Incazelo yegama elithi "indoda enobudlova" kunzima ukuchaza emusho owodwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuhlukunyezwa kungabi yingokoqobo kuphela, kodwa futhi kukhohlisiwe. Ungayahlukanisa kanjani umuntu osengcupheni kusukela manje?
Okokuqala, ake sichaze ukuthi yikuphi, lokhu kuhlukumezeka nokuthi uhlobo luni lomuntu olungabizwa ngokuthi luhlukunyezwa ngempela. Ngokuvamile, igama elithi "ubuhlukumezi", ekuqaleni lisho ubuhlukumezi nokukhwabanisa. Kodwa, ku-lexicon yethu, lo mqondo uthola umbala ohlukile. Uma umuntu ebizwa ngokuthi unonya, angabhekwa njengesibindi futhi enzima, kodwa hhayi ononya. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kulo mfana kunesimo semfihlakalo nemfihlakalo. Amadoda aseBrutal akwazi ukunqoba abesifazane ngamandla abo, ukungatholakali kanye nento ekhethekile yesilisa engaba "ababi" kuphela. Kunzima ukushiya indoda enjalo futhi cishe akunakwenzeka ukuba enqabe. Ngisho noma ekuqaleni angamcasula owesifazane ngokunyanyisa kwakhe, lesi simo sengqondo siyashintsha ngesikhathi, ngoba ukuqina kwakhe kuyobonakala njengobuningi. Eceleni komfana onjalo, noma yikuphi owesifazane ozizwa efana nasemdongeni wamatshe. Nakuba kunjalo, la madoda awahlali njalo njengabanye, ikakhulukazi abazali kanye nabanye abameleli bobulili obunamandla. Ukuqina kwabo, ukuhlambalaza kanye nokunye, kwenza abazali baqaphele, futhi abafana bathukuthele ngenxa yomona. Kuyaziwa ukuthi abantu abangaboni kahle, abanobuthakathaka nabanobuqili bathanda abesifazane, ngoba yileyo ndlela amandla azwa ngayo. Futhi amanye amadoda ayaqonda ukuthi abantu abasha abanesihluku banamalungelo futhi bamane bebahawukela. Yiqiniso, abafana abakaze bavume lokhu futhi bachaze ukuziphatha kwabo ngokukhathazeka ngemizwa yakho nokuphepha, ngoba eduze kwakho akusiyena umnumzane.
Kodwa, kodwa-ke, masiqonde, kunokuhlukumeza kwangempela kuhluke kumanga. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuthi umfana osolwa ngokuhlukumezeka uyaphazamisa nokunyanyisa nokuhlambalaza kwakhe. Uhlala njalo, ngaphandle noma ngaphandle, akhipha amahlaya akhe amahlaya, ezama ukuhlazisa nokuthuka umuntu. Ikakhulukazi lokhu kusebenza ezimweni lapho insizwa inenkampani yamadoda. Kodwa, masinyane udinga ukwenza ukubhuka futhi uqaphele ukuthi amantombazane eduze kwakhe kufanele abe abancane, akhuliswe noma abe buthakathaka. Uma insizwa enjalo ibona ukuthi amandla egama kanye nesibindi ngokusobala ayengekho eceleni kwakhe, konke ukuziqhenya kuyaphela ngesikhathi esisodwa, futhi uziphatha ngokuthula futhi kalula. Umuntu onjalo uthi okuningi ngokuthi ungumlindi nomvikeli omkhulu. Futhi, eqinisweni, yilaba bantu abahlaselayo abagijimela kuqala lapho bevakaliswa omunye umuntu endaweni emnyama. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ziziphatha ngisho nalapho intombi yakhe iseduze. Ngemuva kwecala elinjalo, empeleni, umfana onjalo utshela izindaba ezimangalisayo ukuze aziphendulele. Futhi lapha kuncike kakhulu kumalenta amathekisthi nethando lentombazane, uyomkholwa noma cha. Futhi, abantu abasha balolu hlobo lwengqondo nomlingiswa, bangamcasula owesifazane noma baze baphakamise isandla sakhe. Bakholelwa ukuthi ngale ndlela bafaka amandla abo nokuqina kwabo futhi bazama njalo ukuzithethelela ukuziphatha kwabo emehlweni abanye. Eqinisweni, abanamandla okwanele noma ukuhlakanipha ukuze bathole umphikisi ofanelekayo. Kodwa, badinga nje ukuzibonakalisa bona ngokwabo kanye nabanye ukuqina kwabo nobukhulu babo. Amadoda avamile cishe ahlukanise njalo abafana abanobudlova abadlali abanjalo futhi nje ungabanaki, noma abalethe emanzini ahlanzekile. Kodwa amantombazane athile akholelwa kuleso sikhungo sokudlala somdlali oyedwa, lapho, ngokuvamile, okuhlangenwe nakho nokuhlupheka. Lokhu akumangazi, ngoba ukhetha umfana, owesifazane ulindele ukuvikelwa nothando, futhi uthola umuntu ongakwazi ukwenza noma yini futhi uqinisekiswe ubuthakathaka bakhe.
Indoda yangempela enobudlova ngeke iphakamise isandla sayo ngokumelene nowesifazane. Ukuqina kwakhe kungabonakala ekuziphatheni, ngamazwi, ezenzweni, ngokobudlelwano bobulili besilisa, kodwa ukuthi indoda enjalo ishaye owesifazane ingaphansi kwesithunzi sayo. Umuntu ohlukumezeka ngempela uyazi ukuthi uqobo lwakhe uqobo, ngakho akazifaki ngaphakathi kuzo zonke izindlela ezingenzeka futhi ezingenakwenzeka. Kulula nje, uziphatha ngendlela ayithandayo futhi uhlale efana naye. Ukuqina kwakhe nobukhulu bakhe kubonakala ngesitayela sezingubo, izimoto azikhethayo ukuhamba, indlela yokukhuluma, ukubukela, ukuhamba. Kulo mfana, konke lokhu kubonakala futhi kubhekwa ngokuvumelana ngokuphelele. Akazami ukuba ngcono noma okubi kunokuba ngubani ngempela. Amadoda aseBrutal ayengabazi ukuthi angazizwa, kodwa kuphela umbuthano osondelene kakhulu - abakwa-elite bayazi ngabo. Kulula nje, iqiniso liwukuthi amadoda ahlukumezayo azama ukubonakala sengathi u-rascal. Kulula nje, bajwayele ukuba banganqotshwa imizwelo futhi benze ngendlela abayibona ngayo. Ngeke benze lutho ukufakazela amandla abo kwabanye abantu, kungaba ngamadoda noma amantombazane. Abantu abasha abanjalo bakhetha ukukhetha kwabo futhi benze ngendlela efanele.
Incazelo yegama elithi "indoda enobudlova" yilokho ngokuthi igama elilodwa liqonda indoda yangempela engakwazi ukuzimela njalo futhi ivikele labo abathandayo. Futhi ake umuntu ohlukumezayo angathandi wonke umuntu ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe okuzikhukhumeza, ukungaqondile futhi, ngokuvamile, ukuhlambalaza, abantu abaseduze bahlale besazi ukuthi ungumuntu omuhle, ongamethemba kunoma yisiphi isimo. Ukuhlukunyezwa kwakhe akuyona into encane, kodwa okunye. Futhi, eqinisweni, la madoda angamadoda nabababa abakhulu. Kulula nje, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bahlakaniphile futhi bahlaziye, kodwa amandla obukhulu nobuhle ahlala nabo ukuze baphile.