Cishe wonke owesifazane wesifazane ubhekana nenkinga enjengokungacabangi komuntu futhi engajwayele ukuhleleka. Akukhathaleki nhlobo ukuthi uhlala nomplumberhi, umqambi noma umthengisi ophumelelayo - umphumela munye: ukuxabana ngenxa yalokho okwakubonakala sengathi kuyisifiso futhi kubonakala sengathi ihlekisayo.
Akulona yini iqiniso, ukugcina indlu, lapho umphathi wakho ehlela ama-ashtrays anezinhlayiya ze-cigarette, ama-mugs anezinsalela zomuthi we-tea, lapho umphefumulo ufisa khona, amasokisi akhe atholakala endaweni engalindelekile, ama-shirts ahlanzekile ahlanganisiwe futhi ahlanjululwe futhi ahlanzeke kakhulu. Imibuzo evusa amadlingozi nakakhulu yila madoda: "Ngiyayikhumbula, ukhumbula ukuthi ngifaka kuphi igalofu lami elimnyama izolo futhi nginezikhwama ezihlanzekile nama-panties?" Uma usondela esimweni ngokuhlekisa, ukhumbule i-anecdote lapho umyeni, lapho elungiselela isethulo, akakwazi ukuthola suit and rummages ebhokisini elinama-linens efuna ingcebo. Kulowo mfazi wayezibuza ukuthi kungani egqoke ama-panties nokuthi lokhu kuyindlela yokuveza abathembekile. Yiqiniso, kusuka ngaphandle kubonakala kumnandi, kodwa lapha ukuhlala ujikelezwe ngamasokisi alahlekile, izinhlanzi embhedeni kanye ne-gorgryaznoy izitsha, abambalwa bazothola injabulo.
Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Ungase uhlabelele ngale ndaba abaningi ongathanda, kodwa ake sibone ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka.
Uma sicabangela iqiniso lokuthi sonke sivela ezilwaneni, kuyacaca ukuthi noma yiziphi izinto, kungaba ikhompyutha, indawo, imoto noma indawo yokuhlala, ummeleli wesigamu esiphezulu sobuntu uhlola njengendawo yabo. Uma sikhumbula ukuthi ngokwemvelo, abesilisa, ngandlela-thile, babhala indawo yabo bese bedweba, kufakazela ukuthi amasokisi asele ngemuva kwe-sofa, indebe engahlanjululwa eduze ne-laptop kanye nezinye izinto akulona nje umzamo wokumaka indawo yayo futhi ubonise isitha esiyinhloko yaleso simo.
Kodwa abesifazane, engaziqondi kahle isimo, bacabange ukuthi indoda isakaze izinto zakhe, ngoba akayithokozi induduzo nokuhlanzeka ukuthi ingxenye yesibili ilandela eduze.
Emibhokisini eminingi yabesifazane lapho le nkinga ixoxwa khona, abahlanganyeli bezingxoxiswano ezinesiqingatha nendawo-batusa kakhulu ukuba bayeke ukuhlanza endlini, hhayi ukugeza izitsha, ukuqoqa amasokisi phansi kanye nokunye okuncane kakhulu okulungiswa kulezi zindawo, izitsha ezingahlanjululwa zihanjiswe kwesigamu setafula lokudlela. Iseluleko esiphendukekile singahle senziwe ngokuthi sinconywa ukuphonsa izinto ezingekho zodwa, ngqo ewindini.
Ulungele ukulalela lawa macebiso ahlakaniphile? Akunconywa, ngoba indoda ayikwazi ukwazisa izinhlelo zakho zokudala, izocasuka, noma yeke ukuyeka ukukhuluma nawe nhlobo.
Indlela yokuxazulula le nkinga?
