Indlela yokubhekana nesizungu akusona owesifazane osemusha

Esihlokweni esithi "Indlela yokubhekana nesizungu akusona owesifazane osemusha" sizokutshela indlela yokubhekana nesizungu. Lesi sitatimende, esithi "Ungowesifazane osekhulile" uzwakala ukuthuka. Ukushada komfazi kungumphumela wokuphumelela nenhlalakahle, futhi kubonisa ukuthi lokhu noma lowo wesifazane kude kangakanani. Kuthiwani uma ungumsikazi omdala? Kufanele yini ngingayinaki le nkulumo, futhi ngiqhubeke, kanye naphambi kokuphila, noma ngizame ukuthola indoda?

Lapho uhlangana nabakwa-alumni, noma kunini umbuzo wokuqala uwukuthi: "Ushadile?". Futhi emva kwakho konke, yini ehlambalaza kakhulu, ungabuzi ngokuphakama nokuphumelela, hhayi ngempumelelo kulo msebenzi, kodwa kuphela ngakho.

Kodwa lokhu kungukuphila, futhi owesifazane uhloselwe ukuba nomndeni, izingane, ukuqhubeka nomphakathi wesintu. Kungenxa yalezi zigaba ukuthi impumelelo yayo ilinganiswa. Futhi uma ngemuva kokuphothula iziqu eminyakeni engu-10, 20 noma engu-30 kungekho lutho, baqala ukuzwelana naye. Bamomotheka ngobuningi, bejabule usizi lomunye umuntu, noma baqala ukunikeza izinsizakalo zabo, babubula futhi bakhala. Njengoba ufuna ukuwathulisa, ngesikhathi esifanayo ubonise ukuthi uyabaluleka, ngakho-ke ufuna ukufaka wonke umuntu ebhande.

Inkinga ayifanele iqanda elidliwayo, ekuqaleni kokubuka. Futhi kusuka emidlalweni engafanele futhi engathandeki kufanele nje uyiqede, futhi ungayinaki. Emva kwakho konke, ekugcineni, konke kukuthinta wena futhi akekho omunye, kungukuphila kwakho komuntu siqu. Kodwa into edabukisayo yukuthi uzibuze lo mbuzo, bese ungakwazi ukukhohlisa wena futhi awukwazi ukuhamba noma kuphi. Uma usuvele useneminyaka engama-30 ubudala, awusenayo umndeni, ngakho-ke lokhu kutholakala ukuthi uzibeka wena.

Iplanethi yabesifazane abangashadile
Izazi zezenhlalakahle zithi iplanethi yethu izoba yiplanethi yabesifazane abangashadile, lokhu kwenzeka kakhulu, okungukuthi isizungu besifazane. Futhi lokhu kubesifazane, abaneminyaka yabo eyedlula iminyaka engamashumi amane. Futhi ngenxa yalokho kunezizathu ezizwakalayo.

Ngokwezibalo, inani labesifazane lidlula amadoda. Njengoba uneminyaka yobudala, igebe liyakhula, ngoba abantu banesikhathi esincane sokuphila, nokufa okuphezulu. Ngokwesibonelo, eRussia kunamadoda angaphansi kwezigidi eziyishumi kunabesifazane, e-Ukraine, abesifazane abane balandela indoda eyodwa. Futhi lapha izibalo azikhulumi ngokuqondene nabesifazane.

Amadoda amaningi abe nemikhuba emibi, izinkinga endaweni yokuhlala, impilo, umholo, umsebenzi, nomthetho, njalonjalo. Ukukhula okuphawulekayo kobuchwepheshe besifazane abathintekayo emphakathini wamasiko nezombangazwe, ukuphishekela amathuba kanye namalungelo alinganayo, ukuzimela kwezezimali kubangele ukwanda kwezimfuno zowesifazane. Ukuhlala njalo besakha abesifazane besimanje abakwazi ukunciphisa ngokungenamkhawulo ibha futhi bafuna ukubona eduze kwamadoda, ezingeni elifanayo, futhi mhlawumbe ephakeme.

Ukufuduka okukhulu kwabantu ukuya emadolobheni, lapho indlela yokuphila ihamba khona ibanga labantu bevela komunye nomunye, lihlukaniswe, futhi liphenduka isizungu esibi esixukwini. Ngokusho kwemibiko emisha yezibalo, ukuhlangenwe nakho kokuphila kwabesifazane abangashadile kwaphenywa, futhi bafika esiphethweni sokuthi ithuba lokuba owesifazane oneminyaka engu-40 ubudala angashade naye ngu-20%. Kodwa akudingeki ukholwe izibalo, udinga ukuhlangabezana nenjabulo yakho. Kunoma ikuphi, kungakuphazamisa ekungapheleli kwakho nasemicabangweni edabukisayo. Futhi kuqala thola ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngelebula "umsikazi omdala."

