Uyazi ukuthi umuzwa uma ungahlangabezane neseyinsizwa, usulungele ukumnika konke ngesikhathi esisodwa? Uma kunjalo, qaphela! Mhlawumbe unesibindi sokudlala indima ekhono njengendoda yokudlala, esebenzisa i-naivete yakho, iqinisa ubuhlakani bakhe bokukhohlisa amantombazane. Kusukela ezikhathini zasendulo, ukudukisa amantombazane nabesifazane, uCasanova, kwaziwa. Kuze kube manje, lo mkhuba we "pickup" noma, ngesiRussia, ubuciko bokukhohlisa, bukhulu kakhulu emibuthanweni yabantu abasha ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi ucabanga ngokuzibandakanya, futhi ubani manje ongaphambi kwami? Umfana othandweni, noma ufeza ngokuphumelelayo indima yakhe njengomculi we-pick-up?
Izici ezijwayelekile zokuqoqa :
- Unokubonakala okungenakuqhathaniswa, okungukuthi, ukusika, ukuphunga, ukuhanjiswa nokunye okunjalo;
- Izindawo zokuhlala zihlala ezindaweni ezinabantu abaningi, ezivame ukudlala ngothando, ama-clubs e-etonochnye kaningi, ama-bars, izindawo zokudla, ama-discos, i-billiard, emsebenzini nasemiphakathini yonke;
- Baneendlela ezingavumelani nobuhlobo, okungukuthi, bazijwayele kuqala, bahlukumeza, bese bebuya;
- Bangabantu abahlukumezekile kakhulu, banomqondo omuhle wokuhleka usulu, bangalokothi bahlale bethula, bazi inamba enkulu yezindaba eziphefumula ngokuhlale zizocansi;
- Zama ukuthinta njalo intombazane;
- Ungalokothi ukhokhele ukuphumula;
- Emva kwesithakazelo esincane kakhulu kumuntu wabo bazama ukuthatha isisulu esilandelayo ngangokunokwenzeka endaweni enomsindo bese beletha icala kuze kube sekupheleni, ukulala ocansini intombazane.
Izindlela zokudukisa abaculi be-pick-up
Ukuze uthole umphumela wokugcina nge-ending, ukuthutha kusetshenziswa izindlela eziyishumi zokukhohlisa. Ake sixoxe ngakho futhi sikhumbule, ukuze singawa ngezinyathelo zalezi "zinkohlakalo zocansi." Lezi zindlela ezijwayelekile:
- ukuxhumana okubonakalayo nentombazane, okungukuthi, ukuhlola ijubane lokuphendula kwesisulu esizayo futhi ukubiza isithakazelo esiyinhloko kumuntu siqu;
- lapho bekhuluma, bahlale beveza ukuhlonipha intombazane, bagcizelele ubuntu bakhe obuyingqayizivele futhi beyingqayizivele, benza ukuncoma ngendlela engabonakaliyo yokwesaba umuntu ohluphekayo ongakholwa;
- kudala umqondo womfana olula futhi oqotho, bese uhlanganisa amasu e-Eriksonian hypnosis, ngosizo lwewashi lokubala elingathandana nentombazane;
- ngesikhathi yengxoxo baziphatha ngokuzivimbela futhi bazame njalo ukuvula isiteshi sezingxoxo ngokuya ekutholeni idatha mayelana nentombazane uqobo, futhi engazikhulumi. Ukuthola lolu lwazi, bakhe amaqhinga "wokufinyelela" kule ntombazane;
- ngesikhathi ingxoxo ishintsha amaqhinga okuziphatha, okuwukuthi, "ukuhlasela" okokuqala intombazane enemibuzo enzima, bese inikeza isinyathelo intombazane uqobo, osevele ezama ukuzithokozisa futhi aqhubeke nokujwayele;
- njalo ukufeza umgomo walo, kudala isimo lapho intombazane ibonakala imphonsa khona. Le ndlela ibizwa ngokuthi "hhayi ukubangela ubuhlungu besifazane."
Konke kungaba kuhle uma le ntombazane ibheka lokhu "ukujwayelana" njengokukhanya okulula. Futhi yini okufanele uyenze kulabo abanhliziyo yabo ephukile futhi echotshoziwe? Yeka ukuthi ungahlangabezane kanjani namaqhinga anamanga esikhathini esizayo?
