Ngokwezibalo zomhlaba wonke, izakhamuzi ezingaphezu kuka-60% zeplanethi yethu azijabuli kakhulu ngempilo yazo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, u-45% wabo wesaba ushintsho, ngakho-ke alungele ukushintsha okuthile ekuphileni kwabo. Singakunqoba kanjani lokhu kwesaba futhi sihlangabezane nezinguquko empilweni, ngisho noma kungenjalo ukumomotheka nenjabulo, khona-ke okungenani ngokuthula?
Imicimbi yangaphakathi ingashintsha impilo yomuntu ibe ngcono. Kodwa ukuthola ukuthi ufuna ukushintsha, phendula imibuzo elandelayo:
- Esigqoke ikhabethe yakho iminyaka eminingi, imibala efanayo iningi (ikakhulukazi elimpunga noma elibomvu)?
- Ungabe usuka endlini ngaphandle kokudweba izindebe zakho?
- Uyakuqiniseka ukuthi unezinwele ezilodwa kuphela (lowo oneminyaka eminingi, Yebo)?
- Ingabe ukhetha ukuthenga imikhiqizo yomkhiqizo owaziwayo futhi ungazami noma yini entsha?
- Uneminyaka eminingi ukuyohlala endaweni efanayo futhi uqiniseka ukuthi okungcono kakhulu yisitha sezinto ezinhle, futhi awubheke okuhle kumuntu omuhle?
"Usubuye uphinde ujoyine ekamelweni lakho iminyaka eminingana?"
- Ingabe ukhetha ukubukeza ama-movie amadala amahle, futhi amasha angakujabulisi?
Uma okungenani omunye wale mibuzo uphendule ngokuqinisekisile, ke ngokuqinisekile ucabanga ukuthi impilo yakho iyixhaphozi eqhubekayo, futhi ukwesaba kakhulu izinguquko empilweni. Ngisho noma ungawuvumeli ngokuzwakalayo. Kungenzeka ukuthi kulula kakhulu ukuhlala (isibonelo, ungumuntu we-phlegmatic). Kodwa uyazi ukuthi i-conservatism yakho ayikuvumeli ukuba ubungozi futhi uwine? Izinguquko, njengomthetho, zingcono kakhulu! Akuyona nje iphutha ukuthi omunye wabahlakaniphikazi baseShayina wathi: "Kuyoba ngendlela engcono kakhulu, ngisho noma kunjalo."
Ukuze izenzakalo ezingaphakathi zingashintsha impilo yomuntu, akudingekile ukuthatha izinyathelo ezinkulu. Asikho isidingo sokunquma uboya, uthola izinwele, ugqoke isiketi esincane sombala obomvu bese uya endaweni ye-tundra esikhundleni seCrimea evamile. Kwanele ukwenza isigamu sesinyathelo, zama ukushintsha okuthile kokuqala kuwe. Izazi ze-Psychologists zixwayisa: akudingeki wenze okuthile okuphikisana nemithetho yakho. Kufanele nje uzizwe ukunambitheka kweshintsho:
- Thenga izesekeli ezikhanyayo zezingubo zakho ezivamile.
- Kanye ngesikhathi sokuphila uya emsebenzini, ungakwenzi.
- Faka izinwele zakho ngendlela entsha.
- Iya endaweni yokudlela bese uyala isidlo ngegama elingenakuqondakala futhi elingenakuqhathaniswa.
- Iya ezweni elingajwayelekile.
- Futhi, nakanjani, khumbula: uhle, ufanelwe, uhlakaniphile, unolwazi, unolwazi oqhakazile futhi ongavamile. Lokhu kungukuphila kwakho, ngakho-ke ungakwazi ukugqoka, ukuthenga nokudla noma yini oyithandayo.
Kusukela ezincane kuya ezinkulu, njengoba wazi, isinyathelo esisodwa. Kodwa kusadingeka kwenziwe. Yiqiniso, kunzima kakhulu ukunquma mayelana nezinguquko zomhlaba wonke. Kodwa-ke, ngisho nalabo bezengqondo zinikeza isilondolozi semfihlo sokusiza: udinga ukuqaphela ukuthi kunezinzuzo eziningi ezishintsheni kunezingcingo. Cabanga ngempilo yakho emva kwesenzo osenzile (isibonelo, ukushiya emsebenzini ongathandwayo noma ukushada kabusha). Yenza isinqumo futhi uhlale uqiniseka ukuthi kulungile. Uma kunjalo, vele usishintshe ngesikhathi esifanele - akekho osusa kuwe leli thuba.
Ukuhlukanisa, ukuguqulwa komsebenzi, ukuhamba, ukulungisa, umshado, ukuzalwa kwengane. Ngokungangabazeki, zonke izinguquko ezinkulu zicindezeleka. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sizilungiselela kanjani, cishe akunakwenzeka ukuzivikela kulokhu okuhlangenwe nakho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, eziningi zazo ziwela emakhanda ethu. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Indlela yokubhekana nezinguquko ngokuzumayo empilweni? Into yokuqala okufanele ukwenze ukukwamukela isimo njengoba kunjalo. Ekugcineni, konke sekuvele kwenzeka, futhi awukwazi ukubuyisela isikhathi emuva. Bese uzama ukuthola izinzuzo. Yiqiniso, ushintsho luhlukile. Isibonelo, ukuzalwa kwengane kuyisenzakalo esithokozelayo esiyinhloko. Kodwa ngokuhlukanisa, ikakhulukazi engadingeki, kunezikhathi ezimbalwa ezinhle. Noma kunjalo, kufanele uwathole. Zitshele ukuthi: "Kodwa manje ngiyakwazi ukuhlangana nabangane bami ngendlela engiyithandayo futhi ngingapheki ukuhlobisa inyama!" Makube mnandi, kodwa ungajabula ngala maqiniso. Ekugcineni, hlela impilo yakho mayelana nezimo ezintsha. Kungcono isimiso sakho siwukuthi, kuzoba lula kuwe ukuthi ubhekane nakho.
