Izazi zengqondo ziphikisana ngalokhu. Abanye bathi akukho mvelo kababa. Mhlawumbe uthando lukababa, uthando, kodwa hhayi kungokwemvelo. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, esimweni esiphilayo, sibona ukubonakaliswa kwayo! Thatha okungenani ama-penguin. Amantombazane abo ayinhlamba embi: ngemuva kokubeka amaqanda, baya ngokushesha olwandle ukuze badle izinhlanzi, badonsa, babuyiselwe. Futhi amatshwele amasaha ashaya abantu besilisa. Ukuhlala kulesi simiso amasonto amaningana, abadade abazidela balahlekelwa ngu-40% wesisindo, futhi lokhu, ngendlela, ngu-5-6 kg! Futhi nakuba iningi lamadoda nabazali besikhathi esizayo abasheshe baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphendule. Kulokhu kuqinisekisiwe esinye isigaba sama-psychologists futhi, ngokusobala, iningi labo.
Esikhathini ngasinye sesigaba sokuphila, indima yipapa emndenini ngoba ingane iqala izimiso ezintsha zokuphila, izindinganiso nemithetho yokuziphatha. Isibonelo, umsebenzi oyinhloko wombhangqwana osemusha ongashadile ongenabantwana ukuthuthukisa indlela yokuphila efanelekayo bobabili bomshado. Kodwa lapha kuza ilungu lesithathu lomndeni - ingane efuna ukunakekelwa njalo nokunakekelwa njalo. Usengumuntu omncani kakhulu, kodwa kakade udinge ukuvumelanisa nezakhi zobuntu bakhe! Ngokuvamile umthwalo owengeziwe wengane uba luvivinyo olunzima emndenini osemusha, okugqugquzela izimo eziphikisanayo. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, imithetho yangaphambilini nemithetho yokuphila kwalabo abashadile iyawa futhi ezintsha zivela.
Indoda nomfazi bajwayele ukufeza izindima zikababa nomama ezingavamile kubo. Futhi ubaba omncane uvame ukulungele lezi zinguquko. Indima kayise emndenini womntwana iyanzima: emva kwakho konke, akazange adlule ukuhlolwa okude kokukhulelwa nokubeletha. Futhi uma umama ephonsa ezindabeni zokukhathazeka, ubaba osemncane angazizwa ehlukanisiwe, ukuphikisana, ukungabi namandla. Ezama ukulondoloza inhlalakahle yakhe ngokomzwelo, ufuna izindlela ezahlukene zokugwema imithwalo yemfanelo nemithwalo yemfanelo yabazali. Kuthatha isikhathi sokuba lo muntu azibonele ngempela endimeni kababa emndenini wengane.
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Akukwazi ukusho ukuthi omama bathanda izingane zabo ngaphezulu, futhi obaba bangaphansi. Abesilisa nabesifazane nje bathanda ngezindlela ezahlukene. Uthando lomama luyimpumputhe: owesifazane uthola ingane yonke inzuzo nezinkinga. Amadoda afinyelela futhi ahlose. Abajwayele ukulalela, abavame ukungaboni kahle ukuziphatha okubi, kodwa bajeziswa, njengomthetho, ngokujwayelekile futhi kuphela ebhizinisini.
Kukhona ezinye umehluko . Abesifazane bavame ukumomotheka izingane, kodwa indima entsha kababa emndenini womntwana yilokhu: amadoda azimisele kakhulu ukuthatha inzalo yabo ezandleni zabo. Omama bakhonta ukuhola ngezingxoxo ezithandana nengane, obaba bakhetha ukukhuluma ngemisebenzi ekhuthele efana nebhola ehlathini lamagqabha noma emagumbini ekamelweni ekamelweni labantwana.
Kulaba besifazane, uhlelo lokubeletha luyinkimbinkimbi, futhi amadoda adinga ukuvuthwa ngaphambi kokuba abe obaba. Obaba abaningi bazizwa benemizwa ebantwaneni, uma lokho kuphenduka iminyaka engu 2-3, hhayi ngaphambili.
Lokhu akusikho ngoba obaba abathandi izingane ezincane ezibomvu, kodwa ngoba ... ziyesaba. Ngokusho kwengqondo, wonke umuntu wesibili akanalo indlela yokuxhumana nengane encane ngakho-ke uyesaba ukumlimaza ngezenzo zakhe ezingenayo. Yingakho obaba abaningi behlukunyezwa bengavumelani ukufakelwa ingane, bashintshe i-diaper noma banqume izipikili.
Kukhona futhi abameleli bobulili obuqinile abaqiniseka ngobuqotho ukuthi izingane ezincane, ngaphezu kwakho konke, zidinga umama, hhayi uyise. Zilungele ukusiza ngemisebenzi yasendlini, ukuhlanza indawo yokuhlala, ukuya esitolo ukuze uthole ukudla komntwana, kepha uma ukhuluma nomntwana futhi uyamnakekela umama. Indima kababa emndenini womntwana ibonakala ngokulinda ngesineke "iqembu" lakhe, lapho ingane ikhula ibe okungenani iminyaka engu-4-7 ubudala futhi kuyokwazi ukuxoxa noma ukuhlanganisa indiza evela kumklami.
