Bafuna ukugcina i-oda elikhona futhi balwe noshintsho. Osemncane, ngokuphambene nalokho, ekubeni yingxenye yabo bonke abaxhasiwe, bakhulele abazondayo, abangenandaba, abavulekele entsha. Kodwa imizwa yabo ivame ukuphikisana, ngoba, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ziyizilwane ezifuywayo, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi, zihlala zihlala ngemuva kwamanye amalungu omndeni, futhi lokhu kuthinta ukuzethemba. Isilinganiso siphoqelelwe ukuqonda imithetho yokudibanisa ngezipikili ezincane ukuze kugcinwe ubuhlobo obuhle nomfowethu noma udade omdala kanye nomncane, ngakho "phakathi" ngokuvamile kuvame ukuzwela, ukuxhumaneka, ukuguquguquka, nokuzwelana kahle. Kodwa umyalo wokuzalwa cishe awuwona oyinhloko futhi akuyona into kuphela. Ubulili bubalulekile, inani lamalungu emndenini, umehluko phakathi kweminyaka yobudala phakathi kwezingane. Umkhathi emndenini kanye nesimo sayo sezomnotho, ukusatshalaliswa kwemisebenzi phakathi komama noyise kanye nemithonya yangaphandle kuthinta kakhulu umndeni. Kodwa asikwazi ukuphikisana ukuthi umyalelo wokuzalwa emndenini uthinteka kakhulu ezinganeni futhi ungafaka isandla ekubonakalisweni kwezici ezithile. Indlela yomuntu ngamunye esikoleni sasenkulisa kufanele isekelwe esimweni somama wengane.
Ozelwe kuqala
Isikhathi esithile umntwana omdala uhlala esikhundleni somuntu oyedwa emndenini (ngokungafani nezingane ezalandela), konke ukunakwa kwabazali kugxila kuye, bonke bayamthanda futhi banakekelwa. Kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho ingane isetshenziselwa isikhundla esilungelo, isimo siyashintsha. Manje akagcini nje kuphela ukuyeka ukuba yedwa, futhi uphoqeleka ukuba ahlanganyele nabazali nomunye umntwana, kodwa futhi nokuthola isimo esisha 'somdala' uthola yonke umthwalo osindayo ohambisana naye, lapho engakulungele futhi engathandi. Izidingo zomntwana zikhuphuka kakhulu, isimo sengqondo sabazali, njengoba umthetho, futhi asishintshi ukuze kube ngcono, nhlobo, umama uyavumelana nendima entsha. Ekuqaleni, isabelo sezingonyama zababelethi sikhokhelwa umntwana, asihlukaniswanga ngokulinganayo, ngakho-ke, owokuqala oye wajwayela ukunakekelwa okuphelele uthola ingxenye yakhe yothando ngokudlula noma ngesimiso esinqunyiwe. Ngakho-ke, kumelwe siqaphele ukuthi ushintsho olunjalo aluba, lukhuni kakhulu, kanye nezidingo - ngokweqile.
I-portrait yengqondo
Amaplomu Kaningi ingane ekhulile inezici ezifana nokuzethemba, ukuzimisela, umthwalo wemfanelo, ukubonela phambili. Izingane ezikhulile njengamanje zinomqondo ophakeme kunabo bonke abafowabo nodadewabo abancane, ngenxa yokuthi abazali bafuna okungaphezu kokunye, nokuthi bancane. Ngenxa yalokho, abazali abaningi bahlakulela emazibulo: bayakwazi ukuba abaqondisi, bayakwazi ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo futhi benze njengomholi. Ukungahleleki Umthwalo walo mthwalo wemfanelo ngezinye izikhathi uphenduka ube lunzima kakhulu kumuntu omncane, futhi ukhulisa ukhathazeka okukhulu. Kule nkathi, ingane ifuna imbangela yezinguquko eziye zavela, futhi njengoba izingane zivame ukuzibeka icala ngazo zonke izinto, ukucabanga kwabo okunengqondo ngokuvamile akusikho. Futhi-ke esimweni somntwana ngokuzumayo kukhona ukubhubhisa, ukungalaleli, kungase kube nokuphazanyiswa ebuthongweni noma ekukhathazeni okuhlukahlukene, ingane iqala ukuvuthwa noma ukuphindaphinda. Isizathu esiwukuphela kokuntuleka kokunakekelwa kuqala. Awudingi ukwenza i-nanny kusukela kuzibulo. Khumbula ukuthi, ngaphezu kwakho konke futhi ingane, bese usuvele ungumsizi wakho. Bonisa ingane yakho ukuthi uyakwazisa kangakanani usizo lwakhe, udumise futhi umsekele. Kodwa-ke, qaphela ukuthi abafowethu nodadewethu abasebasha abathwali ngokujulile umfowethu omdala, uma kunesidingo, ukuba alungele ukuvikela isikhala sakhe siqu nezinto zakhe. Ngokuvamile ulalele owokuqala ngezinzuzo zobukhulu bakhe. Izingane ezinkulu zivunyelwe ngaphezulu. Vumela umntwana osekhulile ngezinye izikhathi abe mncane, uhlale ezandleni zakho, uphuze ebhodleleni noma ulale phansi emcimbini womzalwane omncane.