Yeka ukuthi ungaba kanjani isisulu sokubala okubandayo kwe-pick-up?
Okokuqala, ukuze ungalokothi uhambisane nesigwebo esifanayo, kubalulekile ukuzinqumela wena, kodwa yini oyifunayo ekuhloleni okuqhubekayo nale nsizwa? Ungabi kanjani isisulu sombala wokubala okubandayo?
Uma ukhuliswe ngohlaka oluqinile futhi ungakwamukeli ucansi ngobusuku obulodwa, khona-ke kuyadingeka ukuba uqaphele futhi uqaphele. Okungukuthi, ungazivumeli ukuba uzibambe "ngokuzenzekelayo" ngokuvulekile, isikhathi eside ukubuka umfana ebusweni ngosuku lokuqala bese uzama ukukhokha ikhofi ku cafe ngawe, hhayi wena. Kungaba kuhle ukubeka imibuzo emashalofini, ukuthi uzoba nesikhathi sokukubuza ngaphambi kokuwa kwakhe okuyingozi, okungukuthi, ngaphambi kokudalulwa kwakhe njengokudukisa ngezandla zakhe. Ngokujwayelekile, ukukopela, i-pickups isebenzisa isivinini sesikhashana (umthetho ongapheli), okuyimaminithi ayishumi. Uma ungeke ukwazi ukukhuthazelela izintelezi zalesi sikhohlisi esincane, khona-ke ungakwazi ukuhalaliswa! Uvele ushiya i-pic! Ungaziqhenya wena!
Ungalokothi uphendule imibuzo yokukhetha yokukhetha ngokuzithoba, ukuze kamuva, ngokuqhubekayo kokuxhumana, akakwazanga ukwakha amaqhinga okuzisebenzisa kuwe futhi ungavumeli ukungaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngaphandle kwalokho, lokhu kungukuphela komqondo kwemizamo yakhe nezinyembezi zakho. Nge-nastornuvstvovaniyu eningi kakhulu ngokocansi ngokushesha, ungangabazi, tshela lo mfana konke okucabangayo ngaye futhi umbambe ekungeneni kweloli. Isenzo esinjalo siyosusa ngokuphelele kulo muntu othukayo hhayi isilingo sokudukisa kulobu busuku, kodwa kuzokukwenza ucabange ngokulungisa ukuziphatha kwakho futhi mhlawumbe wenze umqondo wokuba umlenze omuhle.
Uma emhlanganweni wensizwa, ukhuluma ngokungapheli, akusikuphazamisi, futhi ubeka ngokuqiniseka, ubeka kahle futhi ulawula kahle yonke inkulumo ebusweni bakhe, bese ngaphandle kokungabaza, ngokushesha ubalekele kuye ngaphansi kwanoma yikuphi ukucabanga. Umfana ojwayelekile njalo cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi akuyona eyakhe inkulumo ebusweni, inkulumo, isitembu sezwi. Ngokuvamile umfana ojwayelekile emhlanganweni uthula futhi unamahloni, hhayi ukufaka ingalo yakhe ehlombe lakho, ukwesaba ukubuza umbuzo owengeziwe. Into eyodwa kuphela ukuthi umuntu ojwayelekile uyakwazi ukukumema ku-movie noma indawo yothando lapho kungadingeki usebenzise imali eningi kakhulu. Kuye, into eyinhloko ukunakwa kwakho nokwamukelwa kwakhe njengoba enakho konke ukungaphumeleli.
Uma ukhululekile ngombono womthengi ngebhokisi lamadoda amahle kakhulu futhi awuphikisi "ukudlala" naye othandweni ngobusuku obulodwa, khona-ke ungakwazi ukudlala i-pickup bese uchitha isikhathi ngenzuzo, kokubili umphefumulo nomzimba. Ukuzuzwa kwesigaba akukhanseliwe okwamanje!
Into eyinhloko akufanele iwele ezinkambeni zalolu hlobo lwama-scoundrels, ngaso sonke isikhathi qaphela futhi ungavumeli ukuba nomnandi kakhulu futhi ikuphathe kahle. Khumbula umthetho olula, kodwa osebenzayo, lapho ingane yonke imama ikhuthaza intombi yakhe ukuba ingabonisi khona. Ihlaya, yiqiniso, kodwa kuzo zonke izihlabeli kukhona i-spoon enhle yeqiniso.