Isimo sengqondo, esesibonakaliso sifana nokucindezeleka, emadodeni avela eminyakeni engama-35 kuya kwengu-45 ubudala kuyinkinga yobudala obuphakathi. Lesi simo sihlotshaniswa nokuhlaziywa kwesipiliyoni somuntu kanye nokuphila kwakhe. Inkinga yobudala obuphakathi kwamadoda ishintsho kwesinye isigaba sokuthuthukiswa. Ngezinye izikhathi inhlekelele emadodeni ayinzima kakhulu, futhi ngezinye izikhathi iyabuhlungu kakhulu. Indoda ngalesi sikhathi kubuzwa imibuzo: yini eyenzile, yenzeni? Futhi uma izimpendulo zakhe zingenelisi, khona-ke inkinga kunzima kakhulu.
Izimpawu zenkinga emadodeni asebudala obuphakathi
Emadodeni asekhulile, ekuqaleni kokuhlupheka, izinguquko ezinkulu zenzeka ngesitayela sokuxhumana, ekuziphatheni, ngemikhuba, ekubukeni empilweni, njll. Ngenkathi yenkinga, indoda ishintsha kakhulu kangangokuthi abaseduze abamqapheli. Isibonelo, ukudonsa amabhuluthi amafushane, ngokuzumayo uyaqhubeka nokudoba. Ukhumbula ubusha bakhe futhi uyayigcizelela kabusha, afinyelele ukungabi nalutho, noma angakhathazeki ngamantombazane amancane, njll.
Kodwa kukhona olunye uhlangothi lwenkinga yobudala obuphakathi, okwenzeka kaningi kunalowo owedlule. Kukhona isimo esidabukisayo, izinkathazo ezingenangqondo kanye nokwesaba okungajwayelekile. Emadodeni eneminyaka ephakathi kweminyaka kukhona isimo esibi sempilo, ukunganaki. Uqala ukugijima odokotela, ehlola izilonda zakhe. Kushintsha ngokujulile isimo sengqondo sabesifazane. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi athole inkosikazi encane ukuze azibonakalise ukuthi usemncane "osemncane." Iqala ukulahla komuntu, ukuqhuma kobudlova, futhi ngezinye izikhathi akufuni ukuxhumana. Isibonakaliso esicacile sokuqala kwenkinga yokuphila phakathi nendawo kuguquguquka kwemizwelo, futhi kuhlala njalo.
Indlela yokusiza le nkinga isinde indoda
Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi lesi sifo kungcono ukuvimbela kunokuphulukiswa kamuva. Lokhu kusebenza enkingeni yobudala obuphakathi. Kubalulekile ukuqapha umsebenzi wendoda yakho. Naka kakhulu izimpumelelo zakhe, ukuba nesithakazelo ebhizinisini. Uma kungekho muntu okhethekile okwenzile, ungalokothi umhlambalaze ngalokhu. Uma okuthile kungasebenzi, ungamtsheli ukuthi akanalo lelo minyaka.
Phakathi nenkinga, indoda isengozini kakhulu futhi isengozini. Umsebenzi oyinhloko wesifazane ukuwukhipha kulesi sizwe ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Indoda evela kulo mbuso inzima kakhulu ukuphuma.
Ekuqaleni kwenkinga yokuphila, qala ukuvuselela umuntu wakho ngokusekela. Mbonise ukuthi uyithande kangakanani kuye, njalo ube naye, umtshele ukuthi uyinto yonke kuwe. Kubalulekile ukuba umuntu azizwe ebaluleke kakhulu. Amandla amakhulu anamazwi. Khuluma naye futhi ungazivumeli ukuvala ngaphakathi kwakho. Uma iqala ukucindezela imizwelo, izokutshela konke okusemphefumulweni wakhe. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, lalela ngokucophelela lo muntu. Ngemva kwalokho, inhliziyo yakhe izozizwa ingcono.
Bonisa lo muntu ukuthi uyamthanda kanjani futhi uziqhenye. Izenzo nazo zidinga ukudlula lesi sigaba emadodeni. Shintsha ukuphila kwakho ngokuhamba emidlalo yaseshashalazini, i-cinema, ikhonsathi, yokudlela. Konke kuxhomeke emcabangweni wakho. Ungase futhi uhlele i-sauna, umeme abangani, uhambe ngemvelo, uye endaweni yokuphumula ezweni elishisayo, njll. Kumelwe uvumele umuntu wakho azi ukuthi ukuphila kulesi sikhathi sekuqala nje. Ungacabanga nganoma yikuphi ukuzijabulisa, into eyinhloko akumele umvumele futhi abuyele esimweni esingathandeki.
Naphezu kwesimo sengqondo samadoda, ubulili buyisikhathi esibaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwakhe. Kubalulekile ukumsiza ukuthi avule umoya wesibili kule nsimu. Ukuze wenze ubulili kwenzeke "ekuphakameni", yondle ngemikhiqizo afrodziakami. Ngokuvamile uhlela ukudla okuthandwayo.
Izinguquko emadodeni emva kwenhlekelele yobudala obuphakathi
Uma kulungile ukusekela indoda eneminyaka emaphakathi enothando ngothando nokunakekelwa, khona-ke inkinga izoba ngokushesha kakhulu. Into ebaluleke kakhulu yisifiso sokuphumelela. Ngemuva kokunqoba isiteji esisha umuntu ushintsho emibonweni yakhe empilweni. Iba nesibindi, ihlakaniphile, inesibalo samandla amasha. Uhlakaniphile futhi uyaqonda ukuthi impilo yangempela iqala nje. Futhi ezimweni eziningi, uma "ehamba", ubuyela emndenini.