Yiqiniso, endaweni yokuqala, konke kuxhomeke endleleni owephula ngayo. Uma ukuhlukanisa sekuphelile ngokuthuka nokuthukuthela, khona-ke ukuhalalisela kufanele kushiywe nawe. Zahlulela wena, uma ushiya umfana, umcasula ngalokhu, khona-ke ukuhalalisela kuzobukeka kanjani? Kunezinketho ezimbalwa. Owokuqala - uzothatha njengendlela yokuhleka usulu, isimo sakhe sengqondo sizohlaselwa, uzokulobela inkulumo evuthayo futhi ede kakhulu futhi iholidi lakhe lizophangwa nje.
Option ezimbili - insizwa izocabangela ukuthi lokhu kusho okuthile kanye nemizwa yakho ayidlulile. Kulokhu, uzophinde aqale ukufuna ithuba lokuhlangana nokubeka ubuhlobo, futhi lokhu akudingi neze.
Cabanga ngesimo esihlukile - umfana waphonsa futhi wakuhlambalaza. Kulesi simo, ukuhalalisela okunjalo kuzobhekwa njengokuthobeka. Ngokuqinisekile uzokubonisa kubo bonke abangane bakhe, hhayi ukukhohlwa ukuhlambalaza futhi ethi wena, isisulu esingenalutho esithandweni, ongasakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kokuhlonipha ubukhosi.
Kuyinto enye into lapho uhlukana, ngokusho, ngokuthula. Phakathi kwakho kwakungekho ukuphikisana nokuhlambalaza. Kulula nje, kwafika isikhathi lapho bobabili niqaphela ukuthi imizwa yacinywa nokuthi kwakungekho iphuzu ekuqhubekeleni ubudlelwane. Esimweni esinjalo, ungahalalisela insizwa eholidini lokuzalwa kwakhe. Kodwa namanje zama ukuhalalisela umsindo oqotho, kodwa ongathathi hlangothi. Akudingekile ukuthi usebenzise ukwelashwa okuhlukene nokunciphisa ukwelashwa, ngoba insizwa ingakwazi ukuyihumusha lokhu ngokungalungile futhi ucabange ukuthi uphinde ukhanyise imizwa kuye.
Uma wazi ukuthi umfana owayengumfana unentombazane enomhawu ohlale ekhumbuza ngawe, bese uhalalisela kufanele ukhohlwe. Nguwe futhi uyaqonda ukuthi izidluli ezedlulile esikhathini esidlule, futhi ukubingelela okunjalo kuyisiko kumuntu oye wabusisa izinkumbulo. Intombi yakhe ayifuni ukuqonda nokuqonda lokhu. Ngakho-ke, isoka lakho langaphambili liqinisekisiwe: usuku lokuzalwa olususwe, ihlazo, ama-hysteric kanye nezitsha eziphukile. Futhi ungabi namahloni ukucabanga ukuthi ngeke aqaphele i-SMS noma umlayezo womuntu siqu oxhumana naye. Laba besifazane bahlole konke futhi yonke indawo. Yingakho nje umkhumbule ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa futhi ngimfisa kahle ngengqondo. Abantu bazizwa benamandla, ngisho noma bengaboni noma beyizwa.
Uma ugcina ubudlelwane obuseduze nomuntu oseyinsizwa, ngokwemvelo, akumele kube nombuzo nganoma yiziphi izinkinga. Ngicabanga ukuthi uzokumemela emkhosini, futhi ngeke nje umhalalisele, kodwa futhi unikeze isipho esithakazelisayo. Yiqiniso, lolu khetho luyathandwa kakhulu, kodwa, ngenhlanhla, kukhona imibhangqwana enjalo engakwazi ukubona ukuthi ubungane phakathi kwabo bukhulu kunentukuthelo, intshisekelo nokungaqondi kahle.
