Umndeni weMelika ungcwele. Akukho ukuhlukaniswa kwemithwalo yemfanelo yabesilisa nabesifazane: Abababa baseMelika kule ndawo bajwayelekile, hhayi kuphela ngezimpelasonto: amadoda ahlela usuku lokusebenza ukuze isikhathi esiphezulu sinikezwe emndenini.
Futhi isimo lapho umama esebenza, futhi ubaba unabantwana, futhi uhlangana kaningi kakhulu kunathi. Izingane zihlale ziyiqiniso lokubonga, indawo ephakathi kwendawo yonke. Umndeni wonke uhamba kuwo wonke amaholidi esikoleni nasengadini.
Ukukhuliswa kwezingane emazweni ahlukene kubonakala ngendlela ekhethekile. Ingane ilungu eligcwele lomndeni, unelungelo elifanayo lokuvota kuyo, njengalabo abanye, kuzo zonke izinkinga. Kumele ahlonishwe, unelungelo lokungena. Bameluleka, bamchazela konke okuvela ezipikili zokuqala, baqale banikeze inkululeko egcwele yokusebenza, ngaleyo ndlela bafundise ukuba bazimele. Ukuthula njengenambuzane, umama waseMelika akhathazeki nhlobo ngokuthi ingane iyaqhuma edakeni, iqhwaza, igxuma emgwaqweni ngoDisemba wodwa ngezicathulo (ngoba wayefuna kanjalo) ... Uma esenqume ukuthi angakwenza lokho, makenze lokho. Unelungelo lokwenza amaphutha nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. Masiqiniseke ukuthi ukungcola kungcolile!
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Kodwa le mithetho emangalisayo lapho ukhulisa izingane emazweni ahlukene unecala elihlukile. Ngakho-ke, ngokuqhubeka nokuthi wonke umuntu unelungelo lokuphila kwakhe siqu nezifiso zakhe, abaseMelika bafuna ukuthi le divayisi ihlonishwe futhi kusukela ezinganeni ezingenakuzichaza. Yebo, lapho ingane ifunda ukucacisa lokho akufunayo, iyolalelwa ngazo zonke izindlela, kodwa ngaphambi kwalokhu, empikiswaneni yezintshisekelo, abazali bazozinikela ngokuzenzekelayo amandla ekhanda. Umama nobaba banelungelo elingokomthetho lokulala ebusuku, futhi nakuba uvuka esitokisini sakho, akekho oyofika kuwe. Umama nobaba bafuna ukuqhubeka ngendlela efanayo yokuphila abahola ngaphambi kokubeletha kwengane, futhi ingane-ivela emakhaya okubeletha idonselwa ephasini elimnandi lapho linika ingane ukuba ibambe izivakashi ezingama-40, futhi ngeke ilalele ukusabela kwayo noma. "Ungakhathazeki!" - kubonakala sengathi lena yisigameko esiyinhloko semithi yaseMelika, lapho ukuhlolwa kwengane nge-neonatologist ngemuva kokubeletha kungabandakanya kuphela ukulinganisa nokunquma: "Ingane emangalisayo." Ukuqapha okuqhubekayo kwezokwelapha kuyoba cishe "okuphelele" okufanayo. Umgomo oyinhloko wempilo yengane uzobonakala: "Ubukeka emuhle kakhulu, akunakwenzeka ukuthi uyagula!"
Futhi uphi ugogo?
Kumele sivume ukuthi ukuphikisana nokukhuliswa kwezingane emazweni ahlukene kulezi zimo kuvame ukucabangela: futhi, emva kwakho konke, ngokushesha noma kamuva (basuse i-diaper, bafunde ukufunda) ... Ngezici eziningi, ngenxa yalokhu, abazali baseMelika bazolile, njengoBuddha, futhi bajabule. Akusilahli umxhwele ekubeni ngumama futhi ungenzi izikhathi zansuku zonke, futhi uzinike isikhathi esifanele izidingo nezifiso zabo (ngisho nangezikhathi ezithile ezilimaza izingane), omama balondoloza amandla abo okwesibini, wesithathu, wesine, ingane yesine ... Umntwana kulokhu umama, kubalulekile, kungase kube okokuqala, kodwa yonke indawo ayifuni ukusizungeza, njengaseRussia.
