Ngeshwa, lokhu kuvame ukutholakala ezindabeni zamatheksthi noma ama-melodramas kunokuphila kwangempela. Ngakho ukuhloswe ekuthuthukiseni ukuqonda kwakho uhlobo luthando kuyimpahla ebaluleke kakhulu futhi ebalulekile yomlingiswa wesifazane. Cabanga ukuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani ngokuhlakanipha ukuba ube ngowesifazane ohlakaniphile, futhi ungabanjwa kuwebhu yezimfundiso eziyimpumputhe nolwazi olungenalwazi, ukungahambi kahle nokubandlulula.
Yazi wena
Esikhundleni sokunikela ngezikhali zempi zikaDon Quixote nokulwa nemimoya yomoya yonke impilo yakhe, kuyasiza ukuhlala phansi ucabange ngokuphila. Iphupho, porefleksirovat, hlola isichazamazwi sezinkanyezi noma izinhlamvu zomlando. Yebo, yebo ufunde amanoveli ukuqonda isimo semicabango phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. Akudingekile nje ukuba uzuze ubumnandi besikhashana ngokufunda incwadi enenzuzo noma ukubukela ifilimu ephumelelayo. Kubalulekile ukuyeka ngezinye izikhathi ucabange-futhi okubonwayo nokuzwakalayo kufanelekile kimi. Njengoba ngangisabela, nokuthi yini engingayenza ukuze ngishintshe lesi simo ngendlela efanele.
Basiza futhi ngezinkulumo zenhliziyo ngenhliziyo nabangani, futhi bamane nabanye besifazane. Qaphela umndeni wabazali, funda ukulandelana kwabazali bakho kanye nobaba babo. Thola izindaba eziphindaphindiwe ngokuphathelene namadoda, bese uzama ukuqonda uma ufuna ukuphila ngokuvumelana nesimo esinjalo noma ufisa ukushintsha kakhulu.
Shintsha wena
Emva kokuqonda ukuthi yini oyifunayo emadodeni nasekuphileni, kufanelekile ukuthuthela esenzweni. Funda ukuphumula ngokukhululekile ukwamukela okuthandayo futhi ukhululekile, futhi ufunde ukulwa nokungaphumeleli.
Kunezincwadi eziningi eziwusizo zengqondo, ifilosofi, inhlalakahle, equkethe amathiphu kanye nokuzivocavoca okwenza kube lula ukuqonda ukuthi ungaba kanjani owesifazane ohlakaniphile ekusebenzelaneni namadoda, kodwa futhi ukuyiqaphela ngokusebenzayo. Zifanele imisebenzi emincane, isibonelo, ukulwa nobuvila noma eminye imikhuba emibi.
Izinkinga ezinkulu ezingokwengqondo ekusebenzelaneni namadoda zixazululwa kangcono nongcweti. Manje kunezifundo eziningi ezimangalisayo nokubonisana ngabanye ezindabeni zothando, umndeni nomshado. Ngokuyinhloko, akuzona nje ezingabizi nje, kodwa futhi kusiza ukujabulisa, thola abangane abasha kanye nokuhlangana ndawonye ngezintshisekelo.
Yazi indoda
Ukwazi amandla akho nobuthakathaka, ukugcwalisa izifiso ezifihliwe nokulwa nokungaphumeleli, kungumsebenzi wempumelelo kuphela ekusebenzelaneni namadoda. Uma unesithakazelo esibucayi emibutheni mayelana nokuthi ungaba kanjani owesifazane ohlakaniphile ngokuqondene namadoda, kufanele ufunde okuyisisekelo sengqondo yesilisa. Izinkinga eziningi ebuhlotsheni zivela kuphela ngoba owesifazane uhlulela umuntu wedwa. Ikakhulukazi ukukhathazeka ngabesifazane abakhulele emndenini ongaphelele, lapho kwakungekho ubaba noma ngisho nabafowabo. Amadoda awabi kakhulu futhi angcono kunabesifazane, ahlukile. Babona izwe ngokuhlukile, bacabange ngokuhlukile, hhayi nakancane njengoba sifuna, babonise uthando lwabo. Ikhono lokubona nokuqonda izisusa zangempela zokuziphatha komuntu kumvumela ukuba akhe ubuhlobo obuvumelana naye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, njengoba nje kulesi simo ngokuqeqeshwa, ukutadisha kwengqondo yabantu akusizi nje kuphela, kodwa futhi umsebenzi othakazelisayo. Okokuqala, kunezincwadi ezibhaliwe ezihlekisayo ezingqondweni zohlukwano phakathi kwamadoda nabesifazane (libizwa nangokuthi i-psychology yesini). Okwesibili, kukhona ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile lapho amadoda nabesifazane bafunda ukuqonda futhi basebenzise ukuxhumana. Njenganoma yikuphi ukuqeqeshwa, aziqukethe kuphela ukuqonda, kodwa futhi nokuzijabulisa ingxenye.
Gwema ukuguqula indoda
Akuhlakaniphile ukuba owesifazane ohlakaniphile ahloniphe indima yakhe ebuhlotsheni, ngisho nangaphezulu ekuphileni komuntu. Uthando luqine kunanoma yimiphi imithetho, futhi ngokuvamile luguqula kokubili indoda nowesifazane, futhi, njengomthetho, kube ngcono. Kodwa ukugxekwa nanoma yikuphi ukuzama ukufundisa kabusha umuntu, kunganciphisa noma yikuphi, ngisho nobuhlobo obuqinile kakhulu. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanelekile "ukuthandaza" kumuntu, futhi usebenza kuphela kuwe. Kunoma yiluphi udaba, kunencazelo yegolide. Ngakho-ke zama ukwamukela umuntu njengoba kunjalo, nazo zonke izinzuzo kanye nezimo ezimbi. Uma engeyona idiot, uzozibonga ngalesi simo sengqondo, futhi uzolwela ukuba umngane wakho omkhulu nomthandi wakhe emhlabeni wonke. Futhi uma usenenkinga noma ukungqubuzana, zama ukukhuluma ngokungagwegwesi futhi ukhulume nomuntu kangako mayelana nokuthi unecala kanjani le nkinga, kungakanani ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngenkinga, futhi yiziphi izindlela eziphuma kuzo isimo uyabona. Amadoda athembeke kakhulu kumabango athize futhi awabekezelelanga amacebo kanye nokwaziswa. Ukwazi leli qiniso elilula, ungakwazi ukunqoba cishe noma yikuphi ubunzima ekusebenzelaneni nomthandekayo wakho.