Ngokuyinhloko, abesifazane bathanda uthando njengobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu ababili, inhlonipho nokuqonda - lokhu kuyinto esemqoka othandweni ngokubheka abesifazane. Ngokusho kwelogi labesifazane, indoda kufanele ivikele owesifazane, inike izipho , ivikele, njll njll. Imibono yabesifazane abanjalo ikhona. Yebo, futhi kufanelekile. Owesifazane uhlale efuna ukuzwa amazwi amnandi esiqondisweni sakhe, uthanda ukuthola izipho kumuntu othandekayo, njengalapho egcinwa futhi evikelekile. Futhi lokhu kuyiqiniso, ukuthi ungaphambuki kanjani, owesifazane uyindoda ebuthakathaka. Ukuthola izipho kumuntu othandekayo, owesifazane uphinde uqiniseke ukuthi uyamthanda, ngoba nguye okuyinhloko othandweni. Ukuqhubeka kulokhu, kungaphetha ngokuthi kubantu besifazane, isipho ngokwaso asibalulekile, kodwa iqiniso lamanje libalulekile.
Futhi umbuzo olandelayo uphakama: Yini ekubonweni kwamadoda kuyinto esemqoka othandweni.
Lo mbuzo kunzima ukuphendula. Bangaki amadoda emhlabeni, imibono eminingi kangaka. Kodwa, ngokuyisisekelo, bonke bafana. Ngomuntu into eyinhloko ukuthi owesifazane angamthanda, ngomuntu obaluleke kakhulu ocansini futhi kuphela, kahle, umuntu udinga umama wendlu, ngubani ozopheka ukudla bese egaxa ihembe lakhe.
Bonke laba besilisa abasondela ekuthandeni banamalungelo futhi banengqondo. Phela, owesifazane uhlale evulekile kakhulu kunomuntu. Ngakho-ke, indoda nethando kuyoba nzima ngokwengeziwe ukudlula owesifazane. Uyesaba ukulahlwa. Futhi ukugwema ukwehluleka, ubheka indlela owesifazane amphatha ngayo. Uma owesifazane engaphenduki kuye, lo muntu uzozama ukungakheli ubuhlobo nomfazi onjalo. Lokhu akuyona iqiniso, kunezinhlobo eziningi zamadoda. Omunye uzohlala ethule, futhi omunye uzofuna ukunakekelwa kwabesifazane nganoma iyiphi indlela. Kodwa ikakhulukazi kwenzeka.
Phakathi kwabesifazane, kunombono wokuthi amadoda adinga kuphela ubulili kuphela. Ngokwezinga elithile, lokhu kuyiqiniso, kodwa ngokusho kwamadoda lokhu akuyona into esemqoka othandweni. Le ndoda, ukukhetha umngane wakhe, kulula kakhulu. Kodwa, ngokusho kwamadoda, uma kungekho ubulili ebuhlotsheni, khona-ke ubuhlobo cishe akunjalo. Hhayi, futhi uma ubuhlobo bubonakala bukhona, ngokuqinisekile, indoda, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ivele ikosikazi, futhi mhlawumbe ayikho enye.
Kukhona, kunjalo, futhi amadoda anesondo ocansini ngumyalo wokuphakama ophansi kunobunye phakathi komuntu nowesifazane. Ngokusho kwamadoda anjalo, into esemqoka othandweni yithemba. Ngiphinda futhi, ngiyaphinda ukuthi bangaki amadoda emhlabeni abanayo imibono eminingi ngalokho abaluzisa kothando.
Futhi, amadoda ahlonipha owesifazane, ngokumhlonipha. Ngamanye amazwi, ngokusho kwamadoda, owesifazane kufanele athathe indawo yakhe, abeke ekhishini. Yiqiniso, lena yindawo enemibandela futhi ithi nje, kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuzwakala kanjani kabi manje, kuyiqiniso. Nakuba indoda ingase ingaphoqelelwe ukuba imlalele, yenzeni okuthile, kodwa uma owesifazane ehlamba ihembe lakhe, liyophakama emehlweni alo muntu. Futhi uma epheka kahle, khona-ke lokhu kuzoba umgomo omuhle lapho ukhetha owesifazane njengomuntu. Njengoba leli zwi lithi: "Indlela eya enhliziyweni yomuntu, ilele esiswini."
Kukhona uhlobo olunjalo lwabantu abawela othandweni nabesifazane, njengabomama babo, ngoba into eyinhloko othandweni ukufana kwangaphandle okulula. Okufanayo, kokubili ukubukeka nomlingiswa. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi abantu abaningi abafuni nje owesifazane othandekayo, kodwa kakade umngane, umakoti, umama nomama wezingane zakhe ezizayo. Futhi, kumuntu, ngaphandle kokuqaphela, zonke izinhlangano, nonina wezingane zakhe nomkakhe, zingumama wakhe.
Amaphuzu angabalulekile emphakathini wobuhlobo, anikezwa ukunakwa kwamadoda, inhlonipho yezintshisekelo zakhe. Ngokusho kwamadoda, lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu othandweni. Ekuqondeni kwakhe, uma owesifazane ehlonipha futhi ehlanganyela izinto zakhe nezintshisekelo, khona-ke uyamfanelekela. Yebo, okubaluleke kakhulu, lokhu kuyiqiniso, ukuthembeka kuye. Lokhu akufanele ngisho ukukhuluma ngakho, ngoba ukushintsha, okungenani kanye, owesifazane, emehlweni omuntu wehla kakhulu. Kuye, akayena owesifazane wokuphila kwakhe, kodwa owesifazane onamandla alula.
Ngokuvamile, kunezinqubo eziningi zokukhetha indoda owesifazane, kanye nezikhathi amadoda azijabulela kakhulu ubudlelwane bomthando. Ngokusho kwamadoda, into esemqoka othandweni yizocansi, nokwethemba, nokubukeka nezinye izinto eziningi. Futhi bonke bahluke kakhulu. Isibonelo, indoda yokuqala ifuna ukuthi owesifazane wakhe abonakale egqamile futhi bonke abanye abantu banemihlathi yabo, kuyilapho laba bantu befuna ukuthi owesifazane wakhe abonakale ephansi, ukuze angadonseli ukunakekelwa okungadingekile ohlangothini lwabesilisa.