Izingane ezincane zingabantwana abancane. Izingane ezinkulu ... Kulungile, ngokujwayelekile, sonke siyazi ukuphela. Lokhu kuhlakanipha kwabantu sekuyisikhathi eside bashaya abazali bezizukulwane eziningana. Lapho nje ingane isondela ekukhuleni, siyaqala ukuthuthumela ngokuthula. Kuzokwenzekani? Mhlawumbe kusengaphambili ukufuna isazi sengqondo somntwana omuhle, noma isazi sengqondo, noma isazi sengqondo ... Kodwa empeleni, kuvame ukudingwa usizo lwezingqondo kubazali bentsha, hhayi izingane zabo ezivamile.
Ingane ingena esikhathini sokukhulelwa: kancane kancane intombazane iba intombazane, umfana ungumfana. Izinguquko ziyabonakala kusukela ngenkathi kuya enkathini futhi zenzeke ngaphambi kwamehlo ethu. Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa nje sibona izinguquko zomzimba ezenzekayo. Ingane iba ivaliwe futhi ithule. Igwema inkampani yabazali bakhe, ekhetha ukuba yedwa ekamelweni lakhe futhi ulalele umculo. Abazali kuleli cala bavele bashesha ukusiza ingane yabo, bekholelwa ukuthi "kukhona okungalungile kuye." Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama kanjani ukusiza - bayathukuthela futhi bakhamuluke ngenkani: "Yebo, ngiyajabula! Shiya! "Kungani? Yebo, ngoba zilungile ngempela. Thina - abazali kufanele bamukele iqiniso lokuthi izingane zethu azisekho izingane futhi zinelungelo lobumfihlo. Yebo, kubonakala sengathi kuyabangela ukwesaba abaningi, ikakhulukazi labo abajwayele ukondla omama. Kodwa lesi sikhathi sisempilweni yazo zonke izingane. Okungenani, kufanele kube. Intombazane ngezinye izikhathi nje ifuna ukuhlala yedwa futhi iphile ngokuzimela kubazali.
Intsha ifuna ukuba yedwa futhi ihluke esixukwini. Wenza izinto ezingavamile, ubheka isitayela sakhe ezembathweni, ukhuluma ulimi "oluhlukile" nemibono eminingi ehlukile ekhanda lakhe. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ziqhekeke ngaphakathi ngaphakathi ngemicabango nemibono, izimpendulo azifunayo phakathi kwabahlobo futhi azijwayele ukukhuluma nawe. Kungani? Yebo, futhi, ngoba ufuna ukukhula. Ukuphila okuzimele kuhilela ukwenza izinqumo ngaphandle kwabazali, okungukuthi, ngokuzimela. Kunjengokungathi asizange sizizwe sicasule futhi sihlukumeze.
Yiziphi izinkinga eziyinhloko abazali abasha okufanele babhekane nazo?
1. Isifiso sokuzimela.
Lesi esinye sezikhathi eziyinhloko empilweni yabaselula. Abathandeki ukuchaza ukuthi bangaphi nokuthi benzani, ngoba kaningi kubangela ukuphikisana nathi - abazali. Ukufika kwesikhashana kuvusa futhi kukhubaza ingane esekhulile. Uyabona lokhu njengokuphulwa kwamalungelo. Futhi ngezinye izindlela uqinisile. Cishe wonke umzali, engatholi ingane yakhe ekhaya ngesikhathi esithile, amahlaya. Kudinga ukunakekelwa okuningi kanye nesikhathi sokufinyelela esimweni sonke, ukuze ungamvumeli ingane ukuba izwe ivinjelwe futhi ilinganiselwe. Khumbula - uma unqabela ngokwengeziwe, bayokufihla ngaphezulu. Ngemuva kwalokho, sonke sazi ukuthi isithelo "esivinjelwe" sinjani.
2. Ukuvuthwa ngokocansi.
Le nqubo evamile kakhulu iholela ekucindezelekeni kwabazali. Kule ndaba, intsha ihluke kakhulu. Omunye uvuthwe ekuqaleni, othile ngemuva kwesikhathi esincane. Kodwa kunezici eziyisisekelo zocansi.
