Yimaphi abesifazane abesilisa abafunayo?
Ekhanda lawo wonke umuntu uhlala esithombeni somfazi ongcono. Abafana bafuna konke ngesikhathi esisodwa: ukwenza lo wesifazane abe mnandi, ohlakaniphile futhi ophakeme ngokuziphatha, futhi mhlawumbe mhlawumbe i-tigress embhedeni nomuntu ohlala naye ekhishini, futhi uma ehlangana nabangani futhi abathanda ibhola, kungcono nakakhulu! Ngokwezinga elithile, isithombe sesifazane ongcono emadodeni sihlukaniswa sibe yizici eziningana. Owesifazane oshayayo, ozinikezwa ngosuku lokuqala, akazitholi ngokwezifiso futhi uyazi ukuthi ufuna ukuthini - ngokuqinisekile uyathandekayo kumfana, kodwa ngabe ufuna ukudala umndeni naye noma okungenani uqale ubuhlobo? Kungenzeka ukuthi ojwayelene nabo uzophela ekuseni, lapho okuthiwa "kuqala ekuseni" isifo sangena - wangena oxhumana ngokomzimba, kodwa awuzange ube nokuxhumana ngokomzwelo phakathi kwakho nendoda.
Kodwa umfanekiso wesibili wesifazane ongcono (ake siwubize umndeni) uhlotshaniswa namanani ahlukene ngokuphelele - ukuthobeka, i-naivety, umuzwa wokuhlekisa. Isiphi isiphetho owesifazane okufanele asenze kulokhu? Khumbula, indoda enesisusa esijulile ngeke iphoqe imicimbi, i-blackmail futhi ibeke izimo "noma uyayenza, noma ngishiya ..." Yebo, abesifazane basuke bengacabangeli futhi ngezinye izikhathi sifuna ukunikeza othandekayo wakho ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukhombisa ukuthi ungumuntu ongcono kakhulu . Kodwa seluleka ukuthi singenzi lokhu! Le ndoda ibaluleke kakhulu kubazingeli. Amantombazane ngezinye izikhathi masinyane alahlekelwa isithakazelo emantombazaneni akudingeki anqobe. Musa ukuzidela ngokuziqhenya kwakho akufanele. Mhlawumbe ungumpheki omuhle futhi izitsha zakho zingamnandi ngendlela engavamile, kodwa umuntu kufanele anqobe ilungelo lokuzama. Zithokozise wena namakhono akho!
Ukuqonda kanjani ukuthi uthanda umuntu?
Ukuqonda ukuthi uthanda kangakanani umfana, uzimisele kangakanani ukuya ebuhlotsheni bakho futhi ungacabangi ubuhlobo nawe? Okokuqala, asho lokhu: umphakathi wethu uwedlula inani lamadoda afuna umbhangqwana kuphela ngempelasonto. Amadoda, njengabesifazane, abafuni ukuchitha isikhathi nokutshala imali ebuhlotsheni obungeke baholele kunoma yini. Yiqiniso, wonke umuntu unezikhathi zakhe siqu phakathi kobudlelwane obunzima kanye nendaba. Kodwa, njengomthetho, uma umuntu ekukhathalela ngaphezu kwenyanga eyodwa - ungaqiniseka ngokuqinisekile ukuthi izinhloso zakhe zimbi kakhulu.
Kuyafaneleka ukulalela ukunakwa. Indoda ikunika kangaki izipho, uhlele izinto ezimangazayo ezincane, futhi yini eveza kakhulu, ushintshe izinhlelo zakhe zokukuhlangabeza? Bonke abamele iqhaza eliqinile lomuntu baphendula ngokuvumelana ukuthi uma intombazane bayithandayo, bona nezintaba sebekulungele ukumphendukela. Ngakho-ke, amantombazane akufanele agwemelele lezo zithandani ezingabanaki. Ngikholelwa, amadoda anesizathu esisodwa salokhu kuziphatha - hhayi okuningi futhi engikufunayo. Yiqiniso, ubudlelwane abufaki izibopho kumfana ukuba ayeke umsebenzi wakhe futhi abe ngowakho ngokuphelele, kodwa imihlangano ejwayelekile kanye nesinyathelo kufanele kube.
Yini amadoda ayifunayo ebuhlotsheni bothando?
Futhi lapha futhi ukufunwa kwamadoda ethu athandekayo kubonakala. Bafuna ubudlelwano bekhwalithi. Abantu abesabekayo nabasabekayo kakhulu ebuhlotsheni buyisimanga somfazi. Kulokho okungabonakaliswa njengamazwi (ukulenga amalebuli "singabantu abashadile", sikhuluma ngomshado wesikhathi esizayo), nasezintweni (ukuzazi abazali, ukuya emfundweni yabashadayo kanye nokunye okunjalo). Khumbula ukuthi amadoda azwela kakhulu inkululeko yawo, ungawususi ngisho namazwi. Amadoda futhi ayazisa ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa kwengxenye yabesifazane, bathanda ukuqonda izingxenye zesigamu sesibili ukuthi ngeke bahlasele ngezidingo zokuya e-cafe, bebona ukuthi le ndoda inezinkinga emsebenzini noma nje hhayi enhliziyweni.
Njengoba ungabona, isigamu esiphezulu sabantu asifuni othandweni into engafanele, eqinisweni, into efanayo esiyifunayo kumadoda nathi, thina besifazane. Ungamqonda kangcono umuntu, uma ukhuluma naye kaningi, izihloko azibalulekile neze. Xoxa ngakho konke nakho konke - ukuxhumana kuzokusiza ukuba uthinte ngokomzwelo!