Abathandi abasha nabanamandla bakuthola kunzima ukwamukela iqiniso lokuthi abazali baphambene nomshado wabo. Kodwa yile ndaba ngezinyembezi futhi ishaya ubumba obudlalwa emindenini eminingi, ngokushesha nje lapho indodakazi iletha "uthando lokuphila kwakhe" endlini.
Ukusabela komama kuhlukile, kodwa ezimweni eziningi kusengalungile. Ohlakaniphile futhi ohlakaniphile uthula, uzama ukunqoba imizwelo futhi anganikeli imizwa yangempela. Abanye, abazali abangokomzwelo kakhulu, balungele ukwenza konke ukuze bahlukanise abantu abasha futhi bakhethe isifiso esifanelekayo somntwana wabo othandekayo.Okumangalisa ukuthi, uma beqina ngezandla, beba nobubele obuningi emehlweni abo, bebhekene nomunye nomunye, kunomthelela omkhulu umamazala. Kule nkambo kukhona izinyembezi ezinonya eziqondisa le nsizwa, futhi izingxoxo nendodakazi enhliziyweni, lapho kubonakala khona ukushaywa ngengozi emaphuthelweni omuntu onobuhlungu. Kukhona ngisho nokulahlwa okucacile ngomphumela wokuhlambalaza.
Kubonakala sengathi amaqhinga ambalwa ambalwa angabonakali. Ehlukanisiwe ngokuqinile, egcwele udaka, abathandi bazobe besondelene kuphela. Izithiyo ezingeziwe zizophonsa izinkuni ezintsha emlilweni wothando lwabo olusha. Phela, ngisho nabahlakaniphileyo abaphumelelayo abaye bazinikela iminyaka yesikole ukuba bafunde bodwa, bakhule. Futhi akekho umama ozithandayo ongayeka lokhu.
Izinhloso zomama
Njengoba wazi, omama abangashadile banamathele kakhulu ezinganeni zabo, ngisho noma sebevele beneminyaka engu-30 ubudala futhi sekuyisikhathi sokuqala umndeni wabo. Isizathu lapha lapha sincane, owesifazane osekhulile usevele esaba ukwesaba:- ukwesaba isizungu,
- ukwesaba ukuguga,
- ukwesaba ukufa,
- ukwesaba ukuphila kwakho nenhlalakahle yakho.
Yiqiniso, kunzima ukulalela amazwana anobuthi ngesigamu sakho sesibili bese uhlala unganandaba. Futhi empeleni uyaqonda ukuthi akusikho konke kuwo, into nje eyenzeka kumama, onomusa futhi onomusa, ngokungazelelwe aphenduke ukufutheka kwangempela. Futhi kukhona ukwehluleka kwengane kuphela, njengokungathi umama akakho ngisho nomama nhlobo, njengokungathi uyeke ukuthanda futhi ufuna ukuba ube mabi.
Lokhu akunjalo, umama namanje uyalingana futhi uyakuthanda okungaphansi, uyesaba nje. Izwe lakho elincane lishintshile, futhi usishintshile, ngaleyo ndlela ulahla umzali onakekela ngokweqile isinyathelo esazijwayele kusukela ekuzalweni kwakho. Ukuqaphela lokhu, kuyoba lula kuwe ukuba usinde esikhathini sokulwa okubalulekile.
Izindlela zokulwa:
Okukhethwa kokuqala ukuphikisana okuphikisanayo. Uma le ndodakazi iqhubeka iziphatha nomama ngokuthandana nangokucophelela njengangaphambili, ayisabele ekuhlaselweni kwayo, futhi iyaqhubeka ihlangana nabathandekayo bakhe, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi inhliziyo yomzali ingakwazi ukuzola. Nokho, ngokwenza le ndlela ayisebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Inketho yesibili ukugijima, futhi kude. Usuvele ukhulile, futhi sekuyisikhathi sokuphila kwakho, umndeni wakho kanye nokuzikhethela kwakho. Kulula ukukwenza ngaphakathi kwezindonga zendlu. Ibanga elihle lizokunikeza wena nomama wakho ukuphumula. Uzoba nesikhathi sokucabanga nokumukela. Ekugcineni, akafuni ukulahlekelwa indodakazi yakhe.
Ukuhlala ekhaya, ukuvumela ukukholisa, ukuzwela umuntu osondelene kakhulu, ngeke nje usayine amandla akho, ubeka ekugcineni impilo yakho. Ungangabazi: ikhonsathi, ephumelele okungenani kanye empilweni yakho, iyoba yinombolo yomqhele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umama uzoba nesikhathi esengeziwe sokuthola amaphuzu engeziwe.
Cabanga ukuthi wena nsuku zonke, indlela futhi ngomusa kukukhumbuza ukuthi ufanelwe ngaphezulu. Nje kancane kancane, futhi wena ngokwakho uzoqala ukubheka ngokungahloniphi kumuntu wakho. Lokho kungamandla angenamkhawulo wezwi lomama, uma kungenjalo iningi lethu, ngakho-ke kuningi kakhulu.
Kukhona okwesithathu okuhlukile kokuthuthukiswa kwezehlakalo - ukuphonsa umthandi ngethemba lokuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lapho ubuyekeze abaningi abafake izicelo, umama uzofika ezinhliziyweni zakhe futhi agubuzele ngokuzisola ngomuntu wokuqala nomuntu oyedwa owaxoshwa empilweni yakho ngezandla zakhe. Futhi okuningi kuyoxhomeka kuwe.
Ngoba "Ukubuyisela kanjani umthandi" - isihloko se-athikili ehlukile.