Bangabani abafazi abangashadile?
1. Labo "abangaqhutshwa" kule ndaba, futhi babhekisela eqinisweni lokuthi abashadile, njengento ethile yesikhashana. Bathi abazange bahlangane nomuntu onokuxhumana nabo.

2. Labo abakhala emilenzeni, balungisa, bahlangene, abanolwazi njalonjalo. Ngokwemvelo bafuna ukusondelana futhi besabe ngokwesaba, bangena emgodini wabo ngokungazelelwe futhi bangene esiteshini besaba.

3. Isimiso futhi siqinisekisile abesifazane besimatasa emisebenzini yabo futhi ngenhloso yokugwema umshado. Babheka amadoda ukuba abe abantu abalinganiselwe, abangcolile, abaphansi, abangafanelanga ukunakekelwa kwabesifazane abayigugu. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, lokhu akubavimbeli ukuba basebenzise ukuzithokozisa ngokocansi, njengabaxhasi, emsebenzini osizayo.

Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bahlukanisa kanjani futhi babelane ngalokhu, iqiniso lihlala lokuthi laba besifazane bangashadile. Futhi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bangabani iqembu, badinga ukubeka izethulo zabo, indlela yokuthuthela enjabulweni. Owesifazane ngamunye une "potion" yakhe siqu.

Umuntu angawususa kanjani isizungu?
Ungazakhohlisi.
Ukuze ungakhulumi emphakathini, lo noma lo wesifazane, okufanayo owesifazane ovamile ufuna ukuba nomthandekayo, izingane, umndeni futhi ujabule eduze komuntu othandekayo.

Abesifazane, bezivikela ngokumelene nemibuzo engathandeki nokuhlaselwa, bakhetha ukucabangela iphutha ngenjabulo yabo ngaphandle komuntu. Bagcizelela ukuthi abafuni ukushada ngesimiso. Abadingi amadoda, banezinkinga kuphela. Njengoba zicebile, zanele ngokwanele, ziphumelele, njalonjalo. Eqinisweni, konke lokhu ubuqili, isizungu akuletha ukwaneliseka, akududuzi noma kumhlobisa owesifazane. Ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho nabesifazane abazimele kakhulu bafuna ukuthandwa, hhayi abantu abakhululekile, ababuthakathaka nabancikile. Ngenkathi kanye kanye empilweni yabo baqeda ubuchopho babo ngombuzo onjalo: "Kungani kungenanhlanhla kubantu?".

Nweba umhlaba wonke
Shiya isikhwama sakho, ngoba unethuba lokuphenduka i-butterfly, kuze kube yilapho bona beba ugogo. Labo besifazane abathinta isizungu sabo okwesikhashana, benze konke ukuze bakwazi ukuwuqeda, banamathuba amaningi okujabula ngaphezu kwalabo abagibela emgodini bese bebeka isiphambano.

Kuphela, kunezinzuzo eziningi: akudingeki ukuthi umuntu ahlupheke ezenzweni ezimbi nakwezinye izinkinga zabantu, akudingeki ukuba kuncike kunoma ubani, wabelane, akudingeki ukuba ahlole noma ubani, akekho olungisa, owenza noma owenzayo.

Wena uyiyinkosikazi yokuphila kwakho futhi ungowakho. Mhlawumbe ucabanga ukuthi uma ushada, ulahlekelwa yileli thuba, ungabe usuhlala kanjani? Gwema ukusondelana, ngenxa yokwesaba ukuba ithoyizi ezandleni zomunye umuntu futhi ugibe emigibeni? Yiqiniso, awufuni ukuthi abakuzungezile bafunde "abangajabuli", "i-narcissistic", "abaziqhenyayo", "baxube"? Ngemva kwalokhu, noma yimuphi umuntu ozofuna ukuxhumana nawe, futhi athole ingcebo engapheli yomphefumulo wakho. Abalandeli abanjalo ngosuku abanomlilo ngeke uwuthole.

