Owesifazane okhulelwe uyimfihlakalo kwabanye. Awukwazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela kuye ngezikhathi ezithile. Uhlala engapheli, uhlushwa yilapho ezwa umuzwa wendlala, ecasukile futhi kaningi akazi ukuthi yini ayifunayo. Ake sicabangele, yiziphi izizathu zokuthi i-psychology yowesifazane okhulelwe ihluke ekucabangeni kwengqondo hhayi kokukhulelwa. Kungani owesifazane oqala ukukhulelwa kukhona izinguquko ezinamandla.
Yimiphi izinguquko kumfazi onokubonakala komntwana
Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, owesifazane une-restructuring enkulu emzimbeni. Isimo somzimba nesokwengqondo somama esizayo sithinteka izinguquko ezinkulu ze-hormonal. Ekuphileni yonke into iyashintsha ngesikhathi esisodwa: ukuthanda, imizwelo, imikhuba, isibalo, izinhlelo zekusasa, njll. Ngenxa yazo zonke izinguquko, owesifazane akajabuli futhi ngezinye izikhathi abe namahloni. Ngalokhu konke lokhu kuyisana esiphila esiswini. Nguye "oyala" unina lapho ekhala, lapho ehleka, okudliwayo, uhlobo luni lwefilimu ukubukela, njll Kuvamile ukuthi abesifazane abakhulelwe baphile, hhayi ukulala ebusuku, bacabange ukuthi konke kulungile.
Ziyini izimbangela zokushintsha kwengqondo kumuntu okhulelwe?
Ngaphezu kokuguquka kwe-hormonal, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo komuntu wesifazane kubangelwa ukuthi kuningi kakhulu ukwesaba nokukhathazeka. Ngokuvamile futhi "bathola" imicabango: ngabe umntwana uzalwa enempilo, ngabe uthuthuka ngendlela efanele, ukuthi ukulethwa kuzoba kanjani, njll. I-Psychology yowesifazane okhulelwe uhlupheka kakhulu lapho abantwana behlangana nanoma yikuphi ukwephuka, ku-TV, emgwaqeni, emaphephandabeni. Yiqiniso, owesifazane uqala ukuphefumula futhi akhathazeke ngakho.
Ngokuvamile, kwengqondo yowesifazane obheke ukuthi ingane ihlupheka ngenxa yokuthi kufanele ihlale ekhaya nomntanakhe futhi ilahlekelwe yinkampani. Ngezinye izikhathi ukulangazelela ukuxhumana nomsebenzi kuletha owesifazane okhulelwe endaweni ecindezelayo.
Umzimba wesifazane nsuku zonke uthola ama-kg kilogram. Ngokuvame ukubhekana nakho ngokuqondile ngenxa yokubukeka kwakhe, kunemizwa yokwenqaba nokukhathazeka. Okuhlangenwe nakho okuvame ukuthi iqiniso lokuthi isibuno sakhe esihle, isifuba, njll ngeke sibuyele, ukuthi uzolahlekelwa ukukhangiswa kwakhe futhi ngeke akwazi ukubuyisela amafomu akhe angaphambili. Okuhlangenwe nakho okunamandla kunabo bonke labo besifazane abanomsebenzi wabo kuxhomeke ekufomeni kwawo (dancer, sportswoman, model, njll). Isifiso sokuhlaziya abantu abaningi siholela ekwesabekeni. Ezwa "ugutton" omkhulu, umama ozayo ngeke akwazi ukuzamukela ngaleyo ndlela, ngakho-ke unesabeka kakhulu, "unesihe," futhi uyathukuthela. Noma yisiphi isiguli ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa singabangela umzwelo wesifazane ongenakulinganiswa (ukuhleka, izinyembezi). Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi yonke imizwelo engathandeki nayo ithinta ingane.
Indlela yokubhekana nesimo sengqondo
Owesifazane olindele ingane kufanele aqaphele umthwalo wakhe wemfanelo kuye. Ngokuvamile, ukunakekelwa kokubeletha kwezinkukhu ezingavumeli ukuba bahambe kakhulu ekuhlangenwe nakho kwabo. Isibopho isinyathelo sokuqala emzabalazweni nakho.
Owesifazane elindele umntwana kufanele akwazi ukuphumula. Lokhu kusiza ukuphazamiseka kulabo noma eminye imibono engafanele, into eyinhloko ukugxilisa ingqondo yakho kukho konke okuhle. I-dessert enomnandi, umculo omuhle, ukukhuluma nengane nokuphumula kuzosiza ukuzolahla owesifazane.
Ku-trimester yesithathu, ukucabanga kwengqondo kwabesifazane kunzima kakhulu kusukela ekuzalweni okuzayo. Lokhu ukwesaba ukufa, ukwesaba impilo yengane, ukwesaba ubuhlungu obuza. Ngemuva kwalokho, into ebi kakhulu engaziwa. Kuyaziwa ukuthi labo abaye bathola ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile bayakwazi ukubhekana kangcono nokubeletha, abazi ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani futhi nini. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukufana namakilasi akhethekile kwabesifazane abakhulelwe, funda izincwadi ezikhethekile. Uma owesifazane ekwazi ngokuzala, unesaba kakhulu.
Ukuze uzivikele wena nomntanakho ekuhluphekeni, zama ukukhuluma ngabo nabantu abaseduze nawe (umyeni, umama, intombi). Abantu abanothando bayaduduza njalo iseluleko sabo, kwaziwa ukuthi kulula ukuthola isisombululo kunomunye.
Hamba kaningi emoyeni omusha, vakashela izindawo ezithakazelisayo, hamba ukuyothenga. Zama ukucabangela okuhle futhi ukhumbule ukuthi ungowesifazane omuhle kakhulu - owesifazane olindele ingane. Yazi ukuthi indoda kule nkathi ihlonipha ngokukhethekile kuwe.