Ezingxabano phakathi kwezingane nabazali, akukho okusha futhi okungavamile. Noma kunjalo, unyaka nonyaka, kusukela ngekhulu kuya kwekhulu, izizukulwane azikwazi ukuthola ulimi oluvamile. Ngenxa yokuthi ubudlelwane emndenini buvutha, izingxabano ziqala, kukhona inzondo ngisho nenzondo. Uma umndeni usuvele uqala ukuwohloka ubudlelwane, abazali kudingeka bathathe ngokushesha isimo, ukuze konke kungabi nakakhulu. Kodwa isibonelo, akubona bonke omama abakwaziyo ukuqinisa ubuhlobo nendodakazi yentsha. Nakuba, kubonakala sengathi abesifazane ababili kufanele baqonde. Noma kunjalo, umehluko eminyakeni yobudala ubonakala ngokubonakalayo. Yingakho wonke umama engayiqondi indlela yokwakha ubuhlobo nendodakazi yakhe, ikakhulukazi uma esemusha.
Futhi zonke izinkinga nendodakazi yakhe, ngokuvamile ziqala ebusheni. Nokho, lokhu akumangalisi. Umama ngamunye ubonakala sengathi indodakazi yakhe iyinkosikazi encane, yonke into enhle, intombazane enhle enezintambo. Yingakho lapho indodakazi ikhula, kunzima kakhulu ukuba umama ahambisane naye, ngoba umama wakhe ucabanga ukuthi uyintombazane encane, kanti indodakazi yakhe ifuna ukuzizwa njengowesifazane omdala. Indlela yokwenza kulesi simo?
Gwema Ukuthanda
Okokuqala, omama abaningi baphanga ubuhlobo nendodakazi yakhe ngokuzama ukuphoqa imicabango yabo ngokuthanda izinto nokunye okuningi. Noma kubi nakakhulu, bathi izintandokazi nezintandokazi zentombazane azilungile futhi azivamile. Ngakho-ke akunjalo. Ngisho noma indodakazi iqala ukuhileleka emculweni obuthakathaka, uzibheka njenge-goth futhi ilenga ama-posters angavamile, ungaphenduli ngokushesha ukuthi usemkhatsini omubi futhi uzilimaza.
Ekukhuleni, izingane zizifunela zona futhi zizama ukuziveza. Yingakho baqala ukuba nesithakazelo kuma-subcultures, ukugqoka ngaphandle kokuhleleka, ukulalela umculo, okuhlukile kokumisa. Uma ubuhlobo bakho nendodakazi yakho beqala ukuwohloka ngenxa yokuphila kwakhe, khona-ke wena, njengomama, udinga ukufunda ukuthi ungayamukela kanjani njengoba kunjalo. Uma ubona ukuthi isitayela sakhe nokuthandayo akuthinti kabi (akaphuzi, ngokuvamile ufunda, uziphatha ngokufanele), ungazami ukushintsha indodakazi yakhe. Futhi akudingekile ngokuzama ukuzama ukujoyina umhlaba wakhe. Usadingeka uhlale umama - okungukuthi, umuntu omdala ongazama ukuphuma naye, kepha angasiza ngezeluleko lapho ebuza.
Ukuxhumana nendodakazi yakhe, udinga ukuthatha isithakazelo empilweni yakhe, kodwa ungabuzi. Uzokutshela ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi kufanelekile, uma ungamcindezeli. Lapho intombazane ekhulile ivuleka phambi kwakho, akumele ihlulelwe. Ngisho noma ucabanga ukuthi akalungile, zama ukuthula ngeseluleko, uphakamise izindlela zokuxazulula le nkinga, kodwa ungalokothi ukhamuluke, ungabizi, ungasho ukuthi akazi lutho futhi akwazi. Uma indodakazi izozwa kuwe ukulahlwa kuphela, ngeke ukwazi ukusungula ubudlelwane futhi iyovalwa ngokuphelele.
Ukungqubuzana ngenxa yomfana
Ukungqubuzana phakathi komama nendodakazi kungabangelwa othandweni bokuqala kanye ne-chevaliers, okuyinto uMama engayamukeli. Yiqiniso, kulokhu, umama kunzima kakhulu ukuzivimbela, ngoba ufuna ukuvikela ingane ekukhetheni okungafanelekile. Kodwa-ke, esimweni esinjalo udinga ukubeka endaweni yaso futhi ukhumbule ukuthi uma uthanda, ubona okuhle kuphela, futhi ubona noma yikuphi okungahambi kahle kokuthile okububulayo njengokuthuka komuntu siqu. Ngakho-ke, ngisho noma umama ebona ukuthi indodakazi ikhetha insizwa engalungile, umuntu kufanele aziphathe ngokwakhe futhi anike ingane ukuthi ifunde emaphutheni akhe. Yiqiniso, kuyilapho kungekho muntu ophikisanayo enikeza iseluleko esingenabuhlungu.
Ngokuvamile, uma ufuna ukusungula ubudlelwane nendodakazi yakho yentsha, khumbula kaningi lokho okwakuneminyaka yakhe. Funda ukubuka isimo esingekho eminyakeni yakho siqu, lapho usuvele uhlakaniphile futhi ubone okuningi. Bheka isimo ngamehlo endodakazi yakho, oqala ukuhlola umhlaba. Uma ngempela ungakwenza lokhu, uzoqonda ukuthi ungayisiza kanjani, ngaphandle kokuphikisana kusuka ekuqaleni.