Iqiniso
Okungewona ngempela eMelika, ukubandakanyeka kukagogo ekukhuliseni izingane emazweni ahlukene. Amakhulukazi aseMelika eningi - abesifazane abasebenza ngokuzikhandla abajabule ngobuqotho ukucabangela ingane ekuhlosweni, kodwa okungaphezu kwalokho
Umndeni e-Italy ungumndeni. Umqondo oNgcwele. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu angaba nobuhlobo obude kangakanani nezihlobo zakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi awusize kanjani, uma engelungu lomndeni, umuntu akanakuzaza: ngeke amshiye. Ukuzalwa kwengane emndenini onjalo kungumcimbi hhayi kuphela izihlobo zakhe eziseduze, kodwa kubo bonke abanye abahamba ngalesi sigaba "amanzi ayisikhombisa ku-kissel". I-kid isipho esivela ezulwini, unkulunkulu omncane, bonke abanobuhlungu futhi abanomdlandla, bahlushwa lapho, banikezwa ngamathoyizi namaswidi. Izingane zikhulela esimweni sokuvumela futhi ukungabi naso kwesistimu, kuyilapho zilawulwa ngokuphelele, ngenxa yalokho zikhulela zibe zikhulu kakhulu, zinyene, zingenasiphelo, zingenasisekelo njengabazali bazo. Ukuhlolwa kwezinhlangano zezokuvakasha kubonisa ukuthi izingane zaseNtaliyane ziyizivakashi ezibhekene nezifo kakhulu eYurophu: ngokuvamile aziphumuli ezinye izakhamuzi, zenza umsindo, zingalaleli abadala, zidla ngokudabukisayo ezindaweni zokudlela, zenza kuphela izinto ezizibalulekile, hhayi ngokombono wabanye.
Ngokuvamile, umndeni wase-Italy, izingane ikakhulukazi, kufanele zivunyelwe ngaphakathi endlini ngokuqapha. Uma umama nobaba bexabana, mhlawumbe ngeke batshale izitsha endlini yakho ... Kodwa izimpumputhe ezigubhayo zizoshaya kalula amapulates akho omdabu. Ngemuva kokuvakasha kwabo, kuqhubeka sengathi uMamai uhambahamba eduze nendlu.
Ubudala obunzima
Lapho izingane zikhula futhi zingena "ubunzima obunzima", abazali ngokuhlakanipha bazinika inkululeko, noma kunalokho, inkolelo yakhe. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, imithetho nemigomo eqinile zihlala, ukunciphisa izingane zesiFulentshi kakhulu kunezontanga zabo eMelika. Ngokumangazayo, amaFulentshi emhlabeni abhekwa njengesizwe esikhululekile kunamaPuritan aseMelika.
Umndeni wanamuhla waseRussia ikakhulukazi umbhangqwana, ikakhulukazi ukhathazekile ngendaba yezimali nezindlu. Ubaba osemndenini waseRussia ngokuvamile ungumthengisi wezinkomo, ongumthengisi wezinhlanzi, ngokuzenzekelayo uyeke ekusebenziseni imisebenzi yasekhaya nokunakekela izingane. Ngokusemthethweni, umama ugcina indawo yomsebenzi kuze kube yilapho ingane ifinyelela eminyakeni engathathu, kodwa ngomkhuba omama bavame ukuya emsebenzini ngaphambi kwesikhathi - ezimweni eziningi zokuthola imali, kodwa kaningi, kanye nabasebenza nabo baseNtshonalanga, ngenxa yezizathu zokuzikhohlisa, ukukhathazeka kwengqondo yabo inhlalakahle. ERussia yanamuhla, amadivaysi okwakha izindlu zendabuko (indlela eyinhloko yethonya-ukujeziswa) kanye nezinkolelo zikaDokotela Spock ziyaqhubeka zihlala zifanelekile, kanye nama-theorists amaningi anamuhla anikezela ngokweqile okungavamile okwenziwe yi-post-Soviet: ukulala okuhlangene, ukuncelisa kuze kube seminyaka emithathu, isimo sengqondo kumntwana njengelinganayo ...
