Ukwelashwa kwesizungu

Ukwesaba isizungu, ngokwama-psychologists, kaningi kunamanye ama-phobias (ukufa, ukugula, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi) kuhlushwa imiphefumulo yabesifazane. Ukuqeda lesi sishayo nini futhi kanjani?
Umcwaningi wasendulo ongumGreki u-Diogenes, ngezinye izikhathi waya emgqonyeni, wayengeke neze esabe isizungu futhi efilosofi ngenhloso yokuzijabulisa kwakhe nobuntu ngokuhle.

Izinganekwane ezivela kuDiogenes, noma yikuphi owesifazane ohlukile ngaphandle kokuba abe ngowomunye umuntu ocansini. Ngoba ngamunye ngokwemvelo unelisekile, okuyinto isizungu, ngamanani amaningi, kuyithuba elihle lokuba yedwa ngokwakho, ukufilosofi, ukwenza okuthile okuthakazelisayo futhi ngisho nokulahlekelwa othandekayo wakho, owahamba izinsuku ezimbalwa ohambweni lwebhizinisi. Empeleni, ukwesaba isizungu kunzima kakhulu. Ukubeka isisindo esisodwa noma esinye, isizungu sisuke sifihliwe ngobuhlakani futhi sihilela ngokucophelela abesifazane besenzo salo, ukuthi, ngokukhononda, isibonelo sokugula ngokomzimba noma isisindo esiningi, aboni ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Ubani okhetha ukuzodwa?

Izimbangela zesizungu ngokuvamile zihlala zisencane. Sekuyisikhathi eside ochwepheshe beqaphela ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kwengane enqatshelwe uthando nokunakekelwa kuyashesha kunalokho kweontanga yakhe, futhi umthwalo wemimoya emibi uhlala ememori cishe yonke impilo futhi uzizwakala ngendlela engavamile futhi engafanele.

Ukuphila komuntu oyedwa oyedwa kufana nehlelo lwekhompiyutha enegciwane, okwathi ngesinye sezizathu wathola ingane. Ekuqaleni igciwane alizikhohlisi, lifihle ekujuleni kolwazi olungathandeki lutho, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi luhamba luye lwayo. Ukuhlupheka ngokungaqondani abanye, ukuzwa isimo esingenathemba noma ukulahlekelwa ithemba lokuhlangana nomuntu othandekayo, abesifazane abaqondi izimbangela zangempela zokwesaba, kodwa balwa nabo - ngokusemandleni abo. Isibonelo, bazama ukuzitshela ukuthi ... ugogo wabo babe ngabafelokazi ngesikhathi sempi, kodwa, njengoba kwaziwa, abafanga ngokulangazelela. Noma zama ukuthukuthela kwabanye, benethemba lokuzibeka bona. Noma bahlakulela ukuhlambalaza emphefumulweni wabo, kancane kancane baphenduka abe-egoists abangenayo futhi samoyedok. Kunoma yikuphi, bakhuthaza amandla engqondo nengokwenyama ukulwa nenkinga ebuhlungu futhi, engazi ukuthi benzani, zihlanganisa indlela enamandla yokuzivikela kwengqondo. Kodwa inkinga ihlala, futhi owesifazane ujwayele ukuhlala nobuhlungu - ukungaboni kahle, ukudumazeka, ukungakhathaleli, ngoba akajwayele ukufaka isicelo "socwaningo" kulowo ochwepheshe.

Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, isimo siphuthukisiwe nakakhulu futhi, kubonakala sengathi akucaci ukuthi kungani "isisulu" sozungu siqala ukwesaba, sibhekene nokuqwashisa, sibheke kumgogeni wezinkinga ngenxa yokungahambi kahle kokuya esikhathini, ukukhononda ngezinhlungu zomhlane ... Futhi akasoli ukuthi lolu hlelo luphila igciwane libhubhisa indlu yalo ngaphakathi. Okuqhubekayo - okuningi: impilo yengqondo ihlupheka. Imicimbi eminingi ibonakala ngokukodwa, yonke into encane ibambe iqhaza elikhulu, futhi isimo empeleni singakwazi ukuphela ngokudabukisayo.

Isibonelo salokhu yisithombe soLisa ompofu egameni elifanayo lomlobi uKaramzin. Le ntombazane yakhula yedwa futhi ebuntwaneni yayingazange ibone, njengoba izazi zengqondo zithi, izinhlobo zokujabula komkhaya. Imizwelo yakhe, ecasulwa ngumfanekiso okhanyayo ka-Erast, yayikude kakhulu nezinkinga zangaphakathi ukuthi ngisho nomcabango womama omdala ongazange ahlupheke ngendodakazi eyodwa akuzange amvimbe ekwenzeni isinqumo esibuhlungu.

Abanye besifazane, bezama ukufihla isisulu sabo, bashade, bahlukanise, babelethe izingane, babelethe izintombi ezingenakubalwa, okungafani nabo, abanabo bonke ababenabo. Ngelinye igama, "bayakhubaza" isizungu emanzini. Ingabe iphumelela? Maye, cha. Ngoba esixukwini ungazizwa wedwa ngokwengeziwe kunakho.

Freud izosisiza
USigmund Freud, ubaba we-psychoanalysis, wayengeyena udokotela ochwepheshe nje kuphela, kodwa futhi wayengumuntu onesizungu. Ngesinye isikhathi, ehlezi etafuleni lakhe futhi ehlaziya inkinga yakhe, wasilahla, "waphuma" ephepheni. Ngakho-ke, izazi zithole enye yezindlela eziphumelela kakhulu - i-psychoanalysis, esetshenziswa kuze kube namuhla. Isiguli, ngaphansi kwesiqondiso esiqinile se-psychoanalyst, sikhuluma ngenkinga yaso futhi siyayilahla - lokhu kuwukuthi, esimisweni sokuqala, uhlelo lokwelapha isizungu.

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