"Owesifazane oqinile nomuntu obuthakathaka kukhona i-farce noma i-perversion"
"Kudingeka ushintshe ukuhlangabezana nomuntu wakho." Futhi uma ngingathandi ukushintsha mina? - uphulukisa umphefumulo kaJan, umsebenzi oneminyaka engu-36 ubudala we-audit firm, okumatasa ukufuna umyeni wakhe. - Kungani nje kancane - ngokushesha ushintshe ngokwakho? Ngiyathanda mina. Futhi hhayi kuphela kimi, kodwa nakumqashi, amaklayenti nezintombi. Futhi ngisho nakwezinja zabanye abantu. Ngikulungile. Futhi ngidinga kancane kumuntu! Angidingi noma ubani odla isinkwa, akekho umeluleki, akukho ukusekelwa, akukho uphawu lwezocansi. Kodwa kuphela umuntu ohlakaniphile nozwelayo ophendulayo, ozimele ophakathi. Ngomfanekiso ohloniphekile. Nginomholo omuhle. Mina ngokwami ngikwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zami futhi angikhe ngiphuthelwe ngedwa. Ngingumpheki omuhle, futhi ngisusa umninindlu endlini. Ngifuna ukwethembeka ebuhlotsheni. Ukungaqambi amanga kumyeni wakhe, ukuthi usekhaya, uma ngithola okuningi futhi nginomuntu onamandla. Ukuzenza sengathi uyisiwula ngokuzethemba kwakhe! Futhi unganginikezi izibopho ezinhle zobuningi epholiseni futhi nge-vacuum cleaner! Umyeni wami ubelokhu efana nalokhu iminyaka eyishumi - ikhaya, akukho ndawo esebenzayo, i-hysterical kanye nomhawu. Ngaphandle kwezicathulo zezihambeli ezivela emhontwini akazange abhale - njalo njalo bonke ozakwethu kanye nezintombi bagijimela. Suka, kungani ngichitha isikhathi esiningi nabo kunasekhaya. Ukusabela othandweni - kukhishwa. Ngosuku engazange adle ngalo, ngoba wayecasuliwe, futhi ebusuku wahamba ngasese eqandisini, njengoLokhankin encwadini ethi "Igolide Legolide"! Cha, owesifazane oqinile nomuntu obuthakathaka obuncane yi-farce noma i-perversion ehlanzekile. Kwanele nami! Sasihlezi e-cafe ngasemfuleni, esishisa kuze kufike ebuqilini ngo-Agasti ntambama, sithatha i-cocktail ngotshani futhi sicabanga ngamadoda. Sasizizwela ukuthi uma u-Yana engumuntu ompofu, engajabuli, ekhukhumezeka njalo, ebalahle evela ezigulini ezingapheli futhi enqatshelwe ingqondo yentombazane, kungaba lula ngaye ukuba ashade: okokuqala, lezo zidingo zingase zibe ngaphansi, okwesibili , bekuyoba nesixuku samadoda abafuna ukuzisola, ukufudumala nokucindezela ubuhle obunamathele ukuze bazizwe beseduze nokuqakathekile. Sibheke ngabangane bethu bonke abasemshadweni ophumelelayo, wonke amadoda ajwayelekile a-Yana, amenzele ikhathalogi encane yokukhethwa kwabayeni - futhi wathola izinto ezimangalisayo thina kanye nami esingathanda ukuhlanganyela ngazo.
Washada indoda
Iyaphumelela - kunoma yikuphi, okungenani ekuqoqweni kwezemidlalo kwamakhowe noma e-hang gliding, ekuhloleni izimbali, emasimini asehlathini noma ebhizinisini lebhizinisi. Impumelelo - lokhu kuyinkomba ye-potency ephezulu yesilisa: he - angakwazi! Ngomuntu onjalo uhlale ekwazi ukuthola ulimi oluvamile: unezimpungushe ezimbalwa ekhanda lakhe futhi akakukhathazi ngomona wakhe. Futhi okwamanje: kuvela, kuphumelele - hhayi njalo kucebile. Uphi imali evela eqenjini laseYurophu ngokudoba i-ice? Uchitha wonke umholo wakhe ngokubambisana namathikithi e-air. Futhi uDeveli onabo, ngemali yakhe, wenza imali yokukhetha amadoda owafunayo - ngenxa yengqondo yakho nokuthakazelisa, hhayi ngekhredithi lakho. Futhi kuthiwani ngalahlekelwayo? Akufanele sikhathazeke ngalolu daba. Vumela izinsizwa ezincane zihlanganyele ekuhlulekeni kwabantu abaneminyaka ephakathi nangaphezulu - zinezinsuku eziningi ezishiye endaweni yokugcina, zinesikhathi esanele sokuzinakekela, futhi zibelethe izingane ezivela kuso, futhi zibhalisele ukuqeqeshwa komuntu siqu, futhi zibalekele kuye uma akukho okuzosiza. Futhi iwashi lakho lokuphila eliyisikhombisa - yisikhathi sokusheshisa futhi ungaphuthelwa. "I-Gebe ayikwazi ukuchitha isikhathi ngeze.