Iqiniso
Ama-Nannies amaningi ahlala angenakufinyeleleka, futhi izibeletho azikhohlisi ngaso sonke isikhathi abazali, futhi ngokuvamile ukuphuma kweso simo kunogogo.
Umndeni waseFrance unamandla kakhulu kangangokuthi izingane nabazali bawo abahambelani ukuba bahlanganyele futhi bajabule ndawonye kuze kube ngamashumi amathathu (noma ngaphezulu!) Iminyaka. Ngakho-ke, umbono wokuthi bancane, bezynitsiativny futhi abangenacala, hhayi ngaphandle kwesizathu. Lokhu akusho ukuthi omama bahlale behlala nabo kusukela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku - umama waseFrance uyasakaza isikhathi esithile phakathi komsebenzi, izithakazelo zomuntu siqu, indoda kanye nengane. Kumfazi wesimanje ongumFulentshi, ukuziqhenya nokuziqhenya akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu kunabanye besifazane abakhululwa eNtshonalanga. Ingane yokuqala iya enkulisa, umama ubuyela emsebenzini. Ingane yesiFulentshi ayitholi njalo emkhakheni wokubheka umndeni wayo, ekuqaleni ifunda ukuzijabulisa, ikhule ikhululekile, ikhula ngokushesha.
Amaqiniso omama aseFrance ngokuvamile ayenomzwelo ngokwanele, ngokungafani ne-American, angamemeza ngane, kepha ukubetha kuyinto engavamile kakhulu. Izingane zivame ukukhula endaweni enobungane, kodwa kusukela ebusheni bayatshelwa ukuthi balandele imithetho eqinile: balalele umama wakho, ungabi nongqondo, ungalwi. Ngenxa yalokhu bajoyina kalula iqembu
Qaphela izinzwa zakho!
Abazali baseRashiya besaba kakhulu, babone izinsongo eziningi zomntwana ezweni elizungezile (futhi ngaphandle kwesizathu), ukhathazeke ngekusasa lakhe, zama ukuqala futhi umfundise ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, enethemba lokuthi ingane izoya esikhungweni esihle (ungakhohlwa ukuthi iningi labazali labafana lifuna ukugwema ibutho), ungathembi odokotela kakhulu, bajwayele ukuthembela ngokwemvelo eyamukelekile emindenini yabo isimo sengqondo noma bafune iqiniso ngendlela yabo, ezincwadini nase-Inthanethi.
Izici eziyinhloko zamaShayina, njenganoma imuphi umndeni wendabuko waseMpumalanga, yigunya labadala, ukubumbana kanye nendima ehlonishwayo yabesifazane. Okucacile yilokho ngenxa yesimo samanje ngokucindezelwa komthetho, umndeni waseShayina ungaba nengane eyodwa. Ngakho-ke, izingane zivame ukukhula ziphazamiseke futhi zingenangqondo.
