Imikhuba emihle kubantu abafundele

Izazi zengqondo zithi imikhuba emihle ingasisiza ukuba samukele noma yiliphi i-interlocutor. Noma kunjalo, ingabe ngaso sonke isikhathi sisebenzisa kahle amagama "omlingo" nemikhuba emihle kubantu abafundele?

Ngoba wayemile ukuma, ephazamisa nabanye abantu. Ngesinye isikhathi abantu kwakudingeka benze cishe umdanso wesiko emhlanganweni. Manje kufakwe esikhundleni sekhanda elikhanyayo lekhanda (lawo madoda nawo athatha isicathulo ngezandla zawo) - lokhu kuyisiko eYurophu. Emazweni aseMpumalanga, kunjalo, baxosha kakhulu ngamandla, futhi kwamanye amazwe, eJapan efanayo, bayakhothama. Kodwa yilokho okuhlala kungashintshi kuwo wonke amazwe - isifiso semhlangano wezempilo, ekuseni, ntambama noma kusihlwa. Kule nkinga, kukhona ukuziphatha okuphelele kokubingelela. Le ndoda ibingelela lo wesifazane, omncane - asebekhulile, ongaphansi - umholi. Kumuntu ongajwayelekile (ikakhulukazi uma esemdala kunani) ikheli ngegama-patronymic. Lapho ehlangene ehhovisi lomuntu osebenzisana naye, ngokuzithoba ngokuzithobayo: "Mhlawumbe ntambama", emomotheka kancane. Esimweni esingavumelekile nabangani, imikhonzo efana ne "Sawubona", "Salute" ivunyelwe.


Ekwephuzile ngowokuqala ukwamukela izivakashi eziye zaqoqwa kakade. Ukucwenga nge-interlocutor, bheka amehlo akhe.

Yamukelwa ngendlela yokubonga ngisho nangomusa omncane, isibonelo, lapho ukhonjwe imenyu endaweni yokudlela noma usize ubeke ingubo. Maye, akubona bonke abanemikhuba emihle yabantu ababelethwe kahle. Ukuhlolwa okwenziwa ngabachwepheshe kubonisa ukuthi izakhamuzi zaseKiev zaziphakathi kwezizwe ezincane kakhulu eYurophu. I-Kiev kuphela engu-60% igcina umnyango, futhi ngiyabonga ngomthengisi owodwa kuphela wesibili ngenxa yokuthenga (ezitolo ezincane "ngiyabonga" basho kaningi kakhulu - kukhona lokhu izinga lokuhlonipha nokuziphatha okuhle kwaba ngu-30%). Abathengi baphendule ngokufanayo. Kodwa akusizo lutho ukuthi bathi izwi elihle ekati liyinto enhle. Ungakhathazeki ngokubonga, kepha lapho nalabo abanye bayothola!

Ukuze uthole isipho futhi usize ungabonga futhi - umuntu owanikeze isipho noma umusa, kuyoba kuhle futhi kuhle. Isibonelo, emva kwesikhashana, khuluma engxoxweni oyithandayo ngempela isikhala esinikeziwe noma ukuthi uqinisekile ngokufaneleka kwezeluleko ezinikezwe umngane.


Ukuhlonipha nokuziphatha okuhle okufanelekile kuyabonga kakhulu kunokuthi "ngiyabonga"? Khombisa ngokubuyisela isethulo esincane. Umlingani webhizinisi angamenywa esitolo sokudlela. Khumbula ukuthi ukubonga kufanele kube ngesikhathi. Sithi, ngemuva kokuthola ikhadi leposi leholide, zama ukuyiphendula ngaphambi kwezinsuku ezimbili.

Yiba nomusa ...

Noma yisiphi isicelo sakho, ngisho noma esingasemqoka, kufanele sihambisane namazwi athi "sicela", "Ngiyakubuza", "yibani nomusa" kanye neminye imikhuba emihle yabantu abanjwe kahle. Khona-ke awunakwenzeka ukuthola ukwenqaba. Kukhona inkohliso encane: gwema ulimi olubi, isibonelo "Ungabe", "Ngeke ube nomusa kangaka." Ubuchopho bomuntu bujabulela kakhulu izitatimende ezinhle: "Ngicela ungenzele umusa?" noma "Ngicela ungisize ngikhethe ...".

Amazwi omlingo ongenakudingeka nemikhuba emihle esimweni lapho udinga ukulungisa khona. Nokho, njengomthetho, ukuxolisa kuphela akukwanele - nawe udinga ukuchaza isizathu sokwenza kwakho.


Ungaceli ukuthethelelwa ngamanye amaqembu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isenzo sakho singahlolisisa kanjani, yiba nesibindi futhi uxolise uqobo. Futhi kuyisifiso sokwenza lokhu masinyane emva kwalesi sigameko.

Uma kuyisiphambeko esibi, ungazami, uxolise, ukwenza konke kube yihlaya, kungenjalo lokhu kuzoqhubeka nokucasula i-interlocutor. Ukulibala kuyisizathu sokuxolisa, futhi lokhu akusebenzi kuphela emihlanganweni yebhizinisi, kodwa futhi ukuvakashelwa.

Kungcono ukuthula kunokukhuluma

Amagama omusa kufanele afaneleke. Kwezinye izimo, ukuthula kuphenduka igolide. Ungaziphindi. Ungakwazi futhi ukubonga ukubonga ngezimbali, kepha akusho ukuthi "ngiyabonga" kuwo wonke umnyango ovulekile - usho isikhathi esisodwa. U-Brevity ungudade wethalenta. Endaweni yomsebenzi, gwema imisho emide efana nalokhu: "Ngithethelele ngokukhululekile, ungenzi kahle." Abantu abanaso isikhathi sokubalalela.


Thatha umzuzwana

Ngaphambi kokuphazamisa umuntu onesicelo noma uxolisa nemikhuba emihle, cabanga ukuthi kungcono yini ukuthi i-interlocutor yakho ikulalele manje. Ake sithi, uma ekhuluma efonini, kungcono ukuthatha ipeni etafuleni lakhe, ucele imvume futhi ubonge kuphela ngezenzo.