Nakuba abantu sebefinyelele ezindaweni eziphakeme zokuziphendukela kwemvelo, sivame ukuxazulula izinkinga ezivamile zomhlaba ezingeni lomzwelo nemvelo yemvelo. Yingakho engqondweni yabesifazane abaningi abasinda emshadweni, umcabango wokuphindiselela kumyeni wokuqala wangena. Kuzo zonke izinhlobo zefilimu zenza kahle futhi zingenasiphakamiso, ngenxa yalokho umonile ojeziswe, owesifazane uyinqobe futhi akukho lutho lokukhononda ngakho. Kodwa, kumafilimu kuphela, ngeshwa, impilo iveza konke kwenye imibala. Ukufisa ukuphindisela kuyinto evamile, kumane, umuntu angashiya konke ezingeni lesifiso nokucabangela, kanti omunye ulungele ukwenza okuthile, futhi ngesikhathi esisodwa futhi engacabangi. Ikakhulukazi lesi sifiso sanda ngokukhuphuka kwentukuthelo emacaleni uma kubonakala sengathi akukho okunye okumele kulahlekelwe.
Kunezinketho ezimbalwa ezindala nezokufakazela ukuthi ungabuyisela kumyeni wakho wangaphambili. Kodwa ungakhohlwa, ukuphindiselela kudinga futhi indlela yokudala, kuphela kuyoba yedwa futhi iyingqayizivele, okusho ukuthi izokunika injabulo enkulu, futhi ungakhohlwa ukuhambisana nomthetho.
Siyaqala ukulimala?
Ucabanga kuqala - okusebenzayo.
Into yokuqala efika engqondweni kwabesifazane abanamagama athi "ukuphindiselela kulowo owayengowokuqala" kuyisimangalo ebiza kakhulu. Yiqiniso, lo umshini, umsebenzi noma ikhompyutha. Ake siqale ekuqaleni - le moto. Vula imoto ibe yinqwaba yensimbi yesikhumba kancane kancane akudingekile, nakuba inqubo ngokwayo izokunika injabulo enkulu, futhi ikuvumele ukuba uphonsa wonke amandla angenayo. Ungakwazi ukulungisa kancane umbala, noma uhlele i-bird feeder kwi-hood. Esimweni esinjalo, konke kungabhekiswa ku-hooligans, noma umama omnakekelayo-umakhelwane. Ukuziphindiselela kuzinikezele futhi akukho umonakalo omkhulu.
Iphuzu lesibili ongazibuyisela kumyeni wakho wangaphambili ngumsebenzi wakhe. Uma unayo ukufinyelela kwe-imeyili yakhe yokusebenza, futhi okungenani isithombe esisodwa sokukhohlisa, wabelane ngale nkumbulo ejabulisayo nabalingani bakhe, kholwa mina, lesi senzo sizohlonishwa. Ungamthumela nje ikhadi lekhadi lokuxoxisana, negciwane elimnandi, ngisho noma lingalimazi. Kunoma yikuphi, ukuhamba komsebenzi kuzophazamiseka.
Into yesithathu evela ohlwini lwezintandokazi yikhompyutha. Ngokuvamile kuye, amadoda achitha iningi lesikhathi sabo samahhala. Lapha, igciwane elikhulunywe ngaphambilini lingasiza futhi, noma ususe umdlalo wakho ozithandayo uma uhlukanisa, lapho ufike khona kunzima kanzima kuze kube sezingeni lokugcina. Indoda yangaphambili ngeke isithande isimanga esinjalo.
Umcabango wesibili ubuciko.
Futhi asihambisani nomunye umuntu ongcwele - ikhabethe labo. Akulona iqiniso ukuthi amadoda akhokhela kancane ukubukeka kwabo kunabesifazane, kungenye indaba ukuthi bayayenza kanjani futhi bayayivuma. Phakathi nesikhathi esichitha ndawonye, wena, ngempela, uye wabamba iqhaza ekugcwaliseni umyeni we-cloakroom ngezinto ezintsha. Manje sekuyisikhathi sokukhipha kusukela lapho. Ukulimala okulula kwalolu hlobo lwempahla kungabonakali futhi akusijabulisi, bonisa ukucabanga kwakho nokudala. Ngokuqinisekile uyomangala lapho ethola embhedeni wakhe umcamelo omusha noma lapho ebona ibhola elikhanyayo endlini yangasese. Futhi ucabange ukumangala kwakhe uma zonke lezi zinto zizokwenziwa ngekhati lomklami, ijaji eliyintandokazi kanye ne-tie entsha? Kodwa wazama ngayo yonke umphefumulo wakho.