Isifiso, ukukhuthaza kanye nesiyalo samaShayina kubonakala ezindabeni zokukhulisa izingane emazweni ahlukene. Izingane ezisukela ezincane kuya ezinkulisa (ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nasezinyangeni ezintathu), lapho zihlala khona ngokuvumelana nemithetho yeqoqo ngokuhambisana nemigomo eyamukelekile. Imodi enzima inikeza nezithelo zayo ezinhle: izingane ziqala ukuhamba kuqala ebhodweni, zilale futhi zidle ngokuvumelana nesimiso, zikhule zilalele, ngaphakathi kohlaka olunzima kanye neminye imithetho emisiwe. Izingane zaseShayina zishaya abafokazi eholidini ngokulandela ngokungazelelwe ukulandela imiyalelo kamama, akusho ukuhlambalaza, angakwazi ukuhlala amahora lapho, kuyilapho abantwana bezinye izivakashi beqeda indawo yokudlela. Imfihlo yukuthi ingane kusukela emkhunjini ifundiswa ukuba ilalele futhi ihlale igxile.
Iqiniso lokuthi ukubeletha, ngokusho kwamasiko aseShayina, kufanele kume lapho ingane ikwazi ukuletha isandla sayo emlonyeni - kusukela manje umntanakho, ngokusho amaShayina, angase afunde ukudla nge-spoon.
Kusukela esemncane, othisha nabazali bakhuthele ekuthuthukiseni izingane, futhi kulokhu amaShayina asondelene namaRussia ngemisebenzi yethu yentuthuko yepolutatok, ama-cubes Zaitseva namanye amasu.
AmaShayina awawusindisi amabutho nezinsiza zokuthuthukiswa okuphelele kwengane nokufuna ithalenta lakhe, futhi uma kukhona, khona-ke ingane enekhono elihlanganisiwe emsebenzini wansuku zonke izuza imiphumela eningi.
Umzali waseJapane ngeke akhulise izwi lakhe kumntanakhe, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu, angalokothi amshaya. Namanje banamathele ekuhlakanipheni okudala: kuze kube yiminyaka emihlanu ingane ingunkulunkulu, kusukela ezinhlanu kuya kweyishumi nambili - isigqila, futhi emva kweshumi nambili - umngane. Izingane zaseJapane zingaqiniseka ngokuthi uyohlale elalela ngokucophelela, eze empilweni.
Imfihlo yokuthula kwabazali baseJapane nokulalela kwezingane ilula: kuwukuphela kombono wokungabi nambono wokuthi kungabonakala sengathi konke kuvunyelwe izingane. Eqinisweni, kukhona amafomu, kodwa abazali baseJapane abakhulumeli abantwana emphakathini. Bafaka imibono kubo, kodwa ngasese futhi bezolile njengoba kungenzeka.
Iqiniso
Namuhla umndeni waseJapane wendabuko uba yinto yesimanje. Umama akafuni ukuhlala ekhaya nomntwana. Abazali bamatasa ngomsebenzi, izihlobo ezindala ziyazihlukanisa, futhi ngenxa yalokho, abacwaningi bakhuluma ngesizungu nabanaki izingane zaseJapane.
Enye inkinga yaseJapane - ukuguquka kusuka esigabeni sika "Nkulunkulu" esigabeni "senceku": esikoleni esiphakeme, ukukhulekela ingane nokuzinikela ekupheleni kwesikole, naye esikoleni uqala ukubuza okuqinile. Utitjhere, owakhiwa ngobungane ngesimiso somngani, uba umeluleki ongakghona ukujezisa. Imithetho ibe eqinile futhi ibopha. Lapho ingane ihamba esikoleni samabanga aphansi, abazali banquma ukuthi iyiphi imfundo ephakeme abazoyisebenzisa kuyo, futhi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantwana besikole buyeke futhi ukuncintisana okukhulu kuqale. Izingane zishintsha kakhulu ekushintsheni okuvela "kobumbulu" kuya "esigqila", ngakho-ke phakathi kwabafundi baseJapane kukhona ukuqubuka kwamanye amazwe, kanye namaphesenti aphezulu okuzama ukuzibulala.
