Njengoba uyazi, omakhelwane abakhethiwe, ngakho-ke kufanele sikhuthaze labo abahlala ngemuva kodonga noma ngemuva kocingo, nemikhuba yabo. Ngezinye izikhathi, ubudlelwane bomakhelwane bukhula bube ubungane obuqinile, futhi ngezinye izikhathi bube ubutha obubi. Yeka ukuthi ungavumeli yini impi esabekayo phakathi kwamafulethi, ngisho nezindlu, nokwakha ukuthula okulinde isikhathi eside? Amalungelo nezibopho zomakhelwane - izakhamuzi zasekhaya, kanye nezindlela zokuthula zokuthonya zibekwe ngezansi.
THANDA ABANTU ABAKHO
Ngokwezibalo zoMnyango Wezangaphakathi ZaseRussia, ngaphezulu kuka-5% kuzo zonke izenzo zobugebengu zenziwa emakhaya omakhelwane. Ngempela, esayensi yesimanje kukhona into enjenge "psychology of omakhelwane". Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ubonakala ungewona owaziwa, futhi sekuyiminyaka eminingi uhlala kwenye indawo, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi - awusona izihlobo eziseduze, ngakho-ke unelungelo lokuzwa ubutha komunye nomunye futhi ubonise ukuhlukunyezwa. Ungaba nesimo sengqondo esihluke ngokuphelele ekuphileni, ukuhlanzeka, izindlela zokuzijabulisa - akukho lutho olungalungile ngalokhu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akudingeki ujabule empumelelweni yomunye nomunye. Kodwa-ke, kulokhu, ukungathandi kuyothola futhi, ngokungangabazeki, kuyokhula ibe ubutha bangempela uma ungayeki ngesikhathi futhi ungakhumbuli umyalo oyinhloko womakhelwane - thanda umakhelwane wakho njengoba uzithanda wena! Umthetho uyanezela: Yazi amalungelo akho nemithwalo yemfanelo.
Akekho oshiwo ukuthi ngesikhathi esisodwa udinga ukuthanda abakwaPetrovs nezingane zabo ezinzima ezineminyaka eyishumi nambili, unogogo ocasulayo, othanda ukuphuza umshana wakhe nokukhalaza ngenja - ngokufutshane, bonke omakhelwane - izakhamuzi zendlu ngesikhathi esisodwa. Esikhundleni sokwesaba nokukhathazeka ngezikhathi zonke, shintsha isimo sakho sengqondo esimweni. Zama ukusungula imithetho yakho ekufikeni. Isihluthulelo sempumelelo yakho sinesizotha nokuziphatha kwakho okulungile. Uma udinga ukuthula ngemva kuka-23.00, khumbula ukuthi maduzane uzoba nosuku lokuzalwa. Futhi-ke, esikhundleni sokubeka phambili i-ultimatum, nikeza ukuhlela imihlangano yabusihlwa, isibonelo, kanye ngenyanga, ukuxwayisana mayelana nabo kusengaphambili. Uma ukhathele ukukhumbuza omakhelwane mayelana nokugcina uhlanzekile, bhala incwadi ehloniphekile bese uyibeke emgodini noma ekhethini. Akudingekile ukusebenzisa izinkomba nezinqumo ezimbi, isimemezelo esinjengathi "Asibona izingulube! Yeka ukukhahlela ezitebhisini bese uphonsa yonke indawo izinkunzi! ", Yebo, echaza kakhulu, kodwa engasebenzi. Ngokuphambene nalokho, incwadi ehloniphekile, ephakamisa ukuhlonipha indlu nokuyiphatha ngothando, izokwenza omakhelwane abanganaki bacabange. Ekugcineni, faka i-ashtray noma i-tin enzitebhisi bese ubhala kuso: "Faka u-cigarette butts kimi" - ukubeka smiley ekuhlanganiseni ekugcineni. Ngokuqinisekile omakhelwane bayakwazisa ukuhleka nokuhleka kokuzijabulisa futhi bayokujabulela ukusebenzisa inqubo yakho.
