Phakathi kwezinye izinto, isikole somntwana yindawo lapho ehlala khona kuqala, nakuba encane, isikhathi ngaphandle kokuqondiswa kwabantu abadala, kanye nabalingane nabo ekilasini. Kodwa kuthiwani uma ubuhlobo nabangifunda nabo bengabangezi? Uma ezinye izingane zingabangane nama-comrades, kodwa ingumthombo wokukhathazeka ngisho noma ingozi?
Inkinga yobudlova esikoleni eminyakeni yamuva inzima kakhulu. Futhi bonke abazali kudingeka bacabange ngalokho okungenziwa ukugwema izingxabano zezingane. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukunaka isimo emndenini. Ngokuvamile isisulu sobudlova esikoleni singumntwana, emndenini wakhe ngokuvamile kukhona ukuxabana, lapho ukuxhumana kuvamile khona kumathoni aphakanyisiwe. Izingane ezikhulela ezimweni ezinjalo zizuze lo mkhuba wokuziphatha njengezinga elijwayelekile futhi zithumele ngokuzenzakalelayo endaweni entsha, okwenza kube nzima ukuxhumana.
Uma umndeni unezinamandla, abazali abahloniphekile abacindezela ngokuphelele intando yengane yabo futhi bathathe zonke izinqumo kuye, khona-ke ingane enjalo iyawela esigabeni sezingane, ngokuvamile ihlekwa ukuhlekwa usulu ngisho nokushaya abafunda nabo ekilasini.
Ngakho-ke, okokuqala, qaphela ukuthi umkhathi ungaphakathi emndenini, mhlawumbe lokhu kwakuyimfuneko yokuba ubuhlobo bomntanakho buhlukumeze nabangifunda nabo.
Kodwa-ke, izingxabano zivame ukuvela ezinganeni ezivela emindeni ehlala kahle, ikakhulukazi uma ingane yakho ikhethekile: ehlukile kwezinye izingane ngokuphakama, isisindo, ukubukeka okungavamile, noma nje izici ezithile zomlingiswa nokuziphatha. Ukuhlaselwa esikoleni kungase kube mncane kakhulu, okuphakeme kakhulu, okugcwele noma okuncane kakhulu, okunezinwele ezibomvu, ezingenangqondo, ezinamahloni noma ezithinta kakhulu ingane. Kodwa ngisho noma ingane yakho ingenayo yalezi zici, kusadingeka ukuthi ubuze ukuthi ubuhlobo bengane yakho nabo bonke abantwana bunjani. Uma uthola ukuthi indodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho iyinto yokuhlekwa usulu, kufanele ungenele ngokushesha kuleso simo, ngoba ukuhleka usulu kuvame ukukhula kube yinkinga enkulu kakhulu - ukuhlukumeza izingane. Kubalulekile ukutadisha ngokucophelela ukuziphatha kwengane ezinsukwini zokuqala zesikole. Akukhona ukuhlukunyezwa okuvulekile noma ubudlova, kungaba ukuphikiswa okungahambi kahle (ukungafuni ukuhlala edeskini eyodwa, ukudlala eqenjini elifanayo) noma ukungamnaki ingane (ungamnaki, ungamnaki). Konke lokhu kuphazamisa izingane ezingaphansi kokugxeka nokuhleka usulu.
Singabhekana kanjani nezingxabano zezingane esikoleni futhi sisize ingane?
Abaningi kubazali abakulesi simo banikezela ingane ukuba ikwazi ukubhekana neyabo, ukuze ihlakulele ukuzimela. Uma lokhu kungukungqubuzana okuncane nomuntu ofunda naye ekilasini ongaholela emiphumeleni enzima, lokhu kungaba yindlela enhle ngempela. Kodwa-ke, uma inkinga igxile futhi ingane ikhona ekubhekaneni neqembu elikhulu lezingane noma nalo lonke ekilasini, akakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kosizo lwabazali kanye nothisha.
Kukhona nesinqumo esinqunyiwe - ukuhamba nokuxazulula impikiswano ngokwakho. Esimweni esinjalo, abazali bangabashaya ama-hooligans, okuholela emiphumeleni emibi: abahlukumezi baqala ukusongela isisulu sabo ngokuhlambalaza ngokubika ukuxabana kwabazali babo. Imizamo yabazali ukuqonda lesi simo nabazali babahlukumezi, futhi, ngokuvamile iholela engelutho.
Izazi zengqondo kule nkinga enzima zeluleka ukuba zifundise ingane ukuzivikela. Futhi asisho amandla omzimba, ngoba izindlela zamandla ngokuvamile azisebenzi ngokumelene nodlame lokuziphatha. Noma kunjalo ngezinye izikhathi ukudlala ezemidlalo kungaba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma ngayo: isibonelo, uma ingane yakho ihlaselwa ngenxa yesisindo esiningi noma ihlazo, ukudlala ezemidlalo kungamsiza ukuba ahlakulele amandla, amandla, alahlekelwe isisindo futhi athole ukuzethemba. Kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu - ukufundisa ingane ukuba ihloniphe njengomuntu, kuphela kulokhu ingane izokwazi ukwenza abanye bayimhloniphe. Futhi kulokhu kufanele futhi umsize. Ingane iyaqaphela ukuthi yiyiphi umuntu ngokuziqaphela "njengabo bonke abanye". Ngalesi sizathu, ngezinye izikhathi kuyasiza ukuhamba naye ngesinye isikhathi: uma ingane ihlazeka ngenye yezingubo zakhe, futhi ifuna ukuba "ibe njengenyane," zama ukukwenza njengoba ethanda - cishe, kuyomnika ithemba ngokwayo. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kudingekile ukufeza zonke izinkomba, kufanele kube nesilinganiso kukho konke.
Siza ingane yakho ukuba yenza abangane nabalingane nabo ekilasini. Mbuze, yiziphi izigaba, ujikeleza abangane bakhe abasha baya. Mhlawumbe ingane yakho izoba nesithakazelo kwezinye zazo. Lena yithuba elihle kakhulu lokwenza ubungane nezinye izingane ngenxa yezidingo ezivamile. Futhi khuthaza ukukhulumisana phakathi kwezingane ezingekho esikoleni, mhlawumbe kufanelekile ukumema abanye abantu emakhaya abo ngezikhathi ezithile. Ikakhulukazi ekuqoqeni imisebenzi yesikole noma eklasini. Lawula ukubamba iqhaza kwengane yakho kwimisebenzi enjalo.
Abazali abangakwazi ukufundisa kangcono ingane ukuthi baxoxisane neontanga, bamnike isibonelo sokuziphatha okulungile, bafundise ukuzimela bese bekulinda. Kodwa ungazami ukuxazulula zonke izingxabano zodwa. Ezimweni ezinzima, lapho ingane isuke igxile eklasini, kunengqondo ukubandakanya othisha, uthisha weklasi kanye nezengqondo zokuxazulula inkinga. Imizamo ehlangene iyoholela ekuphumeleleni futhi ingane yakho iyoba yilungu eliphelele leqembu, thola abangane futhi zizwe zikhululekile esikoleni.
Manje uyazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze uma ingane icasuliwe esikoleni samabanga aphansi nabalingani esikoleni, iseluleko sezengqondo.