Intshisekelo yakho
Vumela ingane ngayinye ibe namathoyizi akhe siqu, izincwadi kanye nomagazini, futhi jikelele, ngezifundo ezihlangene. Isibonelo, vumela umntwana omdala abhale umagazini mayelana nemikhumbi, indodakazi ejwayelekile-mayelana namahhashi, futhi omncane - mayelana nokuphila kwezilwane, umbala noma amapuzzli omncane kakhulu. Khuthaza izingane ukuba zihloniphe impahla yomunye nomunye futhi, uma kunesidingo, ubuze imibuzo kanye. Ingane ngayinye izothola ukuzilibazisa okhethekile, okuzohlukahluka kwenye. Lokhu kuzokunika isizathu esengeziwe sokunaka izingane ezisencane, eziphakathi nendawo ezikude ngokwehlukile, zibuka futhi zifunde nazo izincwadi zabo siqu.
Phakathi
Ukuba isilinganiso akulula! Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umdala uyambuka, ngoba wamnciphisa indima yodumo yedwa kuphela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, yena ngokwakhe akayithandi ingane yesithathu, ngoba uyamncisha isikhundla sakhe esincane. Ngenxa yalokho, isiphepho semizwa ephikisanayo nobunzima bokuthola isimo sabo emndenini. Ingane evamile ayinalo ithuba lokuthola indima yomholi, ngokuvamile okucatshangwa yizibulo, kodwa futhi akanaso isikhathi sokuthatha indima yomlondolozi. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, uzozizwa ukuthi ukufunwa kuye kuncane kakhulu kunokusuka kokuzalwa, futhi lokhu kuzoletha ukuthula kwakhe. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngokusobala akazinaki. Izingane ezinjalo ziphoqeleka ukuba zihlale zincintisana nombili umdala onamandla futhi onamandla kanye nomncane ongenalutho. Mhlawumbe, awuqapheli impumelelo eminingi yengane evamile? Emva kwakho konke, "okusha" okwenziwe yingane yesibili, abazali sebevele "badlulile" nabokuqala, ngakho abakwenzanga ngokomzwelo kuwo.
I-portrait yengqondo
Izinzuzo: Ingane yakho evamile kungenzeka ukuba ikhulumisane, ithole ukunakwa phakathi kohlobo lwabangane. Mhlawumbe uzothatha isikhundla somenzi wokuthula ebuhlotsheni bomntwana wokuqala nomntwana omncane kakhulu, futhi lokhu kuzokuthuthukisa ikhono lakhe lokuxoxisana. Ngokuvamile lezi zingane zibhekene nokuthobela, ukuguquguquka, ukudibanisa, ukuxhumana nabantu. Kusukela ebuntwaneni, ingane evamile iyaphoqeleka ukuba ixoxisane nabantu abahlukene, futhi lokhu kuhle kuye, ifundisa ukuhambisana nomuntu wonke, ube nomusa, ukhaliphe futhi awuqinisekisi. Isihluthulelo esiyinhloko empumelelweni yengane evamile sinamandla ekwenzeni okukhethekile. Bhala ingane emfundweni ye-guitar, umethule emkhatsini wezinyathelo ze-origami futhi umfundise ukwenza amathoyizi athakazelisayo, amsize ukuba athole ukufanisa noma ukuthunjwa nobuchwepheshe obulawulwa yi-radio. Makangabi namncintiswaneni kule ndaba, khona-ke uzothola ukuzethemba nokuhlonipha embuthanweni wabafowethu nodadewethu. Kubonakala sengathi indawo yesibili ingane ethatha ngayo emndenini ayimvumeli ukuba athole izinzuzo ezithile phezu kwabafowabo nodadewabo, akayena omncinyane kulokhu okungenakuzisiza, noma omdala kunesizathu sokuzimela kwakhe. Kodwa ungakwazi ukusiza ingane yakho ngokusebenzisa "ukusebenzisana". Ngabadala bakhe, umsebenzi obalulekile ohlangene uhlanganiswa ndawonye, isibonelo, ukuya kuma-movie. Ngezinye izikhathi myeke "abe mncane", makabone i-cartoon kanye nomncane. Mbonise ukuthi, ngokuphambene nalokho, unethuba lokusebenzisa ngokunenzuzo kokubili ubudala. Ngisho lula kulabo bazali abanezinhlobo ezahlukene zezingane emndenini. Kulesi simo, isimo se "ingane ejwayelekile" singashintshwa ngesimo "somfowethu omdala" noma "umntanakho omncane". Khona-ke ingane encane kuyoba lula ukubona isikhundla sayo emndenini, futhi abazali banquma inani lezinzuzo zakhe phakathi kwezingane.
