Ungakugwema kanjani umshado?

Akusiyo imfihlakalo yokuthi kunezinhloso zokuphila okungeke zishade noma zishade, ngisho noma izimo ezihle zalokhu ziphakama. Izizathu zokwenqaba umshado zingahlukahluka. Ukwesaba ukubukeka kwakhe okungathandeki, ukwesaba ukwenza izinqumo ezithintekayo, ukuhlukanisa ngokuhlukunyezwa kwabazali bakhe, ubudlelwane bomndeni abangaphumelelanga nabangane bakhe nezinye izizathu eziningi ezenza akhiphe ubuhlobo bomndeni.

Ukungashadi noma ukushada kuyisenzo sobuqhawe, ngoba akuwona wonke umuntu ongakwenza.

Futhi cishe bonke abangane, izihlobo nabantu ababaziyo baqala ukushaya futhi baphakamise ngamazwi: yisikhathi senu, inketho enhle kakhulu kuwe ... bheka, ungabi umsikazi omdala ... Yilokho, futhi kuyadingeka ukuba udideke ngokumomotheka, ukuze ungamcasuli i-interlocutor noma ukushiya ngephutha ukushada.

Ukulandela amathiphu ambalwa engikunikeza wona, ungagcina inkululeko yakho futhi ubhubhise noma yiziphi izinhlelo zabahlobo nezihlobo zokushada nawe. Abangane bakho bazocabangela ukuthi usufuna ngentshiseko isigamu sakho sesibili, kodwa ngesizathu esithile awunalo lucky futhi awukwazi ukuthola okulungile.

Iseluleko esibi samadoda nabesifazane abangafuni ukuzibophezela ngomshado:

Yenza isithombe se-prince yakho enhle (umlingani), okuzobe kulungele kuwe ngazo zonke izindlela, kuze kube yimininingwane encane kunazo zonke futhi wenqaba kakade endleleni uma lowo ohambelana naye engavumelani ne-portrait yakho kuya ku-millimeter.

Isibonelo, umlingani wakho wesikhathi esizayo kufanele abe umdwebi wesithombe, ukuze akwazi ukudweba isithombe sakho esihle, futhi uyakwazi kuphela ukudweba imifino, okusho ukuthi ngaphandle kokucubungula okungekho okufanayo.

I-portrait eqoshiwe kufanele icatshangelwe ngemininingwane kanye nemininingwane: ukunaka hhayi kuphela ukubonakala, imfundo, izimfanelo zayo (siqu) zayo kanye nesimo sezenhlalakahle, futhi banakekele izinto zokuzilibazisa, izinkanuko nokuzilibazisa. Ngakho kufanele unikeze yonke imininingwane ngokuningiliziwe!

Inendima ebalulekile ekukhetheni umlingani ongashadile noma abazali badlala ngabazali nezinye izihlobo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uthande abazali bekhosana yakho (isikhulu). Qaphela ngokucophelela, ubheke futhi uma ubona noma yikuphi ukungaphumeleli kubo, masinyane ushiye isikhulu sakho (indodakazi yenkosi).

Ngokungazelelwe, ingabe ukuphambana okufanayo kuzokwenzeka ku-candidate wakho? Bhekisisa ngokukhethekile impilo yezihlobo, oshade naye ozayo kumele abe nempilo kuzo zonke izimo ngaphandle kwezifo ezithathelwanayo ezifweni.

Okukhethwa kukho okuhle uma umngane wakho engangeni ebuhlotsheni obuseduze futhi akudingeki abheke izizathu zokwenqaba.

Ngineluleka ukuba uxoxe kaningi nobulili obuhlukile, ukuze ungahlanganyeli ebuhlotsheni obungadingeki. Kodwa-ke, ngezinye izikhathi ukwamukela izimemo kumaphephandaba noma ukuvakashela, lapho kudingeka khona ukuxhumana nazo zonke izivakashi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyayithanda noma cha, akunakwenzeka. Kodwa-ke, kukhona iresiphi esebenza ngokungenasici, lapho ungasoze uphazamiseka khona nemizamo yokuxhumana.

I-recipe ilula kakhulu: yonke indawo futhi uhlale ukhuluma kuphela ngawe futhi ngezinkinga zakho, ungavumeli i-interlocutor ngisho ngisho nezwi futhi angalaleli izingxoxo zakhe. Ake sithi umuntu ufikile kuwe, efisa ukukuzi, wabuza umbuzo othi "Ungubani?" Masinyane qalisa ukutshela ngezinkinga zakho empilweni yakho siqu, mayelana nomphathi wakho emsebenzini nokuthi mayelana nephilothi yakho ethandekayo nemininingwane yakho yonke . Yebo, uma i-interlocutor ezama ukuphazamisa noma ukuveza umbono wakho, umsebenzi wakho wokuqala awukuvumeli lokhu.

Vumela u-interlocutor wakho abe ngumlaleli, kodwa kufanele ukhulume kuphela. Ngokuvamile, emva kwengxoxo enjalo, uzolahlekelwa ngokuphelele isifiso sokwazi kangcono, futhi uma usamkhathalela, mhlawumbe kufanele ubheke kuye.

Phila ngokuthula bese uzama ukungatholakali nanoma ubani. Yiqiniso, akekho ozokhathazeka ngawe, kodwa uzozikhathalela kuphela. Khona-ke kuyini injabulo?