Ukulahlekelwa

Ucabanga ukuthi awunanhlanhla empilweni? Abafana "ababi" kuphela abawela futhi izinkinga emsebenzini zisuke zilandelana ngokulandelana? Ezingqondweni, kunegama elikhethekile kubantu abahlale bekulungele ukuba izisulu zabanye abantu nezimo - "ubuntu bomuntu ohluphekile". Ubuntu bokuhlukunyezwa babumbene ukuthi abaziqondi futhi abazihambisani nomqondo wokuthi "umthwalo wemfanelo". Ngakho-ke, ake sibheke izinhlobo ezintathu ezijwayelekile kakhulu ze "izisulu" eziseduze.

Inkomba: "Usola!"

U-Olya waphendukela kimi ngenkinga elandelayo. Washada nendoda eyayingumuntu omncane kakhulu ngaphambi kwakhe emshadweni, futhi kamuva waba "ohlukumezi basekhaya." Wathatha imali, wayala zonke izinyathelo, wahlola amafoni futhi akazange avumele ukuba basebenze - ngokufushane, wenza konke ukuvikela umkakhe kusuka oxhumana nabo nezwe langaphandle. U-Olga wakhononda ngokuhlanganyela kwakhe okubabayo, wakhala wathi: "Ukube bekungekho kuye, ukuphila kwami ​​bekuyoba mnandi kakhulu, kukhanye, kujabule".


Kodwa-ke, kakade emhlanganweni wokuqala, waqaphela ukuthi unenzuzo yakhe kulokhu - uvikelekile, futhi akudingeki asebenze yena ngokwakhe. Kwakukhona ukuthi wayesaba impilo yokuzimela nazo zonke izinsongo zakhe. Futhi ngokungazi ngibheke kahle uhlobo lwamadoda angakwazi ukuhlangabezana nesidingo sakhe sokuphepha nokungahambi kahle. Owesifazane ushintshe umthwalo wakhe ngomunye umuntu, bese emangalela.

Ungashintsha kanjani?

Ukuze impilo yomfazi yalolu hlobo iguquke, kuyadingeka ukuthi uhambe ngezigaba ezimbalwa ezibalulekile zokuqonda inkinga. Okokuqala, umuntu kufanele aqaphele, aqaphele ukuthi "isisulu" sisekulesi simo inzuzo yaso. Ngemva kokubona ukuthi sonke lesi sikhathi uye washintsha umthwalo wempilo yakhe komunye umuntu, angase afune ukushintsha konke. Ukusheshisa inqubo yokwenza ushintsho, ngokwesibonelo, ungasebenzisa amasu angokwengqondo lapho umuntu eveza khona ukuthi unezimfanelo ezingenalo. Kufanele uziveze ezimweni ezahlukene, uzame izimfanelo ezifana nokuzimela, umthwalo wemfanelo, ukuzihlonipha, ukuzimisela, ukuzethemba.

Izindaba ezibalulekile: uma owesifazane ekhetha ukuthatha umthwalo wempilo yakhe kuye, khona-ke umshado osuselwa esifiso sokudlulisela isiphetho sakhe kumuntu angase angabe eshintsha izinguquko.



Obulalayo: "Ngixoshwa ngedwala elimbi!"


U-Elena uhlala njalo kwenzeka okuthile, izinkinga zikhona kuyo yonke indawo. Kodwa akafundi emaphutheni akhe, ngaso sonke isikhathi ethi: "Kungaba yini, lokho ngeke kudlule." Lapho umyeni wakhe wokuqala emshaya okokuqala, naye akazange amelane noma afune ukuvikelwa - ngani? Kuyisiphetho sakhe. Walethwa emhlanganweni nomngane wami, engakwazi ukubhekana nemisindo yakhe evela kwesinye ukushaya.


Ngakho-ke, phambi kwethu ummeli wohlobo lwabesifazane abaphumelela ekuphatheni impilo yabo hhayi komlingani, kodwa ekugcineni. Inkolelo engazi lutho ibaheha: "Angifanele ukujabula." Njengengane, abazali baka-Elena babevame ukusho imisho enjalo: "Kodwa ngubani okukudinga kakhulu?", "Akukho okuhle okungenzeka kuwe," "Noma yini oyenzayo, ngeke uzuze noma yini," njalonjalo.

Ungashintsha kanjani?