Dumisani kaningi
- Izinzuzo
Ezincane kakhulu zihlala ndawonye ukunganaki, ububele, ukuhlaselwa. Lezi zingane ngokuvamile zibuciko, okudingayo ukuthi zihlale ziphakathi nendawo yomuntu wonke. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, omncane, kanye nomphakathi ophakathi, ufunda ukuxoxisana ngokuthula, athuthukise amakhono amakhono, ngoba uyaqonda ngokushesha ukuthi amandla okufeza umgomo (ngokubambisana ne "ophezulu" futhi "ophakathi" onamandla angasebenzi). Izingane ezincane zithandwa yiontanga futhi zikwazi ukuhambisana nabantu.
- I-Cons
Omncinyane unikezwa ukunakwa okuyinhloko futhi uthethelelwe ngaphezu kwabanye. Ukusebenzisa sonke isikhathi ukuthembela ekusizeni abadala, uvame ukugoqa ngaphambi kobunzima nokuzinikela ngokushesha. Ngokuvamile, unqatshelwe ukuzithiba futhi ubhekene nobunzima ekwenzeni izinqumo; ejwayelekile ekunakekeleni izihlobo futhi ehluleka kakhulu, omncane uvame ukukhula uvila, omncane futhi othembekile, angase aqale ukubonisa ubugovu, isifiso sokumfuna njalo.
Isiteshi ngendlela efanele
Ukuze ungalimazi i-crumb, setha uhlaka lokubheka futhi ugweme udumo oludlulele futhi olungenangqondo. Kodwa awukwazi ukusho ukuthi "udumise ngesikweletu": hlala kumdwebo wamagnethe, owawudonsela ngenkuthalo. Ngisho noma lo mphumela ushiya okufisa ukufisa, isenzo esinjalo sizogqugquzela omncane emizamweni emisha. Uma into engasebenzi kuye futhi ecasulwa, sisekela i-crumb, uqinisekise ukuthi konke kuzovela. Unganaki noma yiziphi izimpumelelo, ngisho noma zibonakala zibonakala kuwe: ukubamba iqhaza kwakho nokuzwela kuzoqinisa ukuzimisela kwakhe ukufunda amakhono amasha ngaphandle kokubheka izingane ezindala. Umsebenzi wakho ukugqugquzela ukuthuthukiswa kwengane encane nokukhuthaza ukudalulwa kwamakhono nezithakazelo zakhe. Ngandlela-thile, omncinyane uzama ukubamba abadala bakhe konke ukuphila kwakhe, kodwa uyophumelela kuphela ngenxa yokuthambekela kwakhe. Qinisekisa ukuthi omncane naye uhlanganyela emisebenzini yasendlini. Uma njalo ukhulula ingane yesithathu ezinkingeni, ngoba "usemncane kakhulu!", Lokhu kuzokwenza kube nokuthula phakathi kwezingane ezindala, kube nzima ukuhlobana phakathi kwezingane. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi isebenze - thola umsebenzi oyimfihlo ongayenza, i-kid kufanele ingabi nomuzwa okhethekile, ongeke usebenze imithetho yasekhaya. Ungakhuthazi umkhuba wokunyundela nokubika kubazalwane nodade asebekhulile. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuba ifune amagama afanele okuxoxisana nomfowabo noma udade ngaphandle kokubandakanya abantu abadala.