Kodwa kunezinye izimo. Futhi enye yazo yilapho lapho, ngemuva kokuhlukanisa, intombazane iyaqaphela ukuthi isamthanda insizwa yakhe yangaphambili. Indlela yokubhekana nalesi simo? Okokuqala, udinga ukwazi njalo ukuthi unenkosikazi entsha yenhliziyo nokuthi uyakuthinta kanjani. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unemizwa enamandla kangakanani, akufanele uphinde uzihlazise futhi uziphathe kabi. Yiqiniso, usuku lokuzalwa luyiholide enomusa futhi eliqhakazile, okungaba yisizathu sokubuyisana. Kodwa, kuyadingeka ukwazi kahle ukuthi lokhu kubuyiselwa kungokoqobo. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokusebenzisa ukubingelela njengesizathu sokuthola, thola abantu obaziyo ukuthi izinto zimi kanjani. Uma engakuthandi futhi engatholanga owesifazane ojabula naye - ungathatha ithuba.
Uma kunjalo, ukuhalalisela kufanele kube ngokomzwelo okwanele, kodwa kungabi kakhulu. Awazi ukuthi usenemizwa yini. Uma bengekho, khona-ke uzobe ubheka ubuqili phambi kwesoka lakho langaphambili. Njengoba uyamazi kahle, sebenzisa amagama namazwi angambamba, akukhumbuze okwedlule, ngezikhathi ezithile ezimnandi. Ekubonga kwakho kube ngobuqotho, kodwa ungamhlangabezi, uthobe futhi ubonise ukuthi ungcono kakhulu emhlabeni futhi ulungele ukwenza konke. Ngikholelwa, ngisho nasemazwi ajwayelekile okuthokoza, ungakwazi kalula ukubamba umbhalo onjalo uma ubeka khona. Ngakho zama ukuqukethe imizwelo yakho, noma ngabe kunzima kuwe ukwenza lokho. Umfana kufanele aqonde ukuthi ungathanda ukuqhubeka nokuxhumana naye, kodwa ngeke wenze konke okusemandleni futhi akunakwenzeka kulokhu. Uma ungenandaba naye, uzophendula ekuthokozeni kwakho futhi uzoqala ingxoxo, futhi kukhona konke okuxhomeke kuwe. Uma kukhona okungenani amalahle, ingashintshwa ibe yilapha futhi.
Futhi kuthiwani uma umphonsa umfana wamcasula, futhi manje uyaqaphela ukuthi uphambene kakhulu? Kulesi simo, izinsuku zokuzalwa zingasetshenziswa njengesizathu sokubuyisana. Kodwa uma kunjalo, kungcono ukungabhali, kodwa ukubiza. Lokhu kunjalo, kuyabangela, ngoba kukhona njalo ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi angeke athathe ifoni. Kodwa usufanele uzame. Uma lo mfana esakhuluma nawe, sihalalisele, ubeke yonke imizwa kula mazwi, bese ucela intethelelo, uchaze ukuthi uphambene futhi uyamthanda. Ungamceli ngomhlangano, cindezela, vele unike ukudla okucatshangwayo. Masiqonde ukuthi yini eyithandekayo kuwe, futhi uqaphele wonke amaphutha akho.
Uma ebona ukuthi uyadabuka ngempela konke futhi usenemizwa, cishe uzokwazi ukwakha. Ngosuku lokuzalwa, sonke sithola kancane kancane. Ngakho-ke, unethuba lokufinyelela kuye, ngenxa yokuphenduka kwakho okuqotho.
Kodwa, uma umfana engazange athathe ifoni, wena-ke, ungabhala kuye, nakuba, cishe, umphumela uzoba okufanayo. Kulokhu, kufanele uvumelane nokuthi ulahlekile futhi kufanele uqhubeke uhlala, udweba iziphetho emaphutheni akho. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyadingeka yini ukuzama ukuhalalisela ngokuphindaphindiwe isoka lesandulela ngukuzalwa, uNyaka Omusha namanye amaholidi, uma engafuni ukukubona empilweni yakhe? Ngicabanga ukuthi akufanelekile. Ungalahleki isikhathi esiyigugu kumuntu ongafuni ukuhlanganyela ngalesi sikhathi nawe.