Ngakho-ke, kuyiqiniso yini ukuthi esikhathini sethu owesifazane oqinile uyindoda ebuthakathaka? Kungani intombazane enamandla igqoka umfana ezandleni zakhe? Akunjalo ngomqondo wangempela, kodwa ngokuyisimangaliso, nakuba lapha omunye angase athi "ugqoke entanyeni yakho". Yiqiniso, umuntu akakwazi ukusho ngokunemba ngokuphelele ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso. Futhi lawo madoda angempela: aqinile, isibindi, isibindi futhi anesibopho asikho, kwakukhona kuphela abafana abaphumelelayo? Ngingabazi ukuthi kulungile. Kulowo nalowo kithi empilweni kwakukhona amadoda anjalo, iminyaka ehlukene kanye nemigomo, izikhundla zomndeni, kodwa ahlangane - ngakho-ke ngifuna ukukholelwa ukuthi akusikho konke okulahlekile. Kodwa-ke, akunakuphikwa ukuthi iphesenti lamadoda elifaniswa namantombazane liyakhula, okuyinto ifaka wonke umuntu, ikakhulukazi abesifazane, ukuba abe usizi. Emva kwakho konke, ngakho-ke "ngamantombazane ayishumi ngokusho kwezibalo" uyazi ukuthi bangaki abantu. Futhi udinga ukususa kulaba bantu abayisishiyagalolunye utshwala nezidakamizwa ezidakamizwa, amadoda angama-traditional orientation. Futhi yini ezosala? Ngokuqondile, ngubani? Ngokushesha impi yangempela izoqala phakathi kwabesifazane kubantu abavamile. Owesifazane angabe esaba namandla kanjani?
Futhi, uma kungekho amahlaya, kungani lezi zinqubo zenzeka? Kungani abantu bebuthakathaka, balahlekelwa umugqa phakathi kobulili? Kungani abesifazane beba namandla futhi banomthwalo wemfanelo, uma bengakahlali ekhaya, bebopha isiphambano bese bekhulisa izingane eziningi?
Uyazi ukuthi abantu bakubiza ngani? "Lokho abakulwela - bagijima kulo." Iningi lamuva nje, izwe lonke liqhaqhaqha ngaphansi kweminyango enamandla yokuguquguquka, namafulegi namabhanantshi ekhala ngokuthi ufuna ukulingana kobulili. Yikuphi okuwukuphela kwesifazane okufanelekile! Abesifazane ababeka engozini esikhundleni sezingubo ezijwayelekile kanye nezingubo zokugqoka amabhulukwe abo nokubhema kule lensi yekhamera, balwela ukukhula komsebenzi futhi ngokuvamile abahambisani namadoda. Thina ngokwethu sifuna ukuqina nokuzimela - lokho kunakho. Yiqiniso, nakuba, ukufakazela ukuthi le mqondo kubo bonke abesifazane ayidingi: iningi lethu lisathanda ukube ngowesifazana, elincane futhi elincane kubantu. Thembela kubo, thembela kubo. Ukuze bazi ukuthi bangathembela kulesi sihlombe esinamandla somuntu wabo, futhi lokho ngemuva kwakhe ungakwazi ukufihla ekufeni kokuphila.
Mhlawumbe, kwakuyizo zonke lezi zindlela zokufashisa nezindlela zaseNtshonalanga ezasenza kanjalo, zashintsha le ndoda endaweni. Ngenye into ethakazelisayo: lezi zindlela ezivelaphi ziseNtshonalanga? Kodwa-ke, zikhona njalo ukunyakaza okuthakazelisayo okuvela phambili, futhi siyajabula ngokuzibamba futhi sizizame, sizinikele intela. Futhi, ngokumangalisayo, ngezinye izikhathi sikholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi lokhu kuyosilethela injabulo!