Isiwula asithathi umyeni, noma ngabe ungumthandi omangalisayo nomuntu onomusa
Ngesinye isikhathi owesifazane osemusha othakazelisayo wathi kuBernard Shaw: "Yiziphi izingane ezinhle kakhulu ezaziyozalwa kithi: ubuhle - kimi, engqondweni yami - kuwe." Umlobi omkhulu wamisa futhi wathi: "Futhi uma kuvela ngokuphambene na? .." Kuyinto evamile ukuba amadoda abelethe izingane. Kuhle uma ingane yakho ingena engqondweni yakho. Futhi uma-ku-papa?
Ungachithi isikhathi kubashayeli nabadwebi
Awufanelanga indoda esezitebhisini ezingezansi zesiteleka sezenhlalakahle - umshayeli, isisebenzi sokwakha, umlondolozi noma iplumberhi. Kuyinto evamile ukusho ukuthi ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo - ukuzwela, ukukwazi ukubona okuhle, isifiso sokufunda izinto ezintsha nokuyithokozisa - akuxhomeki ekuzifundeni nasesimweni sezenhlalakahle, futhi ukuzifunda kungashintsha imfundo. Asikholwa! Awuzange sibone noma yimuphi umlindi ohlakaniphile futhi ozifundisayo kakhulu kusuka esitolo. Futhi isisebenzi sokwakha - naye. I-Foreman - ibonwe. Ngisho nambili. Umdwebi - cha. Ngoba ngokushesha nje lapho umuntu ohlakaniphile ngokomzwelo efundela yena, uyashesha ngokushesha izinyathelo bese efunda.
Ukuhambisana nanoma imuphi umkhuba ongokomoya
Lona ngumuntu ohlala eceleni kwethu, futhi isigamu esimweni sakhe esimnandi se-cosmic noma amandla. Udinga empilweni isitsha selayisi, ibhande lokuzindla, iqembu labantu abafana nomqondo, ngezinye izikhathi isixuku sabafundi abanomdlandla. Yiqiniso, imali iyadingeka kuye. Kodwa akaboni isizathu sokuthi afane "nomunye umama" nomfazi othandekayo wakhe ozothola udumo ukugcwalisa i-akhawunti yasebhange. Unezinye izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu - uyazithuthukisa futhi aqonde izimfihlo zezwe. Mkhiphe u-zalchik - uzobutha abangane bakhe, amakhele indlu ngaphandle kwedolobha - uzovula isikole sakhe. Akakhathaleli ukuthi ukhona ngemva komsebenzi. Usususwe futhi uhle kakhulu. Uzoza kuye, ezweni lakhe, ukuvakashela - ukudla okungokomoya. Uma ungacabangi ukuxhumana nemimoya yabokhokho nokudla amandla e-cosmic isibonakaliso schizophrenia esilula - wena endleleni. Kuzodingeka uhlanganyele ngobuqotho okungenani ingxenye yemibono yakhe - ukholelwa ekushumayeleni kwemiphefumulo noma ukuthi ephusheni sishintsha izwe elizungezile. Unempilo, ehlekisayo, elinganiselayo futhi engahlehlisi. Futhi, njengomthetho, ukuthembela njengengane. Uma ukhathele umhawu womlingani wangaphambili, umphefumulo wakho nomzimba wakho enkampanini yezintombi zizophumula - ngeke zilandele isinyathelo ngasinye. Uma uthanda ukuzitholela ngokwayo, ngeke akubone, aze ahlangane nomthandi embhedeni wakho ngaphansi kwengubo eyodwa. Kwenzeke kakhulu kakhulu, isikhathi eside sichaza imibono yayo. Uhola indlela engavamile yokuphila - ngezinye izikhathi akalala ebusuku futhi adle ngemva kokushona kwelanga, hhayi njalo okwanele. Ngezikhathi ezithile wenqaba ukuya ocansini. Ngezinye izikhathi kudinga ukuthi wabelane ngemikhuba yakhe engakhululekile - ngokwesibonelo, uyenze i-yoga naye ekuseni. Ngesinye isikhathi i-guru professional ihambele abalandeli - i-karma enhle yabo bonke abaqeqeshi abaphumelelayo, futhi unomhawu ngabo. Futhi ekugcineni, ukukhulumisana naye kudinga kuwe ukungaqondakali okungaqondakali, ukuze ungahambi naye emhlabeni wezinkolelo zakhe, kodwa ukuhlala empilweni nasemsebenzini.
