Umshado wokuqala - kuhle noma kubi?


Imakethe ye-Mendelssohn, isimo esibucayi, ulwandle lwezimbali, ukumomotheka, ukuhalalisela, ukukhanya kwamakhamera, ama-video amakhamera ahlose kuwe nomthandi wakho. Futhi wena uyinkosikazi yale bhola, enhle, e-airy, ejabule. Futhi kusengaphambili - ubusuku bokusha emshadweni kanye nenjabulo. Izwe lidwetshwe ngemibala yobugovu, inhliziyo iyavuka esibhakabhakeni, futhi kubonakala sengathi uyingqayizivele kakhulu emhlabeni. Usuku oluhle, olulodwa kuphela ekuphileni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi labo abashade izikhathi eziyishumi bathini! Yini engcono kakhulu kunosuku lomshado?

Kodwa lapha kwafika isalute, kuzwakala ngomculo nokukhala "ngokubabazayo" leli holide elihle, futhi ushiywe wedwa. Manje usumndeni, nazo zonke izinjabulo, ubunzima, izinkinga kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo. Kodwa kungenjalo, uma ushada, futhi ungasengumfana osemncane nentombazane, kodwa abashadile abasha, indoda nomfazi? Futhi ungakanani ubudala, akunandaba. Okubalulekile ukuthi ungomunye. Futhi akekho ozobuza - ingabe kusheshe kakhulu? Ulungele? Ingabe uyaqonda nokuthi umndeni usho ukuthini? Kuhle, uma abazali bezwelana nesinqumo sakho ngisho noma bengathandeki ngakho, abaphazamanga. Kubi uma sekuyisikhathi esincane, futhi uzoqonda ukuthi ugijime ...

Eqinisweni, wazi kanjani ukuthi kusencane kakhulu ukuba umqhele, noma sekuyisikhathi sokuphuza? Futhi ingabe kukhona impendulo yombuzo: umshado wokuqala usuhle noma omubi?

Njengenjwayelo, ayikho impendulo engafanele. Konke okukuleli zwe kuhlobene, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungase kuzwakala kanjani. Futhi umshado osanda kudala futhi unenzuzo kanye nokulimala kwawo. Ngakho-ke, amandla alo axhomeke kokuningi: kokubili ukuguquguquka, umusa, uthando lwabesifazane abasha ngokwabo, nokusizwa, ukusekelwa kwezihlobo nabangane, nasezimo zokuphila, kanye nokuthola imali, uhlelo lokusebenza. Okuphela, mhlawumbe, inzuzo enkulu emishadweni yokuqala kungacatshangwa ukuthi, njengomthetho, kungenxa yothando kuphela. Futhi-ke, ngakho-ke, bahlale benethuba lokuphila impilo yabo.

Yikuphi okunye okungathiwa yizinzuzo zenyunyana yezinhliziyo ezincane ukuthi bonke bobabili banokuhlangenwe nakho okuncane kokuphila kanye nezinzwa ezinamandla, ngakho-ke, ngenxa yombono wothando, amaphutha omuntu othandekayo ayoba cishe engabonakali. Ngaphezu kwalokho, labo abasanda kushada abakajwayele isimo sabo esisha, ngakho-ke, ukunakekelwa kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo ngokuphathelene komunye nomunye kuyoba yinto enjabulo, hhayi umthwalo. Lokhu kuzokusiza kakhulu ngeso lengqondo lokungacabangi kwabazali basha abasanda kushada. Uma isizukulwane esidala sinesimo esanele futhi sinengqondo ukusiza izingane zabo ngokungacabangi futhi lapho kudingekile, futhi ukungathathi umndeni osencane emakhaleni abo futhi ungazami ukusungula ukucindezela kwabo kuwo, kuzovumela abashadile ukuba bafunde ukuzimela nokuzibophezela bona kanye nabathandekayo babo. Ngakho-ke, ukuhlanganiswa kwabo kwasekuqaleni kuzogcina kube umndeni oqinile.

Isikhubekiso esiyinhloko empikiswaneni mayelana nesihloko somshado wasencane yiqiniso, ukuzalwa kwengane. Lapha, imibono yabasekeli nabaphikisana nayo ihambisana nomzuzu owodwa oyinhloko, kodwa ngezindlela eziphambene kakhulu. Abokuqala bayaqiniseka ukuthi ngokushesha uma ubeletha ingane, kulula ukuphakamisa, ngoba uzoqonda kangcono, ngoba usondelene naye ngenxa yobudala bakhe. Owesibini uthi abazali abasha basengabantwana ngokwabo, ngakho-ke akudingeki balinde ukuba bathathe isimo sengqondo esibucayi ngomntwana, noma ukubekezela okukhulelwa nokubeletha kuyisondelene kakhulu, noma ukuzithiba, okungekho eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila ingane engakwazi ukuyenza. Ubunzima ukuthi bobabili balungile ngendlela yabo. Futhi lokho okuzokwedlulela - kuncike ngokugcwele ezimfanelweni zabo zabazali abasha, ukusebenzisana kwabo, ukulungele ukuxhaswa komunye nomunye, ndawonye banqobe ubunzima nokuhlangenwe nakho kokuhluleka.

Enye inkinga enkulu, ebangela ukuqhuma ngokomzwelo nokucindezeleka, kuyoba ukulahlekelwa okungazelelwe nokubonakalayo kwabangane bomuntu ngamunye. Kuyaziwa ukuthi wonke umuntu ngezinye izikhathi kufanele abe yedwa okungenani ihora noma amabili, phumula, unqamule kuzo zonke izinto nakuwo wonke umuntu. Kuhle noma kubi, akusiyo ukuba sinqume. Kodwa ngalokhu nje kungaxhunyaniswa ukungaboni kahle kokubili nokunganeliseki. Abashadile abasha abangenaso isipiliyoni sokuphila okudingekile abakwazi ukuzihlela ukuze bafunde, basebenze, benze konke okuzungeze indlu, banakekele othandekayo babo, baze bathole isikhathi sokuzijabulisa. Lokhu akuyona inketho yomuntu omdala. Enye into ukuthi ama-discos nama-nightclub, amaqembu kanye nezinkampani ezinomsindo nabangane ngemuva kweminyaka ethile kuzodonsela kancane kancane kuze kube yinto engavamile noma engekho. Kodwa ebusheni bami lokhu kuyisici esiyinhloko sempilo evamile. Futhi kuhle uma oshade naye engashiyi insizwa encane eyedwa entabeni yezingubo ezingavundiwe noma ilineni elingavuthiwe futhi engahambi kumnandi nabangani. Kulungile uma benza lokhu ndawonye, ​​bephendulela ikhaya labo endaweni yokuhlala engavunyelwe futhi engakhululekile, lapho beza khona ukuchitha ubusuku.

Kuyacaca ukuthi izimpikiswano ezithinta inyunyana yokuqala kanye nokulwa nazo zifana kakhulu. Imininingwane ixhomeke esimweni esithile: umuntu othile usanda kuqala ukushada futhi, ikakhulukazi, ukuba nezingane, futhi othile usekulungele kule ntsha. Into eyinhloko lapha, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingaba yothando kangakanani, kuxhomeke ebuqotho benothando, kuyoba namandla nomusa, ukulungela ezincane kakhulu ukuzibophezela ngomshado nomthwalo wemfanelo. Izibalo zibonisa ukuthi iphesenti lehlukaniso emishadweni yokuqala iphezulu kakhulu. Futhi umlando uyazi amacala amaningi lapho imishado yokuqala yaqala ukusebenzelana okuhle komndeni, okwenziwa kuyo yonke impilo.