Umama wekhulu lama-XXI - bangubani?
Yiqiniso, indima yomama ingenye ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni komfazi. Kuphela manje siyidlala ngokuhlukile. Hlola ngokucophelela izinhlobo zamaMomasi zanamuhla "ezidwetshwe" yizazi zengqondo, futhi uziqaphele nakwezinye ze "portraits", ungadangali. Ukuvumelanisa ngokwayo i-hypostases ehlukene yobazali akukaze iphuze kakhulu!
Umama-hen
Umama okhulile ulungele ukuzidela ngokuphelele emndenini, ukudela umsebenti wakhe kanye nokunye "okungenangqondo". Ngoba lokhu kuyinto eyinhloko! "Ngemva kokuhlala ngaphandle kwezinkukhu," uhlala enkingeni-edla, ehamba, esindisa emakhazeni ... "Izinkukhu" zanamuhla ziye zandisa ukunakekelwa kwendabuko: zichitha isikhathi esiningi ekuthuthukiseni ingane yonke. Ukudansa, i-aikido, isiNgisi, ukufunda izincwadi ze-smart, imfundo yokunambitha okuhle - usuku lomntwana ludwetshwe ngokoqobo ngomzuzu. Ngenxa yalokho, ingane ikhula ixhomekile futhi incike kuye: umama wengane uthatha izwe langaphakathi lomntwana, engamvumeli ukuba abonise ukuthi uyedwa. Ubuhlobo obunjalo bobudlelwane bezengqondo bambiza i-symbiosis (fusion), futhi bayingozi kuwo wonke umuntu: ingane evikelekile empilweni ejwayelekile, kanye nomama ozinikela ngokuzithandela ngenxa yengane. Ngokushesha noma kamuva, amaqhinga "okuvikelwa" omama aqala ukuvusa umbhikisho obunonya. Noma ukuthembela (okokuqala - kusukela ekunakekeleni komama, khona - kusukela emibonweni yabanye) kuba yisimo sakhe sesibili.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Vumela ingane ihambe! Kancane kancane, njengoba ekhula, uthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ezindabeni zakhe siqu, ukudlulisela amandla empilweni yakhe kuye. Ukuqala le nqubo kuyadingeka ngezinto ezincane: ake ingane igube, idle, ikhava isikhalazo, phinda amathoyizi ... Futhi, ekugcineni, yenza izinqumo - isibonelo, hamba ukuhamba epaki noma wenze amapuzzli? Ukudlulisela emntwaneni umsebenzi owodwa emva komunye, unakekela ikusasa lakhe: wonke amakhono akhe iyisiqinisekiso sokuzethemba!
Umama webhizinisi
Ngeke ubone umama wakho kaningi - umfana cishe unomfana noma ugogo. Futhi uphi umama? Eqinisweni, emsebenzini: lapho kukhona umuntu obalulekile, ngaphandle kwalokho-akukho ndlela! Yiqiniso, umama usola ukuthi ingane ayinayo ukushisa okwanele nokucabangela - futhi iyayibuyisela lokhu, igcwalise indodana yakhe ngezipho "ngaphandle kwesizathu" futhi ihlela ukuzijabulisa "okungenzi-stop" ngezimpelasonto.
Abanikazi bebhizinisi abanamama njengento yokuqala. Kunezizathu eziningi zalokhu kuziphatha: isidingo sokusebenza kanzima, izinhlelo zokuzikhandla, ukubusa komama, noma ukuziqhenya nje. Namuhla sijwayele lesi simo futhi sibona inzuzo eningi: uma wonke umuntu enza into ehamba kahle (umama wakhela umsebenzi, futhi umntanami-ongenakuphikisana nomntwana okhuphula umntwana) - yini engalungile ngalokho?
Esikhathini esizayo, ingane, ayifakiwe, ihlonipha umzali wayo osebenzayo, futhi uyomsiza ukuthi athole umsebenzi empilweni. Kodwa ... Umama udinga namhlanje! Bent phezu komkhumbi, ujabulela ngegama elisha, ukuphulukisa ama-bumps wokuqala ... Ngaphandle kwalokhu kusekelwa, ingane ayikwazi ukuyenza. Isikhathi esiphelele kakhulu kwengane yinyanga eyisithupha kuya ku-12 (ukuxhumana nomama wakhe ngokoqobo "kuyondla" umntwana!). Kodwa ngemva konyaka ingane idinga ukukhulumisana "okuhlobene" okusheshayo: ngokusho kososayensi, kunzima kakhulu ukuphila okuphilayo, isikhathi eside kuncike kumama.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Qaphela ukubuyiselwa kwemindeni emndenini yonke imithwalo yemfanelo futhi unikeze "isikhathi" esigcwele sokunakwa kwakho - ngokuyinhloko eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila kwakhe (ngalesi sikhathi isisekelo sokuthembela okuyisisekelo kwezingane emhlabeni). Futhi uma izimo ziye zahluka ngokuhlukile, ungazihlambalazi, kodwa ungavumeli konke kuhambe ngokwakho! Kunokuba uphephe imvuthuluka ngempahla yezinto ezibonakalayo, kungcono ukumnike isikhathi esiphezulu - kusihlwa, ngezimpelasonto, eholidini. Akubalulekile nje kuphela ubungakanani bayo, kodwa futhi ikhwalithi - ukuxhumana kufanele kube "kufakiwe", okusebenzayo, okuyimfihlo. Ngena ezinkingeni zomntwana, ukhuleke, ubanga, ungakhohlwa ukusho ukuthi uyamthanda kangakanani.
