Ngokusho kwengqondo yabantwana, ingane ngokuvamile izama ukwenza ubungane nalowo onezimpawu ezingavamile kuye. Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi umntwana ohlukumezayo uqala ukuba umngane oswelekile futhi onesibindi, othulile - ngomfana okhuluma naye, olalelayo futhi othulile ukhetha ukuba umngane wezinduna egcekeni lomhlukumezi, nentombazane enamahloni, engavikelekile ezintendeni zomuntu okwazi ukudlulisa umlilo nomlilo . Abazali, ukufunda ngalokhu ubungani, ngokushesha baqala ukukhathazeka: ngeke yini abanye baqale ukuxhaphaza ingane yabo, bayisebenzise ngezinhloso zabo ezingathandabuzeki? Ingabe ingane yabo ekhulunywe ngeke iphenduke ibe yi-tomboy engalawuleki? Futhi lokhu kwesaba kuqondakala kahle.
Indlela yokuxazulula le nkinga?
Ngeshwa, abazali abaningi abasesimweni esifanayo benza iphutha elifanayo: banqabela ingane ukuba ikhulume nomfana noma intombazane ethize "embi". Kodwa ngale ndlela akunakwenzeka ukuphumelela! Kuyiqiniso, uma ingane yakho isidalwa esinyanyiswa nguwe, lapho igunya lakho lingaphezu kwezinto zonke emhlabeni, mhlawumbe. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuthi izingane ezinjalo ziyoke zibe nabangane abanjalo ngaphandle kwemvume yakho. Ngokuvamile izingane ziqala ukwenza naphezu kwalokho, ukuze zisindise intsha ngokuzikhandla - hhayi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma. Zilawulwa umoya wokuphikisa, futhi unamandla kunakho. Ngokuvamile ingane iqala ukuthula ngokuphathelene nabangane bakhe nezenzo zakhe. Uba ngaphandle kwempilo yakhe, kodwa uyayidinga?
Kuzosebenza kangcono kuleli cala ukwenza okuphambene - ukuvula ngokukhululekile umnyango wendlu yakho kubo bonke abangane bomntwana. Zama ukukwenza ngobuqotho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kangakanani kuwe. Ungaphathi izingane ngokubandlulula: kuthiwani uma uphutha ngabo? Ngokungazelelwe, empeleni, bangabantu abathandekayo, uhlobo oluthinta ingane yakho ngempela? Uma ngabe izigebengu zangempela zezingane zivele endlini, ungabamba ikhanda, ungazigibeli zivuleke, ngoba zivumela. Khuluma nengane yakho ukuze eze esiphethweni esifanele ngokwakhe. Kukhona into engakuqinisekisa: Ubungane obuntwaneni buvame kakhulu. Ngemuva kweholide elide, labafana bathola abangane abasha, futhi abajwayele ukukhumbula abadala kamuva.
Shintsha intshisekelo yengane
Cabanga: mhlawumbe ingane yakho izwa ukungabi namandla okuphila empilweni, futhi lapho, emgwaqweni, ubaluleke kangaka impilo nokunikela? Kukhona ama-adventures amahle (akuzona zomthetho njalo), uthando lomngane "ethuneni" nokusizana komunye, futhi ingane yakho ifuna ukuya khona, ifuna ukuzwa okuthile okusha? Bese uzama ukuthola le ntombazane enkampanini "i-antidote" ngesimo sesifundo esikwanelisa isifiso sakhe sokuzijabulisa. Phela, umuntu omdala unamathuba amaningi kunegceke "iziphathimandla"! Kunezigaba eziningi zezemidlalo - hhayi kuphela i-volleyball ne-hockey, kodwa futhi i-karate, i-go-karting, ibhoksi, imidlalo eqondile. Kungcono ukuvumela ingane ukuba igxume nge-parachute noma ikhuphuke emaphandleni ngaphansi kokuqondiswa kwabafundisi abanolwazi, kunokuba iyanyamalala engaziwa ukuthi kuphi futhi ubani. Kunezinhlangano zezokuvakasha nezintaba, umphakathi we-archaeologists abancane kanye nezikhulu ze-speleologists. Lapho, izingane zihamba ngezinyawo, zifunda emaphandleni eyimfihlo, ubheke imidwebo yamadolobha achithekile ... NgamaRoma? Noma kunjalo! Ingozi? Yebo, kaningi - kodwa lokhu kuyingozi ehlelekile futhi elawulwayo.