Indlela yokuthola umyeni?
Ungayeki ukusesha
Awuzange uzenzele uhlelo lwenjabulo yakho? Kungaba yizinkolelo ukukholelwa ukuthi lizowa esibhakabhakeni, kulabo abaqhamuka izinyembezi phezu kwe-soap opas, ama-lazybones? Kodwa sihlalaphi ikhulu leminyaka? Ungavumeli ukuhamba ngezandla zakho. Udinga ukuqhubekela phambili ukuhlangabezana nokuphela kwakho. Okunye okumele kwenziwe njalo, okufunwa.

Kunezindlela eziningi zokuzijwayeza, ngisho nalokho "izimbongolo ezingenathemba, ezesaba ukunamathela ekhaleni labo elingenakufinyeleleka. Lezi zingxenyeni ezingapheli ze-intanethi, isakhiwo sokufika, isitimu, umsebenzi, ukuphumula, ezemidlalo, amakilabhu ezithakazelisayo. Futhi uhlu olunjalo lungase luqhubeke futhi luqhubeke, kungaba yisifiso sakho. Abaningi banamahloni ukufuna injabulo yabo, bacabanga ukuthi kunzima ukuhlela impilo yakho siqu.

Kodwa ingabe le ndawo elula ehlanzekile yenza kuletha injabulo? Ngabe kukhona owake wazizwa kangcono kunesizotha sakho, futhi uma kungenjalo, kungani usalokhu uhlezi ekhaya? Noma uneminyaka engaphezu kwamakhulu amabili asele?

Ungasindiswa ngokuba yedwa
Abanye bakhuthele emabhizinisini, bajoyine i-marathon, ukuthi bakhohlwe ngokuphila ngokujwayelekile nangokuphila okuvamile. Ungagxila kule nkinga, kuzokwenza kube nzima kakhulu. Ungacabangi ngokubaluleka kwayo, kungcono ukuvumela ukuthi kube ngumdlalo, bese kuthi uma usebenza, kuzoba kuhle, kodwa hhayi okuhle kakhulu, ngoba kushiya ukulindela nethemba ithoni. Ukuphila kufanele kuphathwe kalula bese kuzoba mnandi futhi kulula.

Ekuphileni komuntu siqu, lokhu kuyadingeka, ngoba konke kubonakala njalo empilweni yakho, isibalo, ubuso. Futhi-ke iba ngumphakathi, okuzophinde ikuthumbule ngemibuzo.

Zisebenze ngokwakho
Zonke lezi zinkinga zabesifazane, ezihlobene nobuhlobo namadoda kanye nokuntuleka komndeni, zonke ziphathwa ngosizo lokuzicabangela ngokucophelela, i-yoga, ezemidlalo, ukudla, izincwadi ezihlakaniphile kanye nezengqondo. Lo msebenzi wangaphakathi wenza abesifazane bajabule futhi bavumelane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi udale umndeni, noma kuze kube yinto engenzeki, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kukhona umuntu oseduze noma cha. Imfihlo eyinhloko ingaphakathi kwabesifazane bonke, futhi ukhiye awukho esikhwameni somuntu, kodwa ephaketheni lakho.

Indlela yokubhekana nesizungu
Uma ufika ekhaya, ushiywe wedwa. Futhi i-melancholy ephuzi imfene imbozwe ngesiqu esincane. I-TV isivele iyilungu lomndeni, ukhuluma neziteshi zomsakazo ozithandayo. Ulungele ukungabi nomuzwa wokuthi unesizungu, ukubhekana nanoma yiziphi izintambo. Ukuba nesizungu kungukuqaphela ngokwakho kanye nesimo esikhethekile sokuhlangenwe nakho. Isizungu sizalwa emphefumulweni, lo mzwa, isipiliyoni. Ngempela, ezweni langempela sizungezwe abantu futhi okungenani sizungezwe omakhelwane, osebenza nabo emsebenzini, endleleni abahamba ngayo abajwayelekile-ngokuhlangana nsuku zonke. Ukuzizwa yedwa kuyindlela yokuhlangenwe nakho nokuqaphela ukuthi ungenamakhaya, ulahlekelwe okungadingekile, unqatshelwe, ukhohliwe, uqothulwe, ushiywe yibo bonke. Yiziphi izizathu ezenza lokho emphakathini onomdlandla, owesifazane uzizwa eyedwa.

