Noma yiluphi ubuhlobo kufanele bubekwe kahle, ngoba kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zobuhlobo phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane. Ngakho-ke, ukuqala, udinga ukuqonda ngokucacile uhlobo luni lobuhlobo obukhona ngalo okwamanje. Noma ngabe lokhu kungukulala nje, noma abantu bahlangana, noma baphile ndawonye. Kuzo zonke lezi zici, abantu banesimo sengqondo esihlukene ngokuphathelene nobulili nomunye nomunye.
Ubuhlobo bomdabu
Kwabambhangqwana abavele baqala ukuphola, singancoma, sondeza isikhathi sokuthanda ubuhlobo babo, ukuze uthando lukhule. Ubuhlobo obuhle kakhulu bokuthandana busemusha futhi bukhulile kakhulu. Lesi yisikhathi lapho abantu banele khona ukuthi bazobukwa emehlweni, abanjwe ngamadolo, bhala incwadi, bakhumbule insipho yabo oyintandokazi, ushizi umuntu ayithandayo, bayokhonza kahle ingubo, njll.
Ngeshwa, esikhathini sethu sothando lomshado sinikezwa isikhathi esincane kakhulu. Futhi ngalesi sikhathi asinaso isikhathi sokuthola "leso sabelo sezinkumbulo zobudlelwane bomshado, lapho uthando lwethu luqhubeka khona. Isibonelo, izinkumbulo zokuthi ubheke kanjani, ukuthi ulahlekelwe kanjani, noma ngabe wabhala izinkondlo, lokho akubhala, ukuthi ngabe uthenge izipho, ngabe ucele ukuphumula, waphupha, anakekele, njll.
Kulababili ababili abaqala ukuhlangana, lezi zikhathi ezincane zikhula ngezindlela ezahlukene. Isibonelo, sihlangene e-cafe, sitshela imisho emibili noma emithathu futhi siyiqonda - singabantu abathandekayo. Sibhekana ngokucophelela futhi saqaphela: Ngifuna ukuhlala nalomuntu kuze kube yilapho ngisemdala. Sakhuluma ngoMdali, sathinta ngezandla futhi saqaphela - sisebenza ngokuvumelana. Ngabe-ke umehluko owenzayo uma uqala ubudlelwane obuseduze namuhla, ngesonto noma ezinyangeni eziyi-1.5, njengoba ezinye izicansi zincoma.
Uma ufuna ngempela ukusondelana
Kwenzeka ukuthi izinwele ziba "ngodaka", ikhanda lakho lishaya, izandla zakho ziyazamazama, uze ufune umuntu lapha futhi manje. Ngabiza ebusuku, kubizwa, okuthiwa itekisi futhi uya. Ngezinye izikhathi umuzwa onjalo nesifiso kungenziwa uma umqondo uthi, "Lindela, akusona isikhathi, ukubekezela." Uma kunethuba elinjalo lokukhulisa ubuhlobo, kungcono ukulinda, uma kungenjalo ithuba, ungamlaleli muntu, thandana nomunye umfutho ku-elevator, lapho ufika khona, emotweni. Yonke le mizwa nemizwelo esiyithatha nabo ekugugeni.
Uma indoda inika owesifazane imizuzu embalwa ngosuku, futhi owesifazane usebenza ebuhlotsheni ngaphezu kwemizuzu embalwa, khona-ke kuvela ukuthi le mbhangqwana cishe ngeke ihlukane. Futhi akwenzi umehluko uma belala ndawonye noma cha.
Ukuthandana kwehhovisi
Yilokho lapho kunomusa wezinsizakalo lapho kunqunyelwe khona isikhathi, siyaqonda ukuthi uma namhlanje singasifaki, sizobe sihamba epaki izinsuku ezimbalwa, khona-ke sizoba nokukopisana kobuciko, bese sizokhala, sishiye esiteshini futhi akukho muntu kunoma ubani ngeke kubhale, akekho ozofika kunoma ubani. Amathuba ukuthi lokhu kuzoholela emshadweni oqinile othandweni, cishe amaphesenti owodwa.
