Indlela yokuqonda owesifazane?

Amantombazane othandekayo, sonke sizama ukungaqondakali kubantu abathandekayo, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi imfihlakalo yethu iholela ekungaqondani phakathi kwethu kanye nobulili obuqinile. Ngesikhathi sibaphazamisa ngezingubo, bekhathele ukuziqagela futhi ngamazwi athi "ukuyeka" noma "ukhathele" washiya ensimini. Kanjani? Emva kwakho konke, singabantu abafanayo, ngehlamba, ehlanganiswe ngendwangu yemfihlakalo. Futhi, bamemeza "bangaqondi", bamba amahlaya ngathi futhi badonsa ngelogi yethu. Futhi sithulisela izinyembezi futhi sibambelele emnandi. Cha, linda, asiqonde.


Bacabanga ukuthi bayazi

Izingosi eziningi ze-psychology, nomagazini abavamile besifazane bayazisa amadoda ngalokho esiyikho ngempela. Futhi lolu lwazi esizinikeza lona. Kungani? Ukuze abantu bazi ukuthi benzeni nathi. Kufana nemfundo yokuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani. Uyabona, asiphuthelwa lezi zihloko ngamagama aphikisayo "Yini abantu abathanda ngayo ngokobulili?", "Ungayifaka kanjani ehhovisi lokubhalisa?" Noma "Kungani kuguqulwa?". Amadoda ahlukile, abuye alalele ematheksthini afanayo kuphela ngathi. Futhi emva kokufunda lo mdwebo olandelayo owubuciko obunokuthi "Ungayinakekela kanjani owesifazane?" Baqala ukuzenza sengathi babe-super-macho. Kuyinto edabukisayo ukubuka ukuthi bahluphekile kangakanani, basebenzisa izindlela zabo kithi, futhi ngokuqinisekile bacabanga ukuthi baye bahlukanisa ikhodi yethu futhi manje banamandla.

Ngakho-ke, ake sibheke amaphutha ayisisekelo omuntu ekusiqondeni.

Bonke-abesifazane bafuna into eyodwa - bashade

Futhi akekho! Njalo intombazane ingathí sina ngomshado, okusho ukuthi usebenza nokukhethwa komlingani. Yebo, lapho le nsizwa encane izimisele ngokuphila kwayo futhi yaqaphela ukuthi ivuthiwe ukushada, iqala ukubheka noma yimuphi umlingani njengendoda engase ibe yindoda, kodwa ngenxa yokuthi iyakhathazeka ngobuhlobo obuqinile nobuqili, okubaluleke kakhulu kunesitembu esipasipoti. Ungesabi ukuthi kusasa ekuseni uzokudonsa ukuba ubhalise abantu abashadile, mhlawumbe ngeke uphinde udlulisele indima yomyeni wakhe.

Abesifazane bangama-squanderers abasebenzisa imali eningi ngezinto ezingadingekile

Okokuqala, akukho "izinto ezingadingekile". Noma yikuphi ukuthenga kuletha ukwaneliseka kowesifazane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyisethi esebenzayo yokuthuthumela noma ikhethini elimhlophe ekhishini. Amadoda ayasebenza kakhulu ekuthengeni kwawo, iningi lithenga into entsha ngokushintshanisa abadala, sikhetha ukuba nelungelo lokuzikhethela. Yingakho izicathulo eziyisihlanu zisiza le ntombazane ukuthi izizwe zikhethekile. "Ukufunwa" kwethu kuphenduka "kufanele kube" futhi okungcono ukuphikisana nathi ngezikhathi ezinjalo. Nakuba uzama ukuphendula ngomqondo ovamile, usalokhu uwufanele, kepha hhayi ngesimo esibi. Ngitshele ukuthi kulezi zicathulo ze-suede nezembatho yakhe eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, intombazane yakho ibheka kakhulu kunayo kulezi "shackles" ezesabisayo ezinyangeni eziyizinkulungwane eziyishumi nanhlanu.

Ukugeza, ukuhlanza, ukupheka - ikusasa lomfazi

Ngiyaxolisa, ingabe yilokhu okushiwo khona? Uma ngabe le ntombazane ifuna ukuvusa ekuseni ngephunga ikhofi futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ishaya ihembe lakho ukuze lisebenze, awuhambanga nje kuphela ngamandla, kodwa ungakhathazeki, akusho ukuthi liqhutshwa umqondo womsebenzi. Yindlela yamakhosikazi abonisa ukukhathazeka kwabo. Futhi, kholwa mina, akuwona wonke umuntu owayenobunene. Ngakho esikhundleni sokukhipha impumulo yakho nokuyithatha kalula, dumisani umnakekeli wakho futhi umbonge ngalowo wesenzo.

Owesifazane omuhle akanakuhlakanipha

Yebo, siza! Kuvele ukuthi manje wonke owesifazane omuhle kufanele abe nesitifiketi kuye, eqinisekisa ukuthi i-IQ yakhe iphakeme kunayo ye-monkey? Le iphutha libuye libhekise ekutheni inkulumo ethi "blondes - iziphukuphuku". Qonda, ekugcineni, ukuthi lo mbono uvele uqobo. Owesifazane omuhle angase abe nenhlakanipho kunakho, kepha ukuhlakanipha kwakhe ngeke kumvumele ukuba akhombise, ngoba indoda kufanele ibe ngumholi, kufanele idlule umlingani wakhe ngamandla futhi engqondweni yakhe, ngakho thina, ubuhle, kufanele sifihle amakhono abo ngokusebenzisa isicucu esisiwula.