Noma, isibonelo, ama-scouts. Ngeke kube ukuthi ingane ayithandi ubuzalwane nokuthembeka kwama-scouts! Ngelinye igama, cabanga ngokucophelela, hamba ezinhlanganweni ezahlukene, thola ukuthi iziphi izingxenye nemibuthano ekhona endaweni yakho - futhi hamba! Uma ungakwazi ukuthola ingane yakho iqhaza okokuqala - ungakhathazeki. Mhlawumbe ingane yakho ayifuni ukukhuphuka izintaba, kodwa amaphupho we-scuba diving noma imincintiswano echibini. Ngokuvamile izingane (ngisho nentsha) azi ukuthi zifunani - kulokhu, zidinga ukubasiza ngokukhetha ngokunikeza amandla abo emibuthanweni ehlukahlukene. Khona-ke ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ingane izothola imvelo "yakhe".
Kuthiwani uma ingane isivele inkampani embi?
Izinto ezimbi kakhulu, uma intsha ihlangene nenkampani embi ngempela. Akuyona into engavamile ngamacala lapho ubugebengu beqembu bubophezelwa intsha enhle, phakathi kwabanye, bese behluleka ngisho nokuchaza ukuthi yini eyabakhuthaza ukuphula umthetho kanye nabo bonke. "Isimiso semvelo", "isixuku sabantu" - la magama amagama ochwepheshe bezengqondo babhekisela kulo mcimbi. Isixuku kuleli cala singamandla amakhulu ingane engakwazi ukumelana nayo. Uma kukhona okufanayo okwenzekile kakade, umsebenzi wabazali ukuthola imbangela yezimpande. Enkampanini enjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi ingane izwa ukuthi inqatshiwe. Abamqondi ekhaya, bamdelela ekilasini. Yini esele kuye? Kuphela ukuhlukumeza bonke ukuthi baxhumane nama-hooligans amaningi, ukuze bakhombise ukuthi "angaba" futhi.
Zizwe inhlabathi: ingabe ngempela empeleni ingane yakho ikhululekile emvelweni omusha, noma ingabe nje yenza lokhu ukuze ikuhlasele futhi yena ngokwakhe akakwazi ukulinda uze ubuyele emndenini? Mhlawumbe, yena ngokwakhe akajabuli ngezimo lapho ehudulwa khona, kodwa uvele esaba ukukucela usizo? Kulesi simo, meme ukuthi ngeke umjezise noma umjezise, okwakuzogcina kwenzeke. Ukuze usindiswe enkampanini embi ongayethemba - ingane kufanele ikwazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi indlu izoqondwa futhi ithandwa yimuphi umuntu.
Uma umndeni wakho ungenzi ukuthembela, izinqatshelwe zizodlala indima ehlukile. Wena ngokwakho uzomxosha ingane kulabo abathembela ngaphezu kwabazali bakhe. Ngakho-ke, indlela engcono kakhulu ongayilondoloza ngayo intsha evela enkampanini embi nokukhulumisana okungafuneki ubuhlobo obunobungane emndenini ocolile nothando. Ngokufanele, ubudlelwane obunjalo buyinto evamile yengane kusukela ekuzalweni kwakhe. Khumbula: akukaze kube sekwephuzile kakhulu ukuthuthukisa, ukubeka ubudlelwane bakho endleleni efanele. Ungakwazi njalo ukwenza abangane nengane, ngisho noma esekhulile futhi waqala ukwenza izinqumo eziningi ngokwakhe.