Izizathu ezenza uzizwe unesizungu
1. Kuphelile ukulindela
Kukhona izindinganiso zethu, azihambisani ngaso sonke isikhathi nezindinganiso zabanye. Kubonakala ngathi singathandeki, kuyesabeka, kuyisiphukuphuku. Ukusesha i-superman ekahle kungadonselwa isikhathi eside, futhi usongo lokuhlala lodwa lukhula kancane.
Isixazululo sethu. Akudingekile ukucinga umngane omuhle noma umuntu ofanelekayo, emva kokuba yonke imibono engekho. Ngokuvamile isithombe esihle asisekelwe empilweni yangempela yokuphila, kodwa senziwe ezithombeni, umculo, amabhayisikobho, izincwadi. Kulesi simo, uxhumano oluphukile nezwe langempela alubonakali ukuthi ezweni langempela laba bantu bangase bangabi yizixhumanisi ezinhle, abathandi, abangani njengeziqhawe kuleli filimu. Kunoma yimuphi umuntu, ungathola inombolo enkulu yezici ezingalungile, futhi uma ugxila kuzo, izobhubhisa uxhumano. Isixazululo esingcono kakhulu ukugxila ezintweni ezibonakalayo.

2. Ukwesaba ukulahlwa, futhi ngenxa yalokho, ukwesaba ukuxhumana
Ukwesaba ukwenqatshwa, ukwesaba - konke lokho kusekelwe ekuzithembeni okuphansi. Laba bantu besaba ukulahlwa, ngenxa yokwesaba ukungathandeki. Futhi bakhela udonga lwesiShayina phakathi kwabo kanye nabantu ababazungezile. Uma ucabanga ukuthi awufanelanga uthando, ngeke kube khona. Abantu abanesizungu abakwazi ukuxazulula noma yiliphi ibhizinisi noma inkinga yomuntu siqu, bavumelane ngento ethile, banenkinga lapho befuna ukushayela omunye umuntu, abakwazi ukuzijabulisa ngempela ezinkampanini.

Isixazululo sethu. Kudingeka ukukhulumisana, njengokungathi ungathandeki futhi kunzima. Uma ungasho izwi, umuntu uzokuthanda kanjani? Ingabe kunengqondo ukuthi uhlale ekhaya? Phela, indoda esemqoka nje ayibonakali futhi ayihambisani kahle ngaphansi kombhede. Awudingi ukuzenza sengathi ungumqhawe webhayisikili odumile, ngaphambi kokuba eneminyaka engama-40 ubudala, ebheke ngaphansi kombhede ezama ukuthola indoda, futhi ngemva kweminyaka engama-40 ebeke omunye umbhede, ukuze amathuba okujwayela avele.

Akekho okhansele ama-nightclub kanye nama-karaoke bars, igym, ibhuku lokubhukuda futhi uhamba nabangani. Abaningi bazijwayele kwi-intanethi. Lokhu akuyona njalo isihluthulelo sempumelelo, ngokuvamile amadoda afuna ubudlelwane ngobusuku obu-1 kuphela. Abantu abaningi banamahloni okuya ezindaweni zomphakathi noma emgwaqeni, kodwa kuyi-Internet abesabi ukudlala ngothando, ukudlala ngothando, abesabi ukuveza imizwa yabo. Kuyafaneleka ukukhetha ngokucophelela abangane bakho, akudingeki ukuba ubophe entanyeni ye-blonde yokuqala yokuqala esithombeni, ngoba uthi uyathandeka kakhulu ekuthatheni izithombe. Uma ucabanga ukuthi awufanelanga uthando, ngeke kube khona uthando.

3. Ukungafuni ukukhulumisana okungaqondakali
Abantu abanjalo bathanda futhi bafuna ukuxhumana, kodwa ngokushesha balahlekelwa isithakazelo futhi bakhathele. Ukuzizwa unesizungu kusekelwe ekuziphatheni, ngezici zomuntu siqu, okungukuthi, kuzilungiselelo ezingaqondakali ezinzima ukuzilungisa.

Zithande wena, phila ngokuvumelana nezwe lakho langaphakathi, ngokuvumelana nawe, ziphilele wena. Ngeke kube lula. Ukuze uqale, kuzodingeka ukuthi ubone umhlaba, njengokuba kubonakala ngabasebenzi abahlala bexosha ngemuva kweminyango yabo, ngamehlo kagogo wabo, abanesithakazelo sokuthi kungani uneminyaka engu-30 ubudala ngaphandle kwabantwana futhi ungashadile? Thatha izingalo zokuqinisekiswa nokuqeqesha ngokuzenzakalela, ukhohlwe ukuthi zikhona. Zichitha isikhathi sakho, unakekele izinto ozithandayo, ukuze usuku lonke lugcwele imizwa emihle. Uma ungafuni ukugeza izitsha, ungahlambi, akekho ozoyibona, futhi lokhu kuyinhloko kanye nesizungu. Ungalalela umculo, ufunde ibhuku lakho ozithandayo, uthathe ukugeza okufudumele, uhambe ngaphambi kokulala, buka i-movie oyikhonzile.