Umama-intombi
Lena yinto ejwayelekile yezikhathi zanamuhla (akunakwenzeka ukuthi "omama-abangane" babekanye namamama ethu!) Futhi, ekuboneni kokuqala, ukulungiswa okulungile. Uma umama enza ubuhlobo nengane ngokuyisisekelo "inkululeko, ukulingana nobuzalwane", futhi enhliziyweni yokukhulumisana kwabo ukuthembela ndawonye - kuhle! Kuyathakazelisa naye (njengomthetho, impilo yomphakathi womama onjalo ushaya ngekhiye): kulula ukuxoxa izingxoxo zefilosofi, ukwabelana ngokuhlanganyela, ukuhlanza amathambo yabangane. Kodwa ngisho nalapha kunemifula engaphansi kwamanzi. Imfundo yabomama abanjalo, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuzijabulisa. Kodwa kuthiwani ngeminye imisebenzi yomama? Umama wabo-umama uzama ukushintshela kubasizi - ubaba, ugogo, unina, uthisha ... Futhi esikhundleni sombono ohloniphekile, unikeza "iseluleko esinobungane" (ngokuthembeka nangokwesikhashana "okulungiselelwe" ingane). Kodwa emva kwakho konke, isiqondiso somqondisi ohlakaniphile ngezinye izikhathi kudingekile! Ngezinye izikhathi umama-ntombazana uhlanganyela nomntwana ukuthi "unzima kakhulu" (isibonelo, ukhuluma ngokuhlukumeza komuntu siqu noma ngisho nesondelene naye) - ngenkathi elinde iseluleko "esinengqondo"!
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Khulisa! Kuhle ukuba ngumholi wamahhala, yebo, kodwa ingane idinga usizo lwakho "empilweni yansuku zonke". Uma imvelaphi yalokhu kuziphatha iqaphela ngokugcwele futhi ilele esifisweni sokungafani nomama wakho (ukubusa, igunya elikhulu), lungisa nje isithombe se "intombi". Inhlanganisela enkulu kule simo ukuthi ingane ayesabi ukukutshela iqiniso. Ngakho-ke, akulula ukuthola ukuthi akusikho.
Umama ogunyazayo
"Zama nje ukuthi ungaqedi ukudla iphariji!", "Ukuba ekhaya ngo-8!" noma "Kubalulekile ukwenza kanjalo!" Kungani? Ngisho kanjalo! " - lezi yizinkulumo ezijwayelekile zomama onjalo. Futhi izimiso eziyinhloko zokuthuthukiswa kokuqala kanye nokukhuliswa kwengane: "Kungcono ukuxabana kunokungathi ukuhleka usulu" nokuthi "Ukuvimbela kungaphezu kwakho konke!". Yiqiniso, umama ufisa indodana yakhe yonke into engcono - impilo ephumelelayo ngaphandle kwamaphutha namaphutha. Kuphela akunakwenzeka ukuthi kuzovela: umfana ukhula engavikelekile kuye ... Futhi amaphupho okuqeda "ukucindezelwa" komama ngokushesha!
Lo mama unamandla futhi unamandla. Uqinisekile ukuthi konke kulungile futhi wenza konke okulungile kwengane (noma kuhambisane nezifiso zakhe). "Ezweni lanamuhla, kulezi" zihlungulu, "kuphela ukulwa okunamandla kunayo yonke, ngizofundisa lokho - ngakho ngizokubonga futhi!" - isiqubulo samaMama anjalo. Izazi zengqondo zihlukanisa izinhlobo ezimbili zamamama "asemthethweni": owesifazane-umholi-bhizinisi, ukudlulisela izindlela zokuphatha ukusebenzisana ebuhlotsheni nengane, nomama ongenalutho, ukukhokhela ukuhluleka kwakhe ngokuphumelela okukhulu (lonke ithemba kuye, kumele kube yilo kanye!).
