Yiziphi izimfanelo okufanele umfana athole ithuba lokuziqhenya ngokuziqhenya ngokuthi "uphelele"?
Ngokwezengqondo ze-psychologists, umfana omuhle ezweni lanamuhla kufanele abe nenhlanganisela ehambelanayo yamanani abantu, ahlonishwe ngaso sonke isikhathi, njengamandla, ubukhulu, ubuhlakani, isikhundla sokuphila esicacile, umthwalo wemfanelo, "insimbi yezinsimbi". Kodwa futhi umfana ofanelekayo kufanele abe mnene, omnene, onakekelayo, - lezo zimfanelo zivame kakhulu kumantombazane.
Ukubukeka kungenye yezinqubo eziyinhloko ekufuneni okulungile. Futhi akukhona nje ngezici ezikhangayo namafomu. Umfana kufanele abe nenambitheka enhle, akwazi ukuthatha izingubo nezesekeli ngokwakho, wazi ukuthi uzizinake kanjani. Ukuhlanzeka, ukulungisa nokumomotheka okuthakazelisayo yizimfanelo ezibalulekile zokukhangisa kwangaphandle. Izibhulu ezidutshulwa, izinwele ezikhweleyo nezinhlanga ezinsuku ezintathu sekuyisikhathi esidlule.
Imfundo, i-intelligence, imfundo esikhathini sethu nayo idlala indima ebalulekile emfanekisweni womfana okuthiwa "ongcono emhlabeni". I-interlocutor eyithakazelisayo owaziyo ukunikeza iseluleko esiwusizo, umuntu owazi imigomo yakhe empilweni futhi uyazi ukuthi angayifinyelela kanjani, uzongena kalula emdlalweni womuntu omuhle.
Ezweni lanamuhla le-pragmatism kanye nokubala okunzima, ukuthandana nokuhlonipha abantu kufanelekile ngesisindo sabo egolide. Iyiphi intombazane engaphuzi ngezenzo zobuqili kubathandekayo bakhe, ama roses abomvu abomvu kanye nemikhumbi ebomvu ngaphezu kwalokho? Isikhathi se-candy-bouquet, imihlangano, kisses, ihamba ngaphansi kwenyanga nezinye izici ze-comedies zothando kufanele zihlale zisenkonzweni nomuntu omuhle ezweni lanamuhla.
Umfana omuhle kufanele abe umphefumulo wenkampani. Ejabule, ekudaleni, enokuzijabulisa okuhle, okulula ukukhuluma - lezi yizimfanelo umfana ogqoka isihloko esithi "uphelele". Ungase uhleke, futhi usuphelele intombazane. I-"devily" elula, ikhono lokubopha into noma ukuphonsa uthuli emehlweni futhi yamukelwa ezinye zezocansi ezifanele.
Izimfanelo ezifana nokuzidla, ukungahloniphi, ngokusho kwamantombazane amaningi, azifakiwe kwifa lomuntu ofanelekayo. Ukuhlonipha okungcono kakhulu, ikhono lokuvimbela imizwelo yabo, ukuhlambalaza okulinganiselayo ekusebenzelaneni nentombazane, ikakhulukazi ekuqaleni.
Intombazane ngayinye ezingeni elingokwemvelo ibheka noma yimuphi umfana njengoyise wezingane zakhe zesikhathi esizayo. Kusukela kulo mbono, umfana ofanelekayo kufanele akhuthaze, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuzethemba nokuthembela. "Mzwele njengodonga lwamatshe" - lena iphupho lamantombazane amaningi. Ngakho-ke, umfana omuhle ezweni lanamuhla kufanele aphumelele, azethembe, ahlonipheke, athembekile, athembekile. Amantombazane amaningi angathanda ukubona esoka lakhe, indoda engakwazi ukuphendula ngezenzo zabo futhi ikwazi ukusiza kunoma yisiphi isimo.
Kubonakala sengathi kulezi zithombe ezingenhla kwakungenzeka ngokujwayelekile ukwakha isithombe somuntu ofanelekayo ezweni lanamuhla. Kodwa ukuhlanganisa zonke lezi zimfanelo ngokuphoqeleka kude nonke. Futhi kuyadingeka yini? Intombazane ngayinye yindoda yakhe ethandayo - ekahle. Uma uthanda, kulula ukuvumelanisa nokungaphumeleli okunye, futhi sonke isithunzi sibaluleke kakhulu. Abantu abaphelele abakho. Into esemqoka kumuntu yikhono lokuthanda nokuhlonipha umlingani, isifiso sokuthuthukisa, ngakho isithombe se-ekahle ngeke sibe kude!