Yilokho iqiniso le nkinga yabo bonke abahluke ngokuphelele, kahle, izikhathi zenzeka, futhi. Ngokuvamile, yonke intsha ingahlukaniswa ngezikhathi ezine, nakuba umuntu oneminyaka engu-17 engakwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi ingane, kodwa ngokwemithetho lokhu kanye ncamashi sizocabanga ukuthi lo mntwana. Manje sizobheka kakhulu kulezi zikhathi ezine. Lapha konke kuzodingeka kucaciswe, futhi kancane kancane sizofika embuzweni wethu oyinhloko, okungukuthi, "Kungani izingane zifunga ngesibhakela?"
Ngakho-ke, ake siqale kusukela esikhathini sokuqala. Uthini? Lesi sikhathi sizozwakala yibo bonke, ngaphandle kokunye. Lokhu kungumntwana, futhi kusheshe kakhulu. Lokhu kungukuthi, lesi yisikhathi lapho umntwana engahambi esikoleni, kodwa kuphela enkulisa. Sicabanga ukuthi kucacile ukuthi le nkathi ayikhathazeki kakhulu ingane, ngoba enganqume ngempela into, uyaphila ngemithetho yonke. Kule nkathi, ingane kaningi ayinasisekelo, inomusa, inothando. Ngalesi sikhathi, abazali bacabanga ukuthi kuyoba ingane eyisimangaliso, ngubani ozolalela abazali bakhe futhi abonisane nabo kunoma yisiphi isimo. Kodwa lokhu kuyimbono engakafiki, ukuthuthukiswa kwengane kuthonywe kakhulu impilo yesikole, esizoqhubeka sixoxa ngakho.
Lapha kuza isikhathi sesibili. Lesi yisikhathi "seBell First", lapho bonke abasha, abajwayele ulwazi, ulwazi olusha nezihloko. Kuze kube semabangeni 5-6, konke kuhle, kodwa kakade kulezi zikhathi, izingane zihamba kude nabafundisi nabantu abadala. Lapha, ngokuyisisekelo, konke kucacile futhi kucacile. Uthisha weklasi uqondisa izingane futhi ubafundisa ngendlela efanele, kodwa, njengoba abaningi beyazi, imfundo ayihlali isikhathi eside.
Isikhathi esinzima kakhulu, sesithathu sesifikile. Iqala eminyakeni ngakho-ke ngo-10, iphetha ngo-14. "Tu! Mfushane, hhayi okubi "- usho, kodwa hhayi lapha bekukhona. Lesi yisikhathi esinzima kakhulu somntwana. Kule minyaka yobudala izingane zisho ngenkuthalo, ngisho noma kungathiwa, zifakaza ngokukhululekile nomngane womshado. Kungani kulonyaka? Kulula kakhulu. Lesi yisikhathi lapho ingane ithola inkululeko, yena ngokwakhe unesibopho sezenzo zakhe, njengoba ecabanga. Okusho ukuthi, ubuchopho bakhe buhlelwe impilo entsha, uqala ukuzama into entsha, engafundiwe ekuqaleni. Ingane ibona ukuthi abantu abadala bayifunga phansi, ngakho izingane zizofunga ngomuthi. Phela, futhi "bangabantu abadala". Lokhu kuvele nje, bakhuthele kakhulu. Bafuna ukukhombisa ontanga yabo ukuthi bayaphila. Futhi lokhu kuvamile, ngoba kuhambelana neminyaka yabo. Benza konke ngokumelene nabazali babo. Kungani? Yebo, ngoba abafuni ukulalela imithetho yakho. Ake sithi ingane ingayihamba emigwaqweni, futhi ingalaleli wonke la mazwi angcolile, kuthiwani? Uvelaphi lawa mazwi onke? Futhi, umphakathi. Isikole sinabantwana abaningi, futhi uma umuntu ezwa lokhu kubazali bakhe noma kwenye indawo, uzoyibonisa ontanga yakhe. Lokhu angeke kugwenywe, futhi lokhu kwenzeka ngempela. Futhi ungacabangi ukuthi lokhu kwakungekho ngaphambili. Uvele uzikhumbule njengomntwana. Yebo, ngaphambi kokungekho amakhompiyutha, konke lokhu kungcola, kodwa amagama ahlukumezayo, ayenawo, futhi ayafuna, futhi lokhu ngeke kuphunyuke. Ngendlela yokukhuluma ngamakhompyutha, hhayi hhayi ngabo, kodwa mayelana nenethiwekhi yomhlaba wonke - nge-intanethi. Manje cishe yonke intsha isabhaliswe kumanethiwekhi omphakathi. Ukwazi ukuthola konke okufunayo. Bonke labo abaloba kwi-intanethi bese basebenzisa amatshana badlulisela lolu lwazi ezinganeni. Ngokuvamile, lapho ungahambi khona, funga yonke indawo ngesikhumba, ungabuzi: "Kungani izingane? ", Sesivele sichazile lokhu kancane kancane. Mayelana nokuthi singamunciphisa kanjani kusukela kumat, sizokhuluma kancane kancane.
