Izazi zengqondo zeluleka izindlela eziningi zokwenza lokhu futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo zifunde ukulawula ukuqonda nokuzizwa kwabo.
Ngakho-ke, iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo: kanjani ukugwema imicabango emibi? Ukuze ziphazamise imicabango emibi, izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukuqonda ukuthi ziyini. Phela, imicabango engalungile yilezizinkinga ezingaxazululwanga, lezozinto ezingakaze zizwakale ngathi, kanye nezinkinga okungenzeka sezivele zihambile. Kusukela kulokhu kulandela ukuthi ukuze umise ukugeleza kwemicabango emibi, udinga ukuqonda isisekelo sabo, ukuthola ukuthi bavelaphi nokuthi yisiphi inkinga abayayo. Hlola kahle ukugeleza kwalolu lwazi: yini imicabango yakho efana nalokho abakuyo, zama ukuqagela ukuthi iyiphi inkinga engaphansi kwamandla angayithwala yona. Ukuthola, zama ukuyixazulula, ukukhumbula kuqala, emva kwalokho ukuthi kwenzekani, ngabe yisiphi isizathu salokhu. Uma usutholile isisombululo senkinga, uzosusa imicabango embi njalo ayinike yona.
Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeke ukuthi okubi kuyoba into evamile kuwe, futhi ingqondo iba njalo ngokugcwele imicabango emibi yezihloko ezahlukene. Bayoba yinto evamile kuwe, futhi ukubhekana nabo kuba umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka. Abafilosofi bathi akukho lutho olusakazeka ngokushesha, futhi akukho okungaba nzima ukuyeka.
Isibonelo, cabanga ngokuningiliziwe olwandle, ihlathi noma enye imvelo enhle, ngaphandle kwalokho, uzizwe, uhileleke kulo ngokuqonda kwakho, ziveze kulo mqondo. Manje cabanga i-pendulum enkulu kule ndawo, udwebe yonke imininingwane yayo, ucabange ukuthi ibukeka kanjani. Manje ugijimise futhi ucabange konke ukuzingela. Ungashintsha ithempo ngokuyibeka ngokushesha kusuka kancane, futhi ngokuphambene nalokho.
Cabanga ngomsindo futhi umaki, yakha isithombe sonke. Ngemva kwesikhashana, zama ukumisa i-pendulum, futhi uzobona ukuthi kunzima kakhulu, cishe akunakwenzeka. I-pendulum, edonselwa ngeso lengqondo yethu, iyeka ukuyilalela, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kunzima kakhulu ukucabanga ukuthi iqala kanjani ukuyeka. Lesi yisibonelo sokuthi kunzima kangakanani ukususa umcabango noma umqondo. Kodwa namanje, singafunda lokhu.
Uma uqaphela ukuthi uba nemicabango edabukisayo nemicabango emibi, ungakhathazeka kakhulu, khumbula okukuletha injabulo enkulu noma injabulo. Lena yindlela ehle kakhulu futhi ephumelelayo esiza ukubhekana njalo ne-negative. Isibonelo, uthanda ngempela i-humorist eyodwa, noma unencwadi oyintandokazi yobuntwana ofunda ngayo ngenjabulo, futhi ikunika ukumomotheka, isimo sengqondo esihle.
Enye indlela enhle yokwenza lokhu ukwenza okuthile okudinga ukunakwa okukhethekile nokugxila. Uma ujabulela ukuhileleka ebhizinisini elithakazelisayo noma eliyinkimbinkimbi, khona-ke uphazanyiswa kakhulu ngemuva kwengqondo yakho, ugcwalise ikhanda lakho nalabo okudingekayo okuya esixazululweni somsebenzi owenziwe.
Izazi zengqondo zincoma nendlela yokubukwa. Imicabango emibi ivela ekuboneni ukwesaba okukhulu, futhi ukwesaba kuvela ekuzizweni kokungathembeki kuwe. Ngokuvamile uziphindiselele ngokubaluleka kwakho, mayelana nemfanelo yakho siqu, uqiniseke ngokwengeziwe ngemfanelo yakho siqu.
Ukuqeda imibono ekhukhumezayo kungaba kanje: zicabange ukuthi ukukhanya kwelanga okukhulu futhi okukhanyayo okugcwele amandla amnandi, kuthwala okuhle nokuthokoza, kuveza ukukhanya okukhulu nokufudumala. Manje cabanga ngemicabango yakho emibi ngezinambuzane ezincane ezihamba eduze kwakho. Uma ucabanga ngokwengeziwe, lokhu kungcono kakhulu ukuthi lezi zinyosi zizoba ngcono - ngcono. Ngokushesha uzobona ukuthi iziphukuphuku zakho zibukeka kanjani ubuwula, zingakanani ezikuphazamisayo, futhi zifunde ukuhleka. Indlela enhle kakhulu yokulwa nokwesaba ukuhleka. Cabanga ukwesaba kwakho into encane futhi ehlekisayo, uyibeke ngengubo emangalisayo noma ulingise isimo esimnandi - siyovele sibonakale kuwe ngokukhanya okuhlukile. Ukuhleka ukwesaba kwakho, uyayinqoba futhi uyisuse. Isiyaluyalu iyithuluzi elihle lokubhekana nezinkinga ezinjalo.
Ngokufanayo, izikhali ezinhle zokulwa nemicabango emibi yi ... imicabango emihle. Bacele okungezansi kanye nazo zonke izinto ezimbi ezivela ekhanda lakho, cabanga kahle. Funda ukubona olunye uhlangothi lwemali, okungukuthi, uhlangothi oluhle kakhulu. Yiba nethemba elihle, futhi uzobona ukuthi kuwo wonke lawo micabango emibi nemicabango olwa nayo, kunezikhathi ezinhle nezici ezinhle, nokuthi kukhona okuningi kunalokho ocabanga ngakho.
Isibonelo, uhlale ucabanga ngamaphutha akho, ungathandi ubuntu bakho nomzimba wakho, ngezinye izikhathi ucabanga ukuthi ungumuntu obuthakathaka owaziyo, uhlushwa yiqiniso lokuthi ubi kakhulu kunabanye. Uhlale uzigxeka, funa amaphutha akho, okube sekuphendukela kuwe ekhanda lakho futhi ungakuniki ukuphumula. Yini okufanele uyenze kulokhu? Bheka izimfanelo zakho ezinhle, uzicabange ngakolunye uhlangothi. Uma ungakwazi ukuthola izimfanelo ezinhle ngokwanele kuwe, noma uma ungaqiniseki ngokwakho, cela umbono wabangani bakho ngawe, ukukusekela kulokhu. Bazokutshela ukuthi bakuxabisa ngani, kungani ungumuntu nomuntu, okumele uhlonishwe ngakho. Uzobona ukuthi imicabango emibi izoshabalala maduzane.
Indlela yokubhekana nemicabango emibi? Izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukuba zingagxila kuzo futhi zigcwalise izimpilo zabo ngemibala efudumele futhi egcwele. Unganiki ukucabanga okubuhlungu kwesenzakalo sokuvela, zizungeze lokho okuthandayo, uhlangabezane nalabo abathandayo, futhi zizokwenza isimo lapho kungabi khona indawo yokungahambi kahle nokukhathazeka. Nakhu, iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo: indlela yokugwema imicabango emibi.