Futhi la madoda ayenele ngokwanele futhi azethemba. Ngenxa yalokho, oxhumana naye akuyona eyokuqala.
Yiqiniso, abesifazane abaningi bangaphikisana, bethi bahlale bejwayele kuqala, izindlela eziye zashintsha futhi kubonga ubuchwepheshe bwanamuhla, amaforamu, skype, blogs, i-ICQ nezinye izixhumanisi zenhlalo eziye zavela, okungukuthi, "ukuhlanganisa izinhliziyo." Kulesi simo, kudingeke ucabange futhi ubale izikhathi ezingaki okhohlisiwe kulezi zokuxhumana zenhlalo. Ucabanga ukuthi uhlangane nomfana omuhle, futhi umfana ufika emhlanganweni, kahle, hhayi nakancane njengesithombe akuthumele. Futhi, umphumela omkhulu ngalokhu kujwayelana kungukumahluko ekuziphatheni komlingani ezweni langempela nelibonakalayo. Cabanga ngesimo, e-ICQ noma oxhumana naye, ulele kuwe ngokuzwakalisa amazwi amnandi, futhi ngokuvamile uziphatha njengomama wangempela, futhi uma uhlangana - uzibonela phambi kwakho, insizwa engavikelekile, engenamagama angakwazi ukusho amagama amabili. Futhi emva kwamacala anjalo ucabanga kanzima, ngaphambi kokuthi ungeze kubangani bakho ukukhohlisa okuhle. Okushiwo ukuthi amantombazane ayenze, ngoba awufuni ukuba yedwa, kanye nokuba "nomuntu." "Ingabe kufanelekile intombazane ukuba ijwayele kuqala? "- lo mbuzo nsuku zonke ukhathazekile ngokwengeziwe ngobulili obuhle. Kuvela, kuwufanele. Ukuze sikwenze lokhu, siphakamisa ukuhlukaniswa kwamadoda abajwayele kuqala, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzokujabulisa. Khona-ke sinikeza incazelo yabesilisa okufanele bazijwayele kuqala. Nakuba konke kuxhomeke ekuthandweni nasekuthandweni ...
Ngakho, owokuqala oxhumana nabo bangamadoda "avela kuRyan", ukukhulumisana okungeke kukunike injabulo enkulu. Kubo kuyimfihlo ukumema ku ^ esitolo eduze nomnyango wokukuphatha nge imbewu noma shawarma, kanye nobhiya, nakanjani. Ukuze uhambe ngomdanso nabo ungakwesokudla eduze komnyango, kumculo osuka efonini yakho ephathekayo. Mayelana nobulili akafuni ukukhuluma nhlobo, kodwa ukuthi uyazi: kungenzeka noma kuphi, ngisho nasebhentshini elifanayo. Futhi hhayi ngoba nje bobabili abakwazi ukumelana nesifiso, inkinga yilabo kuye lokhu okujwayelekile, ngoba ukuze bakumeme kwenye indawo, udinga ukusebenzisa imali. Ucabanga ukuthi "lokhu" akufanelekile. Futhi lolu hlobo lwezinsikazi luhawukela kakhulu futhi inkulumo ethi "ngezimpelasonto zendlu azikho abangane bobulili besilisa" kubo kuyisihluthulelo. Futhi kwenzeka ngoba abazithembi ngokwabo futhi baqonde ukuthi omunye umuntu angakunika okuningi.
