Ekuphileni kwabesifazane bonke kukhona indawo yemizwa engcolile, ebizwa ngokuthi uthando, kodwa yikuphi kuphela amathuba okuhlangabezana nokuthanda kwangempela kwabesifazane bonke? Futhi ungathanda yini uthando lwangempela izikhathi eziningana empilweni yakho? Futhi kanjani ukuqonda ukuthi lapha weza uthando, lowo esasifuna?
Bathi uthando lwangempela luyatholakala kanye kuphela empilweni, ngakho alukhohliwe impilo yonke, lungabambisana noma lungabuyiselani, kodwa luyiqiniso, kodwa abaningi bathi okuphambene ukuthi bathande izikhathi eziningana empilweni, bathandana ngokulinganayo, futhi besaba ukulahlekelwa eqinile ngokulinganayo. Abaningi bangadidisa uthando nokufutheka ngothando, kodwa uthando akuyona inkanuko futhi akuyona into yokuzilibazisa. Ukukhathazeka kanye nogqozi kunamandla okuphela, futhi uthando luhlala iminyaka eminingi enkumbulweni njengebala elikhanyayo.
Noma usengathanda izikhathi eziningana empilweni yakho, kodwa abantu abahlukene banothando oluhlukile. Uthando alukwazi ukufana, akunakwenzeka ukuzwa into efanayo kubantu ababili. Futhi amathuba okuthola uthando lwangempela yilowo nalowo, futhi amathuba afanayo kuwo wonke umuntu, kodwa akubona wonke umuntu ongabona futhi abone uthando lwakhe futhi asebenzise ithuba lakhe. Ngenxa yokuthi omunye umatasa ucabanga ukuthi uyedwa nokuthi ungumuntu ompofu, akekho owamdinga futhi enhliziyweni uyathanda ukuzizwela, uthanda ukuzwela abanye, ngakho ngeke abone uthando lwakhe. Futhi omunye umatasa ngomsebenzi wakhe emsebenzini, ebhizinisini, futhi engaboni ngempela uthando lwakhe, akakwazi ukukhohlwa ngezihlobo zakhe. Futhi umuntu angasheshisa kusuka ekudlulele ngokweqile, kusukela "othandweni" olulodwa kuya kolunye, esaba ukuphuthelwa uthando lweqiniso, olungaboni futhi oluzolahlekelwa, uyohlale efuna okungcono kakhulu, kodwa njengomphumela ngeke athole. Uthando alukho izici lapho lingabonakala khona, luhlukile futhi luhlukile, wonke umuntu uyathanda ngendlela yakhe. Wena ngokwakho kufanele uqonde lokho okuthandayo. Ngisho noma umuntu ephika ukuthi akayithandi, kodwa uthanda nje, angase aphuthe.
Uthando alunhle, njengoba abaningi bakholwa, ngakho-ke bathi ngokungazi ukuthi "uthando alulutho, kodwa naphezu kwalokho." Uthando lunobuso obuhlukile, futhi lunabalingiswa abahlukile. Akusikho njalo lokho esikuphuphayo ebusuku, bese sibhala phansi kwidayari, sidonsa ubuso bakhe ngamaphoyinti ezinemibala enkumbulo yakhe. Cha, akusiyo njalo i-blonde eyamehlo eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, ne-brunette evuthayo enamehlo aluhlaza, futhi enomzimba ophuziwe ophuziwe obonakala sengathi usanda kuphuma kulogi. Angaba ngumfana ojwayelekile, ongenakuqondakala amehlo aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka nesimo esibucayi sesimo esifushane, kodwa ngomphefumulo ongawuthandi isono. Futhi uma kungenakulinganiswa nezinga lomphakathi, ngakho-ke? Iphakamisa eyakho, futhi ngenhla izophakamisa kokubili uqobo nawe. Futhi kithi umbono womphakathi ubaluleke kakhulu, ukuthi omakhelwane bayothini, ngabe okhethiweyo wami uyothanda abanye. Ngezinye izikhathi sinakekele umbono wabanye ukuthi siyakhohlwa ngemibono yethu, ukhohlwa ngemizwa, ukhohlwa ngakho konke. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo awudingi ukulalela imibono yabantu, udinga ukulalela inhliziyo yakho futhi ulalele umbono wabathandekayo bakho kuphela. Ngokuvamile sishiya othandweni lwethu, ngoba aluhambisani nemigomo yethu, futhi ngaphandle kokulawula ukugqoka nokubukeka esikufake emnyango wezinhliziyo zethu, kushiya.
Ngokuqondene nenkulumo ethi "beats - kusho, ukuthandwa" akusiyo njalo kulungile. Abantu abaneziphambeko ezingqondweni ze-psyche bayakwazi futhi bathande. Abantu abanjalo bangabonakala bejwayelekile futhi behluke nganoma iyiphi indlela kubantu abavamile, kodwa ezinye izinhlangothi zabo ezingqondweni zihlukile, njengokubonisa ukuzwelana nothando lwabo. Yebo, uthando luhlukile, konke kunalo, ukuthi bangaki abantu abahlala emhlabeni, izinhlobo eziningi zothando zikhona emhlabeni. Kungaba nomusa futhi okhuni, oqhakazile futhi ophelile, othulile novunguvungu, othakazelisayo nokuzolile, owenqabelayo nokungajwayelekile, othanda ukuthandana nomuntu oyedwa - kodwa noma yikuphi, sonke siyakwazi ukuwuthanda. Uthando alunayo imigomo ethile namaphethini. Uthando njengoba wazi nokuthi ungakwenza kanjani. Wonke umuntu unethuba elingu-100 lokuthola uthando lweqiniso, ungaphuthelwa nje. Vula ukuthanda, ungesabi futhi kuzofika kuwe. Into esemqoka ukukwazi ukulinda futhi ungacabangi ukuthi awukwazi ukuthanda. Sonke siyazi ukuthi kanjani.