Esinye isihluthulelo sobuhlobo obuhle nomakhelwane ukuqonda! Zama ukungena esikhundleni salabo abahlala ngemuva kodonga lwakho. Ababona ukuthi banecala lokuthi ingane yabo eneminyaka emihlanu ayilanga ebusuku, futhi umkhulu ukhononda futhi uhamba phezu kwamathanga. Ezinye izimo azikwazi ukuguqulwa, ngakho-ke indlela yokuphuma ngayo ukwamukela nokuhlangabezana nokuphazamiseka kwesikhashana.
KUNGABENZEKA KANJANI?
Umuntu ongaphandle angakuthandi kunoma yini, ngisho nekhanda lakho. Kodwa-ke, kunezinto ezitholakala emanzini cishe wonke umuntu!
♦ Imfuyo. Ifenisha enhle, impahla ebiza kakhulu yokuhlala, indlu yaseshashalazini ene-full-length screen, imoto yangaphandle ngaphansi kwefasitela - konke lokhu kuzobangela umona walabo abanokuphila okuhle okushiwo okudingekayo. Akukho lutho okumangalisa lapha - izazi zengqondo zibheke umona "umuzwa wemvelo, isakhiwo esibandakanya ukuncintisana, ukucabangela ukuthi omunye unento engifuni engingenayo, nenzondo ebangelwa yiyo."
Okufanele ukwenze: bheka ubungane nabangane bakho ngesimo senhlalakahle ngabantu, futhi omakhelwane abancintisayo abagcina ubudlelwane obungathathi hlangothi, ungabamemeli ukuba bavakashele, ungaceli ukubuka enye into enhle.
♦ Izingozi zomkhaya. Uma uvame ukugcwalisa omakhelwane bakho ngamanzi futhi uhlela njalo ukuntuleka kwe-wiring, lindele inkinga. Lokhu akujabulisi kunoma ubani futhi akekho! Ngokomthetho, leli cala elimele lililungelo lokufuna isinxephezelo ngokulimala kokuziphatha nokubonakalayo okubangelwa (nakuba kungenhloso).
Okufanele ukwenze: kungcono ukwenza ukulungiswa okudingekayo kusengaphambili. Ungalindi kuze kube yilapho ipayipi lakho liphuka futhi amanzi egijima phansi, shayela i-plumber ngesikhathi sokuqala kokuphuthumayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, zonke izingcingo ezibangelwa ukungasebenzi kahle zilotshwe ezincwadini zokulawula, futhi uma kwenzeka ingozi, uzoba nesizathu esihle enkantolo.
♦ Ukulungisa. Abomakhelwane abaqothule njalo bangenza ngisho nabaseStopiya abangenayo impela.
Okufanele ukwenze: ngaphambi kokuqala ukulungiswa, qiniseka ukuthi ubuza omakhelwane, akuvimbeli yini futhi umsindo futhi kungcono nini ukuqhuba umsebenzi? Ngaphambi kwesikhathi, cela intethelelo ngenxa yokuphazamiseka - imvume izokhulula izandla zakho.
UKUQALA KWEZINDAWO
Bonke abantu bahlukile, kodwa izinhlobo ezithile phakathi komakhelwane bahlangana.
♦ Umgqugquzeli. Usanda kuphuma umhlalaphansi, ngakho-ke akakwazi ukushiya isimiso somsebenzi esiyingozi. Owesifazane onjalo ugijimela esixazululweni sezinkinga zomphakathi futhi ngokushesha uyena oyinhloko yendlu yonke - izikhathi eziyikhulu ngosuku egijima kuwe ukuqoqa amasignesha kwenye inguquko encane emnyango bese ukhononda ku-Ivanovs kusuka esiteji sesihlanu esingabonisi umphakathi .