Ukulawula yisimiso esiyinhloko semfundo yabomama: kubalulekile ukwazi konke mayelana nengane, njalo ngezenzo, imicabango, abangane, amapulani ... Emva kwakho konke, kuphela kuleli cala umuntu angathonya, akhuthaze, avimbele, avimbele! Ingane ihlupheka - isenzo sokuqapha konke okubambe iqhaza kanye nobuciko, izidingo ezithandwayo nokuntuleka kwelungelo lephutha kwakha ukuzethemba okuphansi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uqala ukufunda amanga (ukugwema intukuthelo yomama), nokuphumula ekugqasheni, kungase kuqhubekele konke okungathí sina. Ukuthola impumelelo empilweni kunzima kuye (kusukela ebuntwaneni wahlonywa emigqeni yemithetho nokulawula, akaxhomekile), kanye nempumelelo empilweni yakhe (kusukela "abacindezelekile" abafana "Amadodana kaMama" avame ukukhula, kusuka kumantombazane "acindezelekile" - abafazi abangaba khona-abahlukunyezwayo "abayeni abaphangi).
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Ukuthola izici zesilawuli, yiba nesibindi sokuyivuma. Ungesabi ukulahlekelwa igunya lomntanakho, ubeke "njengabantu" futhi "okungalungile"! Isivivinyo sokushiya konke okufana nalokhu kuyingozi kakhulu: ingane ingathola ukuhlukumezeka kanye nokuphazamiseka kwezinzwa, ihlale isengozini esimweni sokugunyazwa kwanoma ubani (ukunqotshwa ithonya elibi). Khumbula ukuthi okuhle kakhulu kwengane akufanele kube okungcono kakhulu, kodwa ukuba ube nguwe: ukuqaphela izifiso zomuntu siqu!
Umama Okhathazekile
Umama ka-Alyosha ubona ingozi engaba khona kuyo yonke into: "Phuma ukugijima - ufuna ukuwa?", "Cha, akukho mvini: kuzoba nabantu abaningi kangaka, futhi manje idolobha linomkhuhlane!". Uzama konke okusemandleni akhe ukuvikela ingane kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezingozi, kodwa usakhula buthakathaka, hhayi ukugula. Futhi sadabukile ... "Kungani kunjalo?" - Inna ikhale. Futhi akaqapheli, ukuthi isizathu - ngokwayo.
Owesifazane ophazamisayo atholakala kubafazi abathintekayo ngokweqile, abajwayele ukuzidela nokuphelela. Futhi kuningi olunjalo namuhla! Okokuqala, ukuba "umfundi" omuhle kakhulu kuyimfashini. Ukwengeza, ukugeleza kolwazi olunamandla kuvumela umzali ukuba agqoke ulwazi oluhlukahlukene (futhi oluphikisanayo) mayelana nentuthuko yokuqala nokukhuliswa kwengane, impilo yengane (kuvela "usizi olusuka engqondweni" - uma wazi ngokwengeziwe, izingozi zibonakala). Ngisho "ukhathele zonke izinzwa", unina onjalo akanakuyeka. Uzama "ukusabalalisa izinsalela" kusengaphambili, noma ngabe kunokwenzeka: kulandela ngokucacile isimiso sokudla, ukuvakashelwa njalo odokotela, ngokuvamile kuvame ochwepheshe bezengqondo. Izizathu zokukhathazeka, noma kunjalo, azibe zingaphansi - emva kwakho konke, eziningi zazo zingaphakathi. Futhi wonke lo mama "uthele" emntwaneni, futhi ukukhathazeka kuthathelwana - futhi uyesaba futhi aphumule. Futhi kusukela lapha kuya ekuguleni kwangempela - isinyathelo esisodwa: izinzwa, ukuxubha, i-enuresis, izifo ezingokwengqondo ... Ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kwengane futhi "kunomkhawulo": ngaphandle kokuthola uthando oludingekayo, "uyaziqhenya" uyaqiniseka ukuthi "izwe liyathukuthela futhi liyingozi." Ubuntu obucindezelayo obulandelayo bukulungele!
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Qala ngokwakho - sebenzisa ukwesaba kwakho (mhlawumbe kanye nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo), ungakhathazeki kancane noma okungenani uzame ukungabonisi lokhu kwengane. Kodwa ku-robot engabonakali akufanelekile! Ukukhathazeka komama kuvamile uma kulinganiswa.
Futhi kuthiwani ngomama ophelele? Ingabe ikhona? Ziyini izici zayo ezihlukanisayo? Izazi zengqondo ziqinisekile: unomoya ozolile, obala, onomusa, obona ilungelo lomqondo wakhe wengane, emamukela njengoba enjalo. Ukucabangela ukukhulelwa kwengane kuyathandeka kakhulu futhi kudala, nguye yedwa odala isimo senjabulo nothando ngezingane zakhe. Ngokuvamile, kukhona okumele ulwele! Futhi ukuphelela, njengoba wazi, akukho mkhawulo ...