Ngangithanda intombazane, ngifuna ukuxhumana emphakathini osondelene kakhulu - ngakho-ke, lowo obaziyo uzokwenzeka. Abanye babo bayazi ukuthi bayazoshada eminyakeni embalwa ezayo.
Ukuzihlonipha intombazane engenzi iphutha ekukhetheni umnumzane, ukuthola kanjani umfana ngobuhlobo obungathí sina futhi ungachithi isikhathi? Okokuqala, sidinga ukuhlanganisa isithombe sengqondo somuntu olungele ubuhlobo obungathí sina.
Mhlawumbe, kuzobe sekuvele kunolwazi, ukweqa umkhawulo wesikhathi esithile, nokuthile okufinyeleleke empilweni yinsizwa. Iphupho elimnandi elimane nje alikwazi ukuthi libe nomthwalo wemfanelo emibili. Indoda enomsebenzi okhokhelwa kahle, ikhaya elihlukile noma okungenani indawo eqashiwe, isengakwazi ukuthola umlingani wokuphila. Kumuntu, umshado uyisinyathelo esinomthwalo wemfanelo, ngakho-ke aze abe nomuzwa wokuthi usezinyaweni kuze kube yilapho evuka ekhululekile, akafuni ukuzishiya inkululeko
Ngokwemvelo, cishe, kufanele abe nokuzola, ukucabangela nokuhlale ethanda. Umuntu omlutha kakhulu angabonisa ukuthambekela kokukhaphela. Ngendlela, abantu abathulile nabanesizotha kaningi kakhulu kunokuzijabulisa nokuzijabulisa, basungula ubudlelwano obuqinile. Thanda abantu abathandekayo, mhlawumbe ngisho namahloni indlela elula yokuwina. Umuntu onjalo ozobonisa umusa wakhe nokuzinikela kwakhe futhi ngeke alahleke ekudluliseni ukuxhumana okungavamile.
Uphi umfana ukuthola ibhizinisi futhi sína? Emakhakheni, imigoqo nezindawo zokudlela lokhu kuyoba nzima ukuthola. Uma umuntu eningi futhi ephuza ngenjabulo, kalula futhi ngaphandle kokungabaza, uya kudansa nawo wonke amantombazane ulandelana - lokhu akuyona hero yeveli yakho. Kodwa uma umuntu ebuka isikhathi eside futhi ethule, ngaphambi kokusondela intombazane, ukhulumisana ngokuthula futhi engasho ukuthi umngane wakhe "ukhululekile", khona-ke ungakwazi ukuxhumana naye eduze.
Umfana onzima kufanele ahlolwe endaweni ejulile. Ungamhlangabeza ngengozi embukisweni owodwa wezemidlalo, emnyuziyamu, esitolo esikhulu semishini ye-computer, ukuze siwele naye emsebenzini. Kungenzeka, kodwa akudingekile. Ukuhlose "ukuhlanganisa" izindawo zemibukiso yomakhelwane kanye nemitapo yolwazi - inqubo ayibongi.
Amantombazane ahlukumezayo angama ukuthola umfana nge-intanethi. Izinzuzo zamaqhinga anjalo ebusweni. Ngenqubo yokuxhumana yokuxhumana, ungathola ulwazi mayelana nezithakazelo, izintshisekelo kanye nezintandokazi zomuntu ngaphandle kokushiya ekhaya. Ngokuxhumana, ngocingo, ungenza umbono wokuqala womuntu, ngokusekelwe ezitatimendeni kanye nokuphindaphindiwe okungahleliwe. Futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ungakwazi kalula ukugwema ukuxhumana nomuntu ongathandanga futhi kubonakala sengathi uyasolisa. Inani elikhulu labakhanti likhulisa amathuba okuphumelela.
Kuyiqiniso, kukhona namaphutha lapha futhi. Zizinakekele ekudumeni. EWebhusini Yonke Yezwe kuvela inamba enkulu yabathandi bomama abaqeqeshiwe, bekulungele ukuguqula ikhanda lomfazi futhi bamkhonze imali ehlelekile. Bayazi kahle ukuthi yini abesifazane abayifunayo futhi bangakha umbono womuntu ohloniphekile nowomusa. Umuntu ovamile ngeke asheshe ukushada ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Intombazane efuna umfana ngobuhlobo obungathí sina kuyodingeka isebenze kanzima. Kubalulekile ukubheka ngokucophelela ku-knight ngayinye futhi ungahlanganyeli ebuhlotsheni obungavumelani. Kunezibonakaliso eziningana ezibonisa ukuthi umuntu ufuna kuphela ukuzijabulisa okungewona owenzayo. Ake sithi umfana ongabonakali ubonakala futhi uyanyamalala, usethe umgomo ocacile wokudukisa intombazane, futhi akafuni ukungena ezweni lakhe elingaphakathi, ngokuzumayo ubiza futhi uthi uye wathola amathikithi enkundleni yaseshashalazini, kanye nomdlalo emahoreni amabili. Izinto ezinjalo aziholele emicabangweni enhle.
Akudingekile ukuthi ufunde kuphela ezincwadini ezihlukahlukene, ukuthi ungathola kanjani abantu abathandanayo, kodwa futhi ucabange ngendlela intombazane okufanele ibuke ngayo, engayikhangisa insizwa efanelekayo. Ngokungangabazeki, umuntu onjalo ufuna intombazane engafuni ukushintshanisa ngezipesheli futhi uyazi ukuthi ufanelekile.
Ukwazi ukuzuzisa kwakho akusho ukuyiveza. Manje amantombazane amaningi kakhulu afundile lokho okubizwa ngokuthi "ukuzalana" abafana ngezipho, izimbali nezindawo zokudlela. Lokhu kukude neqhinga elihle kakhulu ukuthola nokugcina injabulo ezandleni. Umfana onobungane obunzima uyokhetha intombazane enhle, enomusa, ethandekayo. Ubuhle be-Mercantile nobuhle obungapheli abukwazi ukuma.
Noma ngabe yimuphi umfana omuhle ohlangana naye, kudingeka uqaphele ukuthi udinga ukwakha ubudlelwano obuhlala njalo. Amantombazane ahamba ngokuqondile futhi ahlakulele ubuhlobo. Ukuphatha ngesikhathi sokusekela noma ngokuphambene nalokho sengathi sengathi into ethile ayiqaphele, ijabule, ihlaziye futhi igqugquzele umqondo wokubaluleka kwayo - ubuciko bonke futhi kuzodingeka ifezeke yonke impilo yami.