Ucabanga ukuthi awunanhlanhla empilweni? Abafana "ababi" kuphela abawela futhi izinkinga emsebenzini zisuke zilandelana ngokulandelana? Ezingqondweni, kunegama elikhethekile kubantu abahlale bekulungele ukuba izisulu zabanye abantu nezimo - "ubuntu bomuntu ohluphekile". Ubuntu bokuhlukunyezwa babumbene ukuthi abaziqondi futhi abazihambisani nomqondo wokuthi "umthwalo wemfanelo". Ngakho-ke, ake sibheke izinhlobo ezintathu ezijwayelekile kakhulu ze "izisulu" eziseduze.
Inkomba: "Usola!"
Kodwa-ke, kakade emhlanganweni wokuqala, waqaphela ukuthi unenzuzo yakhe kulokhu - uvikelekile, futhi akudingeki asebenze yena ngokwakhe. Kwakukhona ukuthi wayesaba impilo yokuzimela nazo zonke izinsongo zakhe. Futhi ngokungazi ngibheke kahle uhlobo lwamadoda angakwazi ukuhlangabezana nesidingo sakhe sokuphepha nokungahambi kahle. Owesifazane ushintshe umthwalo wakhe ngomunye umuntu, bese emangalela.
Ungashintsha kanjani?
Ukuze impilo yomfazi yalolu hlobo iguquke, kuyadingeka ukuthi uhambe ngezigaba ezimbalwa ezibalulekile zokuqonda inkinga. Okokuqala, umuntu kufanele aqaphele, aqaphele ukuthi "isisulu" sisekulesi simo inzuzo yaso. Ngemva kokubona ukuthi sonke lesi sikhathi uye washintsha umthwalo wempilo yakhe komunye umuntu, angase afune ukushintsha konke. Ukusheshisa inqubo yokwenza ushintsho, ngokwesibonelo, ungasebenzisa amasu angokwengqondo lapho umuntu eveza khona ukuthi unezimfanelo ezingenalo. Kufanele uziveze ezimweni ezahlukene, uzame izimfanelo ezifana nokuzimela, umthwalo wemfanelo, ukuzihlonipha, ukuzimisela, ukuzethemba.
Obulalayo: "Ngixoshwa ngedwala elimbi!"
Ngakho-ke, phambi kwethu ummeli wohlobo lwabesifazane abaphumelela ekuphatheni impilo yabo hhayi komlingani, kodwa ekugcineni. Inkolelo engazi lutho ibaheha: "Angifanele ukujabula." Njengengane, abazali baka-Elena babevame ukusho imisho enjalo: "Kodwa ngubani okukudinga kakhulu?", "Akukho okuhle okungenzeka kuwe," "Noma yini oyenzayo, ngeke uzuze noma yini," njalonjalo.
Ungashintsha kanjani?
Uma umuntu engakaze azame ukwakha ikusasa lakhe eyedwa, bese emqinisekisa ukuthi akuyona "idwala elibi" ekuphenduleni konke okwenzeka kuye kuwumsebenzi onzima kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, ungamtshela lokhu okulandelayo: ngenkathi ezocabanga ukuthi impilo igeleza ngokwayo futhi akukho lutho olungashintshwa kuyo, izinkinga kulo ngeke ziphele, kodwa zizoqongelela kuphela.
Buka indlela umsebenzi wakho okuholela ngayo kulokho okufunayo, futhi ukunakekelwa kugcinwa kusuka ku-cones amaningi kanye ne-cuffs. Owesibini "phambili wokuhlaselwa" ukukhulisa ukuzethemba nokuqashelwa kwelungelo lokujabula. Khumbula, umsebenzi wakho kufanele ube ngumsebenzi onesibonakaliso esengeziwe. Ngakho zibeke imigomo efanelekile, ungamanciphisi amakhono namakhono akho.
Uzidlalisayo: "Ngifuna ukuhamba ngeso lengqondo"
Kakhulu kakhulu ukuthi ukulimaza umqondo wokuthi akukho lutho kuxhomeke kuwe, umcabango wokuthi konke kuxhomeke kuwe kuyingozi. Okuthile kuncike njalo ezimweni, futhi lokhu akukwazi ukunakwa.
Inkinga ka-Anastasia nayo yikho ukuthi wayethembisa ukujabulela injabulo. Kuye, lena kwakuwukuphela kwithuba lokuzwa into ethile - wayengayitholi i-half-tone yokuphila ngokomzwelo nhlobo.
Ungashintsha kanjani?
Ngalolu hlobo lwabesifazane kuyasiza ukuzwa impilo ezintweni ezingezona izinto ezidlulele, njengesibonelo, i-dinner esiphundu, ifilimu ethakazelisayo, ukuxhumana nabangani, ngangokunokwenzeka, ukujabulela yonke imizwa yemibono etholakalayo. Uma uthola izici 'zomuntu othakazelisayo', ngokuvamile ukhumbula ukuthi akuyona yonke into elawulwayo, ngezinye izikhathi izimo zinamandla kunathi. Njalo, ukuthatha izingozi, cabanga ngemiphumela engenzeka yezenzo zakho. Umuntu omdala uhlukile kumntwana, ongakwazi ukubikezela izinyathelo ezimbalwa phambili.
Uma utholakale kwelinye lalabo abachazwe ngenhla "abathintekayo besisulu" futhi ufuna ngempela ukwenza impilo yakho iphephile, kufanele usebenze. Umsebenti wakho manje ukuzibhalela uhlelo lwezenzo zokukhonkolo zokuzithuthukisa ngokwakho, okuqhubekayo kulawo maqondana okujwayelekile osuvele unayo isikhathi sokujwayele. Futhi kwangathi konke kungakusiza!