Indlela yokukhulumisana: ungazinikeli kuyo yonke imali futhi ungaxabani. UNkulunkulu akavumelani nokuxabana nombhikisho.
♦ Owesifazane odala ojabulayo. Eqabungeni elibandayo nokushisa okukhulu, yena nabangane bakhe bahlezi ebhentshini bese bebukela ngokucophelela wonke umuntu ongena futhi eshiya emnyango. Uzobona isiketi sakho esisha esifushane futhi enze isiphetho esikhulu ngokuziphatha kwakho okungcolile, uzokutshela ukuthi akubona amantombazane kuphela, kodwa futhi nabafana beza endodakazini yakho, kanti umyeni wakhe upheze isikhathi eside kakhulu noSvetlana Petrovna onesizungu esivela endlini ye-45.
Indlela yokuxhumana: yeqa phezu kwezindlebe futhi ungakholelwa lutho. Ungayinaki amazwi ashukumisayo. Phela, laba besifazane abadala basebenza njalo. Uma endlini yakho, uNkulunkulu engavumeli, kuyoba khona inhlekelele, bayoba ngabokuqala ukutshela amaphoyisa mayelana nazo zonke izimpawu zomphangi, ngisho nokuxwayisa ukweba ngokwabo.
♦ Umphefumulo womusa. Angaba yinani leminyaka - kusuka ku-13 kuya ku-90. Uhlala ethanda isinkwa, ehlala nengane, ebolekisa, ehamba inja, efaka izimbali futhi eyokusekela nganoma yisiphi isikhathi.
Indlela yokukhulumisana: yiba abangane, yenza abangane futhi uphinde wenze abangane! Ungabe uhlala entanyeni yakhe, zama ukusizana.
♦ Ubuhle obusha. Wakhula phambi kwendlu yonke futhi nge-flash yena waphenduka enqabeni elibi waya enyangeni enhle engenabuhlungu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, owesifazane omdala onesihawu uhlale ekutshela ukuthi umyeni wakho ubheka ubuhle obuhle.
Indlela yokuxhumana: eqinisweni, akunakwenzeka ukuthi umlingani wakho uzokuguqula nomakhelwane omncane. Kodwa-ke, uma usenomhawu, kungcono ukukhuluma naye nokuxazulula zonke izinkinga.
♦ Umakhelwane womakhelwane. Ukulungisa kungumfanekiso wokuphila kwakhe. Kusukela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku ubamba okuthile, ukusika nezipikili. Ukuvusa ekuseni ekuseni ngeSonto futhi akuvumeli ukuba ulale ubusuku obukhulu.
Indlela yokuxhumana: kusengaphambili ucacise amahora amukelekile wokulungisa. Unganqikazi ukusho ukuthi awungakulungeli yonke impelasonto ukulalela imisindo emnandi kunazo zonke emhlabeni, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba uvuke kubo ngo-6-7 nakusasa ngo-9 ekuseni.
♦ isidakwa. Kunjalo endlini yonke. Uzokutshela ngesiphetho sakhe esibuhlungu futhi angeke agxilise ukucela i-beer, i-vodka noma isinkwa. Ungalindeli ukuthi uzobabuyisela noma alalele iseluleko sakho bese uyeka ukuphuza.
Indlela yokuxhumana: empeleni, isihawu akusona umuzwa oqondile kakhulu. Ungesabi ukumelana nomakhelwane wakho udakiwe. Kungcono ukuyondla ekhaya kunokuboleka isinkwa nobisi.
IMITHETHO YESITHATHU "CHA" NGABANTU ABANTU ABANTU
• Ungavumeli ukukhulumisana okusheshayo, ngakho-ke, uNkulunkulu angavumeli, ungathathi isimo sakho sengqondo ngobungane. Njalo gcina ibanga! Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu, ngoba awunakwenzeka ukuba usondelane nabantu abanjalo futhi ngokushesha uzofuna ukuwaphula, noma yikuphi ubuhlobo. Yilapho inkumbulo yobuhlobo obulahlekile iyobapha amandla okulwa nawe.
