Ubuhlobo bobulili obugcwele akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuthokoza kwabo bobabili abalingani, futhi uma indoda ivame ukuba namantombazane akwanele eceleni kwayo noma enye yomusa wayo, kunzima kakhulu ukuba abesifazane bazivumelanise nomzwelo wokuzizwa. Ngenxa yokungakwazi ukujabulisa intombazane, amadoda avame ukuphoqeleka ukubekezelela ubuhlobo bobulili. Abesifazane abangaba ngu-30% ngoba abakwazi ukujabula, abathokozi ngokocansi, futhi bangathanda ukugwema ukusondelana ngokobulili.
Indlela yokufunda ukuba ujabule?
Ukuzijabulisa kuqala kusukela ekhanda - uma ubuchopho buhlabelela umvuthwandaba oshukumisayo, unikeza isignali emzimbeni, ngenxa yalokho ukugeleza kwegazi komzimba wonke kusebenze futhi ukunikezwa kwegazi kwezitho zomzimba kuqinisa, imfihlo yesifazane igcizelelwe. Ngakho-ke, umzimba wonke uhanjiswe ohlelweni lobuhlobo bocansi. Ngakho-ke, okokuqala, ukuqala inqubo yokuzijabulisa, umuntu kumele acabange ngezinto ezihlotshaniswa nezinjabulo zokuzijabulisa, zibone ngeso lengqondo, zizilungiselele ngokwabo ku-wave wave. Kusobala ukuthi imisebenzi yendlu, usuku olusebenzayo kanzima kanye nezinye izinkinga zasemakhaya kukuvimbela ukuba ujabule futhi ugxile ekuhlangenwe nakho kobulili. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa umkhakha wekhaya, umsebenzi nokuzilibazisa, ukwazi ukushintsha kusuka komunye kuya komunye, uphonsa ikhanda yonke imicabango mayelana nezinkinga eziphuthumayo.
Kungakanani ukujabulisa intombazane?
Esigabeni sokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqondisa imicabango yale ntombazane ngendlela efanele - ukumncoma, ukuphawula ubuhle nokukhanga komzimba wakhe, ukuze uvumelane nobudlelwane obungokomzwelo nomzimba. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho kukhona khona isimo sengqondo esifanele, indoda ingakwazi ukuqhubeka ne-caresses yokuqala. Akufanele ulondoloze isikhathi nemizamo ukuze udale isimo sengqondo - indoda evuse intombi yakhe ekugcineni izothola injabulo eyengeziwe. Ukusikhipha ukukhanya okunamandla nge-overtones engathandekayo kusiza intombazane ukuba ijabule ngokushesha, ngoba lokhu, indoda kufanele ibe mnene, kodwa iphikelela, nayo yonke into ebonisa isifiso sokwenza kahle. Ukuqala ukusikhipha okunjalo kungenzeka kusuka ezingxenyeni ezingekho hlangothi zomzimba (amahlombe, imilenze, emuva) kancane kancane ehamba entanyeni, esifubeni, ezinqeni nasezintweni, othintekayo okwenza kucaciswe ngesifiso somlingani futhi ubeka intombazane ukuba ibe ocansini.
Indlela yokufunda ukuba ujabule futhi uthuthukise izinzwa?
Ikhono lokuthokozisa ngokushesha lingatholakala ngokuqeqeshwa. Ngokuphambene nalezi zindlela zokulawula phezu kwesimo somzimba, njengokuzivocavoca umzimba, indlela kufanele ibe yinkimbinkimbi. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukuba uthuthukise isimo sengqondo ngokujwayelekile - ukuzama ukunambitheka okusha, ukuzama ukuzwa wonke ama-shades, ukunambitheka izithelo zangaphandle nokudla okucwengile, kucebise ukuzwa okubukwayo. Lokhu kusizwa futhi ngokudala umkhathi wothando. Ngakho-ke, izimbali, i-link bed bed linen, amafutha anamakha namakhandlela asiza "ukuvula" izinzwa nokuphendula ngokucacile emasayini omngane womshado.
Thuthukisa izinzwa zisiza lingerie yobuciko - isilikhi, i-lace nezintandokazi ezithakazelisayo ekuthintaneni nomzimba wezingqayizivele zivuselela ukuzwela kwayo futhi zinikeze izinto ezintsha ezithakazelisayo. Ingubo yobuciko eyavusa inkohliso yakho ngendlela efanayo izophazamisa umlingani, izoletha intsha ebuhlotsheni. I-bandage emehlo ingenza izinzwa zibe nzima, ngoba lapho kungekho khona isignali ezivela ezithombeni ezibukwayo, umzimba ugxile kwezinye izinzwa - iphunga, imisindo, ithinta.
Ungazijabulisa kanjani wena?
Ukufunda izindaba ezithandanayo, ukubuka izimo zocansi, imidlalo yokudlala indima ingenye yezindlela eziningi zokufaka ukuzwakalisa ebuchosheni, obuzosabalalisa kuwo wonke umzimba. Lapho ulungiselela ubusuku bothando, ungacabanga ngezimo ezithakazelisayo ezivela kumafilimu ashukumisayo, ezama ukuzwa imizwelo yomlingiswa oyinhloko. Into ebaluleke kunazo zonke kuleli cala ukukhipha konke ukulinganiselwa kokuziphatha, njengamahloni nokwesaba. Balimaza lo mdlalo futhi baphazamise ukubona ucansi njengengxenye engokwemvelo futhi ejabulisayo yobudlelwane obuvumelanayo. Amafutha anamakha-aphrodisiacs, njenge-sandalwood, i-muscat, i-ylang-ylang, i-patchouli, i-rose, i-musk, isiza ukudala umoya wesimo somzimba nokukhuluma ngomzimba, ukulungiselela amageyimu ocansi.