Usosayensi
Ummeleli wezemvelo uyisibhangqwana esihle somfazi webhizinisi ophumelelayo. Uhlanganisa izimfanelo zomuntu ongenalwazi (uhlala ezweni lakhe elithakazelisayo, lapho umuntu angakhambela khona, kodwa engathandanga) futhi ochwepheshe (unomuntu wesilisa oqinile, kodwa unengqondo ngokweqile). Umlobi weNgisi u-Agatha Christie wayeshade nomuntu wezempi ohlakaniphile. Wayengumfanekiso "weqiniso" womuntu: ohlekayo, hero, ohloniphekile, umvikeli, olungele ukuhlonipha nokusekela umkakhe omncane. Kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho umkakhe eqala ukuthola imali ngokubhala, waqala ukuzihlukanisa naye, futhi lapho udumo lwakhe lufika kuye, waqala inkosikazi - owesifazane olula futhi onomqondo omncane, waya kuye. U-Agatha Christie wayekhathazekile kakhulu futhi isamba esincane asizange sivele usizi. Bahlukanisile. Indoda yakhe yesibili yayingumfana osemncane we-archeologist, odumile emibuthanweni emincane. Wajabula ngempumelelo yomfazi wakhe, futhi izincwadi zakhe zamhlekisa. Wafaka othandweni lwakhe ngeMpumalanga futhi uhamba ngeGibhithe. Futhi bahlala ndawonye ukuphila okumangalisayo okude. Awunqabe indlela yakho yokuphila, abangane bakho nezintombi, futhi wamukela umhlaba wakhe. Kuyathakazelisa naye. Angathembeka. Futhi cishe akayishintshi - ngoba uqobo uyaqinisekisa ngenye indlela, hhayi ngezocansi. Ivame ukungena ezweni lakho, futhi ngeke likhishwe. Uvame ukunganaki izinto ezibonakalayo, ngezinye izikhathi ezihlakazekile. Isibonelo, ubuya e-seminar yesayensi ngaphandle kwe-suitcase - uyalikhohlwa esitimeleni futhi akazange aqaphele, ngoba wonke ama-toiletries nama-spare briefs ngamasokisi abekwe esikhwameni sekhompyutheni. Futhi wayenele. Futhi ngokujwayelekile, uDeveli naye, ne-suitcase - sizozithenga ezinye izibhulu kanye nezinye i-suitcase.
Indoda incane kunawe (iminyaka engaphezu kwesikhombisa)
Sijwayele ukugubha lapho sibona khona umbhangqwana lapho engekho omncane futhi ocebile, kodwa usemncane futhi ompofu. Futhi sikholelwa ukuthi ungumzingeli wemali noma indodana eyitholile umama. Hamba izinkolelo: owesifazane okhulile kakhulu kunabo uhlale ethandana nentsha eqinile - ehlakaniphile, ethanda isifiso, engenandaba nombono womphakathi futhi ovuthiwe kakhulu kunokuba kufanele abe yiminyaka. Ngama-25, uzizwa enjengomfana oneminyaka engamashumi amane futhi ushade naye owesifazane ohambisana nengqondo yakhe yengqondo, hhayi iphasiphothi. Awunasithakazelo kuma-coevals. Awukwazi ukusho ukuthi labafana balele phansi zonke izinyathelo zendlela. Kodwa zikhona futhi abanye bakuthola. Ngokwesibonelo, umyeni kaDemi Moore, umlingisi u-Ashton Kutcher, uneminyaka eyishumi nanhlanu emncane kunalo. Uyazi ukuthi uyaphila futhi uzivumelanisa ngokugcwele naye. Owesifazane ozenza sengathi uyamthanda insizwa akufanele abheke ukulungiswa kahle, kodwa ehlelekile futhi ephumelelayo. Akudingeki abonakale njengentombazane futhi avule isisu sakhe esisodwa. Ukubukeka kwakhe kufanele kube okukhangayo futhi kuhambisane nesimo sakhe kanye nezwe elingaphansi. Ngaphandle kwalokho, le