Yingakho le ndoda yaba buthakathaka kangaka? Lapha umbuzo awukho ngisho nokuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba womzimba wakhe - lokhu kuyindaba ehluke ngokuphelele, nakuba kuyadabukisa ukubona insizwa enomzimba omuhle "ubhiya" (kanye nentombazane engazibukeli yona - kodwa lena ibhizinisi lomuntu wonke). Sikhuluma ngobuthakathaka bokuziphatha, okungokomoya. Zingaphi amadoda ahlakaniphile futhi alulaza "aseplastiki" abangakaze bafeze noma yini empilweni yabo, futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, abafuni ngisho nokukwenza. Kungani? Uma ekuqaleni kukhona abazali abanothando abazohlinzeka konke okudingekayo. Khona-ke kuyoba khona umfazi ozothatha yonke imisebenzi yesikole futhi abe nesikhathi sokwakha umsebenzi ngokungazelelwe kunomuntu wakhe. Futhi kungani uphinde uhlushwa? Kunjengehlobo oluthile lokungasebenzi kahle kwezakhi zofuzo. Le ndoda iye yaxuba manje, hhayi enye eyayihamba: futhi icala lazo yizilingo ezizilindele ngemuva kokuphila konke. Kithina nabo banjalo, futhi baningi, kodwa ngandlela-thile sibaqine.
Owesifazane oqinile ngumphumela wokuvela kwamadoda abuthakathaka. Ngempela, omunye umuntu kumelwe abe namandla! Konke kwaqala, mhlawumbe, ngeqiniso lokuthi umndeni wehluleka ukubaluleka kakhulu emphakathini. Futhi, izilingo eziningi zaqala ukuphazamisa ukuzinikela okuqinile kwalabo abashade - othile waqala ukubheka umuntu ohlangothini ukuze avuselele isimiso sempilo nsuku zonke. Omunye onenhloko wangena esitokisini esisha futhi wakhohlwa ngomndeni. Futhi ngokuvamile lokhu "umuntu" kwakuyindoda, njengoba ethanda kakhulu ubuthakathaka futhi umqondo womndeni awunamandla njengekabesifazane ezingeni eliphansi. Futhi, eshiye yodwa, eminyakeni engama-30-35 emkhombeni ophukile, enezingane ezimbili ezandleni zakhe kanye neminyaka eminingana ehlangene nesitshalo sokupakisha inyama, kunzima ukuyiqonda: yini okufanele uyenze ngokulandelayo? Futhi empeleni kubalulekile ukuphila, kubalulekile ukukhulisa izingane emilenzeni. Ngakho lona wesifazane wabeka lo mthwalo phezu kwakhe, waya ukufuna isiphetho esingcono. Futhi eceleni kwakhe manje kwakungesiyindoda enobuwula, kodwa umfana onothando obuthakathaka owamlalela wonke amaqembu futhi wakhonza njengenja yekhaya. Ukusetshenziswa kwayo kuphela kwakungekho ikakhulukazi kuye, ngoba wayehluphekile futhi engenakho isinyathelo. Bathola, imibhangqwana enjalo: owesifazane oqinile nomuntu obuthakathaka, owesifazane obuthakathaka nendoda enamandla. Kuphela ngeminyaka yowokuqala yaba ngaphezulu nangaphezulu, ngeshwa. Uma kungenjalo, lona wesifazane wasala yedwa, eyazi ukuthi umthwalo entanyeni yakhe ngesimo somuntu onjalo kungumthwalo owengeziwe.
Indoda yayingafuni ukusebenza ibuthakathaka, kodwa yayifuna ukuhlala kahle. Ngakho lo muntu waya ku-Alfonso - jikelele, waba yisifebe emabhantshi. Futhi konke ngoba abanye besifazane babenenhlanhla ngemali futhi bahlala ngaphandle kokucindezela. Futhi kuye, enhle kakhulu futhi enhle, ngokumomotheka kwezingelosi nama-curly curly, ikherubi, kwakudingeka asebenze, engazishiyi. Wayesekhathele, ikherubi. Ekhathele, wayefuna impilo enhle - futhi waba ngubugqila bezezimali kumfazi oqinile kodwa oyisiphukuphuku. Lapha hamba uqonde: kungcono ukuba uqine, ukuze ukwazi ukuchitha iminyaka embalwa edlule nendoda ebuthakathaka?
Emva komuntu onamandla owesifazane onamandla ofanayo ngeke abekezelele: umncintiswano unzima, futhi kunzima ukuhambisana nabo ndawonye, abaphathi. Ngakho-ke kuvela: bafuna ukuzimela ngabesilisa - baba ozimele ngamadoda. Futhi manje amadoda athembele kithi. Manje intombazane enamandla ithwele umfana ezandleni zakhe, idla ngekhaluni, njengengane encane. Akuyona njalo, yebo, kodwa kwenzeka. Kuyadabukisa ukuthi isikhathi asikwazi ukubuyela emuva futhi siwele ezikhathini zama-knights nabesifazane, ukuze sijabulele umphakathi wamadoda avamile onamandla futhi amakhulu!