Njengomthetho, ukukhulelwa kwabafana kubudlova. Bahlale behlushwa ukucabanga ngocansi, futhi bakulungele ukwenza noma yini ukulahlekelwa ukungabi nabulungisa. Lena inqubo yangaphakathi ezingeni le-hormone, elingenakwenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi umfana. Futhi kudingekile yini ukubhekana nalokhu? Phela, lokhu kulandelwa ukuze ukukhanga kuvele esikhathini esithile. Ngakho-ke, makube njalo. Amabhayisikobho e-Porn kanye nokushaya indlwabu kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila kwezinsizwa. Kodwa-ke omama abaningi basabela kulokho okuhlambalaza futhi badinga amadoda abo (uma ikhona) "ukuchaza kumfana ukuthi lokhu kubi." Ezimweni ezinjalo akusikho indawo ukukhumbula ukusiza kwengqondo kubazali bentsha. Phela, izenzo ezinjalo zingabangela ukwakheka kwezinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi futhi zenze ngisho nentombazane ivaliwe futhi ibe buthakathaka. Cabanga kahle, ngaphambi kokuba ushone ingane yakho ukwenza lokhu. Qonda ukuthi wonke amadoda ajwayelekile ajwayelekile, futhi kuvamile ukuba bacabange ngocansi bese besifisa.
Kumantombazane, isimo sinengqondo kakhulu. Ngamunye wethu ukhumbula ukuthi kwakunzima kanjani ukuthatha lesi sinyathelo - ukunquma ngokusondelana nomuntu. Amantombazane abanayo isidingo esinamandla sangempela sokulala nobulili ngalesi sikhathi, kepha ngokomzwelo bahlangabezana nesimo ngokujulile. Njengomthetho, bathandana nomfana ofuna ubuhlobo obuthile. Kule minyaka yobudala, ngokuvamile kwenzeka ngaleyo ndlela. Umfana ufuna, futhi intombazane iyavuma ngoba yesaba ukumlahlekelwa. Ngalesi sikhathi, ukusondela kwentombazane nentombazane kubaluleke kakhulu. Phela, imiphumela yokusondelana nentombazane ingaba yimbi kakhulu kuneyomfana osemusha. Uyakwazi ukuthi yini esengozini. Ungumama okufanele achazele indodakazi ukubaluleka kwalesi sikhathi, ukubaluleka kokwenza izinqumo ezinjalo. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele ukwaziswa ngemininingwane encane kunazo zonke okwenzekayo empilweni yendodakazi yakho. Futhi ukunakekela ngokweqile lapha, futhi, kunoma yini. Kodwa kufanele wazi ukuthi uma unenkinga uzoba ngowokuqala intombazane ezofika ukuyocela iseluleko. Ama-scandals, ukuvinjelwa kulokhu akusizi. Kubalulekile ukuba umngane endodakazini yakho futhi ukwazi ukumvikela kusuka ephutheni okungaba yindleko kakhulu kuye.
3. Ukukhwabanisa
Abazali bajwayele ukuthanda "umama" wezingane futhi "baba" futhi kunzima kakhulu ukuba bahlukane nabo. Sifuna ukuzinikela okufanayo nokuzithobela okuzithobayo, hhayi ukufuna ukuqonda ukuthi lokhu kuhlazisa ubuntu omdala enganeni. Ingane ibhikisha, kodwa ingabe ingabi njalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Uvele nje efuna ukuzwakala futhi ngenxa yalokhu uzama ukuziveza ngokuzwakalayo ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, singabakhathaleli kangako, uma behlukumeza kakhulu "I" labo abalimele.
Noma yikuphi ukuhlolwa kwentsha kuyinselele kubo, futhi kuphela kwabanye. Abenzi lokhu kithi ngokubi, bafuna nje ukuthi bafunde ukuthi bangakwazi yini. Banike ithuba lokwenza iphutha! Bavumele bazame ukubhoboza ulimi noma benze i-tattoo - emva kwesikhashana bayoqonda ukuthi kwakudingeka kangakanani noma akudingekile kubo. Ekugcineni, manje ungalungisa cishe noma yimuphi umfana "ubuwula". Ama Tattoos kalula futhi ngaphandle kokulandelela anciphisa i-laser, amacembe asuswe ngabahlinzayo abahlinzeka nge-plastic, izinwele zezinwele zihlelwe yizintandokazi ezithombeni ezinhle.
Wonke umuntu osemusha kufanele ahambe nale nkathi enzima. Bayajabula labo bazali, izingane zabo ezifunde ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo. Lokhu kuzoba usizo oluhle kubo esikhathini esizayo. Kubalulekile ukuthi ayikho igebe phakathi kwakho nengane ngenxa yezihlazo eziqhubekayo phakathi nalesi sikhathi. Yiba nesineke futhi uthethelele. Ngemva kwesikhashana ingane yakho endala izokubonga.