Kungani uphupha ukuwanga nomfana ongawuthandi?
Uma ungase uzizwe ukumanga komfokazi ephusheni engabangeli imizwelo emihle, ulindele ukuthi awunjalo ngempela ukujwayela nabantu abakudala obumnyama abazolimaza idumela lakho. Futhi, umbono onjalo ungase usho ukuthi uzozijwayeza futhi uthole ngisho nendaba nomuntu ophendukela ekubeni ngu-Alphonse.
Ukumanga nomuntu owakhethwa ngaphambili, ongathandanga noma yini, kungahunyushwa ngezindlela ezimbili. Izindlela zokuqala zokuthi uyazi ukuthi ufuna ukubuyisela ubuhlobo obulahlekile futhi ulungele ukukhohlwa zonke izikhalazo nokuxabana, ukuze uphinde uxhumane nomthandi wangaphambilini.
Ngokusho kokhetho lwesibili, iphupho elinjalo likhombisa ukuthi intombazane isivele ilungele ubuhlobo obusha futhi uzohambisana nenhlanhla ekuthuthukiseni impilo yakhe.
Yize amaphupho lapho u-kiss ehle kakhulu ukuqabisana nabantu abashonile kungavamile, kodwa bashiya izinsalela ezingajabulisi. Futhi ukuchazwa kwemibono enjalo akuyona into enhle kakhulu. Uthembisa ukudumazeka othandweni, ukulangazelela othandekayo abalahlekile, kanye nesikhathi esinzima esingokomoya. Le nkosikazi ingaqala ukucindezeleka okukhulu ngisho nemicabango yokuzibulala ingase ivele. Kodwa kufanelekile ukuzikhethela uphinde ukhuthazelele ngezikhathi ezingathandeki.
Kungani kungenjalo iphupho lokubamba nesoka lakhe?
- Ngenkathi intombazane iphupha ukuthi yamanga ngothando umuntu ongaziwa, bese evuka ngothando oluseduze, okuyinto, nakuba luzoletha imizwelo eminingi ebucayi, kodwa iyophela ngokushesha. Noma kunjalo, ngeke ukwazi ukuzisola okukhethekile mayelana nokuhlukanisa.
- Owesifazane oshadile, ebone iphupho elinjalo, kufanele aziphathe ngokucophelela nabangane abasha. Kunengozi enkulu yokuthi uzothola isilingo sokushintsha umyeni wakhe, kodwa kungcono ukungenzi lokho, njengoba ukuzisola nokuzisola ngalokho akwenzile kuyobe kudlula kakhulu injabulo ayitholile.
- Intombazane, "eyambamba" insizwa yakhe ngesikhathi yokumangala nendoda engaziwa, kufanele ilungele iqiniso lokuthi abangane abangenalutho bayokwakha izintatheli futhi ngazo zonke izindlela ukuze bamgcine. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukunakekelwa kwemizwa yakho nokunciphisa ukuxhumana nabantu abathandekayo.
- Indoda ingabona isakhiwo esifanayo. Uma ebona intombi yakhe ibanga enye, kufanele ihlole ngokucophelela isimo sakhe sengqondo ngokuqondene nomuntu okhethiwe. Mhlawumbe ukuziphatha kwentsha kuyoholela ekuqinisekiseni ukuthi lo wesifazane osemncane uzophelelwa yinzalo futhi ahlonipheke kuye.
Ukuqabula nomfana othanda
Ngokuvamile iphupho ukuhumusha kwemibono, lapho ubanga nabathandekayo bakho, njengesixwayiso sokuhlukana okuqala. Futhi kuyokwenzeka kuphela ngephutha le ntombazane, ikakhulukazi ngenxa yokuhlubuka.
Owesifazane oshadile owayenephupho lapho embanga umyeni wakhe ngothando ngokusho kwencwadi yephupho likaMiller kusho ukuthi phakathi kwalabo abashade kuyoba khona ubudlelwane obuhloniphayo nokuthembela, ngisho noma ngaphambi kokuxabana kwabo.
U-Miller ukholelwa nokuthi ukumanga nomuntu othandekayo ebumnyameni obuphelele kubonisa ukuthi omunye wabalingani akakwazi ukuqukatha imizwelo yabo futhi ahambe ekuhlaseleni.
Noma yimiphi imibono, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyamnandi noma cha, idinga ukuhunyushwa. Ngakho ungalibali ukufunda ibhuku lephupho isikhathi eside, futhi ubheke ukuhumusha kwombono wakho ngokushesha ngemva kokuvusa.