Umcabango wesithathu uvuselela.
Ukuze ufeze loluhlelo oluyinkimbinkimbi kufanele ukhokhele ekuqalisweni kokuxhumana kweselula. Beka lemibuzo, umyeni wakho, oyedwa-othandekayo endaweni yokuphola ngesipho esilinga ukubhekana nabesifazane kuphela. Noma makangathengise impahla yakhe kumasayithi anezikhangiso ekuthengiseni izinto. Yiqiniso amanani azoba ekhangayo kakhulu. Yebo, endleleni ungakhohlwa ukukhombisa zonke izinombolo zocingo ezikhona, kuhlanganise nomakhalekhukhwini, ekhaya nasemsebenzini. Umyeni wakho wangaphambili uzojabula ngokuthokoza ngokucophelela okuningi.
Abanye besifazane banquma ukuloba iqiniso lonke ku-LiveJournal, balifake ngezithombe bese bebafaka enkantolo yomphakathi. Lokhu-ke, kuyindlela yokukhetha, kodwa kulokhu kuzodingeka uchaze ukuziphatha kwakho, futhi bobabili banecala lokuphikisana. Ngakho kungcono ukuthi ungazitholi.
Ucabanga ukuthi owesine, ongekhohlisayo.
Abantu abaningi bafunda indaba yendoda enhle, okwathi ngemva kokushiya ekhaya ngemuva kokuhlukanisa, yanquma ukuba nesidlo sakusihlwa. Futhi iningi lama-prawns, lachitha ngokusalela imfucuza yabo ibe yikona le-tubular. Ukususa umkhondo wobugebengu, wahamba ngokushesha. Kodwa ngemva kwesikhashana, ngathungile indlu yami ngempumelelo, futhi ngentengo ephansi. Isizathu salokhu kwaba iphunga elimnandi elivela endlini, njengoba umyeni wakhe ecabanga, kusukela nhlobo. Yingakho yena nomkakhe omusha banquma ukuphuma. Futhi njengoba indlu - i-stink, akekho ofuna ukuyithenga, kwakudingeka ukuyithengise kuwukuphela kwayo okuthanda, ngentengo ayeyikhethile. Into ehlekisa kakhulu kule ndaba yukuthi maduzane umfazi wangaphambili wayemi emngceleni wendlu yakhe, futhi wabheka njengoba izisebenzi zithuthela indlu efanayo endala yomyeni omusha.
Ngakho-ke, madodakazi othandekayo, lokhu kuyinhlangano ongayicabanga ngakho.
Ucabanga ukuthi eyesihlanu, okuqinisekisiwe.
Ukudweba umuntu onomonakalo wezinto zokuziphindiselela okweqiniso kuhle, kodwa kunalokho kungafaniswa namaqhinga angcolile angcolile. Uma ufuna ngempela ukuphindiselela kumyeni wakho wangaphambili - thinta ize. Bonke abantu bayaqiniseka ukuthi emva kokuhamba kwabo, kufanele nje uqale isikhathi eside ukubulawa, ukukhala nokuthandaza ukuba ubuyele, bese udumazeka empilweni futhi ngaphansi kwesiqubulo esithi "futhi ungafanani nanoma ubani", ungene emadodeni. Kuyomangalisa kakhulu ukubona ukuthi ujabule kakhulu, ujabule futhi ungacabangi ngaye. Uma ngaphezu kwalokho unesoka esisha, umphumela uzodlula konke okulindelekile. Okokuqala, kuzokusiza ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi impilo yonke ihamba phambili, nokuthi usakhangeka njengakuqala. Okwesibili, lokhu kulandelwa kwezinto kuzophoqa umyeni wakho wangaphambili ukuba acabange ngokufaneleka kwezenzo zakhe futhi ahlole ukuthi ubani olahlekile.
Ngakho-ke, abesifazane abathandekayo, ukuthi ningabuyisela kanjani, nokuthi ngabe kufanele niphendule nhlobo - ninqume. Into esemqoka yenzeni ngesithunzi.