Ukulandela iseluleko sososayensi wezengqondo: ukuthi ungabangela kanjani intukuthelo nokulwa nomyeni, wena, mhlawumbe, ugcine umndeni wakho kulokhu kushaywa. Ngaphandle kohlobo lwe-psychology nokubonakaliswa kobudlova, zingahlukaniswa zibe izinhlobo ezimbili eziyinhloko zokuhlelwa kokuziphatha nokuqhamuka kokuhlukumezeka: labo abahlasela ngokuhlukumezayo, ngaphandle kwesizathu, nalabo abahlaselwe ukuhlaselwa, futhi ukubonakaliswa kobudlova kwenzeka lapho okuthiwa "iphuzu lokubilisa" lifinyelelwe.
Cabanga ngohlobo lokuqala, okungahle lubhekiswe ekuxilongweni "kokungaboni kahle komuntu." Kwabesilisa ababukisa ngobuciko, ngenxa yesizathu esicacile, kukhona ukwephulwa okucacile kwe-psyche. Isici esithakazelisayo yukuthi ngesikhathi sokudabuka kwentukuthelo abazange bakhulise ukucindezela nokushaya kwenhliziyo. Lokhu kufakazela ukuthi ubudlova buxhunyaniswe nengqondo yabo, njengokujwayelekile, njengenoma iyiphi inqubo evamile. Iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo mayelana nomyeni wakhe nalolu hlobo lwesifo ngeke sibe mbalwa. Azikho izici ezicacile ezivusa ukuhlukunyezwa. Kodwa ukuze sikuqonde, ake sicabangele ukuqaphela kwalolu hlobo. Amadoda anjalo agxilile amandla negunya phezu komkakhe. Abangeke banamathele kuso, njengokungathi kumuntu, kubonakala ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba khona kwalowo ohlukumezekile, lapho bangabonisa khona ukuthi baphakeme. Uma umfazi emshiya - uthola esinye isisulu futhi isibonelo sokuziphatha kwakhe sizophindaphinda.
Kuloluhlobo lwengozi yokuthola iqembu elisebuntwaneni elihlukile ebusweni be-sadism ezibhekiswe ezilwaneni, ukweba okuncane, ukweba, bese kuhluke ngokuziphatha okungafani nobuntu, ubugebengu. Okokuqala, kuyinkinga yomuntu. Ngabantu abanalo lolu hlobo akunakwenzeka ukuba baphile, ngakho-ke uma umyeni wakho engena ehlobo olufanayo, kungcono ukuzondla wena nomndeni wakho. Naphezu kokuthi lolu hlobo luyingcosana, nguye okwazi ukubulala ubuhlungu obukhulu kakhulu.
Uhlobo oluvame kakhulu luyinto "evuselela" ngesikhathi sokuhlambalaza, futhi ukuziphatha kwayo kungacasulwa futhi kukhutshwe, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi kuvamile. Ummeleli we-classic uhlushwa phakathi kwemizwa exubene nomkakhe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, akayithandi, kodwa ngesinye isingqondo ngokweqile kuye, njengomuthi. Lokhu kubonisa ukuthi lowo muntu ususwe ebuntwini bomfazi, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kufakwe imisebenzi yakhe. Ngokungafani nohlobo lwangaphambili, akunakwenzeka ukuba le ndoda ihambe, izama ukulawula konke futhi ngeke ivumele umkakhe ukuba ahlukanise, esebenzisa ubudlova, ukushaya, ukusongela ukulawula isimo. Ubukela ngokuqondile amagama nezinyathelo, ulawula umkakhe. Uqinisekile ukuthi uma engabusi phezu kwakhe, alawule futhi abonise ukuhlukunyezwa, umkakhe uyomshiya. Ukuqeda ukuthukuthela, ukumshaya, empeleni ujezisa umkakhe ngenxa yobuthakathaka bakhe kanye nesidingo salokho. Ezingqondweni zakhe, kunezimo zengqondo umphakathi obeka kuye, izithunzi zakhe ezicabangela "indoda yangempela". Futhi kuloluhlobo lubhekene nokuvinjelwa kolwazi lomphakathi. Angase angaqondi kahle amagama akho, qamba into engekho. Ubuye nomhawu kakhulu, noma yikuphi ukudlala ngothando okubonakalayo kungabonakala njengengxabano, futhi kunciphise ukukhulumisana kwakho nabanye abantu. Ngelinye igama, ulawula wena kukho konke, futhi uma wenza isimangalo noma uzoshiya - uyaba nolaka. Iseluleko sososayensi wezengqondo singukuthi singabangela ukulwa nokuthukuthela kulokhu: ungabonisi izinhloso ezimbi, ungazami ukuthatha isikhundla esiphakeme somyeni. Kubonakala sengathi bonke abafazi bangamahloni futhi abesabisayo, kodwa lokhu akusi njalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba bona ngokwabo bangabonisa ukwanda okwedlulele, futhi ngisho nokunye okushoyo. Indoda ejwayele ubudlova ibheka ukuthi isenzo sakhe siyiqiniso, ngoba yena "ugijime" ngendlela enjalo, ngakho-ke kulula kakhulu ukudala ukulwa nomyeni onjalo, owesifazane kufanele aqaphe.
Uma ufuna iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo, ucabanga ngokujulile ngokuthi ungabangela kanjani ukulwa nomyeni wakho nokuthi ungagwema kanjani intukuthelo yomyeni wakho, cabanga ukuthi uyayidinga yini. Ingabe kuyadingeka ukuba uhlale ukhawulelwe, ulawule ukuziphatha kwakho kuze kube yilapho ungasebenzi bese uhlala nomyeni wakho we-tyrant? Cabanga ngezingane zakho, lolu hlobo lomuntu ngeke lusabe ukuphakamisa isandla phezu kwengane yakho. Khumbula ukuthi "umsebenzi we-sadist nomdlwenguli" uqala lapho, ekuphileni komyeni, kuguquke kwenzeka, lapho eqaphela ukuthi kungenzeka ukushaya. Ungavumeli lokhu kwenzeke, uma kungenjalo konke kulahlekile. Kusukela ekuqaleni, ungathetheleli noma uzisole umyeni wakho, bhala isitatimende, uthathe izithembiso ngokubhala, ujezise, uhambe isikhathi esithile, umenze abe namahloni, ngezwi - makangqaphele ukuthi lokhu ngeke kudlule kuye, makabe nomuzwa wesabekayo salesi simo. Lokhu akulona ngokweqile, kuyadingeka ukuthi kungabi yisisulu kanye nokukhubazeka.