Ukunganeliseki ngocansi kungaba yinkinga enkulu empilweni. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, owesifazane uyazizwa noma ahlukumeze, ahlukumeze futhi angajabuli. Isimo sengqondo salesi sintazana siyaqondakala. Umzimba wakhe ubuza ngalokho angayitholi ku-full-detente. Wanelisekile ngowesifazane wesifazane, ngokuphambene, njalo ujabule futhi ujabule. Imindeni eminingi ejabulayo emshadweni ngenxa yecansi kuphela, ikhwalithi evumelana kokubili.
Abesifazane abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi "izibhamu" zakhe embhedeni zixhomeke ngokugcwele "kobuchwepheshe" bomlingani. Ngeshwa, lokhu kungukungcoliswa okujulile, futhi akulungile ukushintsha konke kumapheseni omuntu. Kodwa owesifazane angenzani ngaleso sikhathi? Ukuze uthole injabulo yakho kanye nenjabulo - konke!
Ake sibone ukuthi kungani ukukhishwa okulindelekile akufiki. Kungaba nezizathu eziningi. Okokuqala, umzimba. Ukukhathala, ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa, isigaba sokujikeleza kokuya esikhathini, izinga lokuzijabulisa ngaphambi kocansi, njll. - konke lokhu kungathinta ubukhona be-orgasm noma ukungabi khona kwayo. Kumele ngithi ukuthokozisa kokuqala kowesifazane kuthatha imizuzu engaba ngu-40, umzimba wesifazane awukwazi ukuzwa i-orgasm ngaphambi kwalesi sikhathi. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, amanye amadoda akwazi ukukhulula ukucindezeleka kwabo emizuzwini engu-15, futhi lokho kunele. Abesifazane abaningi, ngisho nangemva kokuphila iminyaka embalwa, musa ukutshela othandekayo ukuthi abatholi lonke ubuhle be-extravaganza yezocansi. Njengoba safundiswa ukukhuluma ebuntwaneni, akulungile ukukhohlisa, ngakho-ke, kufanele sikutshele ukuthi yini okukhathazayo wena, umlingani wakho. Izinga lokuthembela, ukukhuluma ngokungathí sina kanye nokusondelana kuyisici esibalulekile ebuhlotsheni. Uma ekuthanda ngempela, unesithakazelo kule nkinga, ngokufanele, njengoba nje ufuna ukuyixazulula. Yiqiniso, kungase kungabi mnandi ngaye, ukuthi uhlale uthule isikhathi eside noma ulandele i-orgasm (abesifazane abaningi benza lesi sono, futhi bazilimaza). Kodwa ubuqotho bakho buzokwenza ukuthi usondele. Futhi uma ehlukaniswa ngokweqile ngesihloko sengxoxo, kufanele ucabange ukuthi kungani udinga indoda enjalo?
Okwesibili, inkinga ingahlala endizeni yezokwelapha kanye nesimo sengqondo. Okubaluleke kakhulu kungaba namandla okulungisa umlingani, ukunikeza okokuthokozisa kokuqala, futhi ungabambeleli ekubambeni kwakhe. Mhlawumbe kudingekile ukukhulumisana okungaqondile, lapho kuzobunjwa khona izicabha noma izinkathazo zemfihlo. Kungenzeka ukuthi owesifazane ngokuyinhloko uthobekile futhi, ngenxa yalokho, wavala. Mhlawumbe imicabango eminingi kakhulu phakathi "nenqubo enesibopho". Lokhu kusebenza ngokukhethekile esigabeni sokuqala sobudlelwane. Owesifazane ufuna ukuthanda, ukugcoba kahle, ukulala phansi nokunye okunjalo, ukhathazeka ngokuthi umdwebo wakhe uhambelana kanjani nezindinganiso zobuhle, ngoba uchitha isikhathi esiningi nokuzama ukuzithuthukisa. Futhi kubalulekile ukuba uphumule futhi uziphelele ngokuphelele emizweni yakho nasesithakazelo, okuholela ekulala. Phela, uma kuziwa ocansini, usuvele uthanda umlingani wakho. Khumbula i-movie ethi "I-Bridget Jones Diary," umzuzu lapho ethola "ama-panties" akhe obukhulu obukhulu. Akazange abalekele, akazange abe nesaba, ngokuphambene nalokho kwaletha amaqhawe ndawonye, futhi yena ngokwakhe waba yinye into evelele kulo ntombazane ayithandana naye.
Futhi ekugcineni, ingxenye yesithathu yezici ezibaluleke kakhulu zokwaneliseka kwezocansi, kokubili besifazane nabesilisa, futhi iyinkolelo yokuthi ikhwalithi yesondo incike ebuchwepheshe. Inkolelo yokuthi ulwazi lomzimba womzimba wesilisa nowesifazane, ulwazi lwezindawo eziphazamisayo kanye namaphuzu, unikeza ngokukhethekile umphumela oyifunayo. Lokhu kuyiphutha elinamandla kakhulu, ngoba ubulili empilweni yokuqala kubumbano obuseduze, isenzo sokuziveza, ukuzethemba, ukwamukelwa komlingani nomzimba wakhe. Uma ubheka ucansi ngokusuka endaweni yokubukwa kwezobuchwepheshe, ungabhubhisa ukusondelana okungokomoya, ubhubhise isimo somusa nesithando.
Ukwaneliseka kowesifazane ocansini, yini okufanele uyenze? Ezimbili lapho kungekho ukuvumelana phakathi kocansi, izingxabano ngokushesha noma kamuva zenzeka. Ukuqoqwa kolaka, intukuthelo, intukuthelo iqoqa. Izimbangela zenzelwe ukulinganisa ukuziphatha okunjalo, kusukela kulezi zingxabano ezingaphezu kwalokho futhi ngenxa yalokho umthamo omkhulu wezimangalo ezithandanayo. Omunye uphatha ngalokhu ngokwakhe, umuntu uphendukela kwesazi - isazi sengqondo, isazi sezocansi, njll. Uma ngisho nangemva kokuxoxa okungenangqondo, ukuphumula okuphelele nokukhululwa kwekhanda emicabangweni engadingekile, umphumela oyifunayo awusebenzi isikhathi eside, mhlawumbe akusiyona ikusasa lakho? Awudingi ukulungiswa kumuntu ongafanani nawe embhedeni, indoda engayicabangela kuphela izidingo zakhe nezifiso zakhe. Umuntu onjalo, okungenani awufanelanga. Futhi ngokuqinisekile wayengahlosiwe ngenxa yakho.