Cishe uyazi ngezibalo ezidabukisayo, ezichazwe ingoma edumile: "... ngamantombazane ayishumi ngokusho kwezibalo, abafana abayisishiyagalolunye ..." Kukhona njalo abamele abesilisa besilisa ezweni lakithi kunabamele isigamu esihle sabantu. Ebusheni bakhe, kulula ukuba owesifazane athole umlingani wokuphila, ngoba imvelo phakathi nale nkathi yokuphila ikhulu kakhulu, futhi izidingo zabakhetho abangenzeka zingaphansi. Ngenkathi yobudala, izicelo zebesifazane zomlingani wokuphila okungenzeka zikhula, futhi ithuba lokushada linciphile.
Isimo ngokusebenzisa i-prism.
Ngokuvamile abesifazane babheka indoda abayithandayo ngokusebenzisa izibuko ezinemibala engu-25. Ngalesi sikhathi lo wesifazane usemusha, omuhle, ngakho uma engathinti ukuphila kwakhe nomunye umuntu, kudingeka afune inkinga kuye. Uma lawa maqondana nawe, mhlawumbe unamahloni kakhulu. Ukuthobeka okukhulu kungabonakala ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Ngokuvamile lokhu kubangelwa izinkimbinkimbi ezikhulayo kusukela ebuntwaneni. Uchwepheshe wezengqondo kuphela ongasiza lapha. Kulesi simo, udinga ukubheka imbangela, bese usebenza ngokwakho, uthole ukuzethemba.
Ukucindezelwa.
Kunesinye isizathu sokuba namahloni ngamantombazane amancane. Ngokuvamile, amantombazane amancane azibheka njengamafutha, amabi, njll. Ngokuvamile lezi zithi ukubukeka kwazo akunangqondo ngokuphelele. Uma wena, noma mhlawumbe indodakazi yakho inenkinga enjalo, kuzomele wenze okusemandleni akho. Kubalulekile ukuqeda izinkimbinkimbi ezinjalo. Kungaba okungcono kakhulu ukusebenzela nokubukeka kwakho. Isiqephu senziwa kuphela ngamacala okukhubazeka kokuzalwa kokubukeka. Kulesi simo, udokotela ohlinzayo kuphela ongasiza.
Okuhlangenwe nakho okungaphumelelanga.
Izizathu ezingenhla azizona ezinzima njengeyesithathu. Abesifazane abaningi ebusheni babo noma kamuva bahlangabezana nakho okubi othandweni. Ngalokhu, lo wesifazane uya ekuqinisekeni kwamakhono akhe, ukudumazeka futhi, mhlawumbe, ukwenqaba ubudlelwane besikhathi esizayo. Kulesi simo, akufanele ulahlekelwe ithemba, ukuzethemba. Udinga ukukholelwa enhlanhleni yakho futhi ubuke. Ngokuqinisekile awukaze uhlangabezane nomuntu wakho. Kodwa leli holide lizofika ngempela emgwaqweni wakho. Kudingeka nje ube nesineke, isikhathi sidlule, futhi uzothola umlingani womphefumulo.
Izidingo ezidlulele.
Ladies emva kwezinamashumi amathathu bavame ukwenza izidingo eziphezulu kubakhethiweyo babo. Bambalwa abesilisa abamukela izicelo ezinjalo. Kulesi simo, abesifazane abaningi bawela kwesinye isikhathi: balungele ukushada nomunye umuntu, nje ukuba abe nendoda endlini yabo. Lapha udinga ukuma, uthathe umoya uphinde ucabange: futhi ungahambisana nalo muntu? Ngeke yini ukuhluleka kwakhe kungenze ukuphila kwakho kube nzima? Ingabe ukulungele ukubekezelela imikhuba yakhe emibi namaminithi amancane? Cabanga ngalezi zindaba kahle kakhulu. Phinda ufundise umuntu ongeke ukwazi ukuphumelela, futhi akudingekile. Akuwona wonke umuntu ozobekezelela, uma ezama ukumbamba. Futhi uma ikuvumela ukuba wenze lokhu, mhlawumbe ulula futhi unesifiso.
Ingabe kukhona indoda ekahle?
Kodwa-ke, kufanele uhlale ukhumbule ukuthi okulungile, isimiso, asikho. Abantu abesilisa abangenayo imikhuba emibi nokunamathiselwe okucasulayo (ibhola, ukudoba, ikhompyutha, njll) ayitholakali emvelweni. Ngakho-ke, kuzodingeka uhlehlise ibha yezicelo zakho, kodwa ungayiphonsa kakhulu.