nsizwa ngeke isabele kuso. Unempilo enempilo, enamandla futhi enhle. Iveza amandla amancane futhi ushayela ebuhlotsheni. Ukukhulelwa kuye "owesifazane" oneminyaka engu-35 "kulula kunokwontanga, - ngoba ukuzala kwabantu abaneminyaka yobudala kunciphisa. Ukucindezelwa kwengqondo kwabanye: abaningi bayolandisa ubuhlobo bakho ukushona okuseduze. Ungaphenduli abantu abanomona. Uma umehluko weminyaka uneminyaka engaphansi kwengu-15, kunganakwa. Ngokwehluka kweminyaka ngo-20 kubalwa eminyakeni emihlanu nesikhombisa yokuphila okuhlangene. Yebo, siphila isikhathi eside, impilo yethu iqukethe izingxenye ezahlukene, kusuka othandweni abaningana nemihlangano eminingi - kungani ungabhali encwadini yekusasa lakho isahluko esijabulisayo mayelana nendlela ohlala ngayo nale nsizwa nokuthi uthandana kanjani?
Professional
Okukhethwa kukho kuyinto ejwayelekile futhi elula - indoda ethanda umsebenzi wakhe: udokotela, umlimi, ummeli. Ngonyaka ka-25, u-Andrei wayenenwele ekhanda - izinwele ezingaphansi kwamahlombe akhe, amehlo ekhanyayo nephupho - ukufundisa izingane izibalo. Esikhathini esingamashumi amane nesishiyagalolunye sekhanda likaSolomon elinamabala okugqoka, ubuqili buqhamuka ngemuva kwemibukiso kanye nomqondisi wesikole sikawonkewonke. Wenqaba ukubeka i-lyceum yangasese - akafuni ukuthembela eminye imali yabantu, kulula ukuba ahambisane nombuso. Ungumfundisi ovela kuNkulunkulu kanye ne-bessrebrenik. Futhi uma kungenjalo akekho oyokhokha noma yini, uzobe ehudulwa "kuleli sikole ukuze afundise laba bugibeli." Kodwa usalokhu ekhokhelwa umsebenzi wakhe. Ube eshada nomama webhizinisi laseMoscow, lapho u-half half ngonyaka wakhetha udumo lwamademoni, waxosha imali eya esikoleni sabafundi baseMoscow - abaphumelele ku-Olympiad ngolimi lwesiRashiya. Bahlala kanjani? Futhi uyazi-kuhle! Njengomngani wakhe, ummeli, ukwabelana nendawo yokuhlala nodokotela ohlinzayo. Noma yimuphi umuntu othanda kakhulu ibhizinisi lakhe, okubaluleke kakhulu kuye, uyisipho esilungele owesifazane ozimele nozimele. Usebenza naye ezindaweni ezihlukene, uphumelela ebhizinisini lakhe, futhi awunomhawu ngomunye nomunye. Unomuntu wangempela endlini. Ngamandla abalingiswa abalingiswa abadlula oshaka bebhizinisi - kuyadingeka, ngethalenta elinjalo ngakho-ke thanda ibhizinisi lakho, ungahambi lapho lizuzisa khona, futhi uphumelele impumelelo nomaphi lapho uthanda khona. Bangabantu abanamandla kakhulu futhi bahle kakhulu kwezocansi. Futhi ungazethemba. Kwenzeka ukuthi namuhla konke kuhle kuwe futhi umsebenzi uvutha ezandleni zakho, futhi kusasa - akusebenzi, noma impilo. Uchwepheshe uzohlale ehlala nawe futhi akukhipha ekuphumeni. Ibhizinisi kuye libaluleke ngaphezu kwakho. Uhlala ekhaya kancane futhi angahlali isikhathi eside, kudinga ukuphatha ngokucophelela: uma kungenakuqhathanisa ukumqhathanisa namanye amadoda azuze okuningi futhi abanike amandla ukuba bapheke ukudla kwasekuseni futhi avumele ukuphindiselela ngenkokhelo ephansi, uzoya kwesinye noma aphule futhi abe yinkinga yakho yokuzibulala, encike kuwe futhi ungajabuli.