Isikhathi sesine yiyona elula kubazali. Laba bangabantwana, abaneminyaka yobudala eyi-15-18. Bazimele, kodwa hhayi ngomqondo ofanayo nanjengaphambili. Amathi angeke apheleke noma yikuphi, kodwa kufanele uqonde ukuthi asetshenziselwa izintsha ezimweni ezifanele, hhayi unomphela. Singakwazi ngisho ukuqhathanisa. Amatshi asetshenziselwa ingane esikhathini esiyi-3, kanti ingane ithi ngokuthula: "Lokho nje *****, mina nje *******, ******, ***, kahle, angikulungile? "- yilokho okubukeka khona. Kodwa manje isikhathi sesishiyagalombili, uthi: "Ngethukile, awukwazi ukubeka ukuhlolwa okuvamile, ****** abanye ...". Ngicabanga ukuthi ngokushesha waphawula umehluko. Isikhathi esine-isikhathi sokukhula kwabantu abadala. Lapha konke okuqala ukwenziwa engqondweni, nakuba kunezinye ze-zamorochki, kodwa lokhu akucaci ngalesi sihloko.
Manje ake sikhulume ngezindlela zokunakekela ingane emasakeni. Masinyane ukhulume, akusikho konke okusebenzayo, futhi, mhlawumbe, ungathinti nalesi sihloko nengane, uma ungaqiniseki.
Ngakho-ke, ake siqale.
Okokuqala, zama ukuthola ukuthi umthombo wawo wonke lawa magama ukhona. Ngubani owamfundisa. Uma ofunda naye engacabangi, shayela umama wakho bese umcela ukuthi akhulume naye ngokuthula, kufanele asize. Uma, ngokungazelelwe, waba nguwe, ke-ke, ngokushesha uthathe ukuzithiba!
Manje ake sibheke elinye icala. Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi wonke umntwana unesithombe, futhi noma ubani, uyamlingisa. Kufanele uqonde ngokucacile ukuthi kuyoba nzima ukulwa nalolo gunya ngoba lizuze impumelelo enkulu kunawe, ngoba ingane futhi ithembele le "nkanyezi ekhanyayo" ngaphezulu, kepha ezingeni lesine uyazi ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani abazali. Isibonelo, uma ingane iyintombazane, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuthi kakhulu kakhulu ukuthi isithombe sakhe singaba yi-Ksenia Sobchak efanayo. Yena ekudluliseni kwakhe cishe kuhlamba futhi uveza, isibonelo. Yebo, kuthelevishini, konke "kudibene", kodwa wonke amazwi angavunyelwe ahlanganiswe kahle, futhi umlomo, ngesikhathi esifanayo, ubonakala ngokucacile, ukuze konke kuqondwe ngokukhuluma. Uma le ntombazane ithanda uSobchak, khona-ke awukwazi ukumkholisa ukuthi wenza kabi, ngakho-ke ngeke ukwazi ukukwenza, njalo njalo. Ungaqali ukugxeka "inkanyezi", ngokuphambene nalokho, kungabangela isimo sonke. Ingane, ngokuphambene nalokho, izoqala ukuhamba kude nawe ngokwengeziwe, ucabanga ukuthi awuqondi nje. Kuzodingeka ukuthi umane uchaze ingane ukuthi lokhu kuyisimo "soqhinga" esinjalo sombukiso wokuthi uphoqeleka ukwenza kanjalo, kodwa empeleni akuyifuni. Kulungile, noma into efana nale plan.
Sithemba ukuthi owethu bazokwazi ukukusiza kule ndaba.