Ukuba nesizungu njengendlela yokuphuma?
Abesifazane abaningi, bengalokothi bathole umlingani wabo, noma badikibala amadoda, bakhetha ukuhlala bodwa. Kodwa-ke, lesi simo sinokungalungi okuningi: uma empilweni yakho yosizi noma injabulo, ngeke uhlanganyele okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho nemizwelo kunoma ubani. Ukulahlekelwa okungcono kokungabikho kokuphila okuyimfihlo - ngeke kube khona umuntu okukubeka ehlombe eliqinile; wonke umsebenzi wesilisa ekhaya uzophoqeleka ukuba ukwenze wedwa, noma uqashe abantu ngalezi zinhloso. Mhlawumbe, emva kokudumazeka, ukuhlambalaza bonke ubulili besilisa, ngisho nokuphila okunjalo uzobonakala njengenganekwane, kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi ikutshele ngokushesha. Ngakho-ke, kufanele uqoqe amandla, ukhohlwe futhi uxolele zonke izikhalazo ezidlule futhi ukholelwe ukuthi ngokuqinisekile uzohlangana nendoda yakho ekahle. Kuzobonakala sengathi uhle kakhulu, ngeke uqaphele ukwehluleka kwawo, futhi ukuthethelelwa okuncane kuyothethelelwa.
Amabhodi wezinkinga zokusebenza kwengqondo.
Nokho, ukuthola indoda, kudingeka wenze imizamo ethile. Vakashela izindawo lapho ungahlangana khona nendoda yakho. Futhi vele ubheke kuphela ngaphakathi kwakho, bheka nxazonke. Mhlawumbe indoda yamaphupho akho isebenza eduze kwakho. Noma mhlawumbe uzohlangana naye esitolo. Smile kaningi. Smile yisikhali sakho esingcono kakhulu. Khombisa isimo sengqondo esihle hhayi kuphela enkampanini yabangane bakho, kodwa futhi nje nabantu abakuzungezile. Khumbula ukuthi amadoda afana nabesifazane abaningi abathokozile. Ungabi namahloni kubantu abafuna ukukuhlangabeza. Ukuthola owesifazane uyindoda, bese usebenza. Mhlawumbe lokhu kuyithuba lakho lothando olujabulisayo. Nokho, qaphela, akubona bonke abantu abanenhloso enhle. Naka umbono wakho. Mhlawumbe, emehlweni akho, ukuziqhenya ngokweqile kubhalwe. Lahla lesi sici esibi somlingiswa. Khohlwa ama-Hollywood ama-stereotypes angamadoda. Kuyinto kuphela kuma-movie wezenzo futhi indoda inhle, inamandla, futhi ihlakaniphile. Khumbula ama-movie angama-1960, avame ukubonisa izimo lapho owesifazane ebunjwa eyedwa. Ngakho-ke, okokuqala, udinga ukubekezela, ukuhlakanipha, ukuhlakanipha nokunakekelwa.
Ungazibheki kahle kakhulu noma, ngokuphambene, umuntu onzima kakhulu. Owokuqala akwenzeki ukuhlanganyela nawe ubunzima bokuphila futhi uzofaka esikhundleni sehlombe lakho elikhuni; okwesibili akunakwenzeka ukuhlonipha umbono wakho.
Futhi uqonde: akukhona nje kuphela ukuthi ufuna ukuba nomngane ohlakaniphile nofundiwe nawe. Le ndoda iphinde ifune ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka, ifuna ukuba nomfazi onjalo eduze kwakhe, ozoqonda njalo, alalele, anikeze iseluleko, okukhona okunye okumele akhulume ngakho. Ngakho-ke, zisebenze ngokwakho, uthuthukise ulwazi, uthole imfundo eyengeziwe. Lokhu ngeke kukusondeza kuphela emhlanganweni nomuntu wamaphupho akho, kodwa futhi kukuvumela ukuba uziphazamise, ukhohlwe ngokuseshwa kwesikhathi esifushane.
Sithemba ukuthi iseluleko sengqondo sokuthi "Indlela yokuthola indoda yakho owesifazane" siqinisekile ukukusiza, futhi uzohlangana nomngane wakho womshado.