Kodwa-ke, umkhuba ovame ukushintsha impilo yomuntu kungabangela ukungazi kahle kwengqondo. Ngezinye izikhathi ukulangazelela ushintsho kuthatha isimo se-neurosis. Uma ngemuva kwezinyanga eziyisithupha zomsebenzi endaweni eyodwa uqala ukufuna into entsha, njalo emva kwezinyanga ezintathu ufunda umsebenzi omusha, ushintshe ikhanda lakho lezinwele izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa ngenyanga futhi njalo ngesonto wenze ukuhlelwa kabusha ekamelweni lakho, cishe kufanele uthintane nochwepheshe noma ucabange ngokwakho ukuphila. Isifiso sokuqala njalo into entsha siwuphawu lokuphazamiseka okukhulu kwesifo. Cabanga, yini ngempela ekuvimbela ukuba ujabulele ukuphila? Mhlawumbe udinga nje ukuzethemba. Ngisho noma ungathathi izinkanyezi esibhakabhakeni, umphathi ngeke akhokhe amabhonasi futhi awubheki njengobuhle be-Hollywood - lokhu akusona isizathu sokungazithandi. Wena ngokwakho kufanele uhlotshwe futhi uthandeke.
Akuyona yonke into ekuphileni okudingeka ishintshwe! Ngomzuzwana onzima, lalela intuition yakho. Ngempela, eqinisweni, ngokungazi kahle, usuvele uyayazi impendulo efanele. Uma umzwa wakho wesithupha uphawula ngokuthi "cha!" - uphinde ulinganise yonke inzuzo kanye nokuqapha futhi uvumelane kangcono nayo.
Ngendlela, izazi zengqondo zincoma ngokuqinile ukukhuluma nomuntu ongaphakathi. Yiqiniso, hhayi ngokuzwakalayo hhayi endaweni yomphakathi, kodwa, isibonelo, ukuzibheka ngaphambi kokuphupha. Ukunqoba ukwesaba kungasiza imibuzo ephinda izitatimende zakho. Ungasho amaqiniso: "Ngesaba ukulahlekelwa lo msebenzi." Buza i-intonation ye-interrogative: "Ingabe ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa lo msebenzi?" Izwi le-Interrogative lizokukwenza ubheke isimo ngendlela ehlukile futhi uyibeke phambili. Phela, imibuzo, njengoba uyazi, iphakamisa izimpendulo. Izazi-psychologists eziningi ezivelele ziqala ukuxhumana namakhasimende. Into eyinhloko, yiba yiqiniso kuwe. Ungazakhohlisi!
Cishe wonke umuntu kwakufanele abhekane nokuphila ngesidingo sokushintsha okuthile. Kodwa-ke, ukulungela okungekho emthethweni kokushintshwa akuyona into ehambelana nabo bonke, abaningi bayesaba futhi bangaphepheki. Isimo sengqondo ekushintsheni empilweni yomuntu siqu sincike ezintweni ezihlukahlukene. Njengokuhamba kwesistimu yezinzwa, izici zobuntu noma ukubuka kwezwe. Isimo sengqondo samanje sithatha indima ebalulekile. Ukusheshisa kokwenza izinqumo, ukulungela izenzo ezisebenzayo, ukuzethemba - zonke lezi zimfanelo ezidingekayo ezishintshayo zingabokuzalwa futhi zitholakale. Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi umuntu ngamunye uthuthukise isitayela sakhe sokuziphatha nesimo sengqondo empilweni, kufaka phakathi ushintsho. Ngako-ke, ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isinyathelo ekuqondeni kwanoma yiziphi izinguquko, cabangela imininingwane yakho. Uma usuka kumntanakho ukhuluphele, cabanga ngazo zonke izinqumo okwesikhathi eside, ziqaphele emibonweni yazo, ngakho-ke akunakwenzeka ukuthi kufanele uphendule impilo yakho ngokushesha. Kungcono ukuhlale ucabanga ngomphumela bese uya kuso kancane, ngesinyathelo ngesinyathelo ukubala ukuhamba. Futhi uma unesiqiniseko, unamandla futhi unomsebenzi, khona-ke ukuziqeda kuyokucasula kuphela. Esikhathini lapho uthola khona ngokungazelelwe ukuthi awukwazi ukuxazulula noma yini, kanti ngaphambi kokuba ungakusizi ubunzima, ubonakala sengathi ungena esitelekeni, noma yikuphi ukucabanga kwezinguquko kubangela ukwesaba nokukhathazeka, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi yimuphi umzuzu okwenzekile nokuthi yini ngaphambi kwalolu shintsho. Kunoma yikuphi, kufanele ucabange ngokucophelela bese uzama ukuthola ukuthi yini oyikwesabayo. Uma ukwesaba kubizwa, kulula ukunqoba. Kodwa kunezimo ezingenakuphathwa ngokuzimela. Ungesabi ukucela usizo kumngani, indoda noma isazi sezinqondo. Futhi khumbula ukuthi ngenxa yemicimbi emihle yangaphakathi, impilo yomuntu ingashintsha ukuze ibe ngcono. Into esemqoka - ungesabi ushintsho!