Uma unesikhathi esincane futhi ungafuni ngempela, uyaqonda ukuthi lo muntu uzohlala enkumbulweni, isithombe esiqhakazile osithathayo ekugugeni kwakho, ukuvala amehlo akho empeleni futhi ungene kulobu buhlobo, bese ungazihlambalazi ngamathuba angenakwenzeka. Uma ungakwazi ukuyeka, hamba, coo, uhambe bese usishiya i-adventure yothando, ongenamahloni ngakho uzohlanganyela nomngane oseduze noma ngisho nomyeni wakhe.
Uphi ukuphazamiseka ebuhlotsheni? Lapho umbhangqwana uqala ukuya ocansini futhi ngesonto lokuqala emva komshado, abanye abasanda kushada baqala ukubonisa ukuhluka okuhlukene kokubhala ngesandla kobulili. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi impilo eyodwa, eside futhi eside futhi wena ngokweqile ufuna ukuthi ube yedwa umlingani.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyindoda noma owesifazane, intombazane noma umfana, kufanele uqonde ukuthi empilweni yakho kufanele uhlale ungenisa okuthile okusha. Isibonelo, uma isidlo sokuphila siphendukile, sine-oversaturated noma senezela ushukela oluningi, singabonakali, ngakho-ke empilweni - wonke umuntu wabheka, wonke umuntu wabona, afundana njengencwadi efundwayo - lokhu akuvumelekile. Khulisa ubuhlobo bakho, funga ukubeka, udale izikhathi ezithile ukuze umangaze umlingani wakho, wenze okubi, ake sizithethelele.
Ubunjiniyela ngobulili
Kodwa ngokuqondene nobulili, ngakho-ke ukudala ubuciko kuzo zonke izibonakaliso zayo. Futhi ngokuqondene nanoma yikuphi ukudala, udinga isimo sengqondo sokudala. Ngokuvamile noma yimuphi umbhali noma umculi uyaqonda ukuthi ngehora lesishiyagalombili ngizothatha ibhulashi bese ngidonsela ubuciko obuhle. Sidinga ukulinda isimo sengqondo sokudala, futhi isimo sengqondo sisaqhubeka sinikeza uthando lwothando. Futhi lezi zindawo zomlingo zesifiso sobulili nothando lomzwelo yiyona ndlela yokwenza izinhliziyo zikhonjane.
Omunye umlingani udinga ukunuka, ahlolisise, alalele umuntu ukuphefumula, ubheke ukuphendula kwakhe, bese ungamangali. Njengoba kunezikhathi lapho abantu bathi nginakekele owesifazane, wayethandana kakhulu, hhayi igama elilodwa elihlambalazayo, kodwa ukuthi wayeziphatha kanjani embhedeni, ngidumala kakhulu kuye, kuhle ukuthi asizange sishade. Lona ngumuntu ohlukile futhi angithandi. Yiqiniso, kuzo zonke izinkampani, lobudlelwano buyingqayizivele, kodwa ubulili buhlukanisa imibala ecacile kuyo yonke ubudlelwane.
Ubulili ngothando
Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ngobudlelwane obuseduze ukuthi omunye uyakuthanda kakhulu, omunye uvumela yena ukuba athandeke, omunye uya emhlanganweni, omunye unakekele, yilowo nalowo unenkathi ngendlela yakhe, kodwa uma abantu beqeda, igama liya, "wena" uyahamba, izinkimbinkimbi futhi kukhona abantu abangenawo ama-aesthetics amakhulu kakhulu. Lena inqubo enhle, okungenzeka akuyona inhle kakhulu kusuka ngaphandle, isibonelo, hhayi enhle njengama-movie we-porn. I-mascara ekhethiwe, ubuso be-sweaty, izinwele eziphazamisayo.
Kodwa uma ubulili ngothando nangesikhathi unike lolu thando ithuba lokuzalwa nokuvuthwa, khona-ke le nqubo izogcina ubuhlobo bakho kulo lonke impilo, noma ngabe ungavumelani nabalingiswa, naphezu kokuhluka kwakho kweminyaka, naphezu kokukhulu isixuku sabasizi be-gap.