Isigaba sesibili samantombazane abazokwazi ukuqala amaphoyinti. Bachitha isikhathi esiningi becwaninga ngengqondo yabesifazane ukuze babe abaduki beklasi eliphakeme kakhulu. I-pikapery isebenza kubesifazane amacebo okufunda okusebenza, amasu e-NLP, ukuze bawafake ngokushesha, bese baqhuma. Futhi uma ukwazi ukujwayele lokhu, ukuthi ungubani ngempela, ungathola uma esebenzisa ngokuzenzekelayo isenzo nesimo sokubukeka, wakha ukukhulumisana kwakho ngesimiso esithi "ezintathu" yebo, futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ugcwalisa noma yikuphi ukuphefumula nokuphefumula Hlanganisa nawe. Lezi yizona zonke izimiso zepipi, ngokungafani nomuntu ovamile, owanele, ngeke abone ulwazi ngawe njengento ezithakazelisayo futhi ezibalulekile, ngokubanzi akayidingi, kodwa uzozenza sengathi unesithakazelo kuye njengomuntu. Ungakwazi ukuyikhipha izingxoxo ezingenangqondo, uthi uyizintandane noma ugule ukufa, ngemuva kokuba umfana onjalo elahlekelwa isifiso sokukuhleka usulu, "ngoba impilo isivele ihleka usulu," uzocabanga.
Ekugcineni, ukuqoqa kungaba ngumfana omuhle, kodwa ungacabangi ukuthi angashintsha. Ngenxa yezifundo kanye nemikhuba ayidlulisile, lo mfana waba into enjengezinja zenkonzo, okuyinto kunoma yisiphi isimo esifeza umsebenzi wayo. Ungacabangi ukuthi unenhlanhla, futhi uzobe uhlukile.
Uhlobo olulandelayo "intsha yegolide", efuna ukuzwa okushisayo nokuvelayo. Ungazijabulisi ngaphambi kwesikhathi, azihambisani namantombazane abo. Ngakho-ke ungalindeli izipho ezivelele noma ukusekelwa ngezinto. Kubo, uyingane intombazane ubusuku obulodwa, futhi uma unenhlanhla, khona-ke isonto. Khona-ke uzodumazeka.
Sihlolisise izigaba eziyinhloko zamadoda aqala ukuzijwayeza. Kunezinhlobo eziningi ze-subspecies, phakathi kwazo zikhona, izinketho ezinhle, kodwa ezimweni eziningi, kungenzeka ukuthi ziyimfihlakalo kakhulu, zikhulela i-Chikatily, noma ...
Amadoda asele aphuza ukujwayelana namantombazane noma ngenxa yomsebenzi abazinikela ekuphileni futhi bakholelwa ukuthi impumelelo emisebenzini yabo yimpumelelo empilweni yabo; noma ngabe bafunde kahle futhi banesizotha, kuyilapho bona ngokwabo behlupheka ngenxa yamahloni abo; noma bangabantu abangenalondekile, abafana abathintekayo, eqinisweni, kakade ngosuku lwesibili bazoba umfana othakazelisayo futhi othokozayo, kuthatha isikhathi.
Ungesabi ukuthi laba bantu abazijwayele kuqala, uzibheka ukuthi bayakwenza ngenxa yezizathu eziningi ezingakhathazeki nhlobo. Futhi uma uqala ukucabangela ukuthi abantu basadingeka ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuqala, ulinde noma yimuphi umuntu kusuka kuhlu olubalulwe ngenhla. Ukuzikhethela kungokwakho.
Nquma ukuthi yini oyidingayo bese uqala ukubuka. Phela, akusiyo imfihlo ukuthi umfana ojwayelekile udinge ukubhekwa, futhi ukuthola - ukujwayele kuqala. Lokhu-ke, ngeke kube lula, kodwa, njengoba wonke umuntu azi, kukhona "inkokhelo" kuwo wonke amadoda, lokhu akubandakanyi amadoda asebesifazane, alungele ukusiza "ngaphandle kwe-hook, ebonile nje induku yokudoba.
Amadoda avamile kakhulu akakwazi ukumenqaba owesifazane odinga usizo. Ngakho-ke, kufanele usebenzise lokhu. Isibonelo, isithende sakho siphukile, futhi usuphethe izikhwama ezinzima. Indoda ehloniphekile ingenqaba kanjani ukuletha ekhaya intombazane eyayinenkinga? !! !!
Into eyinhloko ezimweni ezinjalo ukuqala ukwenza, futhi ungabi namahloni ngesimiso esithi "Ngiyithatha isinyathelo kuqala - ngizijwayele kuqala! "