Into yokuqala okumele uyikhumbule ukuthi indoda yakho ayinayo amakhono omlingo kanye nefoni, futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi ukuze aqonde ukuthi yini engakufanelekeli, kufanele umtshele ngqo ngakho. Yazi ukuthi ngisho nendoda ehlakaniphe kakhulu ayikwazi ukuqagela ukuthi kungani ukhuluma naye ngezwi elinjalo. Inketho enhle kulokhu kungase ibe yisinqumo esilandelayo: bonisa umjikelezo ozithandayo, phansi lapho ungabona khona ukuhlala okomile wetiyi bese ubuza ukuthi kuyakujabulisa yini ukubona lokhu kuhlazola. Uma kungekho isifiso sokuphuza itiye esiyimbuthweni ofanayo, akavuki futhi, mcele ukuthi ageze izitsha futhi azibeke emakhaya. Le ndoda, ekhononda kancane, yagcwalisa isicelo sakho? Ungakhohlwa ukudumisa othembekile wakho ngento efanele.
Kulula ngisho nokuxazulula inkinga yokuhlukanisa ukuhlanza okuhlanzekile. Okokugcina kubalulekile ukunikeza ibhasikidi noma ibhokisi elihlukile, lapho ungathumela khona amasokisi angcolile, ama-T-shirts, ama-sweaters. Cela indoda yakho ukuthi ithumele zonke izingubo ezidinga ukugeza, ngqo endaweni esabelwe. Mchaze ukuthi ngenye indlela ngeke ukwazi ukucacisa ukuthi kusekhona amasokisi ahlanzekile yini nokuthi ngabe uzokwazi yini ukufaka ihembe elisha kusasa.
Ngokuvamile abesifazane bakhononda ukuthi abatholi owesibili kusuka kubilidi ngalinye. Kulesi simo, kunesixazululo esilula, kodwa esingaphansi kwengqondo: unike inani elithile futhi uthenge amasokisi amnyama angu-15-20 kuwo. Leli qoqo lingenziwa lihlanjululwe ngezimbili ezimbili zamasokisi wombala ohlukile, isibonelo, grey. Cabanga ukuthi kuzoba lula kanjani uku "ukushisa" amasokisi - manje awudingi ngisho nokuthola ukuthi ubani okhona ngakwesokudla, nokuthi ngubani - ngakwesokunxele. Kodwa ukuze indoda njalo ekuseni ingabuzi ukuthi ibhekephi amasokisi, yabela ukulahlwa okuhlukile kubo esifubeni sabadwebi.
Ngokuqondene nama-T-shirts angcolile, ama-T-shirts, ama-panties, kubalulekile ukufundisa indoda ekupheleni kosuku ngalunye ukubeka izingubo ezingcolile endaweni ngaleyo njongo nangemva kokudonsa ukufaka izinto ezintsha. Okufanayo kusebenza kumahembe kanye nama-sweaters. Ukuze kungadingeki bahlanzwe nsuku zonke, fundisa othandekayo wakho ukuthi agqoke i-sweater, i-turtleneck noma ihembe kuye kuMaika omncane.
Kodwa ukuthi kwakungekho ukungqubuzana enhlabathini yasekhaya, imisebenzi yemindeni yendabuko kufanele ihlukaniswe phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. Isibonelo, umyeni wakhe angakhokhiswa izitsha zokugeza, athathe udoti futhi asebenze nge-vacuum cleaner. Ukuze indlu ibe ngendlela ephelele, ungahlela ukuhlanza okuhlanganyelwe ngezinye zezimpelasonto. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuthi izindlu zakho zizokhanya, vyeshche futhi usondelane nabathembekile bakho, ngoba umsebenzi ohlangene, njengoba wazi, ngaphandle kwensimu kuletha ukwaneliseka.
Uma umyeni wakho ekulungele ukulandela le mithetho elula, kodwa ephumelelayo, futhi awusathandi okuthile, khumbula ukuthi kunabantu abambalwa abahle emhlabeni wonke. Ingabe ungowakho futhi indoda yakho akudingeki ikuthethelele isici sakho esincane akuyona isici sezingelosi? Hlonipha omunye nomunye, bese uthandana uzohlala phakade ekhaya lakho.