Umakoti wamanje wanxusa kakhulu futhi ukuziphatha komkhwenyana omuhle akukhawulelwe ukunganakwa kwebhola. Kodwa, njengangaphambili, umakoti, ephuphuthekiswe uthando futhi engaphansi kwethonya lokungapheli kwamakhemikhali angalawuliwe, ubheka umthandi ngokusebenzisa i-haze pink of romance futhi ubona amaphutha omkhwenyana njengezici zalo. Ukuhlola ngokucophelela ukuziphatha komkhwenyana kunomamazala wakhe wesikhathi esizayo kuphela. Uyabona indodakazi yakhe njengenhlayiyana yedwa futhi emthanda, njengayo, kuphela okuhle kakhulu nakho konke. Umshado wendodakazi unikeza umkhwekazi ithuba lokuphila impilo eminye yomndeni kakade ucabangele zonke amaphutha. Ngakho-ke, emva kokunquma isimo sensizwa ngokuthi "umlingani", uwela ngaphansi kweso elilindile lokuba umamazala wakhe ozayo uzoba ngowokufanelekela indodakazi yakhe futhi agqoke igama eliziqhenya "lomlingani ophelele", noma okungcono nje "isihlobo esizayo ".
Isikhathi ngaphambi komshado kuyindiza yokuhlola, okungase iphele enhlekeleleni ngenxa yesiphambeko somunye wezindiza noma ngephutha le-dispatcher evamile.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umamazana wesikhathi esizayo ubiza umyeni wakhe umyeni wakhe, uzoqala kuqala ukuhlola isimo sengqondo sensizwa kumlobokazi. Ngokungajwayelekile nakancane kungaba ukuntuleka kwesifiso somkhwenyana ukuveza imizwa yabo yentombazane futhi kubonakale kubonisa ukukhangwa ngokomzimba kuye. Umkhwenyana omuhle kufanele angaqapheli kuphela imisebenzi yakhe kumlobokazi, kodwa futhi nabazali bakhe. Uninazala onokuqonda uzobona ukuthi lowo muntu omusha ubhekisela endodakazini yakhe njengumuntu ozimele noma ukuthi uzosusa ubuntu bakhe njengomuntu ohlukumezayo nomuntu oyedwa, mhlawumbe yena ngokwakhe uzoba "ngaphansi kwesithende somlobokazi." Kumkhwenyana omuhle, bobabili uyise nomntwana kufanele bahlangane ngokuvumelana. Indoda kufanele ikulungele ukuvikela "intombazana" yakhe, ukuba ibe udonga lwamatshe oluthembekile, livikele wonke umuntu ekuhluphekeni, kodwa ngisho nendoda enamandla, njengengane, idinga ukunakekelwa nokukhathalela.
Umamazala, njengabo bonke abesifazane, amaphupho okukhumbuza indoda, noma ngabe uyindodakazi yakhe, kodwa ezimweni eziningi indoda ayifuni ukwenza lokhu ngaphansi kwengcindezi futhi uthando kuphela, noma ngabe uthando nguninazala, lungakhuthaza indoda ukuba ibe ngcono, ishintshe izici zayo , shiya imikhuba emibi. Ukuncintisana kuzongeza amaphuzu hhayi emehlweni omamazala.
Ukuzikhethela kokuziphatha komkhwenyana omuhle kuyoba isimo sakhe sengqondo sokuzibophezela ekusizeni ngemali nokuphana kwakhe. Naphezu kokuphikisana komunye nomunye, umkhwenyana ofanelekayo kufanele akwazi ukulawula imali engenayo kanye nezindleko, kodwa ngezikhathi ezithile angakwazi ukulahlekelwa imali. Uma, umkhwenyana uphenduka waba yisisulu, khona-ke ebuhlotsheni bomuntu siqu uyobe eyomile futhi ehlabayo, uma kwenzeka ukuchitha imali engavinjelwe futhi engavumelekile, umyeni uyaphendula ngokuthi uyindoda nomoya. Ngokuba umkhwekazi, ngokuqondene nomakoti, incazelo yegolide ibalulekile.
Injabulo yomuntu, isimo sakhe sengqondo sokubhekana nezinkinga, umbono omuhle empilweni kuyisihluthulelo sokuphumelela ebhizinisini nobuhlobo besikhathi eside nomuntu othandekayo. Ukuze ube njalo futhi uhlale unethemba eliphezulu kuyimfanelo ebalulekile kumuntu, ikakhulukazi kumuntu othi "ungumkhwenyana omuhle". Ngaphezu kwalokho, umkhwenyana onjalo, naphezu kwayo yonke i-folklore ekhona, ubudlelwane nonina ngeke bube bunzima futhi bunzima.
Umlingani ongase abe ngumngane kufanele abe nomfanekiso ocacile wekusasa. Amazwi akhe akufanele ahluke nendaba. Umkhwenyana omuhle ngeke anikeze izithembiso zokuphuthuma, futhi imibono yakhe isekelwe kuphela ezintweni zokuphila. Ukuze umkhwekazi, ukuziphatha komkhwenyana kufanele athi uyazi kahle lokho akufunayo empilweni, ukuthi unenjongo yosuku, isonto, unyaka kanye nayo yonke iminyaka elandelayo. Amasu okuthuthukiswa kwabashadisi bekusasa kufanele abe ngenye indlela, futhi angahambisani nomunye nomunye.
Ukuba ngumkhwenyana omuhle emehlweni omamazala kaningi akuyona into esemqoka, abantu abanjalo abakwazi ukuba khona emvelweni, futhi abaphathi abanjalo abakwazi ukusetshenziselwa epulazini, kodwa ngisho nangemva kokuhamba nomfazi osemusha kwenye indawo ekupheleni kwezwe, khumbula ukuthi imeyili kanye nefoni yophiko lomama oluphambili, I-intanethi, akekho okhanseliwe, umamazala uzohlale exhumana.