Izinyathelo zokuvusa
Kodwa-ke, ingane idinga indima kayise emndenini ngomntwana okungaphansi kokuthandwa ngumama nomusa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kusukela ekuzalweni - ngomqondo wangempela we-diaper. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ngisho nezinsana zihlukanisa obaba phakathi kwabantu, bezama ukumomotheka. Yini esingayisho ngezingane ezindala! Ngakho-ke, ekuqaleni okhethiweyo wakho uzwa imizwa kayise ngomntwana, kungcono. Uma ukuhlakanipha komzali kungasheshi ukuvusa, zama lokhu okulandelayo.
Isinyathelo # 1
Tshela umyeni wakho ngakho konke ozizwayo ngesikhathi ukhulelwe.
Indoda ayiyona i-clairvoyant: ayikwazi ngalokhu ukuzwa okungokwenyama okwenzekayo, akazi ukuthi ingane iziphatha kanjani esibelethweni. Ngakho-ke, uma kunokwenzeka, hamba nomyeni wakhe nge-ultrasound - lokhu, nakanjani, kuzomenza ube nomthelela oqinile kuye. Shayela umyeni wakho nawe emaceleni omama abalindele. Uyakwenqaba ngokweqile? Yebo, kuzodingeka usebenzise ubuqili: uthi awuzwa kahle, futhi ucele ukuhamba nawe. Ngeke abone lapho oomama kuphela, kodwa nabomama esizayo futhi ngeke bayeke ukuhlazeka. Khuthaza isifiso somngane womshado ukuba "akhulume" ngesisu nganoma iyiphi indlela, ukuvumela ingane ukuba izwe unyawo emlenzeni - konke lokhu kuletha abazali ndawonye futhi kukhulume imizwa kayise ngale ndoda.
Ukuzalwa okuhlangene kuyisihloko esikhethekile. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, amadoda amaningi ayekhona lapho ezalwa athi isisulu sikababa savuswa kuwo ngokushesha, ngokushesha nje lapho ingane izalwa. Emva kwakho konke, ngenkathi othandekayo befika, kwakunguyenababa owaqala ukuthatha umntwana ezandleni zakhe waze wasika intambo yakhe (lokhu kuyiqiniso lokuziqhenya kwamadoda). Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abameleli abathile abathintekayo besondo oluqinile ngemva kokuhlolwa ngokuzalwa bazizwa benengwa ngumfazi, okuthinta kokubili ubulili kanye nobuhlobo bomndeni ngokujwayelekile. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukungabinaki ukuthi umyeni uhambisane nawe esigcemeni sokubeletha, uma ehleli ngokumelene nalo.
Isinyathelo # 2
Ungesabi ukumnika umyeni ngendlala kayise emndenini ingane kanye nengxenye yokukhathalela ingane. Oomama abaningi bazibeka zonke izinto, bese bazibuza ukuthi kungani indoda ephathelene nendodana noma indodakazi yakhe ithatha isikhundla sombukeli ongenandaba. Kodwa uthando lwesikhathi eside selwaziwa ukuthi: uthando luyakhathazeka. Izazi zengqondo zithi into ebaluleke kakhulu esiyibalulekayo ubuhlobo lapho bona ngokwabo batshale khona amandla amaningi engqondo nangokwenyama. Lokhu kusebenza kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo - umzali wengane, onobungane, onothando nochwepheshe. Nika umyeni wakho ithuba lokutshala imali emntwaneni: masize ahlambulule umntwana, ahambe nomgibeli, ahlalise ingane kancane. Futhi ukondla i-crumb ebhodleleni nakho akuyona isayensi enkulu, izobhekana nayo! Kubalulekile kuphela ukuthi le misebenzi ayimpoqo futhi "iphendule" yipapa.
Ngisho noma yena, kusukela ekuboneni kwakho, enza konke okungahambi kahle: faka ijezi elibomvu kulabo abaluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka noma egaxa umntwana ngenkathi esondla isithelo se-puree kusuka enhlokweni kuya enyaweni - ungamgxeka umyeni. Uma ubaba nezingane bejabule omunye nomunye, mhlawumbe akufanele unake izinhlobonhlobo ezihlukahlukene?
Isinyathelo # 3
Tshela umyeni wakho ngakho konke okwenzekile kumntwana usuku, kuyilapho ubaba esebenza. Yiqiniso, awudingi ukuzalela nokuchaza ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi udinga ukuguqula i-diaper izikhathi ezingaki, kodwa nansi ulwazi mayelana nokuthi umntwana wadla kanjani, ukuthi yiliphi igama elisha ayelifunde, lokho ayekudlala, ubaba uzokulalela ngokuzithandela. Kodwa nokho akekho umuntu ongaphuthelwa yile mazwi: "Namuhla ngase ngiphinde nginesiqiniseko sokuthi indodana yikhophi yakho" noma "Uyazi, indodakazi ilele ngqo endaweni efanayo nawe."
Isinyathelo # 4
Nika umyeni wakho ithuba lokudlala ubaba emndenini ngomntanakho futhi uhlele ukuxhumana nendodakazi yakho noma indodana yakho ngendlela yakho, ngisho noma ungathandi ukuthi baphonsa amathoyizi ekamelweni noma babuyele enkundleni yebhola "ngezinkukhu zezinkukhu".