Isici esivela emazweni asempumalanga kuyinhloko ethintekayo yabesifazane. Uhlala elalela indoda. Umphakathi uyamqaphela umsebenzi oyinhloko wendlu kanye nokwakhiwa kwezingane emazweni ahlukene. Ukuzalwa komfana kubangela ukujabula, kuyilapho ukubonakala kwentombazane kungaholela ekuthukutheliseni komndeni (eChina, isibonelo, intombazane esanda kuzalwa ingakwazi ukubizwa ngegama elikhulu elithi Big Mistake).
Izinhlobonhlobo zezindlela zasendulo zokujezisa izingane emazweni ahlukene:
ERussia, njengoba sonke sasizwa, senza izintambo, sishiya singadli futhi simi emahlathini amahora. Ibhande kanye nekhoneni akulahlekelwa ukufaneleka kwazo.
Eqinisweni, i-peas ingumdwebo wesiNgisi. Ngendlela, ukujeziswa ngokomthetho e-Great Britain kwakunqatshelwe, kuphela ngo-1986.
E-China, bashaya iminwe yabo ngezinti. EJapane, uphoqelelwe ukuma ngekhamera yekhenceli ekhanda lakhe, uqondise umlenze owodwa engxenyeni efanele kumzimba.
E-Pakistan, ngokulibaziseka okuncane, baphoqeleka ukufunda iKoran amahora. Futhi isijeziso esabekayo kakhulu saseBrazil - ukwenqabela ukudlala ibhola ...
Imfundo yezingane emazweni ahlukene kwisitayela esidala saseRussia:
Umhlahlandlela wabashadile nabazali beNkathi Ephakathi, uyaqaphela ukuthi izingane zidinga ukuthandwa, kodwa zikhuthaza abazali ukuthi bafihle uthando lwabo: "Ungamomotheka uma udlala." Kumele ukuthi, ngaleyo ndlela akhulise ingane, umzali angayiphatha futhi aphakamise umuntu owonakele, onamandla. Ngesikhathi esifanayo umbhali we- "Domostroi" uncoma abazali bezingane ukuba "balale, bajezise futhi bafundise, kodwa ukulahla nokuwashaya." Ukujeziswa, ngokusho kwabalobi, kuyisilinganiso esibalulekile ekukhulisweni kwezingane emazweni ahlukene, okunikeza abazali ukuguga okuthula, okuzolile nokuhlonipha esikhathini esizayo. Kunconywa ukuba ubonise umusa okhethekile emadodaneni akho: "Ungadabuki, shaya ingane: uma umbulala ngenduku, akayikufa, kodwa kuyoba nempilo, wena, owenza umzimba wakhe, ugcine umphefumulo wakhe ekufeni ... Uthanda indodana yakhe, bese ungazithokozi ngakho. " Into eyinhloko emfundweni yabantwana emazweni ahlukene namadodakazi kwakuyisiqinisekiso sokuziphatha kwabo kubo ukuze bawaqede "kwi-vice corporal".
Iqiniso
Izingane zaseMelika, ngokungafani "nozakwethu" baseRussia, gqoka izingubo ezimbalwa ngezinye izikhathi. Ingane, isiqhwaga singagxuma phezu kwesikhukhula sikaNovemba noma sikhululwe ngoJanuwari emgwaqweni ngamadolo angenalutho, hhayi okungajwayelekile. Futhi abaguli kaningi, kodwa ngokuphambene, kaningi.
Umthetho othi "ukungabikho" kuhlanganisa, njengombono wethu, njengamaqhawe asekhaya (izingane ezintathu: umama oyedwa uyazamazama, omunye ufunda inganekwane, futhi konke lokhu - ukulinda emgodini kusukela esimisweni sesithathu), nokunganaki okulinganayo ezindabeni zokukhulisa izingane Amazwe ahlukene: i-American ngeke, njengomama wanamuhla waseRussia, igxume kwi-intanethi efuna impendulo yombuzo wokuthi ingabe iyingozi kumntanakhe. Uvele enza lokho udokotela noma umama amtshele yona, yilokho kuphela.