Esikhathini sethu, imingcele ephakathi kwamazwe wabesilisa nabesifazane kancane kancane ihlukumezekile. Ngakho kubonakala kusuka ngaphandle. Kodwa ekugcineni, ilungu ngalinye lobulili bakhe "lidonsa ingubo phezu kwakhe." Ikakhulukazi kuboniswa empilweni ehlangene. Umfazi othola okuningi kunomyeni wakhe, uthinta ukuzethemba kwakhe; Umlingani ongasize uzungeze indlu uyathukutheliswa isimo sengqondo sakhe sokunganakwa. Amapuleti angenakulinganiswa, elala ebusuku, ijaji elingafakwa emakamelweni ... Izinkinga ezincane zidala ukuhlambalaza emhlabeni wonke nokuxabana okukhulu. Kodwa ungafunda ukukhuluma ulimi olufanayo kubamemezeli bamaeplanethi ahlukene, udinga nje ukulandela isu elithile.
Amaminithi amabili
Enye inkinga yemibhangqwana eminingi ukungaqondi kahle nokuhlukana komunye nomunye. Kwenzeka kaningi kakhulu: abantu abasha bahlala ndawonye, abafuni ukuhlukana. Bese banquma ukuhlala ndawonye. Kodwa isikhathi se-bouquet-candy saphela ngokushesha. Kubuhlungu kakhulu kubabaningi bethu ukuhamba kusuka othandweni ukuze sabelane ngemithwalo yemfanelo ekhaya. Umuntu ngamunye unezici eziningi ezizibonakalisa ngokwabo ekuphileni kwansuku zonke, nokuthi umlingani wakhe ufunda nini kuphela lapho eqala ukuhlala naye. Ngokumelene nezinkinga zansuku zonke, inqubo yebanga kusuka komunye iqala. Abesifazane bajwayele ukusola bonke abantu: "Akakhulumi nami, uyeka ukunikeza izipho." Esimweni sokude ebangeni, ababili bayecala. Ngenxa yalokho, abesifazane baphatha umthwalo wemfanelo kwezobulili besilisa. Kodwa amadoda alindele nje isinyathelo, ukubonakaliswa kothando. Abesifazane bayakwazi kakhulu ukudlulisela lokhu emahlombe abo ababuthakathaka.
Ngubani oyinkosi yendlu?
Eminyakeni yamuva, abesifazane sebeba nesifiso esikhulu futhi balwela ukuba banamathele ngokulinganayo namadoda kukho konke. Amantombazane amahle angabonakala ezikhundleni eziphambili zezinkampani ezinkulu ezingaphansi kwabanini bezimpahla zokugqoka. Futhi ebhizinisini, abesifazane bayahambisana nabantu. Ngenxa yalokho, abanye besifazane baqala ukuthola amabili, noma kathathu ngaphezu kwabayeni babo. Kodwa amadoda akakwazi ukuma lo mncintiswano. Ngenxa yalokho: ukukhwabanisa kungenxa yokuthi umfazi uyinhloko eyinhloko, futhi umyeni uhlehlisa ngemuva "kumaphuzu". Kungani amadoda engakwazi ukwamukela lo mkhuba futhi akholelwa ukuthi ukuzikhethela kwabesifazane ukubeletha izingane nokuhlanza endlini, ukudala ukuzwakalisa umndeni? Impendulo yombuzo ingezansi yezakhi zofuzo. Ngezikhathi zama-cave abantu, abesifazane bakhangwa kulowo wesilisa, owayengumuntu ocebile kunabo bonke: wazingela kangcono, waphumelela phakathi kwezihlobo zakhe. Kwabesifazane basendulo, waphumelela, ngoba lo muntu othile wayengenalo inzalo engcono kakhulu. Esikhathini sezakhi zofuzo, sasibhalwe phansi. Ngakho-ke, abesilisa banamuhla banzima ngokuncintisana, ikakhulukazi nabesifazane. Kodwa hhayi izakhi zofuzo kuphela ezithinta umqondo ophakeme wokuncintisana kwamadoda. Ososayensi baseMelika bathola ukuthi banamandla kunabesifazane, kuthinta ukuphakama nokuphumelela komlingani emsebenzini. Lokhu kungenxa yemali enkulu ye-testosterone emzimbeni. Ngiyabonga, owesilisa wanciphisa isifiso sokuba ngowokuqala kukho konke. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umndeni wakhe uthonya umqondo womndeni womndeni. Uma ubaba engumtholi, futhi umama wayesekhaya, kunzima ukuthi ashintshe futhi aqonde ezinye izilungiselelo, ngoba uhlelo olubekwe ebuntwaneni, uthatha njengesisekelo.
Isu lokuziphatha:
- Ungenzi izizathu zokuphumelela kwakho.
- Ungasho ukuthi uyaqonda ukuthi kubi kangakanani kuye manje, ungamhawukeli: lokhu kuzokulimaza imizwa yakhe.
- Siyabonga ngokusekela kwakhe, ngokuba isidlo esilungisiwe kahle.
- Buza iseluleko ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani kangcono, uxazulule izinkinga ezithile - menze azizwe ngokwakhe.
- Memezela izenzo zakhe ngezicathulo, isibonelo, ukuthi ungumuntu onjani omuhle, ukuthi wafaka ishalofu, unamandla kakhulu futhi unomsindo, njengokungathi inkosi yangempela yenza lokho.