Uma umuntu engakaze azame ukwakha ikusasa lakhe eyedwa, bese emqinisekisa ukuthi akuyona "idwala elibi" ekuphenduleni konke okwenzeka kuye kuwumsebenzi onzima kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, ungamtshela lokhu okulandelayo: ngenkathi ezocabanga ukuthi impilo igeleza ngokwayo futhi akukho lutho olungashintshwa kuyo, izinkinga kulo ngeke ziphele, kodwa zizoqongelela kuphela.

Uma wazi ngokwakho kule nkcazelo futhi ufuna ukwenza ukuphila kube nokukhiqiza ngokwengeziwe, zama ukushintsha umqondo wegunya lamanye amazwe edwaleni ngombono wokuthi ungashintsha okuningi ekugcineni kwakho. Ukuphindaphinda okuphindaphindiwe ezimweni ezehlukene zenkulumo ethi "Kuxhomeke kakhulu kimi," ngisho noma ungakholelwa okokuqala, emva kwesikhathi kuzozibonakalisa ekushintsheni okuhambisanayo ekuphileni.


Buka indlela umsebenzi wakho okuholela ngayo kulokho okufunayo, futhi ukunakekelwa kugcinwa kusuka ku-cones amaningi kanye ne-cuffs. Owesibini "phambili wokuhlaselwa" ukukhulisa ukuzethemba nokuqashelwa kwelungelo lokujabula. Khumbula, umsebenzi wakho kufanele ube ngumsebenzi onesibonakaliso esengeziwe. Ngakho zibeke imigomo efanelekile, ungamanciphisi amakhono namakhono akho.


Uzidlalisayo: "Ngifuna ukuhamba ngeso lengqondo"


Njalo, ukuthatha isinyathelo esiyingozi - ukuthatha isikweletu esikhulu ebhange noma ukuhamba uhambo ngaphandle kwemali - u-Anastasia ukholelwa ukuthi uthatha umthwalo wemfanelo futhi uthatha ingozi ngokuqonda okugcwele. Kodwa kwakungenjalo - izinkinga zatholwa ngomzuzwana ongalindelekile, futhi kaningi wabe esecala ngazo zonke izono ezifayo. Wayekholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi wayephethe lesi simo, futhi wayengenakuqonda ukuthi kungani amapulani akhe ayehlile.


Kakhulu kakhulu ukuthi ukulimaza umqondo wokuthi akukho lutho kuxhomeke kuwe, umcabango wokuthi konke kuxhomeke kuwe kuyingozi. Okuthile kuncike njalo ezimweni, futhi lokhu akukwazi ukunakwa.

Inkinga ka-Anastasia nayo yikho ukuthi wayethembisa ukujabulela injabulo. Kuye, lena kwakuwukuphela kwithuba lokuzwa into ethile - wayengayitholi i-half-tone yokuphila ngokomzwelo nhlobo.

Ukuziphendulela kungaphinda kugxilwe yingane yangaphakathi, eyayivaliwe ngaphambi kwenkululeko, owayekade elawulwa ngabazali bayo ngokuqinile. Manje ungabona izifiso, kufana nesifiso sezingane sokukhokha ukujula ku-frost bese uthinta insimbi. Akakaze ushiswe ebuntwaneni, owesifazane onjalo akabona izingozi zokuba umuntu omdala.


Ungashintsha kanjani?

Ngalolu hlobo lwabesifazane kuyasiza ukuzwa impilo ezintweni ezingezona izinto ezidlulele, njengesibonelo, i-dinner esiphundu, ifilimu ethakazelisayo, ukuxhumana nabangani, ngangokunokwenzeka, ukujabulela yonke imizwa yemibono etholakalayo. Uma uthola izici 'zomuntu othakazelisayo', ngokuvamile ukhumbula ukuthi akuyona yonke into elawulwayo, ngezinye izikhathi izimo zinamandla kunathi. Njalo, ukuthatha izingozi, cabanga ngemiphumela engenzeka yezenzo zakho. Umuntu omdala uhlukile kumntwana, ongakwazi ukubikezela izinyathelo ezimbalwa phambili.

Uma utholakale kwelinye lalabo abachazwe ngenhla "abathintekayo besisulu" futhi ufuna ngempela ukwenza impilo yakho iphephile, kufanele usebenze. Umsebenti wakho manje ukuzibhalela uhlelo lwezenzo zokukhonkolo zokuzithuthukisa ngokwakho, okuqhubekayo kulawo maqondana okujwayelekile osuvele unayo isikhathi sokujwayele. Futhi kwangathi konke kungakusiza!