Indlela yokuxazulula unxantathu onothando

Kukholelwa ukuthi ukuthandana ubudlelwane kubumbene kuphela emibhangqwaneni. Kodwa-ke, kaningi kakhulu ebuhlotsheni obunjalo bukhona noma buvela eceleni. Ukuvela komuntu wesithathu kudala okuthiwa unxantathu uthando. Isihloko sohlukanxantathu lothando lwakuyi, luzoba futhi luyoba yinkinga eyinkimbinkimbi yenhloko. Uthando oluthathu lwama-triangles luye lwaba njalo. Mayelana nalokhu kusho imisebenzi eminingi yokubhala, amabhayisikobho, imidwebo kule ndaba. Inxantathu yesithando kuyinkinga enkulu kakhulu. Ngokuvamile esimweni esinjalo zonke izinhlangothi ezintathu zalolonxantathu zihlupheka, kunoma yikuphi ukuhlanganiswa okungathatha. Kukhona abantu abathile, okuhlukile kule mithetho, ehlala njalo ilwela ubuhle, injabulo kanye ne-adrenaline. Kubantu abanjalo, unxantathu othandwayo luhlobo lwe-adventure. Kodwa-ke, ubudlelwane obunxantathu obuthandako abukwazi ukuqhubeka, enye yezinhlangothi zawo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi inquma ukukhetha noma izokwazi ekugcineni ukuyenza. Ngakho-ke ungaxazulula kanjani unxantathu othandweni ebuhlotsheni?
Njengomthetho, unxantathu onothando uqala ngokuhlangana okungavamile, owaziwayo, othandana kalula. Kule nkathi, umuntu ubhekene nokuzikhethela: ubani ongakhetha, ozokwakha ubuhlobo obuseduze, nomuntu oqinisekisiwe, noma ngesithando esisha. Kodwa izixazululo ezinjalo azivumi kalula. Sithanda ukudonsa nesinqumo. Siqala ukungabaza ubuhlobo obusha, sesaba ukulahlekelwa futhi senze ukukhetha okungalungile, futhi, ekugcineni, ukuhlala singenalutho.

Inhlanganisela evamile kakhulu kunxantathu yothando: indoda eyodwa nabesifazane ababili. Kukhona izizathu eziningi ezahlukene. Indoda ikhula ibanda kumfazi wayo, ubudlelwane buba buhle futhi buhle. Futhi-ke le ndoda ithola inkosikazi. Kuthiwani uma ubulelesi simo? Indlela yokuxazulula unxantathu onothando kangaka? Okokuqala, zikhethele ukuthi usulungele yini ukuthethelela ukuhlukumeza, ulungele ukulwa nomyeni wakho bese ungakhulumi lobudlelwane nobudlova. Okwesibili, uma uyazi ukuthi lo wesifazane ungubani, zama ukuvikela ukukhulumisana komyeni wakhe naye. Ngokuvamile abangane abangcono kakhulu baba ama-mistress, ngakho-ke zama ukuyigcina ingabonakali endlini yakho. Kunezinyathelo eziningi zezinsikazi zokuvusa isithakazelo somuntu kuye ngokwakhe. Sebenzisa konke. Dlala ukusebenza umuntu okunakekelayo, ubuyele ekhaya ngezimbali izikhathi ezimbalwa. Vakashela i-beauty salon, bhalisela iqembu lezempilo. Thola umsebenzi wakho ngendlela oyithandayo, lapho amandla akho azoqondiswa khona. Bonisa amandla akho siqu, vula yonke inhlekazi yakho yesifazane. Khumbula imihlangano yakho yokuqala, yini eyamheha kuwe, kunokuba unesithakazelo kumyeni wakho. Ungangeni ezingxabano kuphela, izingxoxo ezivulekile, amahlazo, izinyembezi nokucacisa ubuhlobo. Lezi zinyathelo zizoqhubeka zihlukanise nomuntu ovela kuwe.

Okungajwayelekile phakathi kwezintathu zokuthandana ngenye inhlanganisela: owesifazane oyedwa namadoda amabili. Ngokujwayelekile ubuhlobo obunjalo abuhlali isikhathi eside. Abesifazane isithembu ngokwemvelo, bazimisele ukwakha umndeni nokuzalwa kwezingane. Ngakho-ke, owesifazane onxantathu onothando kangaka uthola ngokushesha indlela yokuxazulula ngayo. Ukhetha omunye wabalingani abakha naye ubuhlobo obuhlala njalo.

Ngakuphi ukuhlanganiswa ongawutholanga, kubalulekile ukuxazulula unxantathu othandwayo. Zama ukuzikhethela ukuthi yini oyidingayo kulezi zinsuku, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi udinga lo mlingani, uma ulinqoba le mpi yamaqembu amathathu, yiziphi amathuba akho futhi ngokujwayelekile ukuthi le mdlalo ilungele lelikhandlela. Ungakhohlwa ngohlangothi lwesithathu loxantathu lothando. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi lo muntu uzolinda ngokuthula, ukuthi anganquma kanjani lesi simo. Uzokwenza futhi.

Uma usesimweni esifanayo, zama ukuxazulula unxantathu othandwayo ngokushesha, ngoba uvimba injabulo yabantu abathathu ngesikhathi esisodwa. Uma usuxazulula, phendula ngobuqotho imibuzo yakho futhi ungadideli uthando nogqozi, ubuhlobo obujulile nobulili.