• Ungazami ukufumbathisa - kaningi akusizi ngalutho. Ngokuqinisekile bazothatha izipho njengezibonelelo, futhi izinhloso zakho ezinhle ziwuphawu lobuthakathaka.
• Ungaphenduli imibuzo efana nokuthi "Ubani oza kuwe izolo?" Ngombhalo ovela kusigaba "Awunandaba". Kungcono ukuhumusha ingxoxo ngokucacile engxoxweni yemibukiso ye-TV, imibukiso ye-TV nanoma yini enye ejabulisa kakhulu kunokuphila kwakho kwangasese. Ungatsheli lutho ngawe, kodwa ungazami ukufihla noma yini - ukutholakala kwezihloko ezingavunyelwe kuzokwenza ukuthi ukwazi ukufuna ukwazi. Masibukele i-TV kangcono futhi alalele umsakazo!
IMITHETHO YOKUBHALWA OKUQHELEKILE
/ Emva kokuthuthela endlini entsha bese uqedela ukulungisa, ubhake amaphayi noma uwathengise esitolo esiseduze uye emakhelwane. Lokhu kuhambela kuzokubonisa ukubonga kwakho ngesineke sabo ngesikhathi sokulungisa umsebenzi wokwakha endlini yakho.
/ Zama ukubingelela bonke abaqashi endlini - ekugcineni, thola ku-elevator bese uzenza sengathi awukaze ubonane, kungcono kakhulu.
/ Unganqabe omakhelwane ngezansi: usawoti, ushukela, imingcele ingadingeka ngokuzumayo kuwe. Ngezinye izikhathi akufanelekile ukuhlala nomntwana womakhelwane, futhi uhambe inja yegulayo uMaria Petrovna. Ngaphezu kwalokho, khumbula ukuthi ngokuvuma ukuphuza izimbali ngesikhathi seholidi laseSmirnov, unelungelo lokuzibuza ukuthi zondle amakati akho phakathi nohambo lwakho olwandle. Kodwa-ke, usizo lokubambisana luyinto enhle, noma kunjalo, uma omakhelwane behlezi nawe; intamo, ungesabi ukwenqaba.
/ Ungazibandakanyi kakhulu ekuphileni komakhelwane. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzojabula uma abantu abanesihawu bekwazisa ukuthi umyeni wakho uletha owesifazane endlini. Kodwa ukuxwayisa ukuthi indodakazi yomakhelwane ithathwe utshwala noma izidakamizwa, kuyadingeka.
/ Ungakhohlwa ukubuyisana nomakhelwane ukuthuthukiswa kwendlu yakho kanye nokufakwa kwegaraji egcekeni - banelungelo elingokomthetho lokwenza kanjalo. Ukunganaki amalungelo nezibopho zomakhelwane - izakhamuzi zendlu azizange ziholele umuntu kuze kube sezingeni elihle.
Okuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu: U- Irina Belkina, oneminyaka engu-29 ubudala.
Lapho sithuthela efulethini elisha, ngokushesha ngaqaphela ukuthi omakhelwane babengeke bangiphe ukuphila. Ngasemuva odongeni kwakuwumndeni omkhulu ngokumemeza izingane zasenkulisa, intsha enzima nokufunda nabo ekilasini. Ngangikhulelwe futhi ngifisa kakhulu konke okwenziwe. Nokho, lapho uVanya ezalwa, ngabona ukuthi empeleni, nginenhlanhla nomakhelwane. Okokuqala, ngiyakwazi ukuwacela njalo, futhi okwesibili, ngingashiya indlu nganoma isiphi isikhathi bese ngicela omunye wabantwana noma abantu abadala ukuba bahlale nomntanami, kahle, futhi okwesithathu, ngiyazi ngokuqinisekile , ukuthi akekho ozokhononda ngendodana yami engathuli. Ngiyajabula ukuthi nginabangane abakhulu kangaka!