Sonke kwakudingeka sizwe ukuthukwa ekhelini lethu futhi ngokumangalisa sasingazi ukuthi singasabela kanjani ngokufanele. Qala ukuba unesihluku noma ukhale ngokucasuka. Isazi sezengqondo sethu sinikeza amathiphu amaningana ukuthi singasabela kanjani ngobuhlakani kumenzi wobugebengu ngenhlamba. Inikeza isibonelo semishwana ezokusiza ukuba uphume esimweni esingathandeki kahle.
Indlela yokuphendula ngokufanele ukuhlambalaza
Okokuqala, ake sikhulume ngezinhlobo eziningana zokuphendula okulungile ekuthukeni.
Ukuthula
Ungacabangi leli qhinga, ngoba, njengoba uyazi, lowo ohlukumeza ngaso sonke isikhathi unomuzwa wokwaneliseka uma ebona ukuthi lokho okushiwo yi-quibbles yakhe ukulahlekelwa ukuzinyuka kwakhe noma ukuhileleka empini. Khombisa umonile ukuthi awuthinteki umbono wakhe futhi uvele umangale ngokubheka eceleni kwakhe. Uma uhlezi ekhompyutheni noma wenza umsebenzi wenyama ngaphandle kokubuka phezulu, cela: "Unenkinga?" noma "Ukhuluma nami?" Ukuphendula okunjalo ezimweni eziningi kunciphisa ukushisa komenzi wobugebengu, ngoba amazwi akhe awazange alethe umphumela olindelekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, konke: uzothola udumo lomuntu onobulungisa, ozolile futhi othembekile. Ukuphendula ngokukhululekile ukuhlambalaza kusho ukuthi angeke wehlele ezingeni lebhokisi.
Aikido
Asizizweli ukuhlela ukulwa futhi sihlanganyele ekuhlaselweni. I-Aikido - inqubo engokwengqondo yokuhumusha ukungabi nalutho kwe-interlocutor yakho kuye. Kunezikhathi lapho ibhulogi lingagcini kumbuthano owodwa noma phambi kobonke ukuqoqisa kukuthobisa, esimweni esinjalo akukho lutho oluphendulwa - alulungile. Kufanele uvikele udumo lwakho nesithunzi, akunjalo? Sebenzisa inqubo ye-Aikido, okungukuthi, ngiyabonga i-interlocutor isikhathi esichithwe esibonisa ukwehluleka kwakho. Mtshele ukuthi ngeke wenze into enjalo kuye, ngoba awukhathaleli. Qinisekisa ukuthi izimpendulo zakho azizwakali, kufanele ubonise insimbi efanayo ezolile, esiyikhulume ngayo esigabeni esandulele. Ukuqeda ingxoxo ngombhalo wokuthi uzocabangela ngokuphutha kwakho kulobubusuku bese uzama ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukuze uzilungiselele. Njengomthetho, ukusabela okunjalo kudambisa i-boor, futhi bonke ofakazi bezingxabano bayokwamukela ngokuqinile ohlangothini lwakho!
Zanudlivost
Uma uhlakaniphile kakhulu kunomhlukumezi wakho (futhi ngokuvamile kwenzeka), ungangena emasikweni alungile wokubamba. Isibonelo, i-boor ikutshela ukuthi: "Uneziphuzo ezinjalo etafuleni, njengokungathi uvela enkhumba ...", uphendule lokhu kuhlambalaza ngalokhu: ngokuqinisekileyo, uDarwin wabonisa ukuthi izingulube azizona ezokuziphendukela kweHomo Sapiens emuva kwekhulu leshumi nesishiyagalolunye. Ngingakunika incwadi mayelana nayo ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubeka nokuthola idatha efanele. "Vumelana, le mpendulo ilinganisa amagama omenzi wobugebengu bese imbeka esimweni esibucayi!
Ukungazinaki
Akuwona wonke umuntu ongakunaki ukuhlaselwa, futhi akulungile ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa kunezikhathi lapho ukuthukwa kuyinto encane kakhulu ukuthi ufuna nje ukugubha, bathi, ukuthi umuntu oyisiphukuphuku nombi lo muntu ungubani ngempela. Ungazibambeli! Bonisa, ekuphenduleni ukukhathazeka kwemizwelo emihle, bonisa ukuthi awuthinteki ngamazwi amnandi, ngaphezu kwalokho, awubathinti ngokungathí sina. Ungaphenduli ngokuthobeka, ungahlambalazi ngokubuyisela, yilokho okushiwo yi-boor kusuka kuwe.
Okudingayo, phendula umhlukumezi:
- phendula ukunyanyisa ngobuqili
- phakamisa izwi lakho ku-interlocutor
- bonisa ubuthakathaka, ukhale
Uma kuze kube manje awuzange ucabange ngokuziphatha kwakho ezimweni ezicindezelayo, ungadinga isikhathi sokuqeqesha. Buza umuntu oseduze nawe ukulinganisa izimo eziningana zokuphikisana futhi uzame kuwo amaqhinga okuphendula ubuqili esikunike wona.
Indlela yokuzivimbela wena nokukhala, funda lapha .
Indlela yokuphendula ngokuhlambalaza ngendlela efanele, ngobuhlakani nangokuhle
Futhi manje ezinye izinkulumo ezizokusiza ukuphendula ukuhlambalaza ngobuhlakani, kahle futhi ngamahlaya:
"Ngiyaxolisa, ingabe konke lokho?"
"Nginombono ongcono ngawe"
"Ukuzidla akuhambisani nawe kakhulu"
"Ingabe ulindele impendulo enhle noma iqiniso?"
"Kungani uzama ukubheka okungaphezu kwakho?"
"Njengawo wonke umuntu, nginezinsuku ezimbi." "Ungathukutheli, konke kuzoba kuhle"
"Yebo, hamba. Ake kube nenhlanhla eceleni kwakho" (uma kwenzeka umuntu egibela ngaphandle komgca)
"Kubonakala sengathi le ndima ayihambisani nawe." Ufunani ngempela? "
"Ngiyabonga ngokubonisa isithakazelo kumuntu wami"
"Ufuna ukungicasula mina?"
"Ukuduka akudingekile."
Manje uyazi ukuthi ungaphendula kanjani ngokuzithoba, kahle futhi ngobuqili ukuhlambalaza. Ngokuzithoba sifisa ukungahlangabezani nenkambo yokuphila yabashayeli!