Amadoda avame ukukhononda ngokuntula ukuqonda kwezingqondo zesifazane, noma kunalokho, ukungabi khona kwayo ngokuphelele. Mhlawumbe lokhu kungenxa yokuthi bona abazi ukuthi yikuphi ukucabanga, nokuthi kubonakala kanjani emazwini nasezenzo? Ngisho nasebuntwaneni, bakha umbono ophikisayo wephethini enengqondo. Isibonelo, esikhundleni sokubonisa isithakazelo sakho intombi yakho ngokusebenzisa amaswidi, usizo, noma ukuvuma okuqotho, baqala ukukhohlisa, badonsa ama-pigtails futhi babonise izimfanelo zabo ezimbi kakhulu. Ukukhula, amadoda ayashintsha kancane, aqhubeke efihla ukuzwelana kwabo kowesifazane ukuze ahlasele futhi angahlali ngaso sonke isikhathi amahlaya afanelekile, ukunganaki okungazenzi kahle noma ngisho nokungazinaki okuphelele. Indlela yokuqaphela ukuziphatha okunjalo okungenangqondo ukukhathazeka komuntu futhi uqonde ukuthi uyakuthanda ngempela?
I-Mimicry
"Ubhale konke ebusweni bakhe!" - izintombi zithi, ukuqaphela ukunakekelwa okukhulu kwendoda ongayiboni. Bheka eduze, mhlawumbe phambi kwakho, izindebe zakhe zanda ngokumomotheka, uzifaka ngokuzibandakanya ngesihloko solimi lwakhe noma aze azibale. Futhi mhlawumbe, ngokuphambene nalokho, ngokuzumayo uqala ukucabangela futhi acabange. Bese ubheka amehlo akhe. Kuzo, ngokuqinisekile, uzothola iqiniso, angazifihla ngisho naye. Indoda ethakazelisayo ibheka kancane futhi igxile ezintweni zentukuthelo yakhe isikhathi eside kunamazinga avunyelwe ukuziphatha. Kungokuthi yena, njengaleyo nganekwane, akakwazi "ukukhipha amehlo akho" kuwe.Izwi nokukhuluma
Ngaphansi kwethonya lama-hormone, izwi lomthandi ngokuthula ligcwele imisindo esithambile nesiginci esilula. Ngakho-ke, uma uzwela kumuntu, futhi ufuna ukukujabulisa, kuzodingeka ukuthi avele ephawulweni lakhe "ukukhuza" amanothi noma izwi elimnandi. Kodwa uma i-timbre yezwi ihlale ikhangisa kakhulu, khona-ke inkulumo ingaba yonke indlela. Kusukela ekujabuleleni nokuzizwa kwemicabango, indoda iqala ukugwinya izincwadi, ukukhuluma ngokungaqondile noma ukuthwala okungenangqondo ngokuphelele. Uyakwazi lokhu, uyamahloni, kodwa akakwazi ukuthula, eqhubeka nokunikeza umphumela we-delirium, okwenza kube buqili futhi ubonakale uyisiphukuphuku.Ulimi lomzimba
Oqinisile futhi othembekile ngumzimba. Kunzima ukulawula, ukuba "ngaphansi kwezinga" lemicabango. Ngakho-ke, izenzo ezisebenzisayo umuntu ngesikhathi sokuxoxa, ngokucacile zikhuluma ngesimo sengqondo sakhe sangempela kuwe. Wena ngempela njengomuntu, uma:- Akazi ukuthi angabeka kuphi izandla zakhe. Ngokungazi lutho ufuna ukukuthinta, kukukhukhumeza, kodwa ngenkathi engakwazi ukwenza lokhu, kufanele uwathathe ngesenzo esithile. Ngakho-ke, uma umuntu ekhuluma nawe ephethe izandla zakhe emaphaketheni akhe, ephonsa izithupha zakhe emgqeni noma evala yonke iminwe yakhe "ekungeneni," qiniseka ukuthi akakukhathaleli.
- Ilungisa u-tie nezingubo, kubukeka njengezimoto ezingabonakali. Ngakho uyaqaphela ngokucacile isifiso sokuba mnandi kowesifazane wakhe. Uma uzibamba ekuthinteni okungaqondakali ngezinwele zakho noma esikhwameni esisebushelelezi, yazi ukuthi ukuzwelana kuhambisana.
- Ikopisha imithwalo yesenzo nokuhamba kwesikhathi komzimba we-interlocutor. Indoda ethanda wena, ngaphandle kokungabaza, isibuko isimo sezandla zakho, ukunyakaza nokukhanga kwekhanda noma ukuma komzimba. Ngakho uzama ukuba "emvuthwandaba" ofanayo futhi akubeke kuwe.