- Ungambikeli ukwehluleka nokusimama emsebenzini wakhe. Ungadli isithunzi sakhe.
Ngokusho kwemiphumela yocwaningo lwe-American Psychological Association, kwafunyanwa ukuthi abesifazane, ngenxa yokuguquguquka komlingiswa wabo futhi abanamandla, ngokungafani namadoda, balwela ubuholi, bagcina imisebenzi yabo phakathi nezinkinga ezihlukahlukene. Ngokungafani namadoda, bavuma ukuzisola kanye / noma umholo.
Ukudabuka
Ukuze uqonde kangcono, ngezinye izikhathi kudingeka nje ukhulume endaweni ekhululekile, uhlezi etafuleni. Tshela umngane wakho zonke izimangalo ozitholile. Menze enze okufanayo. Futhi kuyinto efiselekayo ukuxoxa ngezinkinga ngenkathi zisemibungu yabo, hhayi ngonyaka nonyaka, ngemuva kokuthola ukukhula. Futhi kuyadingeka ngokuphelele ukugcizelela ukuphikisana nalokho okuphikisanayo "okumele abekwe icala?" Ukuthola isixazululo "ukuthi benzeni?". Zama ukuzwa ukuthi uyathandeka ngempela komunye nomunye, nokuthi ngamunye wenu unamazwi angathanda ukusho komunye. Wonke umuntu ekujuleni komphefumulo uthemba ukuthi omunye uzomqonda, naphezu kwegobolondo lezenzo ezimbi nezitatimende azenzayo. Khuluma ngokuzithoba, ungadluli phezulu kumathoni aphezulu.
Isu lokuziphatha:
- Hamba ngosuku. Yinikezela kumlingani wakho, iya ku-cafe, yokudlela, ukuze uhambe. Lapho ungakhuluma inhliziyo ngenhliziyo futhi uxazulule izinkinga zakho. Tsatsana mayelana nezenzo zakho zokuzilibazisa. Mhlawumbe wena noma umlingani wakho uzobe nesithakazelo ezintweni zokuzilibazisa.
- Thatha uhambo lokudoba naye, futhi myeke ahambe nawe ukuze adlale izifundo. Izinto zokuzilibazisa ezihlangene zihlanganisa ndawonye.
- Ngokuvamile ujabule ndawonye. Yiya ku-cinema, bowling noma club, ungakhohlwa ngempilo yamasiko - ukuvakashelwa okuhlangene embukisweni noma kumakhonsathi kungaphonsa isihloko esithakazelisayo sezingxoxo.
- Nika umngane wakho izipho, izimanga. Uma ufuna ukuthi insizwa yakho ikunike izimbali, mtshele ngakho noma ukusikisela okucashile. Akuyona i-telepath yokwazi okufunayo manje. Ngalokho, nika isoka lakho izinto ezincane ezimnandi. Noma ubhale amanothi amancane ngezifiso zosuku oluhle. Bangakwazi ukushiywa ephaketheni lesigqoko sakhe noma esikhwameni.
Mayelana ne-Moydodyr
Kusukela esikhathini esidlule kwakukholelwa ukuthi lapho amadoda ehlanganyela ekuzingeleni, abesifazane babegcina ikhaya. Kubonakala sengathi izikhathi zishintshile, kodwa amalungiselelo omndeni awakhona. Izimpande zale nkinga zikhula emndenini. Uma umama esephoqelela indodana yakhe ukuba ihlanzeke naye, empilweni yakhe yomkhaya akakwazi ukushiya amacwecwe angcolile. Uma umama njalo ehlanzekile kuye, ngoba indoda ehlelekile, ukuthi endlini kufanele ibuke owesifazane. Uma ucabanga ngakho, esimweni esinjalo owesifazane usekulungele noma yini, ukuze abuyele umlingani wakhe. Kodwa uma ucindezela umuntu osemncane ukwenza okuthile - kholwa kimi, uyithatha njengesifiso sakho sokubayala. Yingakho ehlalisa ngokuthula yonke imiyalelo yakho.
Isu lokuziphatha:
- Okubaluleke kakhulu - ungamcindezeli kumuntu. Mnike indima yabahlanganyeli noma umsizi ezindabeni ezihlangene.
- Hlala phansi nensizwa uphinde upende yonke imithwalo yemfanelo yendlu, ngubani nokuthi yiluhlobo luni lomsebenzi wangaphambili.
- Hlela umyalelo wemisebenzi yasendlini bese unquma izinhlawulo zokungahambisani kwazo. Khumbula ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuthi udala imithetho yomndeni wonke, futhi ungagcini inkululeko yomuntu, ngakho-ke ukujeziswa ngokwephula imithetho kuyosetshenziselwa kuwe ngesimo esifanayo ngendlela efanayo. Ngakho-ke, uzobonisa indoda yakho ukuthi ungatholi ngaphansi kwayo.
Isu lokuziphatha:
- Ngesikhathi sokuqala, shiya kangcono isikhathi esifushane, ngaphezulu kwesonto nengxenye.
- Shayela insizwa yakho nsuku zonke, wabelane ngemibono yakho.
- Uma indoda yakho ifuna futhi ngelinye ilanga ukuya endaweni yedwa, ungenzi izigcawu, amahlazo kanye nokuphenywa.