Izingxoxo zabafazi

Yini oyiqondayo? Yebo, eshaweni sonke siyizinhlezi (futhi manje sibheke!) Futhi ukuhleba. Yebo, yebo, amadoda afana neyethu afana nokuba phakathi kwezehlakalo. Futhi bayomtshela umngane omkhulu kakhulu ngezindaba zakamuva. Amadoda nje asebenza namaqiniso, futhi abesifazane bawancedisa ngokuzwa kwabo. Kodwa inhlebokazi yabesifazane ibonakala kuphela lapho kwenzeka khona ezinye izindaba ezibalulekile kwezobulili obufanele. Kodwa uma ozobhapathizwa ehloniphekile ebonakala khona, izingxoxo zocingo mayelana "nezicathulo ezintsha zikaNatasha" nethi "umyeni ka-Mashkin-utshwala" ziphela ngemuva, ngoba udinga ukwakha inhlebo yakhe ngokuqondene naye, imbangela yayo ingaba ncamashi.

O Nkulunkulu wami, bayazi ngempela

Ake sibhekane nakho, siphila ngokuhlangene namadoda iminyaka eyizinkulungwane, futhi lesi sikhathi kufanele sibe ngokwanele ukuze sifunde enye into. Futhi akukho lutho olungalungile ngalokho. Ngakho-ke, siphinde sikhalaza kumngane wakhe: "Akangiqondi," cabanga ngokucophelela, kodwa awuqondi ngempela. Mhlawumbe umuntu wakho uyazi okuningi ngawe kunokuba ucabanga.

Imikhuba yethu

Ukuze ukwazi umuntu ngempela, udinga ukuyibuka, ujwayele futhi uyigcine, okuyinto eqinisweni eyenzeka enkambeni yokuzijwayeza. Sinikeza ulwazi kuphela ngamazwi mayelana nokusebenza, ngakho-ke ungamangazi lapho ekuseni izinkomishi ezimbili zikashukela zivela ekomelweni lakho, kanye ne-favorite flacts ikhekhe, okungazange ukhulume ngokuzwakalayo. Futhi konke ngoba indoda yakho iyaphawula. Futhi ake akhohlwe ngosuku lokubamba kwakho kokuqala, kwenzeka kanye ngonyaka, kodwa ubonisa ukulalela kwakhe ezintweni ezincane nsuku zonke.

UMnu Freud utshele ngakho konke

Umuntu ngamunye ngalesi sikhathi uzama ukubonakala engcono kunalokho akhona. Kodwa ngisho nezenzo ezijulile ziphuma ngokushesha, futhi ubuso beqiniso buvuleka. Ngakho-ke intombazane engenamakhaya emndenini omuhle ingaba ngumthandi we-BDSM, kanti uKlabersha oyithandayo uyisithombe esihle kakhulu sokudla sikaPushkin. Yiqiniso, kunamadoda angakwazi ukubona ngaphezu kwekhasi, kodwa kukhona labo abheka intombazane izikhathi ezimbalwa, bafunde njengencwadi evulekile. Kulowo nalowo kithi, kukhona isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esingakwazi ukuhlaziya ukuziphatha okusobala kuphela, kodwa futhi ifihliwe. Lokhu kusho ukuthi abakhulumi kakhulu ngezenzo esenzayo, ngakho konke esikwenzayo. Futhi abantu baye bafunda ukwengeza ezimbili kanye nobili: ukubukeka kwakho, isenzo, ubuso obuseduze sekuye kwashiwo ngawe ngawe, futhi okuningi kakhulu kunalokho okushoyo.

Amadoda afundiswa ngabesifazane

Ungakhohlwa ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lo muntu akazange aziqhayise ngokuzimela kwakhe nokuzifunda kwakhe, imibono esemqoka yokuphila, ubudlelwane kanye nabesifazane babekwe ngumama wakhe. Kwakuyisibonelo sakhe esibonisa ukuthi kufanele yini i-duma yangempela. Futhi lesi sithombe siyomxosha, sitshele ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo umkayo okumelwe abe nazo. Amantombazane azwa kangaki kubafana bawo ngokuthi umama wakhe ulungisa borscht elimnandi kakhulu, uyasusa kaningi, izinkinobho ezigcotshiwe akunjalo ... Kodwa umama uyisampula esemqoka yobuntombi, ububele, ubuhle kanye nekhladezeminformation. Ngempela, ngubani, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi utshela kanjani indodana yakhe, kungani uNatasha evela ku-7-B engambheki, kungani umfundi we-first-class Olenka ehlangana nomfana ophumelele kakhulu, kungani uDaria Sergeevna ovela kumnyango wezezimali engavumelani naye uma embona. Yebo, futhi kwenzeka! Futhi lokhu akusho neze ukuthi othembekile uyindodana kamama. Kungenzeka ngenxa yokukhuliswa kwakhe eduze kwakho, manje indoda ehle. Ukubuka umama wakhe ukwakha ubuhlobo namakhoba, ukuphuma ezimweni ezinzima, ukuxazulula izinkinga nokubhekana nokubhekana nokuhlupheka, ukuthi uyabakhathalela kanjani abathandekayo bakhe, indoda ezayo ifunda ukuqonda nokuqonda abesifazane. Ngakho-ke, ulungiselele ukuthi "ekunciphiseni" wena, indoda yathola umlingani oqinile.

Futhi ekugcineni ...

Madoda othandekayo! Vula futhi uzwakala. Mhlawumbe amadoda kanye nokuhlukunyezwa kwe-lyubyaetzgadyvat futhi bakhamuluka kuzo zonke izingqungquthela ukuthi bafuna imfihlakalo futhi engaqondakaliyo, kodwa bakhangwa kulabo abazama ukufihla kubo isisekelo sabo siqu, abangakwazi ukuziveza ngokuphepha futhi bangesabi ukuba ngabanye. Futhi kusekhona izimfihlo eziningi ukuthi akudingeki ukuthi siyazi ngesigamu esiqinile sabantu.