyona ingozi. Ngalesi sikhathi uyakwazi ukumamatheka ngokucophelela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, usengakwazi ukulandela ngokuphelele ithoyizi. Ngezinye izikhathi ingane iqala ukuguqula ikhanda, ngokushesha nje lapho isihloko esithakazelisayo sayo sithathwe ohlangothini. Kule nkathi lapho indodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho iqala ukwakha izingxoxo zabo zokuqala zokuziqonda: ngokuphendula ukwelashwa kwakho, ingane ivuselela futhi ibuyele.
Ingane ezinyangeni ezintathu isiqaphela ngokucacile umama wayo. Uhlukanisa kalula ngokuma eduze kwabantu, angaphendula ngokwanele isikhalazo kuye. Omunye wempumelelo enkulu yalesi sizwe ukuthuthukiswa kokuzimela. Izingane zingase zidlale kakade ngethoyizi imisiwe ngaphezu kwayo noma ibuke izandla zayo. Lokhu kubonisa ukuthuthukiswa kwesifiso esicacile sokuzimela, ekuqinisekiseni ubuntu bomuntu. Ingane ihleka, ibuke indaba, iphendukele ikhanda.
Ezinyangeni ezine umntwana ubheka into ehleliwe eyithakazelisayo isikhathi eside, ubambelela ngokuqinile ezandleni zakhe, uthola amehlo omama futhi ambuke eduze, ehleka ngokugqamile. Ingane encane kule minyaka ingavele ishiywe okwesikhashana esitokisini yedwa ngesikhathi sokuvuka. Angadlala ngokuzimela isikhathi eside. Isikhathi solwazi olusebenzayo lwezwe elizungezile lifinyelela emahoreni amabili.
Inkulumo "enkulumeni" enenyanga emihlanu ihlukaniswe ngokumemeza okukhethekile kanye nomculo. Ingane ibonisa ngokucacile imizwelo ehlukahlukene, ihlukanisa noma yikuphi ukuzwakala kwezwi labazali futhi isikhathi eside ihlola izandla zayo nezinto ezizungezile. Ukuphumelela okuyinhloko ukuthi ingane iqala ukuzibona esibukweni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuvamile ukuzindla kwakhe kumenza amomotheka. Ungacabangi ukuthi lokhu kuyingozi - ingane iyaqonda ngokugcwele ukuthi nguyena esibukweni. Esikhathini esizayo ukuziqhenya okunjalo kuzoqiniswa kuphela.
Shayela egameni lezingane ezinenyanga eziyisithupha , futhi ngokushesha uphendule. Ngaphezu kwalokho, phakathi nalesi sikhathi uqala ukushicilela hhayi nje imisindo eyedwa, kepha izixhumanisi ezixhunyiwe. Khuluma kaningi kaningi nengane. Uyomangala ukuthi yikuphi okuthakazelisayo oyokulalela lokho okushoyo. Uma umntwana ebeletha, khona-ke ngesikhathi esifanele uzokwenza kucace ukuthi ufuna isifuba, ekhomba kuso. Ngalesi sikhathi, abantwana abahlengikazi bafundiswa ukuphuza indebe yezingane. "Abakhiqizi" abathola ijusi, amanzi kanye netiyi ebhodleleni, leli khono liphuzile.
Ngezinyanga ezingu-7-8, umntwana uqala ukuqaphela izinto ngamunye. Ufunda ukuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo, ukuveza ngokuqondile isimo sakhe sengqondo. Kukhona okuthiwa "amagama angamagama angamazwi", lapho umntwana eveza isimo sakhe sengqondo kulokho okwenzekayo. Imidlalo yakhe isivele isazi futhi ilawulwa. Izingane azigcini nje ukugibela i-rattle yakhe, kodwa idlala nayo, ixhumana futhi ijabulele inqubo. Manje ingane ihlukanisa abantu, eyazi imibono "yeyakho" neyomunye ".
Lapho uneminyaka eyizinyanga ezingu-9-10 ingane ingakwazi ukwenza imiyalo elula, futhi ngezinye izikhathi isivele isiqaphele, uma kunesidingo, imbiza unina. Ngomntwana, akuyona inkinga ukukhombisa ukuthi isipopi sinemaphi, amehlo, umlomo, amapeni, njll. Ingane ezinyangeni eziyishumi izokunikeza ngokunembile into oyicelayo, futhi ingakwazi ukwenza umyalo onzima (ukushaya , unike ithoyizi kuPapa, njll.) Lokhu kuyisimo sengqondo sokuxhumana - isigaba sokuqala endleleni eya ekuthuthukiseni amakhono okuxhumana. Umuntu ohambayo, uzongena ngemuva kokuthi "ngenkathi", futhi lokhu kukhulumisana. Kubalulekile ukuthi ingane ifunde ukuxhumana manje, ukuqonda imithetho futhi, uma kunesidingo, ukubuyisana nabo.
Ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kwengane kuthola imibono yabantu abadala kakhulu ngonyaka . Ingane isivele iqonda kahle igama elithi "akunakwenzeka." Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubona ngokwanele inkulumo ebhekiswe kuye. Lesi sikhathi somntwana sibaluleke kakhulu, ngoba inkulumo yakhe iqala ukwakha. Kwezinye izingane, ukuthuthukiswa kwaze kwaba unyaka kuya ngokushesha, kwabanye - kancane kancane. Lokhu kumuntu ngamunye futhi kuncike ezintweni eziningi: izimo lapho ingane ikhula khona, ubudala, namakhono akhe emvelo.
Kule minyaka ubudala ingane isivele iqalile ukuveza imvume yakhe nokungavumelani. Uyakwazi kakade lokho akufunayo, nokuthi yini angayithandi. Izingxabano zokuqala ezingokwengqondo ziqala. Ingane izama ukwamukela izintandokazi zakhe, izinto, futhi zingenasisekelo. Nakuba umntwana oneminyaka elilodwa engakakhi ubuhlobo besikhathi eside phakathi kwemizwelo nezenzo. Akakwazi ukwenza lutho kuwe "ngenxa yobubi." Kulula nje, uzama ukugcina induduzo enkulu kuye.