Kumuntu ovutha ukuvumelana, ezingeni elingaqondakali, abantu bayolwela kuye. Ukuzijabulisa okuhle, ukuthemba, ukumamatheka okuqotho nokungokoqobo ngeke kushiye abantu abazungezile. Uma imicabango yakho ihlala yedwa, khona-ke umbuthano ononya ongeke ukwazi ukuwaphula. Buza umbuzo? Ingabe ukuphila kuyoba kuhle uma uhlala ngesimiso esithi "kungcono ukuba nomunye kunomunye?" Konke ngawe, udinga ukushintsha ukuze unganisi isandla kwabanye, kodwa ukuze ubalekele unesizungu. Uma sithi sodwa, lokhu kubonisa ukuthi akukho "isikhulu sehhashi elimhlophe." Shintsha indlela yakho yesizungu futhi uzibuze ukuthi yini okudingayo ukuze ushintshe kuwe, ukuze ungabi nesizungu. Kungcono ukulwa nomuntu oyedwa.

Ukuzivocavoca kuzokusiza
1. "Isicelo"
Umkhawulo wokuxhumana udinga ukususwa ngokusho kwemigomo yokwelapha okwethusa. Qala izivivinyo ngesicelo.
Buza imibuzo kubadluli, njengokungathi kudlula, ngengozi. Thola amagama alula.
"Ungangisiza?" ... "Ngangifuna ukukubuza" noma "Kungaba kuhle uma wangisiza," ngenkathi kucacisa ukuthi ngeke uphuthele uma wenqatshiwe. Lezi zicelo eziqaphileyo, uma wazi kusengaphambili ukuthi uzokwenqatshwa, futhi kufanele nje uzijwayeze ukwehluleka, futhi kusengaphambili udinga ukuyiqonda. Ngeke kube nokuthukuthela, ngeke kube khona ubunzima ekukhulumisaneni.

2. "Usuku lomzabalazo wokulwa nesizungu"
Khetha usuku ekupheleni komsebenzi, kungaba ngoLwesihlanu noma ngoMgqibelo, uma ungakwazi ukuhamba nokusebenza kwebhodi lakho ozithandayo noma eklabhu noma embukisweni, ngegama elilodwa lapho ukhululekile khona. Uhlose ukuhlanganisa okuwusizo nomnandi, futhi uye lapho hhayi kuphela ukulalela noma ukubona, kodwa ekuqeqesheni ekukhulumisaneni. Vele uye kumuntu owakuthandayo, bese ubuza umbono wakhe ngalesi senzakalo. Udinga ukukhumbula ngokumomotheka nokugcina isimo sengqondo esihle.

Ukuzindla "Umlilo Wami"
Njengoba kungacabangi ukuthi kuyinqaba, udinga ukulwa nawe wodwa nesizungu. Enye yezindlela eziphumelelayo, kuyoba ukuzindla, okuhloswe ukubuyisela ukuvumelanisa nokuthola ingaphakathi langaphakathi. Vala amehlo akho, cabanga ukuthi sekusebusuku. Washiya indlu futhi wadabula epaki. Ungasheshi, vele uhambe wena. Iqhwa livunguza emigqeni yezibani, emgwaqweni oqhekekile womgwaqo. Ume futhi ujabulela iqhwa. Phakamisa amehlo akho ubone izindlu ezinefasitela ezikhanyayo, lapho ukukhanya kusha. Futhi efasiteleni ngalinye lizwe elincane.

Cabanga ukuthi ngaphakathi kwakho, futhi, lokhu kukhanya kuvutha. Kukunikeza ukuthula okufudumele nenduduzo. Futhi lokho akukwenzeki, kuyoshisa ngokukhanya okuzolile, okufudumele, okucacile. Ukukhanya lulimi lomlilo, ungalithatha ezandleni zakho, futhi lapha liphambi kwakho, ezandleni zakho. Mbonge ngokuthula nokufudumala. Yamukela ukukhanya futhi uyibuyise. Manje uzohlala nawe njalo. Vula amehlo akho.
Manje siyazi ukuthi singabhekana kanjani nesizungu akusona owesifazane osemusha. Yazi ukuthi isizungu sizalwa emphefumulweni wakho. Ngakho, ungayishintsha.